So, with the latest news on Bruce Jenner coming out as a transgender and how much of the public and media are trying to harmonize it and basically promote acceptability of it; I got to thinking about the ABDL’s public image. At the moment, I don’t think much has changed from year’s past. The ABDL community I feel has a poor image in the public eye and they never get to see the “image” of the everyday people that wear diapers and love just the cuteness of diapers. Instead all they see is grown older men frolicking around in a massive thick diaper with pink frilly tutus on.
Now, I am not saying there is anything wrong with those older men that do that. I don’t judge people at all. I just wish our community had a better image than that. We give ourselves a bad name. There are only a select group of ABDLs out there that really truly just want to hang out with others in diapers and enjoy the “diaper lifestyle” I feel like. Instead, a lot of it is sexual and that image is usually what gets plastered all over the public image of adult babies and diaper lovers.
I think the adult baby and diaper lover community needs an image overhaul and I think that its going to take a multifactorial approach to do it. Here is the list I think its going to take in order to make the ABDL community more organized and respectable not only to the outside world but within the community also:
- Centralized website that promotes meeting other ABDLs – this must be respectable, clean, and easy to use. Almost like FetLife in its organization but geared specifically to ABDL community – allowing others to search for ABDLs nearby.
- ABDL clothing – this clothing needs to be modern in this day and age as well as subtle. You don’t need to wear a pink tutu in public with a thick diaper to represent us but merely maybe a simple shirt that says “I Wear Diapers” or “Diapered” on a modern looking t-shirt or tank top. This promotes curiosity in a good clean fashion.
- Support of those who promote the ABDL community in a clean way. There are several sites/blogs out there that try to promote the ABDL community in a clean light – they take time to run. We should support them.
- Don’t make everything about sex – some people just like meeting someone new that happens to share the same interest.
- Images should be more innocent – diapers under clothes, diapers peeking out in public, laying on a beach in diaper. There should be more of these types of photos instead of purely close up crotch shots.
These are just some general basic examples I think that needs to happen.
What do you all think?
I agree with everything your saying as specially as I am a diaper wearer myself due to verious disablities I’ve suffered since childhood.
I am part of a campaign to raise awareness on the acceptance of wearing diapers in public, the campaign aims to end the stigmatism of people like myself who have to wear diapers and are not going to take it anymore like the twisted sister theme tune from the late 1980’s. Which by the way is one of my all time favourite rock anthems of all time.
Anyway the campaign website is the following website.
If you want a bit of fun whilst campaigning then I would recommend that you look at taking part in the race to dignity challenge which runs from September 2nd to September 30th 2015 as the prize is a free pack of diapers and if you live in the US they will deliver them to your door.
If you happen to live outside of the USA don’t worry you can still take part and have a little bit of fun along the way and by taking part you’ll also raise awareness for this worthy cause.
Good luck and good hunting if you choose to take part in the race and see you at the finishing line.?? ?.
Wearing Diapers & Dealing With PTSD.
My story begins in 2010, not long after I was diagnosed with OBS/weak bladder syndrome.
I was working virtually every day of the week at an animal sanctury in Cumbria in the United Kingdom because of the back to work program from the jobcenter, one day I was busy feeding the animals and I made the embarrassing mistake of bending over to reach a bail of hay and inadvertently caused my shirt to ride up showing my diaper off to everybody which was very embarrassing to say the in the least.
I pulled my shirt back down and then tried to work on like nothing had happened hopeing against hope nobody else had seen my diaper but unbeknownst to me somebody who didn’t understand why I wear diapers did and started chanting baby,baby,baby and at first i had no idea what he was on about until the shit hit the fan and somebody else joined in the chanting and others quickly joined in chanting look at that baby over there and I was at this point I realised in horror they meant me.
At this point I couldn’t take I anymore and stormed out of the paddock tears streaming down my face as I couldn’t understand how some people could be so cruel to me it had also been one week since my friend Chris was knocked over and killed by a selfish drunken driver through no falt of his own and this happened right in front of my eyes and I couldn’t get time off work because even to grieve for him and all because of the useless people at the Jobcenter where utterly unsupportive of the fact something was wrong even though all the warning signs where there and I felt like I was being punished like a prisoner in my own life.
