So, I know many have been wondering exactly what happened with me and my posting. Well, unfortunately I have been in the midst of a bit of a tricky situation financially and with my family. Let me explain.

I grew up in a fairly poor family. To this day, the majority of my family remains financially “hard-shipped”. But, anyways my family recently had some medical issues come up and my husband and I have been attempting to financially help pay some of those bills and deal with the medical issues in my parents. Lots of emotions and just lots of trying to put in extra hours when I can to maintain baseline financially for us as well as trying to funnel some (majority) of it to my family.

I am sure many who read my blog can appreciate how high medical bills can be. Well, it seems we have fortunately been able to put a pretty big dent in those bills over the past 5-6 months so I have just been tied up with a lot of that and trying to maintain the blog over that time was proving difficult. Things should be good now and I am back on a fairly normal schedule without all the extra hours and giving up >50% of my money each paycheck to my family in order to help pay down some of these medical bills. But, just happy that things are looking up medically for my parents and its finally looking positive.

I have communicated a few of these issues to you privately over email and messaging and I appreciate a lot of your prayers and support. Hopefully (promise) things will be returning to normal with more consistent updates. Just thank you to all those that understand/understood and continue to support me through out this time.

Appreciate immensely everyone that is/has supported me on this blog and continued to come back and have faith in me. Those that know me know I have a serious passion for the ABDL community and I want you all to know that so many of you have the warmest hearts and I cannot tell you how appreciative I am. To those that are still following and supporting me – I say Thank You and great things are to come…promise!

By | 2017-07-17T21:42:03+00:00 January 8th, 2015|Uncategorized|39 Comments


  1. Paul Freeman January 8, 2015 at 3:18 am - Reply

    Thanks for the update. Continued prayers to your family.

  2. mackley21 January 8, 2015 at 3:46 am - Reply

    i also been wearing diapers all my life i was born with spina bifida

  3. lovesdaipers January 8, 2015 at 4:28 am - Reply

    I hope things get better im in a low income family also im always sending my mom money as she has a heart condition

  4. diaperedboilerman January 8, 2015 at 7:44 am - Reply

    Awesome. Glad to see you back, and very glad to hear the health issues with your parents have improved. I am new….well I joined about the time you disappeared. So I am new to you now. I love your site. Thanks for all you do! Have a wonderful day! 🙂

  5. speedyazurehero January 8, 2015 at 8:22 am - Reply

    I hope you pay off those bills and I’m sure you’ll get by! I’m so sure of it.

  6. Mikeabdl January 8, 2015 at 8:59 am - Reply

    Welcome back and I am happy things are on the upswing for you. You were missed and we did the best we could at keeping the ABDL community going strong in your absence.

  7. marcos January 8, 2015 at 9:38 am - Reply

    Sending love from Texas, Glad everything is turning around.

  8. Jason January 8, 2015 at 10:05 am - Reply

    I’m glad to finally hear from you. I hope things continue to improve. You take care of yourself, and then you can take care of other things, like this website. I love this website, and I hope to see new posts soon. Happy New Year. 🙂

    • Kwan Ming August 8, 2015 at 5:57 pm - Reply

      Glad to hear you’re still keeping in touch with the people on this website,

      Whilst I can’t say I grew up in a poor family I understand what you must be going through and support you 100%, That being seid I also understand that you have your own life to lead and understand why you have monetary concerns about your finances.

      I also have bills to pay in the form of rent and only get paid once a month if I am working at my part-time job in catering as I work as a kitchen porter and am lucky if I get work at all because of my boss who is supportive of my situation and understands the importance of work to me in regards to my finances.

      Hope this blog I have written finds you in a better situation than you have had in the past and that you’re found happiness in your day to day life and you are in relatively good health.

      Yours sincerely
      Kwan Ming

  9. Vern January 8, 2015 at 12:34 pm - Reply

    I really hope and pray for you and your family. It’s tough the way things are today, but always, always, keep a confident eye toward the future, for things have a way of working out in the end. If I could find a way to help you somehow, I will, but for now just hang in there.

  10. Tony January 8, 2015 at 12:55 pm - Reply

    New to your website and wanted to express how grateful I am?

  11. Matt January 8, 2015 at 1:06 pm - Reply

    I think we can all appreciate your willingness to help your family and the extraordinary steps you have taken to help pay off their medical bills. You will be in my thoughts and prayers as well.

  12. Wetnights January 8, 2015 at 3:20 pm - Reply

    Adrian, just get yourself squared away and come back when you can. I’ve learned and experienced a ton since you left just from blogging with the loyal crew on your “Why I like diapers and why you should too.” We got off the beaten path once in a while, but the conversations were “interesting,” to say the least. See you soon!

    • Jason January 8, 2015 at 6:21 pm - Reply

      I agree. Your website is still up and running and you have plenty of people who enjoy visiting. Take care of yourself and take care of your family, and come back when you’re able. <3. 🙂

  13. j January 9, 2015 at 1:19 am - Reply

    Hey I’m just a casual guest that reads your blog from time to time. I live in New Zealand an am a DL how ever abdl aside I wish all the best for you an your parents that’s a very admirable thing you have done I love the fact your so down to earth ,I hope you an your partner keep up the good work and wish you both a happy new year . regards kiwi

  14. A.J. January 9, 2015 at 1:29 am - Reply

    I can understand how medical bills can be a pain, just had surgery on my right shoulder a few days ago and the bill is outrageous. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family.

  15. Shawnie January 9, 2015 at 8:02 am - Reply

    YAY! Glad your here again 🙂

  16. will January 9, 2015 at 2:05 pm - Reply

    Happy for the update!!! Family first glad to hear you have been blessed to be able to help them!

