A simple but sometimes vexing question for diaper wearers of all stripes: to wear other underwear over the diaper, beneath the pants/skirt/whatever, or not?

Like everything diaper-related, it largely comes down to comfort and personal preference. But there are a few compelling advantages and disadvantages to wearing undies with your diapers:

Underwear with Diapers – Advantages

  • A large, high-waisted pair of underwear can completely envelop all edges of the diaper beneath it (boxers and boyshorts work well for this). That means that if a waistline shows above your skirt or trousers, it’s more likely to be a cloth waistband than a bright white plastic one. This adds another layer of camouflage for self-conscious diaper wearers.
  • Tight underwear can pull a diaper in, compressing the padding so that it makes less of a bulge. Boxer-briefs work well for this. However, it limits the diaper’s ability to expand, meaning the padding is likely to absorb less liquid before leaking.
  • Layering lacy lingerie or other “sexy” underwear over a diaper can help people feel more sexy and confident in their diapers. A matched panty/bra set works well for women.
  • Underwear provides a last layer of absorbency before leaks bleed through and spot the outer garment. In the event of a diaper leak, the wetness soaking into the underwear can sometimes provide enough warning to go get changed before any serious wetness makes it through to the pants or skirt.

Underwear with Diapers – Disadvantages

  • Another layer of cloth means extra bulk. There’s only so much room in a pair of trousers. If you’re going to wear diapers and underwear, you’ll probably need a “relaxed” fit or a similar style with plenty of room in the crotch and seat.
  • As mentioned above, underwear that compresses the diaper can limit its absorbency. If all the wetness is being squeezed downward by your underwear, it’s going to overwhelm the leg gathers and tapes much more quickly.
  • Every layer adds heat. Diapers beneath pants and underwear can become stifling quickly.
  • It’s that much more laundry — especially when leaks soak the underwear.

As with most options, there’s no one right or wrong answer here. If you find an added layer of underwear makes your diapered experience more comfortable, go for it! If not, don’t stress it — you’ve already got one perfectly serviceable pair of undergarments on, so long as you’re wearing a diaper.

Which method do you prefer? Leave us a comment and let us know why!

By | 2017-07-17T21:42:06+00:00 December 4th, 2013|Uncategorized|43 Comments

43 Comments

  1. diapers1963 December 5, 2013 at 12:00 am - Reply

    I wear boxer briefs over my diaper. It’s like a onesie for adults.

    • Kwan Ming November 15, 2015 at 8:59 am - Reply

      No usually I prefer just to wear disposable diapers although the fact is I do sometimes wear underwear over my diaper because it makes it more desecrate as it doesn’t show up as much.

      I think you have to understand that diapers is a way of life for me as it has been for the last 5-6 years ever-since I was diagnosed with a weak/shy bladder amongst other things, although I also prefer diapers because they don’t leak as much and are more comfortable to wear, plus the fact they help improve my health as I have mentioned in my earlier posts on this website.

      Anyway got to keep it short as I am on Vacation and I need my sleep for tomorrow morning.

      Stay happy and healthy as ever from Kwan Ming

      Posted on Sunday 15/11/2015

  2. william December 5, 2013 at 1:29 am - Reply

    I prefer to wear with underwear to help with leaks that added layer but also to help the diaper itself be able to stay in place better. Wearing underwear over a diaper help with the tapes staying taped and not “popping” off/out of place along with the added lifting support.
    My diaper of choice is the bambino bellissimo, not a thin diaper when dry let alone used, so bulk is to be expected. Longer t-shirts and no fitted pants. You’re then good to go for a long while. My 2 cents, Will.

  3. j December 5, 2013 at 2:11 am - Reply

    underwear over diapers and plastic pants over it, it means in case of a leak your underwear will absorb it and the plastic pants keeps you dry, the extra bulk of underwear is so little that I can not see it, and the underwear (if you use a stretch fabric) hides any diaperlines

    • john November 7, 2015 at 6:54 am - Reply

      I agree I always wear plastic pants over my diaper and net pants.
      It’s the best protection day and night

  4. Spargano December 5, 2013 at 8:07 am - Reply

    If I am not wearing a bodysuit(onesie) I will wear underwear if only to prevent sag in diapers. I used to wear compression shorts for this, but as stated I would always leak quickly. Onesies are the absolute best option in my opinion.

