Over the past month or so I will say that my frustration with a social network that allows an easy way to meet other ABDL’s in a friendly and easy to use manner has been extremely lacking.  It is unfortunate that the only legitimate one you can use is FetLife and that costs money and is riddled with bad content.  Even DiaperSpace has gone by the wayside and it was not even a viable option.  The only other options were Craigslist which honestly is a hit or miss especially if you are in an area that is not very big.  Other than that you have to resort to forums like DailyDiapers.  And, honestly there really aren’t that many other dedicated viable options.

The need for a clean social network that is well run and moderated that allows easy location searches is needed.  Even, if there was a small cost like $1 or something I would be willing to pay that.  But, free would obviously be better.  I just think a legitimate option needs to be available to such a large community.

We have been looking for other normal couples or people that wear diapers or such around our area and it has been quite difficult.  I am sure many people are like us in that we don’t like to fully put ourselves out there and want a safe way to do it and meet others.  Hopefully, maybe one day this site can have the ability to add one of these types of features but I think if someone is going to do it then they need to do it right and not just throw something up that “sort of” works. Just my opinion.

If I am missing another viable option – would love to hear it..

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  1. Kev1210 March 2, 2013 at 3:08 am - Reply

    It may be smaller, but it is a very fast growing group on ABDLC.com. I have tried just about every abdl network out there and they were never what I had hoped they would be, or spiraled downhill (like diaperspace). What I love the most about abdlc is that unlike most of the other sites, is that is it a very healthy community of people. I would definitely recommend giving it a try. It’s completely free. I joined because I wanted to try to meet with people in my area. Low and behind I come to find that there are about 20 abdl’s with in a 30 minutes drive of me. Best of luck.

  2. DiaperPat March 2, 2013 at 4:50 pm - Reply

    I agree with you Adrian. There is a site for Texas abdls but even then most of them are more than a few hours away from us. I will try that site though Kev1210. Thanks.

  3. Maurepas March 3, 2013 at 12:46 am - Reply

    Yeah, I had a DiaperSpace as DiaperedRocker, but I gave up on it. Even Daily Diapers was too overtly sexual to stick with long. I pretty much just frequent ADISC.org(Though I know of your feud with them, it’s just so hard to find a non-sexualized DL forum). I agree though, there needs to be a better moderated ABDL social network.

  4. Baby bear Joshy March 3, 2013 at 4:32 am - Reply

    Hello Adrian,
    My wife and I feel the same way. There is not many in NC that are couples that are like minded. We are in near Raleigh and have to travel to Greensboro for the Munch up there. I completely agree with you here. Love your new site!
    Babybear

  5. G.C. March 3, 2013 at 5:37 pm - Reply

    You could always add a forum here and see how it goes. It’s a whole ‘nother kettle of fish added to running a webpage, so maybe more trouble than it’s worth, but it’d at least guarantee that the network took shape in the direction you wanted!

  6. Dragon-Knight March 5, 2013 at 6:14 pm - Reply

    Hi again. I’m in agreement for the most part here. So many different parts of AB/DL community. A fresh site sounds like something we all need. Fetlife for me just flat out has overkill of any type of male or female advertisement of things one just doesn’t want to see or wish you nevered saw. Daily Diapers is ok. Not to long ago I did see someone post a topic regaurding Adisc and it was along the lines of adisc now enforcing over +18 rules and such. Unless you sign up for adisc you can’t read any thing over there. Then again, is anyone looking for a free or a paysite for membership?! Of course we all want free and who doesn’t right?! Ha!

    Speaking of a new website, the same principle would also apply to munches and related events.
    http://uslittles.com/
    Just above is a link to uslittles.com That’s about the biggest thing for the mother of all meet ups and such. I know there are a few others around like Chicago Age Play and there is another on the east coast and just can’t think of its name at the moment.

    I did mention fetlie and here is a link to a group and its the Hoosier High Chair or HHC as I prefer. https://fetlife.com/groups/34969 Yeah, been quite sometime since I mentioned that and now its just seems right to bring it up again as a reminder for anyone interested never know where one lives and willing to go to a monthly munch even for a first time thing. Well, that’s about all for now and take it easy. Dragon-Knight

  7. NELglenn March 7, 2013 at 3:15 am - Reply

    The East Coast organization referred above is North East Littles. I’m it’s founder and we run it via Leadership Committee. We have one dozen “sister” munches presently and we’re growing fast. Our convention is NELIcon and we’re allies with CAPCON. I also lead New Jersey Littles and founded Delaware Littles.

