Diaper Lovers DiapersDiaper lovers a unique group of individuals focused on wearing diapers.  There are all sorts of people out there that love other physical objects such as stuffed animals, toys, shoes, feet, etc. But, when it comes to diaper lovers they stand out.  The mindset behind a typical diaper lover is not of anything sexual but more of comfort and security.  Ask any diaper lover why exactly they love diapers and the first thing the comes to their mind is not sexual but of a feeling they can’t really explain but only use words such as comfort, security, and relaxing to describe their love for diapers.  This sets apart the group of diaper lovers from many other groups out there.

Truly Understanding Diaper Lovers

Understanding a diaper lover really isn’t that hard if you can keep an open mind and be non-judgmental.  The key to understanding is letting go of preconceptions and be more open-minded and willing to understand.  The average diaper lover does not wear diapers or “fixate” on diapers for sexual reasons but merely an object that calms or relaxes them.  I know, personally, that even being incontinent – putting on a diaper has a overwhelming relaxation effect on me and calming effect.  This bodes true for many other diapers lovers.  They are not looking to harm anyone or interfere with other people’s lives.  They do want others to understand and not look at them like a freak.

To understand a diaper lover means to truly put yourself in their shoes. You have to envision a life of innocence where wearing diapers brings comfort and joy to a person. A pure diaper lover merely focuses on enjoying the moment; the moment of wearing a diaper and feeling babyish. This is important to remember as most diaper lovers are into wearing diapers for an emotional side more than a physical side.

Diaper Lovers and Adult Babies

A diaper lover by him/herself is separate from an adult baby.  Some diaper lovers are adult babies and some are strictly just diaper lovers (DL’s).  A diaper lover merely just likes the act of wearing diapers or participating in diapers while an adult baby enjoys a lot of the “processes” and activities behind acting like a baby outside of diapers.  Many diaper lovers usually have some sort of percentage or degree of “adult babyism” in them.

Adult babies are very similar to diaper lovers but they are not to be lumped together. A diaper lover purely loves the enjoyment of wearing diapers and using diapers. They love them for the feeling, look, comfort, security, etc. Adult babies may or may not be a diaper lover (typically are) but enjoys the more intricate baby side. They may dress up like a baby and engage in more babyish type behavior in contrast to diaper lovers.

Who Are Diaper Lovers?

A diaper lover can be your best friend, a coworker, a boss, governor, doctor, attorney, etc.  You would just never know it because diaper lovers are typically more discreet than an adult baby.  What if you found out your best friend of 20 years wore diapers?  Would you automatically classify him as a freak or would you be a lot more understanding an it not be as big of a deal?  Well, that is how the average diaper lover wants to be looked at from an understanding perspective – they want you to understand them the same way you would if you found out a best friend wore diapers – more respect, more understanding, and more care rather than automatic judgments..

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  1. wildcat June 25, 2010 at 12:10 pm - Reply

    This by far has been one of the best articles I have read that describes how I feel. A lot of the time us DL’s have overwhelming feelings of shame or guilt because of the negatives associated with diapers being an item that is so intimately close to the body. Even if diapers are not a sexual object for a DL it can be confusing to understand why they have that desire to wear and use them. I have come to the realization that the two natural desires, one being comfort or security is not the same as the natural sexual desires we experience even though they can be experienced together, which is where one can be confused or feel shame, thinking that they are doing something weird or wrong.

    Adrian you always seem to have a down to earth logical approach to understanding these issues which is apparent since you sympathize with the the ABDL community even though you have a legitimate health problem that causes many to avoid living life to its fullest. Sometimes we all need to be a little more open minded to understand people and especially make those who have health problems feel a little more accepted and free to be who they are and not have to hide behind preconceptions and the stigma of things like wearing diapers.

    Sometimes I like to go buy diapers in a store just to see who is watching, how they react, and consider what they might be thinking. I did this recently at a large big-box type store so it was a fairly large box. I saw quite a few stares that changed to quick head turns. People aren’t overly concerned but it’s still a wow-factor in general.

  2. n16 June 25, 2010 at 12:29 pm - Reply

    That’s a great article and spot-on about nearly every point. But I disagree about the sexual aspect. I think it is a primary thing for most practicing DLs. I think people with a less sexual aspect may be looking for more social contact and may appear more prevelent on the internet. By its nature the sexual aspect is automatically more private so you just may not hear about it as much.

