Adult babies and diaper lovers are a bigger crowd than most people can appreciate. We number probably in the 10’s of thousands if not close to hundreds of thousands if you included those that do not actually “classify” themselves as such but enjoy a diaper or being an adult baby. But, the question is that can a modern day adult baby and diaper lover exist in the real world? Well, I am here to give my opinion on the topic. From what I can tell – people in this day and age are more accepting to differences as long as they are not being harmful or blatantly abrupt to interfere with someone else’s life.
Modern day has brought a lot of change as far as how many people view differences. Whether it be gay rights, fetishes or other interests – these many things have been brought to the forefront whether through the press, TV or radio. These things have been brought into the public eye and people are more aware of their existence now a days which for some people breeds curiosity rather than ridicule in many ways. If they at the least know a basis for the existence of a topic and some background information they are far less to judge so quickly or ridicule but rather be more curious than they otherwise would be.
I can talk from personal experience that many people in my life that I have come across do not know my incontinence story or the reason why I wear diapers. But, they notice that I am wearing a diaper or the things I have to deal with that diapers bring whether it be changing my diaper, carrying diapers with me, bulges (obviously), clothing issues, etc. They are more curious of the reason because I don’t flaunt it or try to make another person feel totally uncomfortable about it. When you are faced with a difference in life – do you automatically judge? More curious? Feel uncomfortable? Obviously, it depends on what it is, who it is and what situation you are in. So, why should a stranger/friend/acquaintance be expected to act any different if they are presented with this experience of YOU wearing a diaper? They shouldn’t. Which is why you should first of all not flaunt it or act totally irrational. You should act natural.
For many people this acting natural when wearing a diaper is hard. It is exciting, nervous and a rush of emotion. But, in this day and age if you want to embrace the diaper lover and adult baby lifestyle in the modern world I feel you have to respect others around you as well. It is a give and take. If you want to wear diapers on the beach with a t-shirt then I think that is perfectly acceptable. BUT, it is not acceptable in my opinion to prance around the beach in just a diaper, crawling around and/or changing your diaper in front of a crowd of people. And it is especially NOT acceptable to do this especially if children are around. Use common sense please. Though something is deemed appropriate and you are not harming anyone per se – respectfully and just common sense says to not to do it in these circumstances.
Many situations just require common sense. Though I wear diapers full time and am a proud diaper girl – I certainly don’t go walking up and down the local mall in a diaper. Maybe it peaks out or I bend over and its noticeable at times but I do not wear a micro-mini skirt so everyone in the mall can see my diaper. Common sense people. Be respectful and I think you will be surprised how much more respect you receive. I think adult babies and diaper lovers can exist in the modern world if they are just more aware of common sense rules and not making it a “big thing”.
I think it is possible to do. The challenge is knowing how to deal with people who don’t understand, who refuse to either understand or accept the thought of an adult wearing diapers, or even being an AB or even a DL.
It is possible Jason. I haven’t ran into anyone or should I say anyone I don’t think could handle it. And when the wrong situation arises some day, I do know I can handle it. 🙂
Yes they can and do exist and here is my story about how I became a diaper wearing adult baby boy.
In my previous stories I’ve talked about being diagnosed with a weak bladder in 2010 almost 5 years ago, But to truely understand what I said by this you have to go back at least 34-35 decades to my earliest memories of being made to wear diapers as a very real baby/infant in 1981-1982 when I was only 18 months old and wore either huggies diapers I don’t remember which one exactly, or pampers babydry diapers which at that time I wore almost all the time and for which I remember vividly my details of which are in another story.
And later in 1988-1990 when I used to wear them again but this time out of curiosity more than anything else, again its in another story.
Anyway the reasons I became a diaper wearing adult now in his late 30’s are quite simple and the truth of the matter is quite frankly stranger than fiction, it all started when I use to help out at a friends day nursery/child minders in Hexham, Northumbria, UK. Is that whilst helping change the nappies of versions children my interest in wearing diapers again was somehow reawakened in my subconscious brain.