  5. Hank December 5, 2013 at 8:27 am - Reply

    I wear onesies when i wear. Keeps diaper in place. People dont know i have one on and wetting.

  6. Ellyn December 5, 2013 at 9:37 am - Reply

    As many know, my primary diaper type is cloth. During the day, when at home, I usually wear a pair of tummy control panties over the diaper and plastic pants if I’m wearing a dress. This helps keep the diaper in place and eliminate the noise if outside the home. If I’m in shorts or jeans, it’s usually just the diaper and plastic pants. Because I’m not completely incontinent and have days where I leak small amounts, I can sometimes wear a Poise pad or a light weight diaper without the pants and will always wear panties over the diaper.
    Then there are occasions when I need to wear a dress with hose, which are always control top which I find to hold the disposable or cloth diaper in place well and cut the noise well. I also find that a body briefer works quite well anytime. This holds the diaper snug against my body. I seldom soak a diaper during the day so sagging isn’t usually a big worry. The body briefer eliminates the worry of noise as well and for me, does not restrict the ability to absorb
    At night, it’s almost always double cloth and plastic pants under pajamas or a nightgown.
    I sometimes see what I assume to be paid models wearing a disposable and a thong or bikini panties over… Honestly I believe this dress to cater to male fanticies or something as personally I see nothing sexy about that look. I have been incontinent nearly all of my life and accepted myself long ago. Sexy for me and my husband isn’t an illusion of a 20 year old underwear model in a diaper and thong… Sexy comes from within (for me), though “eye candy” is also important for my husband at times. Fortunately I’m able to control leakage moderately well sometimes and can dress pretty slutty. Other times, a satin babydoll with a pair of matching panties that “completely cover” the diaper and plastic pants seems to work for us. In the end though, it’s usually back to double diapers and plastic pants for a good night sleep.

  7. CD December 5, 2013 at 10:08 am - Reply

    I usually use the Abena Abri-Fix fitting garments for my diapers (they’re made for the purpose) so they don’t compress too much and have a wide crotch to prevent the legs from getting stress since the diaper is evenly supported. Over that I have the GaryWear PUL Active Briefs and they stop a leak if it occurs. The Garywear pants have saved furniture on several occasions overnight. If I go out, I usually wear Depend Underwear or Real-Fits since my incontinence isn’t too bad during the day.

    Take care,
    Colin

  8. Bambino December 5, 2013 at 10:39 am - Reply

    I will wear a brief style underwear over my diaper when I go running and that will reduce to no chaffing. Other than that I never wear underwear. Even when I’m at the gym. I’ll be exercising and my shirt lifts up and know one ever says anything but I try to cover up fairly quickly and don’t try to show it, but I also don’t go to great lengths to hide it. I just wear them as my undies 24/7.

  9. Earl.B December 5, 2013 at 11:53 am - Reply

    I use to wear underwear over my diapers before I finished high school to reduce any noise the diaper may sound and help conceal any partial diaper sighting over my jeans. I was well aware of its advantages. Discreet wearing essentially was a priority then, but now I don’t do it anymore. It all sort of faded away. It’s not a big deal to me anymore. So I prefer No underwear over my diaper! I do like adult onesie’s time and time again and that is as close I get to wearing underwear. Diapers or not! I don’t wear underwear.

  10. Jason December 5, 2013 at 1:37 pm - Reply

    I wear boxer briefs over my diapers. No one seems to notice or say anything.

  11. Daniel December 5, 2013 at 5:44 pm - Reply

    I just wear a diaper

    • Kwan Ming November 15, 2015 at 9:05 am - Reply

      Me too I prefer diapers vs underwear although I am not a baby anymore I do appreciate wearing them for the 2nd time in my life?♿

      • Tacoma Washington November 15, 2015 at 12:27 pm - Reply

        I rarely ever wear just underwear, particularly when I’m going out. I usually wear diapers and underwear on over them.

