The challenges of wearing diapers for your entire life seems to most people like a huge barrier and challenge. But, they would be surprised to learn that even though there are challenges with adult diapers and having to wear them 24/7, it really is not all that bad. You learn to embrace the unique challenges and make the absolute best of them. You come to learn that adult diapers and wearing them really isn’t that big of a burden or big deal, especially if you approach them with an open mind and make them into something positive in your life.
Acceptance of Adult Diapers
The first thing you have to do that I found with my situation even though I had been wearing diapers my entire life was ACCEPTANCE. The challenges of wearing diapers 24/7 presents unique issues. I came to a point in my life where you start to realize that diapers to other people are a bit out of the “norm”. I came to the conclusion mainly in middle school. Elementary school you are still sort of oblivious to a lot of things and teachers and administrators still “baby” you on some level (not literally, but you know what I mean). Middle school, you find the kids to be more judgmental and you realize the sorts of things that are a bit out of the norm to most people real quick. I have some stories, lets put it that way.
But, I had to be strong and ACCEPT that wearing diapers was my life and had to develop a positive attitude toward them to make the most of the situation at hand.
Challenges of Wearing Diapers
Whether you wear adult diapers for need or recreation – there are always unique challenges that come along with this way of life. Here is a list of my unique challenges I have experienced as a 24/7 adult diaper wearer.
- Gym and Diapers: Wearing diapers to the gym or in beginning, gym class, proved to be difficult for me to get use to. Even with my accepting attitude, getting passed the fear of people discovering my diapers when I was younger was a little difficult but I overcame it. You learn to deal with these quickly when you have no choice. As I have gotten older, it became less about caring if others would see as many people have seen or noticed my diapers at the gym, and more about functionality. Wearing diapers on a 3 mile run or cycling can be difficult unless you lather up with vaseline or other good cream.
- Changing Messy Diapers: By no means is it ever “easy” to change a messy diaper. Obviously, its most convenient at home when Peter can change me but that is not always the case. Changing in a tiny public restroom by yourself or port-a-potty proves to be tricky and time consuming. But, again you adjust.
- Explaining Diapers to New People: It is not really a challenge per se more than it is just annoying. Some people understand really quickly and don’t care at all. While others sort of are left scratching their head before coming around. You learn that everyone has been exposed to different levels of “non-normal” events and you become used to it.
- Jeans and Diapers: For me, I know my normal waste and so naturally sometimes I will try and by a pair of jeans for my normal waist size but when you add the diaper in it adds a good inch or so. So, some pairs of jeans I know I can only wear with certain types of adult diapers.
- Summer Time in Adult Diapers: It takes some skill to learn what you can and can’t wear with diapers during the summer months. Heat and plastic diapers don’t mix unless you use powder and loose fitting clothing. It is easier for us girls because we can wear a skirt which allows a little breeze to come up there and cool things down.
As I think back, these were my major challenges with adult diapers but in all honesty, I am the type of person that deals with things quickly when they are in front of me and figure a way around them and deal with it. So, these things I have found easier ways to deal with some of the challenges.
What are some of your challenges with wearing adult diapers?
I don’t wear diapers 24/7, simply because I don’t need them for medical reasons. I usually wear when I can’t be near a restroom when I need to pee or poop; like if I’m on a road trip and I don’t want to stop at a roadside restroom to pee. Or how about a movie theatre? I’m not into the Adult Baby/Diaper Lover scene.
I can really emprise with what your saying Adrian, I myself have had to accept the fact that I will be in diapers for the rest of my life although it wasn’t easy getting to this stage.
In 2010 when I started having problems with incontinence I was thinking why me?,why now as I hadn’t had any problems since I was 3 years of age in 1983.
And being an outwardly healthy person up to the point when I turned 30 years old I thought that it meant that I was cursed with the fact I would have to be a adult sized baby forever as my body betrayed me.
It wasn’t until I read about other people who are in similar situations that I realised that I wasn’t a freak and that I certainly wasn’t alone and I have your website to thank for this as it opened my eyes to whom new positive possibility’s in my life.
I now rather than hide my head in shame and embarrassment have come to the realisation that rather then being a barrier it makes me more unique and special and that’s got to be a good thing.