    I use practically “all” of the forums out there, currently have tried about ten forums.

    There is a real need for an AB/DL only Social Network. FetLife is currently “the” world’s most effective forum we have for communication. (see North East Littles group at FetLife) I have much to say on the matter but that’s for another time and place. I wholeheartedly agree and believe that members of such would appreciate a “well-done” and effective forum enough to want to upgrade to a small membership feel.

    I’m working on creating the demand in my geo-area. My goals are to locate and join with other organizers who do the same (social networking/ munches/ FUN activities) in their respective localities and form a larger organization. Given time, this is my great ambition. I’ve been at it for four years and the results are way better than imagined. I’m doing it in the face of those who say “it’ll never happen.”

    I’m not seeking approval here, just trying to find others who “get it” and desire the same goal. Whatever it takes. An AB/DL Community Forum is what is needed MOST.

    Adrian, Keep up the good work!

  8. Anewbys83 March 9, 2013 at 11:16 pm - Reply

    Too bad you don’t live here in St. Louis. I’d totally hang out with you, but it is hard to find folks. Granted I haven’t actively tried finding people near me after I gave up on DiaperSpace. I’m just so used to being so private about diapers that I’ve compartmentalized that side of me. Recent changes though have led me to try not being that way and just accept myself, my needs vs. desires, etc., and accept the feeling of security I find with diapers. Well you have a large part in that Adrian, my having read your site for several years now. So thanks for that. 🙂 I’m glad for the rec’s above though, maybe there’s some hope with ABDLC.com. We shall see.

    • Mattie March 24, 2014 at 7:42 pm - Reply

      Anewbys83 im in the state area, and have been trying to find baby friends as well. 🙂 want to meet up sometime?

      • Spencer December 5, 2015 at 3:02 am - Reply

        Im in the st.charles area

  9. Danny March 26, 2013 at 1:53 am - Reply

    Hey Adrian,
    It’s been waaay too long since I responded to a post. Also, congrats on the launch of the new blog!! I’m sure you read this often from many, but I just wanted to add my voice and thank you for your high quality, honest, straightforward and enjoyable blog. The point you raise above in your post should be of critical importance to us all. In my more courageous moments as a DL I’ve even thought of investigating how to launch my own social networking site. I’d cater it to what I refer to as “conservative ABDLs” — people who are a little uncomfortable with some of the more outlandish aspects of the subculture we associate with. Not that any of that is wrong. I’m all for being who you want to be. It’s just a question of volume. And sometimes I feel the quieter, perhaps less comfortable-with- themselves part of this community is out “volumed.” There is, I believe, a “silent majority” of outwardly conservative ABDLs. It is my sincere hope and maybe even prayer, that I’m able to meet some of these people in due time. Maybe what I’ve said resonates with some readers. I’m a writer by profession and part of me would be eager for the challenge. Any advice, tips, feedback, etc., would be greatly appreciated. Thanks again. All the best Adrian!

    Regards,

    Danny

    • NELglenn March 26, 2013 at 5:45 pm - Reply

      I wholeheartedly agree with you, Danny.

      While my efforts to stimulate “AB/DL Dialogue” have been best received on the FetLife website in terms of bringing people into the fold, many of my most valued friendships in our community have been formed from more conservative networks. Many would be surprised at my personal conservative values and background. I’m not personally a fan of BDSM and those who know me would simply disbelieve much of my involvement in the greater kink community.

      This is not in any way meant to be a dig at the kink community, it is a statement of my own personal character. I’ve had to become accustomed to some very alternate lifestyles and desires in order to fulfill my dream of “Not to feel alone, self-depreciating or of low self-esteem.”

      The need for an AB/DL-centric social format is very much a current issue. Now is the time something must and eventually will be done regardless of who does it. There are several well-known examples of AB/DL networks in place- however the perfect format has not been accomplished as of yet. Leadership, Wisdom and Teamwork in a “Top Down” basis are likely the primary issue.

      My way of thinking has always been “If it’s to be, it’s up to me” and I went out there and built a real social network. I’m not banging the drum falsely in that I can state a few facts that apply to this philosophy of introspective effort. In almost four years time, with a busy family, work and social schedule. I’ve held roughly ninety munches, several large “Littles Invasions” (i.e. “FUNraisers”) and a convention (NELIcon.) I’ve made hundreds of acquaintances and dozens of real friends, many of whom are conservative AB/DL’s like myself. If I can do it, ANYONE CAN DO IT. Like many of us, I’m NOT intellectually special and have my own issues with anxiety, learning and self-esteem. The point is this: The basis for a successful enterprise such as what might be done here MUST be relate and be relate-able to it’s ‘Stakeholders.’ It must be well-defined, have a Mission and goals all can agree on. It needs to be done- by people who “get it.” I think we’re about to see this happen because we’re out there on these websites and it’s a matter of just finding an autonymous website where we can talk about what we as a community most value, most desire and think we might achieve in regards to learning about ourselves and finding it’s value, reaching out to others and having a GREAT TIME as it’s result. “A future of friendship and a lifetime of no further regrets.”