This is when I had my 2nd mental breakdown and nearly took my own life as a result of my experiences at the hands of abuse and bullying, fortunately for me this is where my other friends saved me and told the assessors that if they didn’t back off causing me more hurt and emotional pain they would sue them for causing me so much grief.
And consequently I was referred to a doctor who diagnosed me with suffering from multiple post traumatic stress disorders and other problems, this literally saved my life as he put me in touch with professional councilling so that I could get my shattered life back in control and I am eternally grateful for what they did for me as I rearly suffer nowadays from flashbacks and ptsd caused by bullying and abuse.
I left that god awful place in 2013 after suffering almost 3 years of abuse at the hands of the bulliyes and haven’t regretted it ever since fortunately nowadays I have a paid job at the local pub/tavern in the village where I live in Cumbria in the UK.
I still continue to wear diapers to this day because of my disabilities and other factors, but am much more happy and consider myself as a survivor of these hellish experiences and l am telling my story so other people don’t have to go through what I did almost 5 years ago, and to raise awareness on this subject.
I have posted this story on verious other websites for this very reason and to give an example of how and why I finally won and defeted my enemies with a little help from my friends and ultimately came out on top after being abused at the hands of un educated and selfish bulliyes.
I have to say. A lot of what you write is interesting. And thank you for that
I like your blog. I didnt chose to wear diapers…. it is something that i was forced to do due to a medical issue from past trauma.
So, for me, it has been difficult for me to understand the veiw of those who CHOSE to wear and like it, as that has not been my journey. I faught it all the way. And now having to wear diapers or be catheterized causes great pain emotionally, psychologicaly, and self-esteem wise. I fight feelings of embarrassedment, shame, and fear of rejection.
However, i too am not one that likes to judge. I appreciate your openness to share your story, and your ability to not judge, but to understand. Your blog helps me to be more open minded and maybe feel excepted…. maybe since some people suport those that WANT to wear and willingly do wear diapers, tht perhaps, i too will be excepted from being forced to.
I couldent agree more, iv been feeling the same way for years. I personally am a DL dealing with night time incontinence. But I wear daily.
In my opinion, people who haven’t been exposed to this lifestyle often tend to associate ABDLs with other more sexually perverse individuals. I came out about my diapers to my friends about 2 years ago, and in doing so I became incredibly confident about wearing diapers in public.
While I don’t personally know what I can do as an individual to promote awareness of the clean side of the ABDL community, I’m would be more than willing to try anything.
And I think we should all strive to reach this goal.
I like the idea of a centralised website, helping AB/DL people meet other AB/DLs. I’m from Tacoma, Washington (state), and it’d be nice to meet someone from this area.
I agree. It should not just be about sex. I like wearing diapers, and it’d be nice to find a daddy to help with diapering and wearing diapers. Sex may be part of it, but shouldn’t be the only aspect. Many ABs and DLs aren’t that much different from “normal” non-ABDL people. We just happen to like wearing diapers. some of us need to wear diapers for medical reasons. Some of us need to wear only when we can’t be near a toilet when we need to relieve ourselves.
However potty trained one may be, however able-bodied one may be, no one can hold on indefinitely, and will need to pee or poop. Unfortunately, it’s not always possible to make it to the toilet, however close it may be. You could be studying for an exam and cannot, or do not wish to interrupt the study.
Or you’re on a road trip somewhere, and there aren’t many rest stops along your route. And you need to pee, or poop.
Sounds like good arguments for wearing diapers. The less one has to worry about stopping to pee, the better.
Very interesting. And I agreed.
I think it would be great to have a place to talk and meet others that isn’t as focused on sex like Fetlife and is more general then what I’ve run across in most of the Age-playing group. As more of a DL then an AB I know my attraction and what interests me isn’t going to be the same.
