A lot of people are wondering what happened to Kay so long ago. I am sorry I never responded to a lot of you but I did respond to some people. I try to respond to everyone but as you can imagine I get tons of emails and I just never got around to making a post about it. Kay as you know is incontinent like me and is into the DL thing a little bit but she just didn’t feel like there was any benefit for her to be blogging and she was not to fond of the attention she got. Not to say she didn’t appreciate some of it – but there was some attention she said that made her uncomfortable. That with a combination of that she is not into the AB or DL scene that much – she just decided it wasn’t for her. Which is definitely understandable. I told her to try it out and see what she thought and it just wasn’t for her.
She really is a kind person and very down to earth. She said her and her boyfriend tried to meet a lot of people but most everyone of them either chickened out or just couldn’t relate on a mature level. She shares a lot of the same ideas that I feel on certain things and it is unfortunate. A lot of people if you meet them or talk to them, all they can relate to you on or talk to you about is diapers. Which, yes, diapers are a big part of my life and hers as well but that is not all we are about…she was looking for real friends and people they could get a long with and have fun with doing what typical friends do. But, she said that most everyone just couldn’t get past that whole diaper thing and it just became awkward.
That is where I find it very important for ABDLs. Do not lose your social life over it. Diapers can be a huge part of your life whether your incontinent, AB, DL, ABDL, mommy, daddy, whatever – but don’t let it rule your life. You have to have other aspects of your life that does not revolve around diapers because in the end once the diaper stuff does fade if you meet someone – you would like to have a good true friend and not just a diaper friend. At least that is how I look at things and how I base who we attempt to meet offline. We are very supportive of the ABDL community but we will really only meet people that we have talked to for a while and developed a good friendship online that doesn’t revolve around everything diapers. Just my suggestion for those out there looking to meet other girls or guys for that matter…your life is not diapers – it may be a big part – but you are a person too! Don’t forget that 🙂.
I agree, diapers are not all your life.. I was teased in high school cause i need diapers and my mom was my best friend cause I was crying alot. U cant allow diapers to rule ur life… Im lucky to have friends that love me cause im beka noit cause i wear.
Greetings. I cannot tell you how happy I am that you are back. I never contacted Kay because I figured she would rather not be bothered. When talking to other people, no matter what gender, diapers often play a relatively minor roll in the conversations that I usually get into. As you said, they are a big part of many of our lives, larger for some than others for various reasons, but there is SO much more to life than just those. I love them myself, but if that’s all there was to life, I wouldn’t much care for it. After all, even your favorite food would get boring and tasteless if that was all you ever ate or talked about. On behalf of the idiots out there who drive people, especially females, away from this community, I sincerely apologize. It is not my place or my fault, but there needs to be some sort of apology, and I gladly offer it, for what little it is worth. I am sorry that so many people have been turned off and/or driven away for no other reason than simple shallowness and lack of depth or awareness of the thoughts, feelings and emotions of other people. It is sad, but such is life. Have a pleasant day.
I’ve always subscribed to the theory that being a AB/DL is not who you are, it’s just a part of the whole package. Too bad so many people can’t get past that part…
Hey there Adrian. A few topics ago and I can’t recall which ones, I did mention that I planned to attend an AB/DL Mucnch. Here is his website again.
My first time not able to get off work. 2nd time was off and ready to go and had car trouble. Needless to say that sucked. 3rd time was not my charm either as there was no else to close the deli that I work in. Kinda told my manager about it a bit and the 4th time I’m going this no questions about it. Its the 3rd Saturday of each month so that is not to bad for a good day trip once a month even with gas prices the way they are.
I don’t have much of a social life just mainly due to what I work and just barely making ends meet at times. I know there is a big difference between friends and aquantinces. I know I mispelled that one, but you get the idea. In a way I really don’t know why I feel very lose about going to this munch to meet others. Maybe a bit of I don’t care who’s type of atitude thing. Who you want to know and not to know who knows. Some questionable people that you really can’t say if you should or should not tell. One thing is if you get caught or chose to tell, I would say do your reseach and be prepared and maintian your adult mindset and hope for the best. Yeah, education and proper terminolgy would be a must to help avoid the negative side from outsiders and what not.