  3. tooomany June 25, 2010 at 1:24 pm - Reply

    I would disagree with the non-sexual component, I am a DL and I find diapers highly arousing and I believe there are many more DLs like me.

  4. Mandon June 25, 2010 at 2:23 pm - Reply

    I think your article is great and describes very much how I feel. I’m a DL and diapers are very sexual in nature to me. There isn’t anything better then when I come home from work to my wife wearing absolutely nothing but a nice crisp clean disposable diaper. I told my wife once that most of the times when I feel like wearing a diaper it’s usually because I’m feeling “horny” (for lack of a better word). When I ask her to diaper me she usually starts and I’d say 9 times out of 10 I don’t end up wearing one because after intercourse I can’t seem to stand a diaper around my loins. Now I know I’m a DL and not an AB because I have no interest in acting babyish or doing childish things. So all in all I’d have to say that most of the DLs I’ve spoken to find diapers to be very sexy.

    Thanks for listening to my babbling.


  5. Bill June 25, 2010 at 2:46 pm - Reply

    Once again I draw comfort from your words and warm sensitivity towards anyone who wears diapers either for a medical reason or for comfort and security they receive. I have a foot in each camp. I discovered that my occasional incontinent accidents is the result of degenerative disk disease in my back. My Lombard disks (two) are in stage 2 degeneration, meaning that spurs are forming and the soft stuff between the disks is disappearing causing pressure on my nerves and disrupting the signals to my bladder. When this happens I pee with only some control. Because this has been happening for almost 2 years when I started to wear diapers to bed at night. Most of the time I could make it to the toilet and other times I slept through the signal and found myself in a wet diaper early morning (4AM) If I had to go and was aware of it before I got out of bed at 8AM, I would just pee in my wet diaper more. One morning after my wife went to work (she accepts my condition and as a matter of fact helped me by sewing some cloth diapers)I just stayed in my wet diaper until after breakfast. Showered instead of getting dressed for the day I put on a fresh diaper with insert and spent the rest of the day in a diaper and undershirt type of top. I was in heaven as I remembered a time when I was almost 7 and was having nocturnal accidents which resulted in me being put back into diapers for about three months.

    After much research I consider myself a Diaper Lover with the understanding when I am in a wet diaper that I am “Warm, Wet & Secure”. I personally have no sexual feelings then I am 66.

    Thank you Adrian for understanding DL and AB.



  6. Mike June 26, 2010 at 10:04 am - Reply


    Your article is a very good description of how I have felt as an ABDL throughout my life. I consider myself a DL with slight adult babyisms that center around wanting to be cared for and unconditionally loved while wearing diapers. I wore diapers late into childhood and had very mixed and conflicted emotions about being in diapers as an older child. I was a very late potty trainer with a mild form of irritable bowel syndrom and my mom felt that diapers were the best option until I could gain consistent control, which finally happened when I was six years old. As I got older I got more embarrassed about my diapers, but also liked the extra attention, security and comfort that diapers gave me.

    Once I was out of diapers, I missed the feelings of security and comfort and yearned to be back in diapers again. As I got older, the feelings of wanting to return to diapers grew stronger and I remember seeing other toddlers still in diapers and wanting so much to return to that time in my life.

    When I was a teenager, I bought my first box of pampers and put them on the best I could when no one was home. Those childhood feelings came rushing back and I knew I was a diaper lover forever. I felt weird about my attraction to diapers and kept my feelings and desires of diapers a secret. In college I discovered adult diapers and got to experience extended diaper wearing on a whole new level. It was awesome.

    Fastforward to today. I am married to a wonderful women, have a great family and career, but still have strong feelings as an ABDL. I told my wife about my feelings years ago, and she could never really accept my desires for diapers and being babied. I respect her feelings and only wear diapers when she and the kids are not around or I am out of town. I do have strong feelings to connect with other ABDLs and share our feelings. Thank you for writing this great article and for hosting your website on a topic I so relate to – I heart diapers too 🙂


  7. Jks16 June 26, 2010 at 11:37 am - Reply

    Well said, like always…

    I don’t know if I speak for all AB’s, since I am not involved much in that community outside of this blog and my own blog, but I would say that all ABs are also DLs. To me, it seems that the diaper is very central, and the most defining aspect of being AB. I think baby play without the diaper just doesn’t feel right. I personally feel so much better snuggling my bunnies or sucking my pacifier when I am all diapered up and ready for bed. Doing those things without my diaper feels really empty (well, I always love bunny snuggling, but that is another story).

