Wearing diapers has always come fairly natural to me so wearing in public was never some huge deal. But, for many people in the adult baby and diaper lover community. It is a huge deal and a big step to being more comfortable with yourself.
Most people tend to think when they wear diapers in public that everyone can notice or see. This is probably 5% of the time unless of course that is what you are going for and are wearing something super revealing or a super thick diaper. But, for the most part the diapers are fairly well concealed under your clothing…trust me, I have been doing it for years and there has probably been only a handful of times where someone could really notice I was wearing a diaper.
Be confident in yourself first off! If this is something you truly want to embrace and do then just do it! Like the Nike commercials use to say. Just do it and start slow. Wear baggy clothing where nobody would ever notice for sure. Baby steps! Wear baggy clothing over your diaper maybe when you go to the store. Then, when you realize its really not as big of a deal as you make it out to be then try different clothing or wearing longer or different places.
Realize that most people who would notice that you have a diaper on would not associate you with the ABDL community. They would most likely assume that you have a health condition and that wearing diapers is for need. The public perception of the ABDL community is really not that much. Especially, if you don’t flaunt it and act like an idiot about it…just act like its no big deal. Now, if you are wearing baby clothes, suspenders, etc and have some huge bulky diaper on – your gonna get some looks and most people probably would not associate that with a health condition…maybe a mental health condition?
Public diaper wearing has always been a big mystique for those that diaper wearing is not very often or are very private. For those of you that want to take that leap into being able to wear diapers more often and out in public spaces. Just start slow…there is no rush. Wear late at night when not many people are around in stores…wear baggy clothing…wear a thinner diaper than you would at home. You will come to realize that it is not a big deal and before long you will be wearing thicker diapers like Bambino Diapers or Abena under normal jeans and realize that it really doesn’t create that noticeable of an effect…unless of course you are wearing SUPER skinny jeans. Again, be confident in yourself and take small steps to embracing this part of you as you are not hurting anybody…so take comfort in knowing you are doing nothing wrong by wearing diapers in public..
It actually helps if you wear loose skirts or even hosiery that covers the diaper. Or shorts under the skirt. That could lead to heated crotch and rash though.
The problem with hosiery–and I know this from experience–is that if the diaper leaks even a little, the hosiery will wick the moisture and it will end up going down the leg in far larger quantities than it would otherwise. So if you’re going to do that, I’d recommend changing more often than usual.
Fortunately, I never had to go through this stage, since not only do I like wearing diapers, I have a medical need for them. Same as you, Adrian, though mine is due to my disability. If anyone notices and is nosy enough–and rude enough–to ask about them, I’d advise someone to *say* they were medically incontinent whether they were or not. I mean, what is the person going to do, check? (To say “None of your business!”, while true, sounds defensive and will make a person suspicious.) The “medical excuse” has far less of a stigma.
Adrian, I have a question for you. What would you recommend for a DL who wants to explore the AB side a bit more, but whose privacy is at a premium? I can explain away the diapers, but if I were to get a pacifier or a bottle, say, that would be hard to explain to the home-health aides who came in. I know that’s not your area of expertise, so I apologize if I’m putting you on the spot.
Rachel, i dont seem to have that problem. Hosiery actual helps prevent my diapers from being spotted easily–though you cant wear them in summer
I am a male person who wears diapers for a medical need & took this decision 3 years ago in 2010, I wear my normal clothing over my diapers to conceal them.
I think people who don’t understand why a grown adult should be in diapers should be re-educated as it seems there’s too much stigma in society,as specially as I got this way through no falt of my own.
I have a real need to wear diapers virtually 24/7, despite what the doctor said about my bladder problems I realised long ago if I was to go back to wearing diapers I would do it on my own terms and not what I am told to do.
Call me a rebell but I don’t think you should be stigmatized for wearing these products just because your no-longer a baby/toddler anymore, I have come to realize that I am who I am and nothing or nobody will ever change that fact, I also have come to the realisation that I will probebly have to wear them for the rest of my life.
I became what I am 34-35 years ago when I was born in 1980, but didn’t need to wear diapers until I turned 30 years old/young and also through disablities that I will have the foreseeable future and this doesn’t bother me one bit.