  17. moostermiley January 10, 2015 at 12:26 am - Reply

    Hi Adrian, thanks for the update … I’m sorry to hear that things have been so rough for you … I’ve been away from your blog for a while but it’s good to hear things are looking up for you again … will keep you and your parents in my thoughts and prayers … if you are short on diapers please let me know and I can help donate some diapers to you 🙂

  18. Earl B January 10, 2015 at 10:36 am - Reply

    I wish You a great better new year!

  19. Richard Waters (@RichWatters) January 10, 2015 at 12:29 pm - Reply

    Living in the UK I did not fully appreciate how crippling medical bills can be – that is just awful to go through that.

  20. LargeDiaperz January 14, 2015 at 5:48 am - Reply

    It takes age and wisdom to learn the saying “At least you can be thankful for your health” is so true. Adrian, you are such a good person for sacrificing to support your family. Glad to see you back and hope things get better for you.

    • Jason January 14, 2015 at 10:47 am - Reply

      I hope things get better. 🙂

  21. Sofia January 16, 2015 at 12:21 pm - Reply

    Adrian you’re back. Its great to know that you’re at least still here!!!

    Im really excited for your next post because diapers are fun and awesome!!!


    • Jason January 16, 2015 at 12:51 pm - Reply

      Hey Sofia. How have you been? How was Vegas? 🙂

  22. josh January 24, 2015 at 2:16 pm - Reply

    glad to see you’re back and i hope everything is going alright. ive been a long time follower i was getting a little worried.
    hope everything works out. cant wait to see more posts
    with love

  23. Dan January 27, 2015 at 10:33 pm - Reply

    Hey Adrian – been a longtime reader and just wanted to welcome you back as well. Your continually upbeat posts and abdl perspective has been a great boost to my own outlook on life. Perhaps one day I’ll be able to give back to this community as much as you’ve already given. Best regards to you and your family!

  24. diaperedboilerman February 5, 2015 at 4:42 pm - Reply

    Happy Birthday Adrian! 🙂 I think today is your Birthday? 🙂

  25. A.J. February 6, 2015 at 12:39 am - Reply

    Happy Birthday Adrian hope your having a good one!

  26. moostermiley February 7, 2015 at 7:10 pm - Reply

    Belated Happy Birthday Adrian … hope your special day was a great one 🙂

  27. Royce February 7, 2015 at 9:58 pm - Reply

    Adrian, I am also a DL but was curious, do you believe in God?

  28. Steve February 13, 2015 at 4:52 pm - Reply

    Good luck, I’ve got late stage MS and know how complicated medical issues can be, particularly if you provider (in my case the VA) are idiots. I hope whoever you’re working with is alot better than the folks I have to deal with. They never seem to get around to anything.

    I get the bills thing too, I JUST got to the point where i have spare money to invest and now I have to try to find a live in caregiver who won’t freak out at a disabled person who LIKES being infantilized . . . On the up side I did manage to save some money and I can get a VA low rate interest loan for the house me and my wife are trying to build, and hopefully I won’t have to use my savings/investments for that, but I suspect hiring and supporting a live in sitter will significantly sap my resources again. It was bad enough when I lost my job and had to go on pure disability. Fortunately I was in the military when I got this thing, or I’d be DEAD broke, and unable to help my parents if they needed it!

    Struggle on!! And glad to find other folks who’ve used role play to adapt to their disabilities, or even make hobby or lifestyle out of what otherwise is just a series of odious and uncomfortable chores.

  29. josh March 29, 2015 at 3:30 am - Reply

    New to all of this. I have just started wearing 24/7due to medical issues. Not sure how I feel about it yet. Glad to have some support. Thank you

  30. Jason April 23, 2015 at 10:36 am - Reply

    It’s been a long time since we’ve heard anything from Adrian Surley. What’s going on?

  31. Royce July 7, 2015 at 12:10 am - Reply

    I have been really concerned why no one has heard from Adrian. Did something happen that’s life threatening? I am concerned for everyone’s life and this is concerning. If everything is okay, please respond Adrian.

  32. matt August 6, 2015 at 12:58 pm - Reply

    will keep you and family in my prayers i hate very much when i read of people being sick andhurting both medically and money wise just makes me so very sad

  33. Royce August 15, 2015 at 12:04 am - Reply

    Adrian, one time you mentioned you lost your job. If you want a high action job, go into law enforcement. For most departments, you just have to buy your own handgun and flashlight ( Streamlite is the best brand) but the rest is department issued. However, you would have to do side jobs such as working security for a business due to the fact that the pay is less. You would think that since you would put yourself in the line of fire and risk your life to protect someone else that they would pay more but honestly they don’t but if I could get that job, I would take it in a heartbeat.

  34. brian January 3, 2016 at 8:23 pm - Reply

    Hello Adrian..My wife and I have been latchkey caregivers to a few elder relative of ours, including dealing with personal hygene care, diapers and so on. I have been using a variety of urological products (including diapers) long before we knew what “adult baby” meant. Noting surprises me with regards to loosing ones’ dignity after several nasty surgeries. I appreciate those who have all kinds of reasons for diapering. Our prayers and hope are with you in believing you will get through this soon. Keep up the good work. Someone has to do it. Anyways, keep calm and diaper on! paddedbee. (brian)

  35. John Rbinson January 13, 2017 at 2:14 pm - Reply

    I have long enjoyed your caring and thoughtful posts to the abdl community. I am a lifetime DL . I am also a Christ follower and proud of it. I am a prayer warrior to many. I am moved by your caring outreach to your parents and family. We may never meet but be assured that I will include you and your family in my prayers. God bless you and Peter.

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