    I don’t know the community very well, there may be ABs who do things without a diaper… but not me. It is the most defining part of my AB-ness. I don’t know if i would have even known the wonderful joys of diapering up and being a sweet little if i hadn’t started wetting my bed. Now I am in love with wearing diapers and being a little baby. they go hand and hand 🙂

  8. black-dragon June 27, 2010 at 4:29 pm - Reply

    Hi to Adrian and all readers. This is another really good topic. I would verture a guess that we are not in an equal mind set when it comes to having a comfort/security feeling of wearing and using diapers more than ones sexual side when it comes to diapers. I’m sure we all have our own ways of keeping ourselfs in check for sexual desires whatever they may be when we are all diapered up for ones reasons.

    Yeah, feels like I want to mention a lot more but holding most back say for proper terminolgy of sexual nature and the line of thought outside the AB/DL mind sets. With my mindsets myself I’m more on a stress relief side of diapers. I do have a pacifier and it can calm me some when I’m home by myself and say have a warm bottle of milk before a nap or bedtime with or without a diaper and as much as I’m missing the feeling a quality diaper mainly due to a lose of hours and income of my second job.

    As close as a diaper change is for anyone, how hard is it to keep desires in check when changing them or being changed?! I hope I’m not being to graphic. If I am then I’m sorry. Yeah, I would say its ones own preference for how you can understand a diaper lover. If not along the same line of understanding an adult baby for those of with some babyism in us. Keep up the great toics and don’t forget to reply so we can all see what you have to think and say of our replies to all the great quality topics the we all like to read and reply to. Take it easy.

  9. rebaka June 29, 2010 at 12:30 pm - Reply

    i dont understand why people wear diapers if they dont need them? seems stupid. i wish i could wear pretty panties like my mom and friend judy.

  10. Cloth Diaper Covers June 29, 2010 at 1:19 pm - Reply

    What’s interesting to note is the number of adults starting to wear diapers on a regular occasion. Alot of people are starting to preference wearing one to not wearing one, so the trend, although small is starting to gain mainstream acceptance which IMO is a very good thing.

  11. Hinck June 29, 2010 at 2:36 pm - Reply

    Good posts on a great topic!
    It seems that there are two extremes of Diaper Lovers. One side being those with strong sexual feelings involved to the point of it being a fetish.On the other end of the spectrum are those to whom it is merely a comfort item. Most lie somewhere in between but move back and forth within that spectrum.I do agree that many occasionally do venture into the realm of Adult Baby for example; a pacifier might add comfort in times of extra stress.

  12. Alex June 29, 2010 at 4:52 pm - Reply

    ok… awsome post and all but i think you should post more pic’s. I love the site, its safe, but some more pics or a vid of u wetting wud be great!

  13. S June 29, 2010 at 6:36 pm - Reply

    Am in same boat as you re: wife, kids, career…. Let me know here if you want to connect

  14. black-dragon June 30, 2010 at 4:03 pm - Reply

    Hey there Adrian and all reader. As good and clean as this site is, I have a strong feeling there wouldn’t be any video of Adrian wetting herself for any of us to see as that would be to much. There are more than enough videos on YouTube and Diaperspace if anyone wants to see anyone using there diapers. Adrian, maybe that would be a good topic down the line of diaper videos and such on DiaperSpace or Youtube or any site that has those videos all around. Take it easy and keep up the great work on your blog here.

  15. Chris July 1, 2010 at 10:45 am - Reply

    HAy Adrian, Love the post. Put more pictures up they are always soooo pretty!

  16. Thomas July 2, 2010 at 2:26 pm - Reply

    “The mindset behind a typical diaper lover is not of anything sexual but more of comfort and security.”