But to get back to the initial premise, it’d be great to get more diaper people out there who are not ‘normal’ but average. Much like anything that’s different the more different something is the more attack and ridicule it will get and sadly many of the shows where people are exposed to diaper wears thrive on portraying things as weird as possible.
I admit I’m not nearly brave enough to be the face for this, but yeah, we need to see about getting out there more and we’re going to always have to deal with the ‘disgust’ factor that comes up with bodily wastes and diapers.
Well, for a lot of us, it *is* primarily sexual (it was for me, at least at first) but I get your point. The t-shirt thing seems like a good idea–I thought of a “Rock Your Pacifier” day, when those of us ABDLs who use them could take our pacis out in public. Or would even that be a little too “out there?”
You’re right Rachel, it IS primarily sexual for a lot of us. However, it’s still MORE than just that. It’s a lifestyle in and out of the bedroom. It started for me as just liking to wet and mess my pants, and watching girls wet and mess their pants, then it evolved into both wetting/messing pants and using diapers. It’s a huge turn on for me, but it’s also a comfort thing. I would love to find a girlfriend that understands and embraces this lifestyle, but so far it’s been futile.
As far as diaper awareness is concerned, maybe one could wear a “I wear diapers” or “Proud AB” t-shirt in addition to what I suggested previously–it would help put the pacifiers in the proper context.
I agree with you 100% Adrian.
I agree with your post. A site for finding other AB/DLs would be great. Keep sex out of it. Wearing diapers has never been sexual for me and the fact that so many sites deal primarily with the sexual part turns me and I’m sure many others away from ever making new connections with new friends
I haven’t been following up on Bruce Jenner since the 1980s when he was US Track and Field athlete.
I haven’t either, nor did I have any clue of his connection with the Kardashian family (I don’t watch reality TV). I have to say, Bruce Jenner is the last person on earth I ever suspected of being trans, though looking back through some of the old TV and movie clips of him now, I do notice some indefinable *something* that indicated he was not your typical macho guy (as much as he tried to be).
Like many people, I’ve heard of the Kardashian family, but I’ve never followed them on TV or online. Nor have I taken an interest in them in any way.
it does not matter if you are ABDL as long you are true to yourself. I wear diapers because I am a dl . to wear diapers in public might cause a witch hunt as it does in Canada. many diaper lover are now spend their life in jail, because the wore diapers in public. I think the public needs to be more aware of ABDL and it has nothing to do with kids. I see nothing wrong with wearing diapers in public as long it is in your own backyard.
In those cases, when DLs were arrested, it was usually because they were wearing a diaper and little else. I think the diaper might have been less of an issue than the fact they were walking around in what was essentially their underwear.
Try as I might, I could never walk around wearing just my diaper. I’d prefer to wear something over it, boxer briefs, walking shorts, etc.
I have written twice to say that I agree about wearing diapers in public. I have been out in public in my diapers and plastic panties. My wife has read about what you have said about wearing diapers in public and she agrees. She has even told that because she is in charge of my diaper changes that she is going to be having me out in public more in my diapers and plastic panties. She said it will make me see that most people have no problem with me in diapers and plastic panties. She said it will make me more comfortable with my diapers. She told me that I need to just get use to it because as long as the weather is nice enough it it going to be happening. She told me that she has check with our police and they told her that if she was comfortable with it that there was no law in our state against it. She told me that today when we go to Wal-Mart that I would be going wearing my diapers and plastic panties with a oneize on over my diapers. She told me that anyone looking would be able to tell that I was wearing diapers. She had m post a couple of times about how and why I was put back into diapers when I was in middle school. I wore and used diapers through middle and high school. I even wore and used diapers through college. I still have to wear and use diapers and plastic panties 24/7. ☺
This is something I have been wanting to happen for a long time. Yesterday I canceled memberships to Pinterest and Google-plus because they are useless and were taking way too much of my time. I like this forum here. Reading others feelings that are like me. Thank you everyone, this is my first post here.