I also believe I firstly that I damaged my bladder through my years spent playing rugby at school as I was hit alot in the pelvic reagon and I think this is one of the reason’s I have a shy bladder or over-active bladder syndrome today many years after giving rugby up for good, I also believe the second reason is I was potty trained way too early in my childhood years.
But because the doc says I don’t need them I can’t get them on the NHS and this factor has made me become in debt many times because I have to pay full price for my diapers and this really sucks as I can’t always have a supply of them when I need them, unlike those Lucy people who are recognized as disabled and who get them virtually for free on the NHS.
Anyway just thought I would like to blow some steam off as I have had a frustrating day.
update to earlier story (Kwan Ming).
The Need for a revolution?.
I have no problem with the fact I have choosen to wear diapers in my post 30 years of life as I started wearing them again when turned 30 years old in 2010.
Due in part to a weak bladder but also for reasons of practically in terms of avoiding dirty and quite frankly un-hygienic public toilets/rest rooms.
I also use them because of my disabilities ie High Functioning autism and minor neurological damage caused by past cases/episodes epilepsy, and although this is thankfully minor in terms of health.
I don’t see any problem with the fact I will be in diapers for the rest of my life as per my earlier stories.
I think the real problem lies with other peoples attitudes and this has to change because of the discrimination of people like myself who have hidden disabilities and also those who of us who have chosen to wear diapers so that we can live a normal day in our lives without the fear of an embarrassing accident happening.
I think there needs to be a revolution in society to change people’s attitudes, obviously I am not calling for violence of any kind, but there needs to be a stop to the outdated and hurtful views that diapers are just for babies & The elderly.
And so I am calling for more people to join with the website bellow to put an end to stigma once and for all.
The webpage is:
And at the same time I am calling for government politicians to lend their support to ending the unnecessary and cruel practice of bullying that exists in todays society.
So I i’ll quote one of my favourite sound track from les miserables as a rallying call.
“Do you hear the people sing, singing the song of angry men its the song of people who will not be slaves again”.
And I will also quote a famous rallying call from the cuban revolution “Viva La Revolution”.
Before september 2015 I suffered in silence but now since reading your stories and tails of how many of you have suffered for far too long at the hands of unsimpatic and cruel people, I urge you all to join the crusade/fight against discrimination and stigma and change society for the better.
This will allow future generations to avoid the shame and embarrassment of being subjected to the negative views of bullies and hatefull people who just don’t understand their time has come for their tirriney and hurtful ways to end now and forever.
We have the power to end this ongoing nightmare if we chose to unite behind the crusade or cause that has been started by people not unlike ourselves who are fed up with listening to the lies told to us by hatefull and dangerous people.
And its to that end I implore you all to support the cause and help to build for a better future where people no longer have to worry about wearing diapers and can live their lives in the dignity and peace of mind they deserve.
Wearing shorts under a skirt actually sounds like a good idea. Did you mean lycra shorts or some similar material? Seems to me those would not only hide the diaper, but keep it close to the body so it doesn’t leak. Of course, one can also get what are essentially adult-size onesies, too.
like running shorts. in singapore, due to the design of most school uniforms, girls wear shorts underneath.
I often wear pantyhose and they do help with covering my diapers. even wearing a large cotton panty or my pantaloons/slip/pettipants work well too.
I must admit I never have had a problem wearing in public – in fact I wore them in public before I wore them at home. I always wear my ordinary underwear over the top and if I expect to wet, then I have quiet PU pants over the top. The cotton underwear absorbs any slight leaks and keeps it all in place
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SOOO mortifying, some days I want to die – I hate having to wear a diaper full time. It’s along story which involves partial paralysis as a result of a car crash which left me fully bladder/bowel incontinent. I always pitied people like me but now am one of them. I am angry and am having a difficult time accepting this – this was not a congenital thing for me. I was an athlete. Now, just pathetic.