      Honestly and sincerely guys and gals, If there is any way I might be of useful help in this particular discussion please let me know.

      Glenn

  10. JJ April 3, 2013 at 11:29 am - Reply

    Fantastic comments here. I have to say, it is really encouraging to read that people are concerned about this and want something better. I just left diaperbook and while it may have been easy to make friends there the people you find tend to be more interested in the diaper, or what have you, rather than the person, it is a frustrating experience to say the least. I think there are plenty of good elements from some of the sites out there that if implemented correctly could very well make for a great social network.

  11. Gerber July 19, 2014 at 8:55 pm - Reply

    I agree with the above, there is a need. I am not sure what sort of undertaking this would be, what it would in-tale. We have web designers and engineers on staff who could do this but them not knowing of my alternative enjoyments and me not wanting to share it with them makes the premise of purposing such a project daunting to say the least. Perhaps I could push it through under the guise of a “business venture”. How vast is our community? Is it possible to even come up with any estimate at this juncture? So many unknowns. I can certainly understand why a serious web house has not taken on a project like this.

  12. glenn aka -TheMagicDragon- on FL December 6, 2015 at 8:02 pm - Reply

    Here’s an update. Since July 2009 NJ Littles has held over 150 Munches to date. North East Littles (NEL) is moving toward growing to cover North America (USA and CAN) with more munch groups joining in, and we are planning our sixth NELInvasion (event) for February, 2016. There is plenty of room for munch groups to join in. What we are is an umbrella organization to help the “Littles Community” (Ageplay and AB/DLs inclusive) out with actual resources that can be loaned out for Littles Events and used when NEL “Invades” larger fetish/kink/BDSM conventions by running the Littles component (eg ‘The Floating World’ 2014 and ‘Brimstone’ and hopefully supporting Bouncytown 2016.)
    We have enough equipment, games and fun props to cover a large area (about 10,000 SF) for those who feel “Little”. We have a new PA System, computer and special lighting, a giant Diaper Twister game and more.

    On the Diaper Lover front we (NEL) formed and sponsor WADLs (We Are Diaper Lovers) and it’s first regional Cohort (state group) ‘We Are Diaper Lovers of NJ’ (aka NJ WADLs), having held six private events with another one coming up in December. WADLs is geared specifically to Diaper Lovers, more on the adult than AB level because we recognize that many DLs aren’t neccessariy into the AB/Ageplay aspect or associated field of BDSM. Yes, this means if you are a DL you can socialize with other DLs in a Safe, Sane and Consensual setting. We don’t exclude AB’s and ageplay or BDSM’ers but we don’t make our events about that. moreso about enjoying the freedom and many joys of being in a diaper in a room full of DLs- and this alone is fantastic!
    All are welcome to check our our groups on fetlife.com.

    Mind you, we began NJL on Daily Diapers, which I still greatly appreciate. We were fortunate to take advantage of the explosive growth of Fetlife- and honestly it’s been FUN but not without hardship. Yeah, I’m usually exhausted but my attitude has always been “it isn’t about me…it’s about us.” It can work only when run as a team effort by community “members.” That said, we’re still in our infancy…and that baby requires love and protection. I’m always looking for any help, resources and opportunities to grow NEL and WADLs. Anyone can join in. We welcome all who would share the dream.

    Hopefully this update is enlightening. I’m not trying to take over the OP’s Topic! She’s onto something substantial here that can affect our quality of life. There’s most definitely a need for a better AB/DL Community Social Network. It must have an internet presence, similar to Fetlife. But the long-term answer is NOT the fetlife website.

    To be a lasting and true AB/DL Community Social Network it must be non-judgemental, fair and yet just. There must be checks and balances. It must be accessible to the majority of us without exclusions and language/cultural barriers. It must be secure and strong enough to afford long-term privacy protection. It’s gotta be democratic to work. Some’s got to do it and the kicker is that someone probably will. We would like to see it get done right. Because life’s already challenging enough and we can’t afford failure.

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