    To me the sexual feelings are primary, and it is naïve to project your personal feelings about diapers on others. I believe that the average DL is sexually interested… and I take the number of diaper porn sites, phone girl services, nurseries, sexually motivated stories, etc. as evidence. However, I do also find a sense of security and comfort wearing diapers, and before I hit puberty that is all it was about for me. That fact separates us from other paraphilias.

  17. an alien July 5, 2010 at 12:51 pm - Reply

    Hey, I like what you say here.

    I recently came out to my wife-type-person of six months + (we have a strong and healthy relationship) who is a nurse and whose motto tends to be “I’ll try anything once.”

    So I asked to diaper her, she agreed, and fell in love with it.

    Our relationship has become so much more closer since it has come about, she realizes how much of a secret I had kept–I told her I didn’t ever plan to say anything, but her open mindedness left the idea floating in the back of my head.

    She has trust issues, and me trusting her enough to share my best kept secret just sent her head over heels happy. Realizing how much fun being diapered was didn’t help, either.

    I enjoy your site very much. Thank you for sharing with us your thoughts and words so often.

  18. Mike July 5, 2010 at 3:44 pm - Reply

    S – If you would like to connect my email is [email protected]

  19. Marcus July 12, 2010 at 10:00 am - Reply

    As other respondents have said, I feel there is some sexual component to diapers.
    I don’t use them constantly, but it seems like I use them more when I am Horney.
    Go figure, huh?

  20. Hugo July 13, 2010 at 9:34 am - Reply

    I am a DL and yes i do have a percentage of AB, the primary thing is for far the sexual, it could be added to a sexual relation but not the primary, i prefer being changed than making sex in a diaper. Confort, security and dependence are the tree primary word i would use to describe it. Just love it.

  21. Samuel July 13, 2010 at 10:10 am - Reply

    A male dl here. I know why which is because I had to wear diapers and plastic pants to bed until age 13 for bedwetting. I hated diapers then but secretly just wanted them back once I was allowed to soak my bed once I became a teenager. I was teased unmercifully by my one older and 2 younger brothers being the only one with any bedwetting problem. I would makeshift diapers out of anything I could find and finally bought myself some disposables at age 16 or 17. I started back full time in nightime diapers at age 21 or so since my bedwetting never subsided. I love diapers for security and sexually get very excited waking up every morning in a soaking wet diaper. I also use a plastic cover on my mattress since leaks are somewhat common. I I wear cloth diapers and plastic pants at night and started wearing disposables full time 2 1/2 years ago and have almost achieved total daytime incontinence. I have become so dependent on my diapers I cannot see ever going back. The comfort, security, and thrill of getting a fuller wet diaper as the day goes on is just exciting. I find abena x-plus and the new bambino diapers to both be good for at least 12 hours of protection.

  22. LIDL July 16, 2010 at 12:23 am - Reply

    Hey folks,

    I’ve been reading this site for years. Before I get into what I wanted to vent about, I just wanted to say first thank you to Adrian for this great blog. It’s so nice to read about “normal” every day people who wear/need/like diapers. That includes so many of the blogs respondents.

    Anyway, I chose to vent tonight because I’m feeling a bit blue. I’m a diaper lover — a pretty intense diaper lover. I find them comforting, relaxing and above all, very arousing. I didn’t ask for these feelings. But, like it or not, they are there.

    Thanks to years of coming to terms with this, finally talking to my family, close friends and seeing therapists, (unfortunately I seem to be unable to find arousal from anything else) I generally feel good about myself. Diaper or no diaper. It’s been inspiring to read Adrian’s many posts. Talk about positive!

    Well, today, I took the next big step in my diaper-related life. I finally made an appointment with a medically licensed sexual surrogate and therapy program. There was an initial interview, and if I choose, two follow up diagnostic evaluations to see if this clinic even thinks I can be helped.

    Long story short, the doctor I saw today, without saying so directly, seemed very pessimistic about my chances of success. Success defined as the ability to be aroused by a woman or at least vastly dial up more normal arousal patterns. She even said to me: “You seem very optimistic, and I don’t want to come across like I’m throwing cold water on you” (the next is paraphrase) but we only see about one fetishist/paraphiliac every six months. Others we turn down because we don’t think we can help them.