But I kept this fact to myself as I didn’t know how or what to do to avoid the embarrassment of anyone who didn’t know what I was thinking about discovering, so I kept it hidden until 2001-2003 when I was helping out at a hospice in Harrogate, North Yorkshire, UK. When again I was in a situation where the person who I looked after wore diapers full time as he was paraplegic and bed bound due to lifelong disablities mainly chronic leukaemia and heart problems of which caused him constant pain & suffering.
And in a way I idolised him because he was my good friend right up to the day he sadly died and his pain was no-more, I wished I could be the one wearing diapers like him although I obviously didn’t have to wear them at this stage in my life as I had no problems with incontinence issues so diapers where only a curiosity to me at this time, little could I have known back then but I would be the one who was in need of wearing diapers again later in life, and this ironic twist of fate would change my life forever.
I also knew that I had my own problems with my lifelong disablities as I was and still am highly autistic and also suffer from neurological damage in my lower body that was brought around by childhood/adolescent episodes of epileptic fits when I was 12-13 years old back in 1992-1993, and other factors including damage to my bladder from a horse riding accident in 1997-1998 when the horse I was riding decided it no longer wanted me on its back and threw me off from a night of almost a meter in the air.
I ended up breaking my arm bellow the shoulder in the process this healed but my bladder was severely bruised and feeling very much unwell for a few weeks afterwards and although I never said anything about it which I should have done at time after the accident so I could get full check up at the hospital I was too embarrassed to ask for assistance.
And thas ended up with a permanent over active bladder later on I life, this was not the only time I have had severe impacts with either the ground or people in my path as I use to also be a keen player of extreme contact sports like rugby and murder ball/socker to name but a few whist I was still at school in Hong Kong then a British Crown dependacy/ colonial outpost in southeastern asia before it was handed back to China in 1997-1998.
I also ski quite a lot in the winter time and have had more than my share of hevy impacts which where not my falts due to idiotic people plowing into me and knocking me out for six so to speak or something like that and the last time I was completely catapulted into the air and came down hard as if I was doing acrobatics as I did a complete half cuban or loop before I came to a sickening impact with teratherma although meraculacely I was only left with bruising to my lower body and no broken bones or permnant injuries.
I now wear diapers virtually all of the time because of bedwetting or daytime accidents not unlike I once did as a toddler all those years ago in the 1980’s, but I have learned to make the most of what I still have and that’s my youth and relatively good health excluding my lifelong disablities and as a result I am no longer embarrassed or ashamed that I have to wear my diapers again as part of my new lifestyle.
I am going to save up hard for a new lifestyle if I ever decide to go back to being a baby once more if I go into care later in life I’ll go the whole distance and get myself a full adult baby nursary and around the clock care to look after my needs like I did when I was a baby in my early childhood as it will give me the chance to regain some if not all of my missing childhood years should I ever become so ill I am put into a hospice or care home or conversely if I win the lottery big time and be able to afford my own holiday home in Florida preferably in or near Miami.
I know I don’t consider myself as either an adult baby or diaper lover but if this where to happen I would happily make the transition from my double life to a full time baby/ toddler again only I cant magically make myself so small I actually become a child again unless of cause I am ever re-born again later on after this life has run its course and I enter the next world so to speak, not that I am wishing my life away but one never knows what’s around the corner in lifes big journey.
At the moment I am relaxing at home on my day off laying in bed and happily wearing my disposable diapers, why disposables I hear you ask well the reason is actually quite simple and it is I am allergic to some types of fabrics and plastic doesn’t do my skin any favours either as it makes me come up in a worse rash than I would have been if I wasn’t wearing plastic as I have always had problems with over sensitive skin, and also the fact disposable diapers are so much more practical for my use as they are super absorbent and therefore comfortable to wear.
My pearents did try me on cloth diapers when I was a baby as an alternative to the disposable diapers I wore but again the problems with my allergies or sensitive skin meant this was not a good idea as specially after I has a severe allergic reaction and was rushed into hospital for the doctors to deal with me as a orphapedric pertinent in a hospital isolation ward all of which was not pleasant I can assure you.
I wear a set of large Tena slip (Super) adult sized diapers in place of my undergarments due to the fact I can’t control my bladder and need to wear diapers as a direct result.