I wish we had sites like this when I was growing up. We’re all different, the reasons for liking diapers are as varied as there are people who wear them. But we do have one thing in common: the fact that we like diapers, and we need a place where we can talk about it. With people who won’t judge us for wearing diapers.
Hi Adrian I am babyjohn wife. I agree with what you have said about wearing diapers in public. I also liked the idea of the tee-shirts with diapers wearing references on them. So I had some shortened tee-shirts that come to just the tops of his diapers and plastic panties so that his diapers will be visible. I also had some of his oneize printed with diaper wearing references on them. I had some plastic diaper cover panties printed with pottying references on them. I showed them to him he said he would be embarrassed to have to wear them with his diapers. I told him that I had read what he had to say on your website and that I was not asking him. I told him that he was going to be wearing them with his diapers out in public and he needs to get use to the idea. I told him the sooner he does the sooner he will get use to being seen in his diapers. I told him that he doesn’t need to be embarrassed about his wearing diapers. I took him shopping at Wal-Mart yesterday with one of his tee-shirts that said diapers are not just for babies anymore. His plastic panties said across his bottom I have to wear diapers. Today I had him wear one of his oneize with his diapers I need to wear diapers and plastic panties. Some people who saw him just smiled. Only one woman said anything about it yesterday. She said to me good for you I can see why he needs to wear diapers because he has wet them. She said to me if he needs diapers he should be wearing diapers. She said she saw nothing with him being in diapers since he wets them then he needs to be wearing diapers.
Where is it illegal to wear a diaper in public, as long as it is concealed and decent? If one does not have control of bodily functions, diapers are considered an acceptable means for containing bodily waste until it can be disposed of properly. Why wouldn’t it be acceptable (or legal) for someone to wear diapers by choice and not necessity?
It may not be illegal to wear diapers in public, but I imagine that it is frowned upon. I rarely (if ever) wear diapers without anything on over them. I generally wear boxer briefs on over them.
I am john wife Suzanne and he needs to be wearing diapers at all times because he has no longer any control over his bladder and or bowels. He wets and messes only in his diapers just like a baby does. I have to change his diapers about 4-5 times a day. I have checked with our police about him wearing his diapers out in public like babies do during the warm weather. They told me that if I am comfortable with having him doing it, it was OK with them because there is no laws against it in our area. They said as long as his genitals weren’t being exposed it was fine. It makes it much easier for me to change his diapers if I don’t have to be removing his pants every time I have to change his diapers. I told him that he just needs to get use to being seen in his diapers and plastic panties because it is going to be happening with the warm weather. I told him the sooner and more it happens the sooner he will get use it and see that one cares about him wearing cloth diapers and plastic panties. I told him that he doesn’t need to be embarrassed about people seeing him in diapers because they are just something he needs to wear at all times. I plan on having him out in public in his diapers as much as possible this Spring and Summer.
Hi Adrian I am Suzanne John wife and we have to go shopping again today and he will be going out in public in one of his short tee-shirts that just come to the top of his diapers that says I have to wear diapers and plastic cover pants. His plastic panties say I potty in my diapers. I have taken and put his outer pants a way so he can’t cover up his diapers. I am taking extra diapers with me so I can change his diapers while we are out shopping if he wets and messes in his diapers again like he did yesterday. He said that he is getting used to it. So far it has not been a problem with him being seen in his diapers. Most people don’t pay any attention to him in his diapers. The only comments have been from a few women who have said when they saw that he had wet his diapers that they understood and agreed with him being in diapers.