Maybe I feel easier with telling some others about these things in terms that they have very similar feelings of AB, DL, AB/DL, mommy, daddy or anything that is to with the uniquenees of that AB/DL community. If not anyone website there are these days, which one or a combination of sites the best to get any and all quality info help yourself vs giving advice to others?!
I think I mentioned something a ways back that if I do meet a new girlfriend that I think I would break a lot of this down into jokes to help break the ice to bring up these type of subjects that we all know so much about. Sorry for a long reply, but this post just caused a lot of things to flood mind just now. Tell Kay best of luck to her for her choice that she made because it sounds like she knows herself just as well as you do. Take it easy and stay in your comfort zone of your topics of choice and have fun.
I suffer i cry I still do past 21.
A well written article. Without incontinence i wouldnt have become such a good hermit.
I don’t talk about diapers i keep it to myself unless I Am in a chat room i have a life outside ab dl world I am a dl with a life has change to become better I am wanting friends I have them
Once again the bottom feeding scum of the community surface and drive another away. Good job, hope you’re all proud of yourselves.
yeah, that is shame that the community has to be all about diapers. I know that yes, they are a part of my life, and yes they do bring me joy. But they are not the only thing that brings me joy. I have friends, I love to sing, I love to dance and I LOVE cheerleading and marching band! There are so many things in my life that make me happy, and snuggly feeling I get when I sleep in my diapers is just one of them. My good friends know, and none of them care. I don’t make it central to our relationship, because there are so many more things I want to talk about and be involved in. So that is why I stay away from the ABDL community and just kind of follow your blog.
Hi all. Have to throw my agreement in with other posters. But first, Adrian, nice to have you blogging again after an almost three week absence. I hope everything is OK.
Second, while I recognize that the AB/DL community is filled with so-called “bottom feeders,” I don’t understand why our particular group seems to have so many of them. I mean, I have to believe the majority of us are outwardly regular people, with an array of ecclectic, fun interests that are typical for the human experience. Personally, I grew up with many friends and a loving family. Only recently, after some therapy, medication, and just growing more comfortable with myself, did I decide to discuss my DL side with non ABDLs.
But even so, it remains only a portion of who I am. The whole reason many of us reach out via the Internet is to seek out everyday friends, and if lucky, romantic interests. Do I love diapers? Sure I do. But if my friendship with another person was solely based on padded plastic and crinkles, I’m sorry to say that would be a very lopsided friendship, and likely unhealthy.
There is definitely more to life than diapers! One of these days I hope to meet up with some of the like-minded posters on this site.
But until then…. hope everyone has a good Labor Day weekend!!
I really wish our world was more open minded to things, especially something as simple as diapers. I am proud to say that diapers do not control my life in the slightest. I play in the marching band, I enjoy hanging out with my friends, and I still have time for homework. I enjoy them for comfort mostly and my parents are the only ones who I told. Sometimes I get caught up in my life that I forget about diapers. But there are times where I wish my friends knew, then I would have nothing to hide, and that is what can rule your life. Trust plays a major factor in this. Everyone obviously needs someone to trust. I remember telling my parents when I was younger and they just didn’t understand. It tore them apart for a while, but it eventually cooled down….so I thought. My mom then asked me one day if I was a pedophile, which caused me a total lack of trust in my parents. I had laid the facts out for them years ago, even had them talk with a shrink. The simple fact that “I liked wearing diapers from time to time” kept them from understanding. It made me really depressed and I wanted to yearn out to others to trust me. I feel that issues like these can bog down the ABDL community. It can be hard, but I believe we as individuals must overlook diapers until the time is right. The day will come for all of us 🙂
Yea i can only imagine the teasin in school if your not popular to begin with >
ever had such problems in school Rebeka ?
and curious how old you are still ? probably senior ?