Anyway got to go now as ever your friend.
Kwan Ming ?
Yes they do exist in fact recently there was a documentary on tv about them entitled I am an adult baby.
It follows ordinary people who for personal reasons have decided to go back to their childhood years by experiencing life as a baby with all of the love and care that goes with that lifestyle.
I infact indirectly have become a diaper lover because I have accepted that I will be wearing them for the rest of my life due to my disabilities and other factors, I find wearing them is much better than I could have ever imagined.
But I am not childish in my mentality about the fact I have to wear diapers almost every day of my life because for me it’s just a part of my normal routine and wearing diapers has proved to be the greatest decission I ever made because it has saved me from so many embarrassing situations in my day to day life, in fact next week when I am on holiday in Hong Kong the first thing I will do on arrival is to buy some diapers for myself.
Whilst I don’t consider myself addicted to diapers I do feel more comfortable in them as they provide me with a stress free and independent life and nothing will ever change that fact because I have found that my health has improved and my pycalogical state of mind is much better off when I am in diapers and I know that might sound strange to some people but for me its my way of life.
In any case these are just some of my thoughts on this matter
Kwan Ming ? ? ? ? ?
Is it available on YouTube? That’s where I like to watch videos. 🙂
Yes it is Just look up the title I am an Adult Baby, or alternatively look up channel4ondemand.
Ps-sorry I’ve been out of touch for so long as I am on Vacation and Was enjoying my birthday ? last week on the 21st October, when I. turned 35yrs young.
What’s the name of the title of the You Tube video?
Probebly although I haven’t looked for it personally myself as it was on chanel4 last year.
Obviously if you can find it again on youtube let me know, ps sorry it’s taken me a year to get back to you as things have been rather frustrating and busy for myself of late.
By the way if your interested in finding out more about AB/DL’s then you can go to http://www.adisc.com although do feel free to correct me if I gave you the wrong webpage.
Anyway must go now
It’s really two separate questions, isn’t it? Can a diaper wearer, whether AB, DL or merely incontinent, exist in the real world? Of course, as long as one exercises discretion. Can an AB or DL exist in the real world? Not really.
As you yourself said, it’s very off-putting for others if you indulge in your fantasies in the full view of the public. Therefore, my little side has to stay home–I can’t even indulge in something as seemingly harmless as sucking my pacifier in public, as much as I’d like to. Though such a thing is not technically illegal, it nonetheless makes others uncomfortable, and that’s something I want to avoid.
Correcto-mondo Rachel on everything you just said. I love pacifer’s and if anyone I know finds it I will let them know. If they don’t like it, then so be it. Lol on sucking on a paci in public. What is better, sucking on a pacifer or sucking on a cigarette. And I do smoke. Go figure.
I definitely agree on the fact that there are close minded people towards abdl. I an in the closet diaper lover i wear 24/7. I never told my friends that im an abdl. I have a pacifier i use on occasion. I also wear adult onesies to hide my diaper from peaking and nobodys said anything to me yet or treated me any different. I dont know if they know or not but until they say something i guess they dont care or dont wanna embarrass me or maybe they haven’t noticed.
I also agree that using common sense is the best way to deal with those who don’t understand or who are repulsed by the thought of an adult wearing diapers.
I’m 49 years old, almost 50. I’ve had a “fetish” for diapers and got caught wearing and stealing them when I was as young as 10 years old. I thought I was a “freak”. I wore diapers on and off with my Ex-wife knowing for almost 17 years. After my divorce from my wife, not a bad divorce, I did tell one of my Brothers, Two of my best friends and a person or other two that I liked to wear diapers. They never questioned me about it once. Oh, and my daughter knows and doesn’t care. I don’t know why I like to wear diapers but I always have. Today as I type, I’ve worn diapers to work for almost the past six months. I’m in sales and I don’t think anyone has really noticed. I’m Happy with my underwear, diapers. I almost don’t notice them anymore except when I want to. 🙂 And my Friends and Family don’t question why.
