I have been asked by many people outside the United States what the ABDL community is like here. To be honest, I have never truly participated in an ABDL ‘meeting’ or anything of that sort. I have met up with another girl that wears diapers before and I have met a few other women who have actually had to wear diapers from incontinence (met them at an incontinence support group a long time ago). I have seen quite a few postings for the US in regards to meetings and ‘munches’. I think there is even a group that gets together and goes camping.
I live in North Carolina and I know there is a group that meets about an hour and half or so away from me once a month. I mean I would say there are multiple meeting opportunities but I honestly have trouble making them because I quite busy or have other obligations I have to attend to. Plus, hearing certain peoples talk online and through message boards saying extremely inappropriate stuff as well as how mean people can be makes me very cautious about just showing up to these things. Unfortunately, as with any group, not just ABDLs – there are always those select few that ruin the ‘fun’ for many of us. Not to say I would never meet other ABDLs but I am the type of person that would want to not only talk online to someone before I met them anywhere but also over the phone just to get a sense of who it is. You never can be too careful who you meet nowadays.
Honestly, I wish there was a central ‘base’ online where people could easily setup meetings and times of get togethers so that all ABDLs could check it and setup times or look if anything is going on near them. It would have to be something that is very universally known among ABDLs so everyone used it otherwise it would just disappear and not be very succesful. I thought about trying to set something like that up but, not exactly sure how. I think it would be neat though and I think it would facilitate things for people trying to meet other ABDLs..
Honestly,I would tell anyone to be very cautious about setting up or attending a meeting or ‘munch.’ I had an uneasy experience attending a munch. It started out innocent, just as a casual meeting. I appreciated meeting others that had the same interests. But as the night wore on, things got wierd, to say the least. It is just a complicated issue because for many people, especially men, there are sexual connotations to ab/dl. SOme are comfortable with that, I wasn’t. To each their own.
Hey, I’m not sure if you are aware of this, but the Admin at DLTown.com is willing to sell the domain. This domain has existing traffic and search engine visibility, and might be a good start.
I had to view the cached site to see the message, but it might still be available. Good luck!
They started doing this with some SM groups–having meetings all the time. The problem was that they were so often that people just wouldn’t go because they’d figure there’d be one tomorrow or next week. It would kinda suck if you showed up an only one other person was there are you two didn’t get along. I like going to bigger munches. They’re harder to make, but you meet more people, so really you save time and have more fun!
I think the main thing this would require is money, money for advertising mostly. It would be a simple site to set up, but you would have to take out ads on every existing diaper site, in alternative newspapers, in fetish magazines, maybe even on facebook or myspace. Daily Di, the owner of Daily Diapers, said something in one of DLLightning’s Project Emergence threads about a similar idea:
“[I have] been tossing around the idea of making a company-neutral site (meaning not a front page to sell products, memberships, etc.) linking to all the major community and info sites, then taking out ads in the alternative newspapers and other fetish mags to help those interested find us all.”
If any of us wanted to get something like this going, I’m sure Daily Di would help out. He might be willing to do free or low cost ads on Daily Diapers if the idea was good enough.
I don’t see the attraction in the need to have to get together with other people interested in the same fetish/lifestyle, but that’s just me. All i can think about are those swinger parties where everyone just has sex… i hope that’s not what these get-togethers are, then the appeal to ME is just totally lost 🙁 I’m not putting anyone down that goes to those, I’m just saying, I don’t understand the appeal of meeting others that necessarily need to have the same lifestyle/fetish. These people are people you meet naturally throughout life, and i wouldn’t wanna go through a forced friendship with just the opening of, “Hey, i have the same interests as you, lets have a chat”. It’s probably just me, but i just find that very awkward. I know, this IS how you naturally meet people, through similar interests, but i find it strange to do it through ABDL interests. I understand feeling the need to accept abdl-ness into your life, but it just irks me the wrong way thinking about people that take an interest way too far.
I’d be extremely afraid to go to a setup abdl get-together like that, mainly because it’s organized through the internet… oh god. I can just see those sicko douchebags that sneak into these things and ruin the atmosphere, because they just wanna gratify themselves looking at real life abdls (Women AND men… dear lord, lol)
I’m not too keen on the whole thing about unnatural meetings (internet, through an ad, etc) purely because i know the risks and i know a couple friends that can completely disguise themselves as a fake personality, gender, etc, and not get suspected at all. Anyone can easily take it to the next level, then you’re in big trouble. Better watch yourself xD Obviously you’re not that dumb. Don’t 100% trust the phone either lol
For the skeptics, I’d like to provide a different view.
I’ve been running the Toronto AB/DL/AgePlay munches every month since 1999 and they’ve been wonderful with absolutely no sexual overtones. I emphasized this in the wording of the munch ads. It’s not a “pickup” event and will continue to stay that way.
Since we meet in a relatively public location and no RSVP is necessary, people are free to come and go as they please or cautiously observe from a distance if they so choose. This “open” format has made a lot of otherwise shy people (including women) feel a lot safer and more comoftable.
I suppose it also helps that I’m married and that my wife also joins me at the munch when work allows. This shows people that the organizer isn’t some sort of freak or wierdo. Whenever I can’t be there due to work or family obligations, I ensure that there is leadership coverage, selected from a few close friends whom I trust. I also maintain an “open email” policy where people can feel free to contact me with suggestions, ideas, concerns, etc.
For those munches/gatherings that didn’t feel right (and I’ve been to a few like that), I have generally observed that the person hosting the event is doing it for themselves (or an alterior motive) rather than for the betterment of the community in general.
One suggestion I do like to give people is this: If you don’t like the current events or there aren’t any in your area, start up one of your own! 🙂 It’s not hard and you’d be surpised just how many people come out of the woodwork.
Penny – do you happen to be the same Penny that posted on the old abdlforums.com, or whatever it was called? It’s been a while, I forget the name of it!
I can’t ever imagine going to a group for something that I enjoy i my own home with my bunnies. One thing that I do like about the states would be Bambino… but I am not going to move back just for that.
Thank you So much! I have also been in diapers my whole life, and a bed wetter all my life, and l’m finally come to terms with wearing them in in public.
Woah, you live in NC to?
Where at cause I live in the Wilmington/Leland area!
I’e been looking for other folks in the Wilmington area. I’m an AB mommy; have a profile on DiaperSpace under AnnodChihuly. I went to a Munch in Maryland and met a great group of folks. I was very new to the scene, so it was great to see everyone laughing and talking. We met in a restaurant and had some great conversations. I have met several ABs that would rather keep that side of their life private, or, they have had to hide it for so long, the idea of actually “coming out” is frightening. I’ve met a great guy in the community and plan to move to FL soon to be with him full time. We have never RP’d, but he says that just the fact that I am cool with it is enough for him. You are all different, wonderful and special!
i am 14 and am an abdl my fetish is so strong that i want to steal. i donwt want to tell my parents because im affraid my dad will beat me. iwish i could talk about with other people
I have recently become more interested in meeting other abdl types, and it’s a bit of work to find meets or other events which are only advertised or known about by the users of any given couple of sites. I discovered an AB once who’d grown up completely unaware that other people like him existed. It’s kind of lonely being an ABDL person and wondering if you’ll ever find the kind of relationship, or acceptance that almost everyone around you is unable to give an ABDL. I’m sick of being hurt in relationships with women who can’t deal with the strangeness of the
“fetish”. We are so lucky even to have the internet community these days.
I live in NH anyway, I’m 24, and my diaperspace.com page is under the name HollowDoll. Anyone in the community may feel free to contact me and chat about whatever.