Thanks everyone who has supported me over the past six years and helped me to get through the difficult times in my life.
Oh and merry Christmas and a happy new year for 2016-2017.
I can live with wearing diapers. What bothers me is society’s opinion of adults wearing diapers. Even today, society expects a child to be out of diapers and into “underwear” by 3 yrs old. I’ve never understood why. I believe there’s more to growing up than bladder control or even bowel control.
I have to wear them 24/7 as I had prostratr cancer 10 years ago and 8 years ago I lost my siatic nerve to a hospitak screwup so I have to use a walker and 9 times out of 10 I can not get to the bathroom fast enough so I just resighed my self to use the diaper and I have to use it at night as there is no way to get bto a bath room fast enough I have been using TENA for men as they are half the price of albena and they hold the liquid good
Nice post 🙂 Was weary nice to read.
Will I have to wear them 24/7 do to medical problems since birth so I have an idea what your talking about, how ever my parents did not try potty training till I was almost 6; and being that my dad was military and I was born over-sea’s they were not aware of the birth defect. Since I was responding to the training in peeing but not pooping, I was taken back to a base hospital were the medic told my father that I was messing my pants for attention. So that start a 10 year spanking process for messing in my pants. At age 16 I was taken to a none military doctor as we did not live near a baseany more and while there I told my dad I felt like I had to go to the restroom only to get a spanking because he had said that I had messed myself but I did not beleave him and had gone to the window to try and use a restroom. The nurse took me back to a room laid me on the table cleaned me up only to put a diaper on me. She told me to try and hold it till the doctor came in but if I couldn’t that was ok a few min. later the doctor came in checked me told me to do the best I could in the diaper and that the nurse would clean me up agine. So I did he checked again then that is when a few dozen test were started and I was told I would beI diapers the rest of my life. So from high school on I know what you have had to deal with.
I haven’t worn diapers 24/7 since I was 6 yrs old. I was difficult to toilet train. I had hydracephalus when I was a baby and that it screwed up the nerves that tells the bladder to hold on to the pee. Both my parents wanted me out of diapers by the “normal” age of 2 1/2 yrs, but I was still wearing diapers. I wasn’t doing it on purpose.
I’m a diaper lover. I mostly wear for fun and a little bit of need sometimes. I use it for road trips and when I drink alcohol beverages. I mostly wear for fun at home and sometimes under my clothes in public. I don’t wear 24/7.
There’s nothing wrong with that. Not everyone who wears diapers has a medical reason to wear diapers. I know I don’t.
I was in diapers 24/7 until I was six old years because according to my mom I was difficult to potty train. Later it was discovered I had IBS, which explained my lack of control. I was returned to diapers through childhood when my IBS flared up as a means of protection and convenience for my mom whom felt changing diapers was easier than cleaning up messy accidents. Fortunately, I learned to gain better control over IBS by understanding my body signals and diet so my accidents became more infrequent. I grew attached to wearing diapers in childhood and returned to them as an adult for more emotional need and the comfort and security the afforded me as a kid. Now, I enjoy being in diapers as much as practical and am completely nonjudgemental of those that need them for whatever purpose. I am so glad to have a support network like the ABDL community and websites like this to share my feelings, thoughts and experiences with likeminded people.
My bladder control has always been a bit iffy at best.
Getting used to wearing 24/7 was an evolution for me. I have nerve damage from neck and lower back problems (stenosis and spondylosthesis) and I started having to wear diapers at night a few years ago after a nerve was severed in my neck by a bone fragment from a failing vertebrae. Last year I decided to wear protection 24/7 since my control was awful and I was getting tired of wet pants, having to leave social functions due to wetting myself…etc. Both conditions are degenerative so my incontinence will continue to get worse.
Getting my self esteem back was the longest process. I would get frustrated often and be irritated I had to wear diapers all the time. Now, I don’t care much except for when I leak and have to wash the sheets. However, I felt helpless for a while and my wife really helped me get past that. For fun, she suggested I wear Bambinos, which turned out to be a superior product! I thought they were ridiculous, but she said they weren’t as medical looking so I wear them mainly now, except on travel when I don’t necessarily want the TSA finding printed diapers along with my wife’s and my adult toys. Bad mix.
