Well since there are more questions I figured I would go ahead and address as many as I could. I have to say that I have overall led a very blessed life, I was insecure as a child when I developed this condition that required me to wear diapers. It took a while for me to get used to it, and I only told best friends or those that were close to me and I trusted, luckily for me none of them really ever minded!
As I got older I began to realize that this was something that I needed to be comfortable with but it was not until I grew older that i Began to realize that this is something to makes me unique and something that I LOVE! I as corny as it may sound Fell in love with Diapers! I began using the internet as a way to meet people who were much like me! It was really my escape for a long time!
As for work, I don’t tell anyone at work because I am in a very professional business that this kind of thing whether medical or not might cause some issues. My boss, coworkers, and everyone that I work with has no idea and I keep it that way on purpose. Its hard to really express how I got through some hard times, but I had some great friends, great family, and now an Amazing finance who I thank God every day that I am with! My fiance, like some may think, is not the reason for my confidence and my comfort it is simply because I have grown up and realized that we each have one life to live and I would rather spend this life comfortable and in love with who I AM, than acting like someone I am not. Diapers make me who I am and they are who I am in every way possible and I would never have it anyway different! I don’t tell every single person I come in contact with but all my close friends and those I trust know and they have never said anything rude or hurtful and have always been supportive!
As you all know I do show off my diaper most of the time while I am out on the weekends and such and even then I have had only a few comments and most can be ended with the response, “I wear for a medical reason.” I don’t let what people think affect me because they don’t know me. I love Diapers! And I don’t care what others tell me. I understand that is a hard mindset to obtain, trust me it took me a very long time to come to where I am today! But it is 100% worth it! If any of you ever need anything I am here, sometimes you need someone to help you along in order to become and get to where you need to be!
yes stacey everything u said make sense to me
Hey Ash! I actually always bring a change with me. I carry a very large purse and put diapers, wipes, and a small thing of powder in there everyday so I can just go into the bathroom if I need to during the day! 🙂
Hey Richard! I do have a slight bowel incontinence as well. It is not as serious as my bladder issue but I still do have it which is why I have always messed in my diapers as well! And no, there is NEVER a second that I don’t want to wear! I LOVE EVERY SECOND!! 🙂
Well I haven’t had that much but usually I will just excuse myself and head to the bathroom to change myself. I always carry diapers with me so it works out fine 🙂
Thanks for that – it is nice to understand a bit more. Are there ever time that you wish you weren’t in diapers? I am a bit puzzled as to whe you are also bowl incontinent, or have you just thought “I am in diapers so why not just go in them now” I sometimes do that but usually regret the clean up
so what do you tell wprk colleages when you need to duck home for a nappy/diaper change?
I was wondering how you cope if you have a bowel movement in the middle of a work meeting
well the reason i like to wear them is i have a phobia of wetting my pants *shivers* so wearing a diaper really boost my cofindence 🙂
No, I just learned to change myself at an early age if I had to but most of the time I could make it through the day.
so what happen at school. did a school nurse or something change you. must have been pretty humiliating for you.
Stacy is absolutely right, it is vital that all of us who are incontinent learn to change ourselves, so long as we have the flexibility and control of our bodies. Unfortunately some of us do not have enough coordination. But the goal is to find adaptive clothing to make it possible for the incontinent person to take a maximum of responsibility, to “own” his or her wetting.
I am so fortunate that except when I am very sick I have my bowel control, so usually days I can use slip-in pads that are faster to change in a ladies room that would be tape-on briefs. In my brief case I carry a couple of Attends Breathable Small as well as several slip-in pads, wipes and disposal baggies.
It is also fortunate that just enough female law students have trouble sitting through our long lectures that even before I reached law school adult disposables were hardly rare in my dorm. By the time I had passed my bar exams there was no stigma to needing briefs, pull-ups or slip-in pads. Lawyers all carry brief cases, and people do not care.
At my office I am lucky that us partners have private lavs, so changing there is very discreet. Each week I have a package shipped to my office containing a fresh supply of Attends, slip-in pads and supplies, so daily I only need carry a few. My incontinence supplys are kept in a cabinet in my private office.
When I am in court I have discovered which floors of which court buildings have the better ladies rooms, but over the years I have had to find ways of changing my diapers in some tiny stalls. Sure, the slip-ins are not exactly AB, but when they work for you, they do simplify getting through the day.
There is controversy to what extent the ADA protects the rights of incontinent employees. Yet reasonable people can work out realistic accommodation. My legal specialty is corporate litigation, so I am frequently asked by clients to find ways to head off law suits. Without getting specific about my own medical issues, I start such a discussion by saying imagine the negative publicity to a company if some employee were to go public that they were denied bathroom breaks. So far, and I have been an attorney for 20 years, my corporate clients have seen the benefits of accommodating incontinent employees and customers. It is ethical and it is also darn good business!
“…which is why I have always messed in my diapers as well! …”
This turns me on tremendously. 🙂 I just love a woman who enjoys messing her pants/diapers. In credibly rotic, to me, and your fiance’ is one lucky guy to have you. Do you ever “enjoy” the feeling of a messy diaper for a little while, before you change? Does messing your diaper turn Peter on?
Thanks for answering all these nosy questions. 😉
I think that anyone who has gone through puberty in diapers can easily become attached to them in a sexual/sensual way, as well as develop a deep physiological need for them.
Sorry about the name… my name’s Stacey too.
So when changing in the ladies room at work how do you get around the noise? I mean tapes are noisy 🙂
I have a question and hope that you wont think I sound rude. I am not trying to be. I just really want to understand. I also wear diapers out of necessity and I am curious about when you say you wouldn’t change it and love wearing your diaper. I guess I’m just confused because wouldn’t everything just be so much easier if you could magically wake up one day and be continent. No more diaper changes or having to pick clothes that cover the diaper. I guess what I am saying is that I preferably would just want to be healthy so while i understand the necessity of my diaper and how it is helped me, I certainly don’t love it and wish with every fiber of my being that I had normal bowel function.