I’ve been out for a walk with just a Diaper on and a t-shirt and people look at me but me just say going to a party and then see a lady with a stroller with no baby in and another lady carrying the baby came up to me and said nice, So there are people out there that do care and then me had a whole day out with these ladies and they changed me in public and there baby was changed in public and no-one said a word about it or looked at me and then the ladies took me to a real baby party with other mother and babies and there was a lady I new as she was my mummy at the time.
I wear thick adult nappies out and about all the time. I get loads of looks some people dont say or do nothing but loads laugh and take the miky im a adult baby and proud
I’m a man and found that wearing light support panties over the diaper helpss to reduce noise and also keeps the diaper firmly in place. It is also an added safety net in case the tabs come loose. I do like a bit of cross dressing as well so often buy them in pretty colors and with nice bits of trimming. If you prefer to be more masculine just buy them in plain beige or gray. They work much better than men’s briefs!
I don’t worry about my diapers in public I just wear them under my clothes and since it’s getting warmer here in Nebraska I’ll be wearing shorts all the time and people can usually tell I’m wearing a diaper under my shorts and I know people can here my diapers crinkle but I really don’t care.
Glad to hear people in nebraska abdl community speak! I wish I culd meet more nebraskans like you. Go big red.
I have been wearing adult diapers/nappies since 2010 due to my disabilities/health condition, like you say most of the time no-one notices this fact, Although I wish there would be more acceptance out there for people like myself who have no option but to wear these products, we are not freaks or have a mental condition, I have rediscovered how comfy they feel asspecially as they provide me with a degree of indipendace, And thats got to be a good thing.
I would like to meet a man and a woman, to be friends with, or maybe more. Please, give me a chance, before judging me. There is more to a person, then what you see. I have cerebral palsy, and in a wheelchair I am looking for a friendship or a relationship. I am a positive type of guy looking for someone, to spice up my life. I am into almost anything I am searching for a man or woman, to be friends with. All I really like to meet you, and develop a good and honest relationship. I am bi, and wear diapers. Plus, I am into BDSM. Please meet me in the, Mesa Verde’s Shopping Center, at Starbucks, on Adams & harbor blvd. in costa mesaI would like to meet a man and a woman, to be friends with, or maybe more. Please, give me a chance, before judging me. There is more to a person, then what you see. I have cerebral palsy, and in a wheelchair. I am looking for a friendship or a relationship. I am a positive type of guy looking for someone, to spice up my life.
During the hot weather I waer my cloth diapers and plastic panties all the time. One while I was at our local Wal-Mart I wet and messed my diapers. At the time I was wearing clear plastic panties over my diapers. A lady in the came up to me and said you wet and I believe have a messy diaper and you need to be changed. She asked me if I had an extra diaper. I told her I did. She grabbed my hand and said she was going to takeo me to one of the family restroom to change my diapers. She would take no fore an answer. She said she was a care giver and has had to change messy adult diapers before. When we got to the restroom she told to give her my clean diaper and lay down so I an get you cleaned up in a new diaper. I felt really embarrassed having her change my diapers. Told to just lay there while she changed me. She told me if I started to move before she was she was going to swat me on my behind. When I started to protest she put a pacifier in my mouth and if I was going to act like a baby she was going to treat me like a baby. When she was done she stood me up and gave a swat on my behind. She grabbed my hand and told me to leave the pacifier in my mouth as she walked me back into the store. She told me she was going to help me with the rest of my shopping. She got about six baby bottles and baby formula. She took one of the bottles and filed it with formula. She ask the girl in the snak bar if she would warm up the bottle for me. As we walked around the store she told to finish my bottle. She took me to the drug department and got some baby wips and baby powder. When we got to the check out stand she told the lady I had to be put back in diapers. The lady at the check out stand said she understands. I was so embarrassed. While we were standing in line she said I need to check yohr diapers. She put her finger inthe front of my diapers to see if I had wet them again the she pulled open the back of my diapers to is if I had a messy diaper. Whe said no your diapers are fin fore now. A lot of people were looking at us. She said its ok he needs to wear and use diapers.
My husband has revealed to me that he prefers diapers to pants and would like to wear them more than just to bed. Would jogging pants hide the fact. They make jeans to tight. He doesn’t want the diaper to notice. I am supporting him In this.