    Bottom line is that she rather coldly reminded me: a) it is nearly certain I will never fully lose these desires, (didn’t need that reminder) and b) Almost no women out there would find diapers arousing or even appropriate in the bedroom with an otherwise normal adult. (also didn’t need to be reminded of the odds)

    So, while not totally distraught, it was a very difficult day. It took so much courage. So much confidence to make that appointment. And in a way my feelings were hurt. I know that may sound lame. But it’s true.

    Well, I wasn’t rejected outright. Just told to call back for the follow-up interviews if I so desire. We’ll see what the results are when they come in. Then I’ll have to worry about the cost of treatment, which is far higher than I expected.

    Not sure if anyone out there has any constructive advice to offer. But I’d sure appreciate something positive. Except for the diaper fetish, I consider myself totally normal.

    Thanks for reading. And again, thanks SO MUCH for this blog.

    My best to all.

  23. Chris July 18, 2010 at 7:39 pm - Reply

    Hi all,

    I just came across this website and I must say I like what I see here. I myself happen to be an AB/DL (some combination of both, not quite sure how much though). I’m glad to see there is someone out there who understands this as I am still trying to come to terms with it myself.

    For me, there is some sexual joy that I get from wearing diapers, but I also sometimes just kind of like to wear them. I tend to go for a babyish feel with my diaper choice and as such I have stuck to the baby aisle for my purchases (I’m not too big so I can fit into Goodnites, Pullups, and even Luvs size 6). Of course, the whole diapered lifestyle for me has been an ongoing cycle of binge and purge that I really wish I could stop. I usually end up buying a large supply of diapers, wearing a few, then feeling like what I am doing is an abomination and throwing the whole stash away. I would like to stop this either by removing these feelings entirely or trying to come to terms with them. Lately I’ve been thinking that I should try for the latter of the 2 as trying to remove these feelings from my life could be rough. I have spent some time in a tb/dl community during my teenage years, but I have been feeling lately that I need to get into a community of nice understanding 20 somethings that also share my feelings. If anyone has a good site of “normal” people for me to check out and maybe some ideas for what I might try to help come to terms, please let me know. I will be checking out this site fairly regularly.

  24. LIDL July 19, 2010 at 10:41 pm - Reply

    Hey Chris,

    Just wanted to give you a shout out. While I’m new to this site as well, I figured I have just as much right to welcome you as anyone. So….welcome!

    I, too, am seeking those types of social networking sites. It sounds contradictory, but I’ve always sought out the “conservative” ab/dl. Not that I’m judging anyone else, it’s just where I find my comfort zone.

    Anyway, in regards to your question, I’ve spent many years passively observing ab/dl websites. Some good. Some not so much. In February ’07, I believe, I joined diaperspace.com. To be sure, it’s filled with a mix of people. Some people whose interests lie outside my comfort zone and some who don’t. Even so, it’s probably a good place to start if you’re trying to connect with reasonable ab/dl 20-somethings.

    Personally, I’m in my late 20s. I can’t even believe that. But, feel free to respond to this post. I’ll consider posting or somehow sending my email address, if deemed appropriate. Despite my desire to meet more open-minded people, like others on this site, it’s important that I maintain a division between my ab/dl interests and the rest of my life. I’m sure you appreciate that.

    Good luck in the search. And again, welcome. You’ve stumbled across a great blog! Take care.

  25. Chris2 July 20, 2010 at 6:02 pm - Reply


    Glad to meet you. Like I said before, I’ve tried a couple sites before one which is more for teenagers and, regretfully, a certain other infamous one that starts with a d and ends in eeker (it was the first one I found, but I didn’t stick around). This blog does seem to have some decent people judging by the comments. I will definitely stick around this site. I may give Diaper Space a try later.

    There is a bit more to me than just diapers as I have a plethora of other interests. I am a college graduate with probably one of the oddest combinations of majors (if you want to know ask). If you want to know more about me, let me know and we could get to know each other. Btw, I’ll be using Chris2 for my future posts on here as I see someone is already posting under Chris and I would like to avoid the confusion as to which one is which.

  26. LIDL July 22, 2010 at 4:51 pm - Reply

    Hi Chris2,

    Regarding your post, I’d certainly hope there is “a bit more to (you) than just diapers,” hehe. And that is definitely good news! Same here.