You are so right on that aspect adrien
and a life only about diaper would get boring fast or too old quick
theres more to someone then diapers heck after a while i get tired of the diapers
and shurly dont think about them all the time theres unlimited things out there then just your underpants your wearing haha !
adventures and exploring = fun
I’m in agreement with you all. Every time I’ve tried to talk with anyother abdl it’s been ‘diaper,diaper,diaper’ and I’m sick of it. I understand why. Most of us having or wanting to wear diapers tends to give a feeling of solitude, ‘I’m the only one that needs this’, but given the internet we all know now that’s not true. Granted the computer is impersonal and generally one still feels alone, untill they meet someone that is. At that point they’re probably just nervous as hell and trying to make a connection.
ya know what it’s super early and my brain is barely working.
have a nice day everyone
Personally Adrian, I think it’s good idea at least to minimize diapers to small portion to your life, though I agree it can be a big thing, I think it can unhealthy to focus days on the subject when hours can just do fine. It’s kind of like sexual intercourse, too much you loose touch with reality and too little you become stiff, but enough you get a balance of work and plewp_e. Maybe my example is little to vulgar, but it works in this situation.
Responce to a question ask by….. ME….
Was asked my age and its 19..
Rebeka how do you coop with the having the need to wear vs dating i figure this is not something u bring up too soon ? or would it be best to bring up such early on ?
being your inco , what is your take on the abdl ` dl ? do you use it somewhat to make it easier on u ? or frequent such boards ?
I talk to people all over the community. I have alot of friends and I’ve been to alot of the gatherings be it a party or a munch. What I do is I talk about what interests me. I talk about life in general and if a person is all about just being pervy or talking about diapers……I either just walk away and ignore that person or I change the topic each time. I personally dont talk about peoples underwear preference with them. No one comes up to talk to me about their “fruit of the looms” ya know? Why would I just want to talk about my diaper?
My wife who has been around the ab community also stopped talking to people because and I’m sure its just a female thing…..these dudes are either pervs or hateful to the girls. I dont understand why these people cant show respect to a woman. I am very sorry she had those bad experiences and Adrian I know you’ve probably dealt with your share of those people too.
They suck and you ROCK and I really love what your doing here with this blog!
so many pervs in this world. saadly its all but natural i feel. ive been out in michigan workin at an oil spill and its amazing how many ppl are goin to the strip clubs every night and all that junk, guess its just natural for ppl (guys) to search the internet for something sexually entertaining, then take out their frustrations when possible on innocent ppl via harassment, come-ons, etc. sad really. even sadder that things wont change. best to just keep your diapers to yourself i guess, be comfortable with the fact that its a part of you (just a part, no more) and share with others on a need to know basis. seems like the ‘dont hide but dont flaunt either’ approach is best. just be comfortable with it, and let the rest play out as it may…
obviously there willl always be rude people pervs ect into the abdl and well you just have to ignore those , or choose who you socialize or chat with
dont let the bad apples of the bunch ruin it for you , theres pleny good folks out there abdl that dosent always think of diapers 🙂
I am a Guy and i get perved on too by guys … and its anoying
but i dont make much of it
In this (ab dl abdl bla bla bla) world there are 5 type of persons:
1 – The ABDL – The true abdl
2- The perv – Not mutch to say
3- The DL – People who love diapers
4 – The incontinents
5 – And the one who says that diapers are not sexual and bla bla bla and when you get there he or her are just pervs or somfin.
6 – The pedofilers, i dont know if there are, but… This is a babyish world…
Concluidin – Why dont you just be yourself? Not what you weant to be, but yourself.
Bye Adrian, good as asual 🙂
Amanda? I tried to help you, but you are never online. That’s ok. You know you have at least a “friend” (online).
Jks16 “My good friends know, and none of them care.” Thats the point were i wanted to get. That is exactly like me
It’s fairly obvious that pervy men and horny oversexed men drove another female away from the community. That’s why I think that the AB/DL is mostly a male orientated thing and that women are a minority in the AB/DL community. The men who drove Kay away are those who see women as a sexual object, a piece of meat or someone to sexualize.
I have to say, your thought is profound. It’s easy to think that just because a person is ab/dl that they must only do things that revolve around that. Far from! As a closet ab/dl myself, I can totally attest to the fact that there is much more to us. It kind of runs along with what you said a few weeks ago about the lack of a real social network on the web. We are all real people with real hobbies, not just diaper wearing adults. I don’t attribute myself as an ab/dl in my everyday life. I attribute myself first as a musician, a poet, a reader, and a hundred other things. It’s hard to find true friends in the community that don’t always want to talk about what kind of diaper that you wear, when you wear them, etc. It always comes back to the golden rule. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. ‘Nuff said
The internet in general is male dominated, and virtually all of the abdl community exists on the internet, along with most info about it.I totally agree that girls get scared away from the abdl community. Too many creeps out there. So it appears that it’s 99% guys. I’d rather invest my time in a real, abdl friendly girlfriend/boyfriend. It’s people like you who put a good face on abdl’s. No one wants to be friends irl with someone who ONLY talks about diapers.