I wouldn’t go so far as to call my interest in diapers a “fetish.” I do like wearing diapers. I have since I was a boy. 🙂
Understand Jason. I didn’t mean to use the word “fetish” in the wrong way. I didn’t know what the word meant when I was 10yrs old. Really, 9 and 8 years old. I just liked the site of diapers, the sound of diapers and when I could wear the diapers, the feel of the diapers even at that age. The word “fetish” came when the internet came along and I found out there were other people like me and they called it a “fetish”. Bottom line is what you said. “Who can deal with it and who can’t” The people I’ve told have never had an issue with it. I’d tell you a cute story but will refrain from now. The story came from my daughter of all people.
I think its natural to be interested in diapers, because we were born and that was one of the first things we were put into, I only had two years where I was proud to sport my cartoon undies, and gravitated back to liking diapers again, although I wore them off and on throughout my childhood,for obvious reasons, aka bed wetting etc, It’s for this reason I got aware of the tb/dl scene and then for obvious reasons as a adult became aware of the ab/dl scene and all this to say that I have accepted diapers as a part of my life and I identify myself as a purest form of an ab, that being said, I do believe that as Adrian has made clear, we can exist in the modern world, but mutual respect must be shown, because although we are becoming more accepting of each other to an extent as long as we don’t flaunt it in others faces, regardless of what kink etc we may have.
I think most will look the other way, however if you go prancing around in nothing but a diaper and goo goo and ga ga at everybody,without a thought about what you look like, then obviously you are going to be laughed out and scoffed at by those that claim to be so called normal, meaning that they look at being normal as guys wearing undies, girls wearing panties, with the typical pad and tampon and both being boy and girl crazy with no desire whatsoever for the tb or ab lifestyle – interest etc, and that is fine for them to feel that way, its a matter of respect for the individual, would it be neat to have a community of those of our particular interest that could be ourselves and just wear our diapers and embrace that baby side to us, sure I am sure it would be, but that isn’t the real world as far as we know it, So then what does that mean for us? that means while we can definitely in some capacity relate to the baby mindset, and if we incur a traumatic brain injury which lets hope that never happens, you will get to embrace that aspect 100% But i do not feel that we should be racing to put ourselves in that situation, to function in the world as we know it we need to be able to hold a job,and be capable of functioning in a relationship be it bf/gf or married, with or without children and live lives as close to normal as society sees it, Adrian said it best, if you want to romp around in just a diaper we have houses for that, if you have a partner that will indulge you in being a baby and you desire to coo like one and act like one in the confines of your house then more power to you, But as for me, although I am sure it would be cool to sleep in a crib again, and be changed by someone, I will also say that its not something that I have to have to be happy, I am content to be in my diapers, which I wear 24/7 and thats fine with me, my family knows I wear diapers, some are okay with it and others disagree with it and thats fine, I respect that, as far as anyone else the only time they know is if my diaper shows and as long as you don’t make a big deal out of it, no one makes it a big deal either.
Just show respect to each other and we can coexist./
In a simple awnser yes, and here is why:
1. People who call themselves diaper lovers really have a passion for wearing them and make the most out of life and their for are better people.
2. People who call them selves adult babies are those who still want to or are experiencing their childhood by being cared for like that of a small person/toddler this can be beneficial because they simply just have to relieve on their carers to look after them.
Bouth of these categories of people are normal people who have either decided to choose these ways of life or have had it thrust apon them I should know I fit loosely into bouth categories because I have always had an interest in bouth, but now have no choice but to don diapers virtually 24/7 due to personal reasons.
These people shouldn’t be Judged for what they are but for who they are as individual people who live life their way and that’s not a bad thing at all as they are making the best of their situations in life and should be accepted as such not denied or excluded by society.
I agree. I’m not interested in reliving my infancy or even toddlerhood. I’m like a little boy, between the age of 5 and 10 yrs of age. My bladder control is like that of an infant.
Sorry for the obvious spelling mistake I typed relliy and it came out as relive instead I didn’t mean that.
I believe the key to it all is discretion, and confidence, as Adrian has stated. People outside of fetish communities do not need to know that a person wants to be in diapers, only that they need to be. At least that has been my experience. I struggled with incontinence and being a DL for many years. It was an issue in my school days…family trauma…regressing, night wetting, so obviously a lot of it goes way back for many of us.