Hi Adrian this is Suzanne John wife. Was just reading some of your older post about the oneize you got for Cosy n dry. I ordered some of their adult size oneizes and their snap crouch short-all pants for my son. I also having them make him some baby girl things as it will be easier for me to change his diapers while he is wearing a baby girl clothing. When I took him shopping with me today I had to buy him a diaper bag so I could carry extra diapers for him while we are out in public. The other day while I took him shopping in his diapers and a tee-shirts I had to change his diapers twice. Once he had just a very wet diaper and the next time his diaper was very wet and messy. While I was changing his diapers in a family restroom I forgot to lock the door and a older woman walked as I was trying to hold his legs up so I could clean up his bottom. She offered to help me by holding up his legs while I took care of cleaning up his diaper area. I thank her and she said she understood because her son wore diapers until he was in high school. She said that she saw no reason for me or my son to be ashamed or embarrassed about him wearing diapers. She said it’s just something that he can’t help and that he just needs to get use to wearing and using diapers.
That was nice of her.
I believe this is a step in the right direction: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rlQRy5lSbXU
Very much this –> “Images should be more innocent – diapers under clothes, diapers peeking out in public, laying on a beach in diaper. There should be more of these types of photos instead of purely close up crotch shots.”
In response to the part about images being more innocent and not just “close up crotch shots…”
I do think that might help (at least a bit). But I think it’s the most that many diaper wearers are comfortable with. Most ABs or DLs will not be comfortable 1) laying out on a public beach in a clearly visible diaper, or 2) posting a photo of themselves doing so. They want diaper photos of themselves, but without revealing a face and/or identity. “What if my co-workers see this? My family?” Secrets and gossip travel faster than the speed of light. “Dude, did you see that picture of Jesse wearing a diaper?! I’ll show you the link!” “OMG! That’s hilarious! I can’t wait to show everyone!”
So while I think that more appropriate, less sensual photos would help, it’s sort of a Catch 22; the stigma will be applied to those photos in the first place.
I think it might help to have ABDL t-shirts/clothes that don’t explicitly tell people that you enjoy wearing diapers. (Maybe someday. But until then, baby steps.) You know, like a cool graphic tee that has the name of your favorite ABDL site or store (bambino, ABU, Aww So Cute, etc) in a print that makes it look like a rock band shirt or something. A wristband (a la Livestrong) that has the word “diapers” in a cool foreign language. Something more subtle. At least for now. Like I said… baby steps.
I haven’t had time to read the comments on this post as I’m ridiculously busy so I’m not sure if this aspect has been commented on – apologies if it has already been brought up!
Anyway, I think a lot of the examples of things such as crotch shots and people sending untasteful messages to forum members with simply “are you wet/ messy?” for example, are largely down to newbies who have just discovered the online world of ABDL that are over-excited and don’t know how to approach the community. Well-experienced members seem to display a mindset of “yes I like this lifestyle but thats not what I or this website is explicitly about.” If you look at any decent ABDL website, the posts from experienced and long-time members are mostly relaxed and when the subject of nappies/ diapers comes up, it is treated almost like any other topic of interest. Newbies often talk about nappies/ diapers only and nothing more. It is my belief that this is due to a lack of experience; they do not know how to judge or analyse what they are saying in the space they are saying it and do not know the community well enough. And thats where I think a lot of our bad press comes from.
I think one good step to minimise this (and I have no idea how this would be implemented effectively) would be some sort of blanket induction/ tutorial/ education/ exam that is put into place before people take their fist steps into online ABDL community. I think this would help newbies integrate into our community successfully and help them to make new friends. I wish I had something like this when I first started in 2008. I was never aggressive, graphically grotesque or limited to talking about nappies/ diapers only, but it took me a while to work out the basics and if had have known just a few key facts before I entered this world then I think I may have had a smoother ride.
Also there are some sites whose members often display more hostility than a sex-starved, lonely secondary school teacher towards newbies because they have asked a question that was asked and answered one month earlier. Seriously there are much better things to vent your anger on than the likes of this?? I think this is a bit snobby and can also alienate newbies who then feel left out and make no progress in making friends in the community. And it wouldn’t surprise me if a lot of these people end up reduced to fearfully making the occasional ill-educated comment to a post, unaware of it’s appropriateness. It’s not easy getting established in the ABDL world and I think that the easier and more welcoming we are into our community would go a long way to help us grow and minimise unsavoury posts which can drag our reputation down to an outsider. I’m not saying that we shouldn’t be vigilant against any nastiness but I think it would help to find out why these things happen and maybe try to guide people into the reality that the online ABDL community (in my eyes, at least) is basically like facebook but that we have a common interest that although often brought up, should be discussed with taste in public forums.