That’s why real women and girls get scared away from any male dominated community. It’s because men treat women and girls as sexual objects, a piece of meat or someone to sexualize instead of treating women and girls as human beings like everyone else. Even on top of that you have men who pretend to be women in the ABDL community. on top of that all the men in the AB/DL community it’s all about wanting to change their diaper, or talk about their diapers or talk about being babied instead of talking about other things. That’s why women don’t want to come into the ab/dl community if all men talk about is diapers, wanting to be changed or change someone.
Greetings. Nila, I understand and fully concur with your frustrations and facts. However, please allow me to advise a bit of caution when making sweeping generalizations about any group of people. I will agree completely that MOST men in the AB/DL community leave something to be desired, but I believe that to be true of males, well humans, in general. However, saying ALL men are this, that or the other thing is, in my mind, no different from saying that all blind people are musically inclined, that all African Americans love fried chicken or that all illegal immigrants are criminals and wellfare abusers just waiting to happen. I’m sorry if this offends anyone, but please note that I DO NOT believe any of hese falsehoods. I am merely pointing out that generalizations of any group are immediately proved inaccurate when logic prevails, or when one is discovered who fails to live up to said stereotypes or generalizations. Once again, please allow me to caution anyone from making sweeping generalizations about any group. I know what it is like to have things said about me, because I myself am blind. People seem to think I have super hearing, am musically inclined by birth and can’t do a single thing for myself, but these are all stereotyped generalizations perpetrated by people who think that all blind people are this, that or something else. I’ll get off my salt box, but this topic is near and dear to my heart, and I must confess that despite the fact that I almost completely agree, I am still rather irritated. Have a pleasant and peaceful rest of the holiday weekend.
I totaly agree with you. I find it terrible that it seems that the majority of the abdl scene or community seems to only be able to talk about diapers, even if you start talking about something else it usually leads back to diapers.
otherwise its just a typical old community, we have the outsiders, the creeps and those elites thinking they are better than the rest.
I am tired of talking about diapers because you know its not much to talk about, its like the same thang over and over again. I try always to talk about other things when I join a ABDL forum or community but it never goes so well because the majority can only talk about frikkin diapers
thank you blindfreak. I agree. Most of the time, if someone says the words ‘every’ or ‘all’, they’re wrong.
One other thing I believe is that on the internet most reasonable human beings don’t post a lot of stuff for fear of being lumped in with all the unreasonables.
Once again I thank you, Adrian, for your wonderful blog.
Nila, I hope you , one day bump into someone who changes your mind. *smile*
We aren’t all bad.
@babyevan. I see your trying to be so apologetic for every man who made women run away from the AB/DL community. I think the problem with men is that men see women as sex objects and not human beings. The problem with men is that all they see is SEX DIAPERS and nothing else. That’s why you see the AB/DL community as male dominated and men pretending to be women dominated community.
The problems I see in the AB/DL community is that men who dominate this community do nothing but talk about Diapers, and wanting to be change or wanting to change others. All they talk about is trying to get their GF, wife or who ever into diapers like them. What men don’t realize, is that if you talk nothing but diapers, your gona drive women away from you and the community. You gona sit their and wonder why their are no Real women other than men pretending to be women in their.
The way I see it, it’s all about your attitude towards women and how you come off to a real woman is how they are gona think and act towards you.
thanks for the feedback nila.