    It’s funny you mentioned the infamous “D” word, ending in “eeker.” (Nice construction) That was also one of the first sites I discovered too, back in ’96. I checked out the site periodically over the years, but gradually grew less interested and more concerned over the content. (No need to give further details. We all know the particulars of that site.)

    Hmmm, the oddest combination of majors. My combo was pretty run of the mill — history and poli-sci major/minor. The oddest combination I could come up with on the spot would be a women’s study major (a real degree at my school) and electrical or chemical engineering, (also popular when I was there)

    So am I close or crazy off?

    Re: diaperspace. It definitely has its flaws. In truth I’ve had minimal success connecting with people on it. But in fairness, despite being a member for a few years, it’s only been in the last year or so that I’ve felt ready to try and interact with the community at large.

    Anyway, I’d be happy to maintain a correspondence. Adrian has pointed out on her blog repeatedly that it is very hard to trust people, who they say they are, and their motives in this community. It’s unfortunate. So, I just wanted to add that for what it’s worth, this is not just some fake post.

    So, perhaps we can come up with a safe way to exchange email addresses or connect through diaperspace. I’m open to suggestions.

    And of course, anyone else who is reading on this site, you are more than welcome to contact me via diaperspace too.

    Talk to you soon.



    PS To Adrian. I hope a one to one back and forth dialogue did not abuse the intentions of the comments section. Please let me know. Thanks.

  27. Joseph August 15, 2010 at 7:40 pm - Reply

    I was born with a disability called spina bifida…all my life I use diapers..accept a few times i have tried a condom cath to a lag bag,,but at times the condom came off my penis..

    So I decided its best to use diapers from now on and in ways I don’t think I am 100 percent dl but for some crazy reason I now enjoy using them..

  28. Mhmd September 11, 2010 at 11:35 am - Reply

    Most of it is true the only part you didint spoke about it is that most diaper lovers are some sort of hiding their love to diapers

  29. SJ September 27, 2010 at 5:47 pm - Reply

    Thanks Adrian for sharing your thoughts. Some of mine:

    The whole sexual vs. comforting thing for me has always been hard to nail down. As a kid, even years before puberty, it did feel sexual, even though I couldn’t have called it that. But for me it is due to being sexually abused by a female babysitter at the age of 4. She was changing me before bed and decided to play around. The sexual feelings definitely come from that. But the comfort and security is far more powerful and for a very good reason.

    As I am begining to accept this lifestyle more and more, I am starting to remember more about the events of that night when I was 4. The experience of being acosted by the babysitter was stressful. I did not understand what she was doing, and I was scared, nervous, anxious, and confused, among other things. So when she was finished and closed up the diaper, I felt relieved, relaxed, and secure. That is why diapers are a part of my life as they are. When I am feeling exposed and vulnerable, wearing one helps to calm me in a way few other things can.

    The interesting thing is that I find the sexual arousal of diapers to be much less now than when I was a child. This probably had to do with the fear of getting caught – I don’t have that so much now as I am accepting this lifestyle. Part of it may also be the tension of wanting to wear over the years and not being able or willing to, that tension and energy comes out in a sexual way.

    Also, the feelings of comfort and security are far stronger now, probably as a result of choosing a diaper that fits and fits well (bambinos are awsome. I feel like I can wear them all day and even forget that I am wearing them!

  30. kip November 17, 2010 at 4:35 pm - Reply

    I’m not sure anything new can be said on this issue regarding the sexual component of diapers. I will say that I have been a DL for as long as I can remember, but I never had to wear diapers beyond age 3(I’m in my early twenties now). I actually do remember potty training and a few instances of wearing a diaper as a very young child, but never being changed. I will say that I do get aroused from time to time when putting on a diaper, but that is certainly not the motivation for me to wear a diaper. The motivation is totally inexplicable for me. I don’t do it for a stress reliever or for comfort or for security as most people seem to do that don’t do it for sexual reasons. For some reason I have this strong desire to wear a diaper, but admittedly a fear of ever getting caught doing so. I have become a little more adventurous in wearing diapers in public, but that was only after I was sure that the noise was sufficiently quite as to not give anything away.
    From a critical stand point, I find a completely healthy young adult wearing a diaper for plewp_e absurd. However, I am one of those absurd people. I would like to not be a DL and for a time I have been able to resist the feelings, but they always come back. There is one very beneficial thing that has come out of this; I feel like I understand that others go through similar experiences (though for most diapers are not the issue) and they too would rather not have to deal with their particular issue. People are living beings that do not have switches like computers. I am glad that I have this particular oddity, which is not destructive, instead of many others that could be horribly destructive. More recently I have come to accept that this is part of me and it most likely won’t go away.
    I know you have heard this a lot, but thank you Adrian for your posts. They have shed some light on my situation.