The first thing I realized is skin protection and cleanliness is a must. Well, I had always been very clean but clean can mean dry and cracked skin. I use the Aloe Vesta line and they are really good. I learned to moisturize after my skin broke down last summer resulting in a really bad yeast infection that took weeks to heal. Being in protection all the time means your skin takes a real beating since it’s mostly wet or humid. Summer and winter are the worst seasons for the skin, but summer is a bit worse because there’s not only heat and humidity but the joy of having your protection discovered.
I also needed to modify my gym routine a bit…just like Adrian I put protectant on before I work out to minimize friction. The elliptical in a cloth-backed diaper really can hurt after 45 minutes without. I also needed to modify my weightlifting routine since lifting too heavy would result in fecal incontinence (sounds funny but really sucks). Finishing a workout – even 5 minutes – in even a bit of a messy diaper is an ordeal.
Not caring what others think (but also being discreet and respectful) goes a long way. I recently had a friend find out since he helped remodel our basement and he had to move my stash, which was considerable. I explained the medical condition and the fact I had so many in case my medical plan changed and a pre-existing condition wasn’t covered with my FSA. Of course he originally thought it was a fetish but after I explained he got the picture. And then recently, a kind young child pointed out I was wearing a pull-up (the one day I wore an M3 pull-up out for extended errands) as I was bending over to get jeans off a bottom shelf at a store. The rise in my pants wasn’t sufficient that day to cover all movements. I simply pulled my shirt down, smiled politely and went to try on my jeans.
Finally, it hasn’t dampened our sex life even if I pull down day pull-up in front of her or change out of my night diaper in the morning. Needless to say if I remove my pull-up in front of her I am dry…If I need to change I go do it discreetly. She knows I am very clean and I joke with her about my “uber-sexy” underwear…LOL. Plus, if I need to clean up she can get the toys out 🙂
Hey Colin. I agree with you. Humour can can help take the burden off of having to wear diapers. I try to be as discreet as possible whenever I go out. I don’t wear diapers 24/7, and I hope I don’t end up having to. I usually wear to bed or anytime I can’t be near a restroom. I’ve always hated using public toilets, except for bowel movements.
Wearing Diapers 24/7, I simply see them as just a pair of underwear and a pair of shorts. Wearing diapers for me, let’s me get through the day without ever having to find a toilet.
Hey Nicky. I agree. I don’t have to stop what I’m doing to look for a restroom. The only reason I use the restroom is to wash my hands or to change into a clean diaper when my current diaper is soaked.
Adrian, have you ever shared your story, of Growing up and having to deal with diapers? I think it would be an interesting read.
Also, how do you feel about people choosing to wear, when you have had to for so long?
If you could do it over, would you change you have had to worn diapers, or would you keep it the same, and why?
I’m right on the edge of Medium and Large sizes for most things, so finding a onesie that fits is a challenge, and not having a onesie would be an even bigger challenge.
Also, staying diapered while swimming is difficult – obviously wearing conventional diapers is basically a no-go. I own a containment swim diaper, but I’m waiting for my Netti CombiAqua to arrive – it’s supposed to be a sealed, waterproof diaper cover so that I can wear conventional disposables into the water and know they’re only getting wet from the inside.
I’m still getting used to it. I been 24/7 for about six months due fecal incontinence. It’s helped that my diapers have protected me from several public accidents. I admitt I feel weird without a diaper and I’d never leave my home undiapered anymore. Knowing my diaper will protect me incase of an accident gives me huge sense of security. Sometimes it bothers that I’m beginning to accept my diapers as normal. I’m not giving up hope yet, but part of me wants to give in and get on with life even if it means always being diapered. I think I’m bothered by the fact that I’m starting to become OK with the idea of being diaper dependent. I have a lot of thinking to do.
Faecal incontinence isn’t a big problem. It happens from time to time, but not as often as I wet my pants.
As many of you know I have been wearing diapers for the second time in my life ever since being diagnosed with a weak bladder in 2010.
Difficulties with the reality of wearing diapers:
my biggest challenge is keeping it private from my pearents as they disapprove of me wearing them as specially as the doc says I don’t need them.