I just wanted to add that I’m not appologizing for anyone. Mostly, in our community guys are jerks. I think the people that post here on Adrian’s site are truly the best I’ve found, and I’ve been looking for a while.
well i gotta roll
Nilla, you told all. Hum… But what i can i say diferently than what i’ve said before? It’s not all of us but people in general, mostly men, tend to relate diapers (fetish) to sex, but, i personaly, dont think as if it was that, diapers bring me some kind of dependence that makes me believe i can get younger and that makes me feel happy and secure and confortable, once you feel like that you want to experiment new things, we all have our time of relaxing (if you know what i mean), but that is as normal as if i wasnt an ab, mostly dl. Sexualy talkin i prefer to satisfy myself alone in what refers to diapers, if diapers came up to a relationship i wouldnt take it to our sexual relations i would take to a hobby to a kind of playin like, some prefer to watch a movie, i prefer to watch a movie with a diaper. Like i told if it makes you feel better and confortable, why not? You just have to make people understand why you like diapers. That is why i like. And as you see im a man. As presentin myself to an abdl comunity i wouldnt refer diapers cause thats the why you are there cause you have that fetish. Enough with the diaper talin ROFTL
Im Hugo 20 yold, actor. To act that would be the first i would talk with someone, anyone. Or music, arts in general.
What I said was from a POV of a woman. The fact is that the AB/DL community is male dominated fetish and that real biological women are a minority in this community. It’s also a fact that oversexed and horny men hound women on the AB/DL community to sexualize and to even get them to change their diapers. The problem is, that men in the AB/DL community, all they talk about is their diapers, wanting to be changed or wanting to changes others. They even talk about getting their wife, gf and who ever into diapers. The problem with that is men only want to talk about it all the time and women don’t. Women want to talk more than just diapers and men can’t seem to see that and can’t get past that.
This is why you men have to wonder why their are very little women into AB/DL and I believe it’s the male mentality towards women. I believe its because men sexualize women instead of seeing hers a human being like everyone else. Instead men who dominate the AB/DL community see women as sex objects and wanting to change their diapers or trying to be diapered with them. Which is why women don’t want to venture into the AB/DL community if they are going to be hounded, chased off or even sexualize like a piece of meat for men.
The way I see it, Men in the AB/DL community who are oversexed and horny are the ones to blame for running out Kay from the AB/DL community. It’s man’s fault because all they talk about is diaper this and diaper that. Not talking about other things and other issues. See for men in the ab/DL community their live evolves around diapers and for women, it doesn’t and that’s what men can’t seem to see here.
But girls can overeact sometimes cause there are many of us who want to have normal conversations about both lifes and likes/dislikes, everything and i dont see you girls givin any chance to that as i am always trying to talk with new people, mostly girls obviously and i rarely can, i have some of them as my friends but when it comes to talk hey wont tulk much for instance i tryied to talk with a gurl i met and the only thing she was talkin about were diapers and i was always trying to change the subject.
Speaking of what happened, I hope everything is OK in your world. It’s been 15 days, so let’s hope things are OK in your world. Stay well.
I believe that they reason this community is filled with such filthiness is because people come here to satisfy their needs to talk to someone else with their diapers. They satisfy their normal social life in real life, with real friends etc. but not a chance in the world if they would be just as brave to talk about their diapers with them, so they go to the community sites where some innocent curious girl is at to talk dirty about what she’s doing in here diaper.
Just my thoughts…
Adrian,diapers and what happened.
One could be tempted to use that as a headline on this page too. The last post was posted 20 days ago which is quite some time on a blog. I have enjoyed following this blog for maybe a year or more now, but It is sad that it really takes so long between the postings here.
However I hope you are ok, and that you will keep posting on your webpage.
I’m sure Adrain here has her reasons for not being able to post from time to time. About every 10 days or so between topics. Maybe she is putting a lot of work into the idea for profiles for us all on her blog and wants to make sure everything is in order before putting online or something. If not, what ever the reason real life before web/blog life. Have a nice day.
Ok I have been reading the comments for this post for a while and I think I should put my “2 cents” in. This is from my perspective.
I think nilla and others have taken the anti-male thing to far and I will tell you why.
I am a 29 year old incontinant male DL that came from a very poor family. Now I outright own 3 businesses one of which is my dads machine shop and I’m a partner of a 4th business. I am also negotiating a deal to outright buy another business. None of this would have been possible without a positive attitude, a college education and the fact that I’m willing to work for what I want.
I’m currently dating a law enforcement officer that I talk about a lot of things with and diapers are not one of those things (she dosent know yet). In fact all she knows about what I do for a living is that I run a corporation.