A diaper fetish can exist on its own, or be tied to bladder-control issues. I don’t flaunt it, and i don’t bring it up unless someone wants to know, and then i simply explain my urinary incontinence and the need to wear. In my experience it will turn people off if they know we LIKE being in DIAPERS. As a younger man my issues were mainly with night wetting, but I had trouble holding it in general as time went on. I hadn’t yet come to terms with needing diapers, and i believe the development of a significant fetish was part of my trying to cope.
Even as a kid i kept wetting at night, not trying to very hard to stop. The regression was tied to family loss. Fortunately i was raised by a mom & aunt who were very tolerant of this. As i got older i knew instinctively i would someday wear full-time. I fantasized about it. At the time it seemed out of reach, very impractical, particularly for work, day use & in relationships. Several of the women i was with were very put off when i wore at night, or simply brought up the subject.
I kept it closeted and enjoyed when i could, wearing mainly at night, or on weekends/vacations for more extended periods. Having always had issues with bladder-control, difficulty holding it and numerous accidents both day and night, i began to realize how wonderful & secure i would feel to be able to wet; wherever & whenever. No more stress about it…ballgames, concerts, movies. It had always been an issue.
In 2000 i began to depend on diapers more & more. I was still very self-conscious and afraid of people finding out. It is tricky. I finally knew that i was going to wear full-time and that i had to be prepared for all that goes with it. The biggest catalyst for it was a bad fall i had on the back stairs, outside. Wrecked my knee and ankle and was laid up a long time. I began to wear 24/7. The woman i was living with helped me through that, but eventually left.
She had been mean about the incontinence, partly because she knew of the fetish angle and said things like “you just WANT to wear them…WHY..??!”. I knew that any future relationships would involve women who can accept me, diapers & all. I began to study incontinence so i could better understand and explain it. I did have nerve damage from an old back injury, and limited mobility due to more recent mishaps.
In daily life i learned to leave fetish out of it…to just live with incontinence as so many others do. It takes awhile to learn all of this…to have a sense of humor…to be confident about yourself. No-one need know about the fetish unless it is someone close, or someone in that community. I also learned that whatever the initial reason for wearing diapers, continual use brings about incontinence anyway. I can’t do without protection now, and it just feels right. No more guilt. I’ve arrived where i once only fantasized about. Where i once had weak bladder-control i now have almost none.
I believe that in this age of tolerance and opening up to alternative lifestyles, those of us in diapers will be accepted, maybe someday even on a fetish and dom/sub level. At the very least we can wear with confidence as just another emerging segment of the population. The more of us willing to open up and share on sites such as this, the more others will be free to live as they need to without the shame and stigma of diapers.
I wear because i need to. It was a complex journey but a karmic reality for me (and so many others, it is good to know.)
Well said, Adrian.
You have written this very well and i agree with every word you said. For me it is a little more complicated because i have social anxiety, when i go out, it’s because i have to, and the only time i try to get any attention is when the cashier doesn’t notice that I’m there. I don’t claim the title of ABDL, but I do wear diapers because of both forms of incontinence. So i’m not saying that i’m jealous of you, but i am saying i hope to love going out as much as you do. Thank you for the great blog 🙂
i wear out in public a lot ive had a thing for diapers since i was still dependent on them so my parents really struggled training me but they are a great source of comfort and happiness for me good for long road trips amusement park lines like at Disney and for when your sick and need bedrest. i don’t go too out of my way to be exposed but I’ve always liked how cute a diaper looks sticking up out the top of one’s pants and i always hope that someone will notice and ask about it or even better ask if im a dl … im high functioning autistic and hate lying and im very open about who i am and what i like.. my struggle is with trying not to offer up information that wasn’t asked for and ive always struggles to make friends till the internet. now i have lots of friends a majority like diapers too some need them and of thos most of them like there diapers too and even being babied for those of us who need diapers being a DL or AB is a good coping mechanism for dealing with needing diapers rather than resenting and hating your body for betraying you. they accept it and make the best of it