Ultimately my point is, if we want to put ourselves into a better light in the public eye, then we should have some sort of online procedure which people need to go through in order to join any ABDL site. It shouldn’t be overly-strict or exclusive but it should welcome, educate, inform and nurture newbies in what we are all about. Like I said, how this could be done I have no idea, but I do think it would really help us begin to change our image.
What does everybody else think?
I agree. People who went on TV made the community look bad. Most of us are regular people who work for a living. We just like to wear diapers for our comfort
I think it is axiomatic that if you are in control of how you are presented, that will affect how people perceive you positively or negatively. The allure of being famous / on TV is too much for some who will willingly degrade themselves or put up with a show that is relying on sensationalism or shock value. As Adrian said above . it gives an impression that adult diaper wearers are mostly overweight male ABs, when, also as said, the majority are probably incontinent. I’ve thought about this deeply and have concluded the following:
1. There needs to be made a film about ABDLs, by ABDLs for ABDLs
2. It cound be a documentary but I favour a dranatic presentation, in which diaper wearing is essential to the plot
3. The lead is an attractive female
4.. It has to avoid contentious areas such as spanking or scat
5. Ths script must be tight and well written, and must appeal to vanilla audiences.
I agree with most of what has been said about wearing diapers in public. That new add out by Depends asking people to show their support for adults who wear adult incontinent products by openly wearing Depends out in public. There are lots of people both men and women who are wearing depend diapers on the public streets. They are wearing depends with out covering them up. They are walking out on public streets with a lot of people around and no one pays attention to them wearing their diapers without cover of pants, skirts or dresses covering up their depends. They just walking in public with their depends in full view for everyone to see. The people wearing their diapers are walking with their heads up like it’s something that they do everyday with out embarrassment. The other people who are walking don’t stop and stair at them they don’t seem to pay much attention to them.
My wife Suzanne who changes my wet or wet and messy cloth diapers has been having me go out in public in my diapers and plastic panties with a oneize over them during our warmer weather. She said that the more I have to wear my cloth diapers in public with my oneize over them the more I will get use to it. She said that if I don’t act embarrass no will give it a second look. She is right I have been wearing my diapers and plastic panties with my oneize outside in public mostly everyday in May and there have been no problems with me wearing my diapers. I am getting used to doing it. I no longer feel embarrassed about being seen in my diapers and plastic panties with my oneize. Most people I am sure think I have a medical reasons for wearing diapers. Like Adrian Surley I am incontinent and need to wear diapers for my wetting. My wife Suzanne has been having me wearing them for both wetting and messing. She told me that since I have to wear diapers for wetting that I could also use them for pooping.
I have to agree that the ABDL community does need a facelift so to say. When I browse the sites there are a lot of people making it all about sex, but that’s not what a lot of us are here for. I myself would love to have the public eye not look at us with negativity.
I do go for walks in the wee hours of the morning before daylight in my diaper and a onesie over it. Most of people my neighborhood are not even up and I go that early in the morning so that I do not offend anybody. But the most part I usually just go ahead and wear shorts were jeans. But on a very hot days it’s around in Texas I will wear just a pair of shorts but I know that my diaper is sticking out in the back. So the people that know me are to know that I were diapers and for the most part (except for one older gentleman) I accepted that way.
I am incontinent so I do have to wear but in today’s day and age I still feel that in the public eye women are more accepted diapered than men are.
I could not agree more. The general public need more Documentaries and educational websites about the ABDL community.
The ABDL community itself could do with it’s own online radio station and it’s own universel brand of ABDL cloths. It would help the image of the community if an ABDL cloths brand could be sold in general high street cloths shops.
Perhaps the community could start a company of some sort to run a universal ABDL nursery.