  12. Dana December 5, 2013 at 9:40 pm - Reply

    I like to wear a light control brief over my diaper to aid in the keeping of the diaper on my hips when I have wet it to a good extent. I also fold down the top of the diaper into the brief so that you don’t have plastic rubbing your waist. I have found that you do not want a garment that hugs you too much when you have padding on, as it does negates the absorbancy of the diaper

  13. Narxnn December 5, 2013 at 11:14 pm - Reply

    I used to wear underwear over my diapers and plastic pants in high school, when my continence problems first started. It really helped reduce the rustle and made things not look so bulky. After a while, however, I got into a better changing groove and found a better brand of diaper, which meant fewer leaks (removing the need for plastic pants), and became more comfortable with being in diapers, which led to me ditching the underwear. These days, I stick to just a diaper.

    • Jason December 5, 2013 at 11:16 pm - Reply

      That helps. Did you wear cloth diapers or disposable diapers?

  14. Narxnn December 5, 2013 at 11:23 pm - Reply

    Disposable. I started wearing Depends because they were really the only readily available diapers at the time, but moved on to Attends (which were so much better 10 years ago…they really seemed to decrease in quality…but, to be fair, ever since I discovered online shopping I’ve been using Molicares, Abenas, and now…Tena Slips, which are *BOSS*).

    • Jason December 5, 2013 at 11:39 pm - Reply

      It’s the same with me. When I was a boy, we didn’t have cloth diapers. When I was born my mom would use cloth diapers on me, but by the time I was about seven yrs old, cloth diapers seemed to fall out of favour. It’s unfortunate in a way.

      • Narxnn December 5, 2013 at 11:42 pm - Reply

        Ah! THAT’S how I respond!

        Its funny. I’ve ALWAYS hated cloth diapers, basically since day one. My very first words were to that effect. I was 2 or so and had pneumonia severe enough to require being hospitalized. The way my mother tells it, the hospital put me in cloth diapers and I was on a gurney being wheeled into pediatrics when I said my first words, and full sentence: “Mommy, I want MY diapers”, indicating how strongly I disliked the cloth diapers.

        • Jason December 5, 2013 at 11:46 pm - Reply

          I was out of diapers by the time I was six yrs old. I’d wear cloth diapers until I was about 2 yrs old, but I’d go from cloth diapers to cloth training pants.

  15. Doug December 6, 2013 at 2:08 am - Reply

    I just go diapered. No whitey tidies for me, just plain whitey.

  16. Mike December 6, 2013 at 11:01 am - Reply

    I wear regular underwear over my diapers because my wife is ok with me wearing diapers but does not like to see them.

    • Jason December 6, 2013 at 1:42 pm - Reply

      My parents are the same way. They don’t mind me wearing diapers if I need them, but they don’t like to see the diapers themselves.

  17. Liam Lovett December 9, 2013 at 7:16 pm - Reply

    Actually some women that wear diapers prefer to wear their panties under their diapers because they like the feeling of wetting their cotton panties but know they are protected, so that is another spin!

    • Jason December 11, 2013 at 11:41 am - Reply

      I wear underwear over my diapers mainly to reduce the bulk, if not eliminate it altogether.

      • Bambino December 11, 2013 at 3:34 pm - Reply

        I’m curious how wearing underwear over your diapers reduces bulk, I would think it adds to it???

        • Jason December 11, 2013 at 4:27 pm - Reply

          @ Alex: That’s why I wear underwear over my diapers. Sometimes I wear boxer briefs, other times I just wear briefs.

  18. Alex December 10, 2013 at 1:14 am - Reply

    I usually wear my boxer-briefs over my diaper while I’m in bed so that they’re less noisy and more compressed. And it’s also so, if I needed to jump out of bed, I wouldn’t be exposing my diaper to anyone.