  31. oliver d December 17, 2010 at 6:11 pm - Reply

    Thank you for this artical.You helped me with it to come out of the closet to my wife of 17yrs,reading this gave me the strength to tell her everything

  32. Allen December 18, 2010 at 10:38 am - Reply

    Like many post here, I know for sure that being diapered has a very relaxing sensation. There has always been certain like for a bulk feeling but never knew why. As a teen, there were times after sports of hard physical work there could be a small leak but I was very good at hiding it so there was never a problem.

    On a dare and as a joke, I ended up in a diaper. WOW, WOW instant diaper guy!!!!!!

    Yeah, I was shy and had the fear of being seen or caught. Having on a diaper when in my own private space and doing my own thing, became routine. Even being diapered in public was bo big deal. Out of the blue I got caught.

    That was a buzz. There was no place to go or hide. My friend got a good look at me wear my diaper and T shirt. He laughed his ass off. The cat out of the bag, I put on shorts and went with him. He told everybody about my diaper. There was more laughing and teasing. Finally,I just opened my shorts and showed my diaper. In retrospect sort of glad it happened. That event took away most of the shyness. There was nothing else to hide.

    Diapers have become apart of life. Like many, I didn’t wear one for a little while but went back to diapers. I like diapers and want to wear diapers. There was some self accepting and adjustments. A few wardrobe adjustments were made. So today I am diapered.

  33. Big Mac February 21, 2011 at 2:44 pm - Reply

    I cannot tell you how you made me feel with this article. You have managed to sum up the total of why I am a DL. I am in no way shape or form a AB not that there is anything wrong with those that are. Diapers are a part of my life and at my size a Bariatric DL no less. There is something that other DL’s just know you really do not have to go further then that the security, ect. We are unique in that we know what we feel and in that we are together. We share something that is both intimate and suprise non sexual. Thank you for the most elequant way of stating my feeling for me.

  34. gary March 6, 2011 at 7:43 pm - Reply

    Adrian thanks. MInd started back when I was about 6yrs old.I always like the feeling of wearing diapers and would wet the bed. It is the feeling of comfort for me to wear diapers and a little sexule stimmulation. But Iam different then rest diapers arouse me to I like most was abused when I was little in my mind it started when at my gandparents.I had wet my pants outside playing mom and grandmom put a diaper on me love the feeling when that happen.that stuck with me.put the worst of it was I would snick into my baby sisters room take a diaper form her room see I liked playing in them alot. But one day I got caught outside playing in my new inflatable pool my father came home form work saw what I was doing. him and my mom came out side door after they must of talked mom had a towel in her and along with a dry diaper she said come here she took that wet diaper off and dryed me with the towel and put that dry diaper on me.Mean while mom was doing that my dad was letting the water out of pool mom finished putting the diaper on me. I watch my dad draged my new pool to the trash can in garage and stuff it in useing his foot to smash it down . He said its to stay there mom took me into the houseand told me that diaper was staying on the next day was trash day dad set can out by the road with my pool in it hanging out of it from front window in my wet diaper asked mom to get it out she said no I was bad and it was staying in the trash. I just stood there and then watch trash man take it out and busted it and throw it into his truck it was gone. wet my diaper some more ever scence then I would wake up with wet paints. Ever scence then i would find a way to wear a diaper. Know that Iam old I still wear diapers at home love super dry kids there just like pampers have one tape and thick Iam getting more brave sometimes wear them in public under loose paints and to work when working alone still coping with the hole diaper thing glad to here not alone with this thanks for listening

  35. Nick Naylor March 7, 2011 at 12:53 am - Reply

    my blog at http://nickthenayl.blogspot.com/ is myself and being a diaper lover. I also cover being a dad, a husband, and a number of other things. One of them being how my mind works and why I am a diaper lover. It’s one thing I’ve been trying to figure out for years, even though I can remember wanting to be back in diapers as far back as kindergarten.