My point is I’m what my parents call a “ladies man” and a “bright young man”. My parents are in their early 70’s and they raised me with “old traditional” values and morals. I think that’s where the problems in society are. Parents aren’t teaching the old values,beliefs, and morals anymore. As a result the divorce rate in the US is 85% or higher. I will name a few of the things my parents taught me so everyone can understand what I’m talking about. 1) abstinence (no sex before marriage) 2) how to treat a lady (open doors, pay for dinner, dating edict, etc.) 3) people skills (you get farther in life with good people skills than a good education and no people skills) 4) good work ethics (proper attitude and willingness to do whatever it takes to get the job done right). But most importantly 5)spirituality (religious beliefs). 6) the difference between “rich” and “wealthy”. Wealth is a state of mind and rich is just simply having a lot of something. That’s just a few of the things my parents distilled in me by teaching and being a living example.
The life I have today is because of the values, morals, and beliefs my parents taught me. My parents know they raised a “winner”.
Another problem with the world is “dead beat parents”. Men that get a woman pregnant and won’t take on the responsibility of fatherhood should have there balls cut off (in my opinion). Also women that don’t take care of their children. I’m serious, a boy can only learn how to be a man from a man (one who is a real man, not a child in an adult body). Sorry ladies you can’t teach your boys how to grow up to be men. On the other side of it a girl can’t learn how to be a woman from a man. Face it people, men and women are wired in the brain differently. That’s scientifically proven.
Now someone mentioned the “golden rule”. That “rule” in my opinion is mis worded. It should be “treat others how THEY want to be treated”. If more people would think of others first instead of themselves society would have fewer problems
I had to post something here even though its usually not my thing. You are completely right. Its pretty ridiculous when as a 21 year old who’s been into diapers since I can remember I haven’t met one person like me. I’ve tried so many times to meet people that are into the same things as me and always its a scarred people away or its an older man who wants to rent a hotel room for me or something incredibly creepy like that and frankly a bit unsafe. I have a difficult time coping with this part of my life when i cant find anyone sane to relate to. I was raised to believe that what I’m doing is wrong or even sick, anyone that’s found out about it (only girlfriends really) have ignored it. I just want someone to prove to me there is an intelligent person out there that has the same interests that I’ve learned to embrace as a part of my life and love for what makes me different. I believe I have a normal life, I love reading, music and cooking I’m in a fraternity and even a skateboarder and snowboard instructor. Why is it impossible for us to find someone who could really understand what I’m going through?
i wore diapers to school and my skirt was being lifted by a guy and the whole class saw my diapers. i cried but then my best friend told me she does wear diapers too. and there was also this once my diaper leaked in class when is grade 8. i was so upset that i ran out of the class cause the whole class laughed
Hi there Adrain and all readers. Here is sometime that has happened to me today. I just attened my first AB/DL munch. It was interesting to go to and not to bad. Besides a simple meal there was very loose talk of every day life. Movies and what not. Most of the movies mentioned were kiddie tye movies such as Cars, Toy Story and Spirit Stallion of the Cimmaron. Maybe and mention of Disposable diapers and related items. Traded a few e-mails and met a few people so thats not all to bad to get out of town for. It last about 2hrs or so. After all was said I took up up to Indy just to chill for the rest of the evening to rest before the drive back home.
If anyone has not gone to a munch and you just happen to find one held in your part of town or a hour or 2 away it would be worth it to make plans to go one and Just keep the chit chat simple and be respectfull and have some fun.
Adrain, keep up the good work on your blog here and post when your ready and take it easy.
i would like to meet ppl who accept me for who i am . yes i wear but it doesn’t define me as a person. mine is from accident which turned into comfort and partial need. accept me as if i had 10 pairs of underwear on at once prob same bulk. i wear to bed mainly and sometimes day depending on cir.
I like to see more of you in diaper.
The difference between a perv and an AB
As an AB I look at a ladies breasts and I see food and comfort, a perv looks at a ladies breasts and sees a toy to play with.
As an AB I am anti-sexual don’t even touch myself unless im changing my nappy or having a bath, a perv is a sexual person that is always playing with themselves. I am 27 and still a Virgin and proud to be able to say that.