  19. Das Böse December 10, 2013 at 3:33 pm - Reply

    I would wear some kind of bodysuit over the diaper so that it isn’t revealed when you bend over and expose bare skin on your back (and one or two centimeters of diaper). Of course, bodysuits for men are fairly rare, but you’ll find them in a handful of big on-line stores. In freezy climates, long johns (or long one-pieces like the ones diverrs wear underneath their drysuits) are a viable solution.

    • Jason December 21, 2013 at 9:54 pm - Reply

      That’s a good idea, Das Bose.

  20. Kaliborio September 19, 2014 at 3:10 am - Reply

    Honestly, I’ve gradually dispensed with conventional underwear over time.

    – Underwear large enough to hide my diapers isn’t sold.

    – I really don’t want my diapers compressed, because I’ve bought overly tight onesies in the past and they force the diapers to leak, just exactly as you say. I’m content with bulk if it means I’m protected.

    – I’ve found that while underwear is absorbent, terry-lined plastic pants are more absorbent and are also waterproof.

    I wear plastic pants regardless of what kind of diaper I’m wearing, but as a rule, I don’t wear underwear apart from a onesie.

  21. arendeth October 13, 2014 at 2:19 pm - Reply

    I wear diapers 24/7 I haven’t used underwear a few years (I recently thrown out all my underwear but 2 pairs too).

    • arendeth October 13, 2014 at 2:21 pm - Reply

      And I feel no embarrassment or shame if someone sees my diapers (the taller the front the better).

    • Jason October 24, 2014 at 8:14 pm - Reply

      I wear boxer briefs over my diapers. That keeps them more form-fitting to my body.

  22. juston June 19, 2015 at 5:39 am - Reply

    i will usally wear briefs over them to help keep them in place if i go out in public then i wear boxers or boxer briefs over them i also from time to time like to wear briefs under my diaper just to enjoy that weness feeling

    • Jason June 28, 2015 at 1:58 pm - Reply

      It’s the same with me. I wear underwear over my diapers.

  23. Wes November 10, 2015 at 4:18 pm - Reply

    When i was 18 and first got back into diapers because of incontinence. I was wearing boxers over my diapers for the next two years thinking that it helped me somehow. It helped in knowing that i wasn’t feeling completely baby, i still had boxers. As time went on i realized that for the times when i couldn’t hide my diaper, the boxers didn’t hide it either. I found it was easier to just deal with less fabric and material so i quit with boxers and stuck with diapers, overall, its much better. I can’t think of anything underwear over a diaper did for me except emotional comfort.

    • Tacoma Washington November 10, 2015 at 11:43 pm - Reply

      My bladder control has always been iffy at best. If I’m near a toilet and I know I can make it in a timely manner, I’m in good shape. If I can’t be anywhere near a toilet, say, if I’m on a road trip, and I don’t want to stop at a rest stop, or if I’m in a movie theatre, and I don’t want to interrupt the movie to go hit the head, that can be a problem.

  24. clarice a. October 25, 2016 at 1:15 pm - Reply

    I am 16 and catholic and finially recieved my sacrement of baptism last Easter at easter vigil.Me and all the other girls baptized with me wore the traditional white,poofy,short sleeve,midthigh length baptism dresses with a bonnet,lace anklets and white mary jane shoes.Most of the girls just wore their cloth diaper and plastic pants under their dresses,but i had ruffled nylon panties over my diaper and plastic pants.

  25. Incontinent Tacoma October 25, 2016 at 2:46 pm - Reply

    Cute! I imagine that must be embarrassing. Is there a reason for the diapers and plastic pants? I’m not against cloth diapers and plastic pants, I wear cloth diapers and plastic pants to bed.

    • Jenni January 18, 2017 at 2:38 pm - Reply

      Incontinent Tacoma-The cloth diapers and plastic pants are part of the girls baptism outfits and help make the teen girls feel more pure and innocent like babies for their easter vigil baptisms.The cloth diapers and plastic pants are also worn under the First Holy Communion dresses in many parishes as a tradition and some parishes require them for first communion and confirmation.

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