How wearing diapers has improved my life:
For me wearing them has become a way of life because despite what the doctor seid which was based on exhaustive medical tests, I need to wear diapers as if I don’t I have embarrassing accidents and this is pretty much why I choose to return to wearing them in the first place after having bed wetting accidents and others during the day.
My body was obviously trying to tell me I was never ready to come out of diapers in the first-place as I was potty trained too early in my childhood at the age of 2 years old, And I don’t want to fight my body anymore so I have come to accept being in diapers virtually 24/7 is my new life and for me it’s no big deal.
Diapers make me feel more in control of my life as I am more relaxed and conceqentually sleep better at nights obviously I try to limit my fluid intake before I go to bed because I don’t want to have an overflowing pee accident that would be embarrassing, but I also take extra pre-cautions of wearing multiple diapers incase of myself having an accident whilst I am asleap in bed even though i have an on-sweet bathroom I cant always predict or feel the urge to say I need the toilet.
Overcoming the embarrassment barrier:
For me in my case I buy my own diapers as I couldn’t find a simphetic nurse who would have prescribed me with them on the NHS as I live in the UK, and so I had to resort to buying them from the shops which came with the constant fear of being in a situation where people would pre-judge me or worse poke fan at me because I wear disposable diapers which would be embarrassing but also for the first few months I was embarrassed I had to wear diapers as I was trained with the misconceptions of diapers are only for babies/toddlers.
Telling my pearents I need diapers was the biggest mistake I ever made and proved to be more embarrassing than i originally thought as it blew up in my face so to speak and although I love my pearents but I need to find a more sympathetic place where I can live by my rules/way of life and this obviously means moving out of my current shared house/home at some time I the near future, This move will also help me become more independent and less stressed out every time I get in a argument with my pearents over diapers.
And I am currently looking for shared housing in the nearby town as I live I a village at the present time and living in town would have its benefits as I would be closer to the shops and maybe if I could find a more sympathetic doctor to understand my needs I may be able to finally get them on the NHS as they cost me £38.00 every time I buy a pack and that’s too expensive as i am on a limited budget/wage and don’t get paid that often unless I work for more days but that’s not easy because I only work when they call me up which is not happening at the moment because it’s the quiet season maybe next month things will pick up as it’s high season.
Wearing diapers at work:
My first employer was non too keen that I wear diapers because of the obvious implications to basic food hygiene laws but since my new boss is more sympathetic to the reasons I need diapers as I informed him that I need diapers he doesn’t care and that’s a good thing because I can work more productively in diapers as I don’t need a toilet break every 5-10 minuets so to speak and I get payed by the hour.
And I am not obviously going to leave a soiled diaper in the kitchen that would be grouse and I wouldn’t have a Job after that so yes i keep them hidden under my clothing and I’ll continue to follow that rule all the time even when I am not at work obviously going back to work if the health inspectors where to be there I would go without wearing a diaper until they left the premises as I don’t want them finding out about my personal habits in life.
Rediscovering long lost memories:
My memories of being diapered for the first time as a baby come flooding back when I wear diapers as wearing them again stimulates my sub-conscious mind and bring back moments of plewp_e I haven’t experienced in years and although I cant magically transform into a actual baby/toddler.
And I feel that by re-connecting with my past helps me in the present time as it has a soothing effect on my psycalogically speaking and although I am not a adult baby or diaper lover, I do understand them more than I use-to as a result and have become non judgemental towards those people.
Acceptance of who I am/have become:
I have learnt to accept as I mentioned earlier that having to wear diapers is my new way of life and I wouldn’t change that ones bit as I like the feel of comfort,security,freedom, and dignity they provide me with in life and that’s a good thing as its a win win situation as Adrian mentioned in her blog on this website on how wearing diapers improves life.
And to sum up although innitally I wasn’t going to write a story I felt I had to reply to this blog as it effects my life in ways I could only explain by writing my story on this wonderfull website.
I hope that you’re enjoyed taking the time to read it and that you have a good day were ever you are in the world and that you find success whether your trying to resolve a problem or just replying out of interest and with that its good-bie for now and thanks for your time .
Hey Adrian can u email me some tips for getting used to wearing diapers 24/7 again as I have just been put back in them by my older sister because of stress incontinence and I’m wondering if people will notice my diaper under sweatpants or a jean skirt