If the nursery, cloths brand and radio station were run on an international bases the general public would become much more informed, and our image would improve.
Further, if everyone from the community were to put a informational article in the press we could reach an incredibly large portion of the general public.
Using a wet diaper for long duration is good? What the suggestions can aid me to change the adult diapers? Please help.
There is a website strictly for us, its called http://www.ABDLMatch.com. I’ve been using the site for awhile now and have gotten to know a lot of people.
I got a bad feeling from that site, as though I would never actually “break through” with anyone. Do you know the term “string along”? I felt strung along, as though the people I was finally able to connect with were being paid to fill a chair while they answered my emails. In all honesty, I was kind of addicted to the site and it took a great deal of effort to finally get off it, which I did about a year or so ago. If it’s one thing I don’t like in this lifestyle is the feeling of being taken advantage of. I guess that’s something AB folk need to get used to. I consider myself submissive, but not stupid. The bottom line for me was I was unhappy with the site.
There is actually a personals site for AB/DL called abdlmatch.com, but they’re entirely too strict on what you can say, even in personal, one to one messages. I mentioned pooping in a diaper in a message, even disguising as “#2” and I got banned from the site. Totally stupid! But I agree, the ab/dl world is definitely not understand, and finding a girlfriend for me has been practically impossible. It seems like girls will accept you if you HAVE to wear a diaper for medical purposes, but not for a like or fetish. And I am looking for a girl who wears herself, not just accepts that I like to wear. It’s so tough…ugh.
Don’t feel too bad about being banned from abdlmatch. I believe it is a scam site with women who were hired to role play and feign an interest in being mommies or whatever you’re interested in, not really there for anything but a paycheck. That’s just what came up on my personal “radar” after several months of trying to “connect” there. Glad I’m free of it, but it took some doing. The allure of finding an abdl mate is very strong indeed. And we all know the actual likelihood of that EVER happening. Pretty much zilch. Love yourself for who you are.
Ive never posted here or on any ABDL site before but just wanted to say hi and maybe open up a bit on where i am with my DL comfort level. I have very much had an interest in diapers since early on in my youth as well as other interests if i may say. Even so i have a newly developed passion for them and as much as i am insecure on the issue, i will say that my curiosity and excitement are peaking. I would love to meet someone else who shares my interest as i know the majority of us would as well. Does anyone know a good site to meet others? I know that adrian has mentioned the need for such a site but anyone find any progress on this? I also wanted to ad that if others share their stories and mutual interests on this site and others, than alot of us would feel more “in the closet” about our feelings and i just wanted to say thank you and i hope you all have a good day=)
I meant to say if others “didnt share their stories” sorry for the mistext.
I have been out many times where people could easily see or tell that I was wearing cloth diapers and plastic panties because I wear just a oneises over my diapers during our hot summer weather. One day my wife had me wear my rhumba diaper cover panties with a short t-shirt so that they were visible. No one has ever paid much attention. I am sure that they just thought I have a medical need for wearing diapers, which I do. Because of damage to the nerves that control my bladder and bowels I have both urinary and fecal incontinence. She said that she finds that cloth diapers and plastic panties are best for my needs with my incontinence. She said that she doesn’t want me to wear pants that she has to completely remove in order to change my wet and messy diapers.She is a nurse who works with a urologist who treats all ages of people both male and female with incontinence. She told me that there are between 15 & 20 million people in this country with incontinence that is why there are so many places that carry adult diapers. Besides the people with incontinence who wear diapers there are many with out incontinence who wear diapers just because they like to wear diapers. Some people wear diapers because of the job that they do. Astrontes and some race car drivers wear diapers. She says that there is no good reason for people who wear diapers because they have to or like to feel embarrassed wearing diapers. When you are wearing a diaper you are covering more of your body then a lot of swimming suits cover. The problem with wearing diapers is that a lot of people think that diapers are only for babies and that is not true. Diapers are for any one who needs to or wants to wear them.