    Anyway, if you’re interested, check out my blog. See ya!

  36. LilBill October 17, 2013 at 11:03 pm - Reply

    I thank you for a very good article wrt DL. I am a 43 year old DL with NO sexual attachment to diapers. I really enjoy wearing them and like the feeling. I am not so sure why or how I started but am very sure that I love wearing inside, outside, at work, at play, etc but tend to try and keep it on the Down Low so to speak.

  37. Daniel January 17, 2014 at 4:37 pm - Reply

    I would like to think the author of this page for making that difference clear. I am a long time, (nighttime only) diaper wearer, have found that after 20 years of wearing a diaper, have started to love the idea of wearing a diaper. This being said I don’t think just because I love wearing a diaper I should get on my hands and knees and start acting little a baby. I am an Adult and I want to act like an Adult, and be seen as an Adult. SO Thank you for putting the dividing line between Diaper Lover and Adult Baby.
    Also after reading most of the other people comments, I have to say this. Yes Adult Babies do love wearing diapers, but they seem to have a hard time acting like an adult when wearing a diaper. however for the Diaper lovers that the author of the article is talking about love the feel and comfort of their diapers but can not, act like a baby. it’s not their nature to want to be a baby. These diaper lovers just want people to see them as a normal Adult.

  38. Kwan Ming April 3, 2016 at 9:01 am - Reply

    Dear Adrian as you know by now from my previous replies/stories I am somewhat of a fan of your website.

    I became a diaper wearer about 5-6 years ago in 2010 although not through my own choice, since then having to wear diapers has opened up my mind to to the extent where I no-longer judge anyone else who wears diapers, I was never a bully or anything untoward before this but I couldn’t get my head around why people wear them.

    This was until it happened to me, nowadays I am somewhat of a cross between a diaper lover and an adult baby although not I don’t have any other motivation in terms of why I wear them. I think people should not judge someone else who they haven’t even met before, wearing diapers has given me a whole new perspective and I don’t care about people who don’t know me.

    My other reasons for wearing diapers are purely pycalogical and not so much physical/medical ones although I am not going into detail of those right now as I am trying to get pycalogical help for those reasons although I don’t consider myself as crazy at least not in a dangerous way.

    I think everyone should be given the opportunity to go about their daily lives without fear of judgement or riddicule just because they are different from what people think, I also wish at stressful times I could just quit being a adult and go back to being a baby again, but that’s not going to happen overnight.

    If I won the European lottery big time then perhaps I would consider going back to being a baby full-time and having a carer look after me on those days when I just want to go back to simpler times, as I would buy my own house and have a spair bedroom converted into a fully stocked adult-sized baby nursery for that purpose, although this would probably be some place other than in the UK where I currently reside maybe in Florida or in some place near the ocean in america.

    I would also apply to become a full US citizen if I could because most of my time would be spent in the United States, and yes I know their are pro’s and con’s to this plan but it would be my dream come true except for the hassle of relocation.

    I would also start my own company that would produce diapers for people of all ages, these diapers would be designed to be the best in the industry and to be environmentally friendly at the same time, I would also set up a shop selling every brand of diapers available within one large warehouse where people could come in and buy their products without the fear of being pre-judged.

    Obviously this would need to be an realized through an investment in a diaper company or a investment in a business to maximize my profit margins, I would also provide somewhere where people could experience what it’s like to wear diapers from the perspective of a baby if they wanted to do this, and yes I would pay people who are willing to do this to become full-time or part-time diaper testers.

    This probebly would go some way in elimination of the stigma surrounding this issue.

  39. Krazy Kal February 25, 2018 at 8:35 pm - Reply

    Hi Adrian, Thanks for your descriptions of differences between DL’s and ABDL’s. I am a DL myself and have no interest in the AB world. I love to wear diapers on the weekend but never at work although I have a need for guards in my underwear at all times.
    I have my wife diaper me all weekend on occasion,Fri. afternoon to Mon. morning. I have even made mu own cloth diapers out of old sheet sets and they are really great for sleeping in. I look forward to visiting your site again soon.

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