I think later. I’ll buy a tee shirt from “aww so cute” the one with a blue teddy bear picture. Not the one that says ” I’m pampered” I think it’s too much as is I wear a bulky diaper sometimes in public under jeans. But no one has ever said anything. I do notice I get that curious look from people sometimes. Looking at my behind. Butt area. As I walk by. But I do notice guys don’t really care if they think I’m wearing a diaper or not. Cause I’m a guy and my diaper isn’t that exposed like tight fitting under jeans. But with females sometimes they just seem to know somehow I’m diapered. They look at me with their jaws dropped expresion, stare hard for a bit, snare at me. Smile, laugh suddenly, etc. with females I think their used to seeing kids diapered under clothes rasing them, watching them grow up. So when they see a grown man in diapers under jeans with a little bulky look then it raise questions in their mind. Like ” really?” So if I really want to give myself away. I’ll wear a blue teddy tee shirt with a diaper on underneath.
I can not agree with you more. I am afraid of our community honestly. I am asexual, so the fetish side really is scary.
I am AB in my own little way, and it is very very special to me (I am sure a lot of you feel the same). I would like to be more out about who I am but I don’t feel safe. Especally as a girl. There are so many predictors out there as it is, I don’t want to throw myself to the wolves presay.
There is a lot we can learn from the LGBT community. The drag queen was the predominant image of the community until everybody’s neighbors came out. They developed community and community leadership to help promote a positive image for themselves. I suppose that is what we need. Good leadership to take innovative to institute positive change.
I am totally incontinent both urinary and fecal so my wife insist that I have to wear cloth diapers and plastic panties because I wet and mess in my diapers. The disposable adult diapers are ok for wetting if you don’t wet them that much between diaper changes. However they don’t hold up that well if you wet a lot in your diapers like I often do between diaper changes. My cloth diapers and plastic panties hold up much better when I wet a lot between diaper changes. A lot of time my wife isn’t able to change my diapers as soon I wet my diapers. I can usually wet my diapers 3 & 4 times before they get to the point where they might start leak and have to be changed. Also the disposal diapers not work very well if I have to mess in them. With my cloth diapers when i have to mess in them my plastic panties help hold the odder frwife om my messing in my diapers. My wife insist that I wear a oneises over my cloth diapers and plastic panties to help hold up and keep my diapers from sagging from the weight of when I wet and messy in my diapers. During the hot summer weather she has me just wear a oneises over my diapers and plastic panties. Usually a part of my diapers and plastic panties are a little visible around my legs at the bottom of my oneises. Sometimes she well have me wear a t-shirt that clearly makes my diapers and plastic panties visible. I was really embarrassed when insisted that I had to wear my diapers this way during the hot summer weather. She said that it is easier for her the change my diapers if she doesn’t have to remove my pants. She told me that most poeple wont pay any attention to my diapers and that if they do notice my diapers will just assume I have a medical need for my diapers. Which of course with my total incontinence I do. I told me that the more I have to go out this way the sooner I will get used to having people seeing me in daiers and the sooner I will get over feeling ashamed and embarrassed about having to wear diapers. She is right I have been wearing a oneises or a t-shirt with my diapers and plastic panties outside for sometime now and I no longer feel ashamed or embarrassed about wearing my cloth diapers and plastic panties. Diapers are no longer just for little babies older children, teenagers and adults are wearing and using diapers.
I think if less littles and DLs posted twenty yellow-crotched closeups to Instagram a day, we wouldn’t be seen as a fucked up or freaky fetish group. I mean, you do you fam, but like, keep it to the nighttime block and tag it properly as suggestive, maybe.
Today I was wearing at work – when you spend your time bent over wiping cupboards and toilets, it’s not that bad to wear heavy clothes – and that thought kept coming to my head of a 300-pound bear wearing a six inch thick diaper and frilly maid outfit, and that public image just makes me cringe. The fetish communities I follow even do that, though not with huge dudes with thirty pounds of body hair, and it reminds me of feeder communities who get off more on shaming and bad health than the indulgence of the food or the comfort of a chubby body.