Well sorry everyone for not posting in awhile, I have just been dealing with some family things as well as enjoying the holidays.  And I hope everyone else here had a great Thanksgiving if you live in the US.

Anyways, I thought I would post on something that I have noticed that I would almost label as a phenomenon and I am curious whether it happens to many others besides myself, Peter, and a few of our ABDL friends.  I have noticed that when it comes to messing in diapers, even though I am incontinent, I seem to actually only mess when I am somewhere that I am comfortable or familiar with.  Examples of places are my house, enclosed spaces, etc.  But, when I go somewhere like a movie theatre, restaurant, store, or something along those lines I find that I actually don’t mess as much.  Whether this is pure coincidence and timing or a real life phenomenon that you tend to poop when you are more comfortable is beyond my knowing.  I know its easier on Peter when he doesn’t have to change one of my poopy diapers when we are out and about (not that he minds), but I must say its easier to change poopy diapers on a bed or floor rather than a restroom or car.

I am wondering if anyone else has noticed this at all.  Though, I only probably have a small percentage of control of defecation, it is strange that I tend to mess the majority of the time at our house, the car, and for some reason enclosed spaces.  Possibly, it may have to do if when you remember when you were a little kid and you were playing hide-and-go-seek and you were hiding, I always remembered getting nervous and peeing in my diaper while hiding.  I don’t know if its the same concept possibly or just pure coincidence.  All I know is I had wet diapers everytime I played hide-and-go-seek.

So, I am referring to this as a comfort phenomenon just because my theory is somehow being in a comfortable area possibly does something “chemically” inside your body possibly to stimulate digestive movements or triggers other functions that relax the bowels even more.  Because, when I am in the comfortable place I don’t even know I pooped in my diaper most of the time because I most likely lose any small percentage of control I do have.  But, when I have messed in my diaper in a somewhat uncomfortable or unfamiliar place I can sort of feel it come on but I can’t control it or do anything about it.  Its honestly hard to describe this phenomenon and incontinence unless you have it but I did my best to describe it and how it feels.  Just curious if anyone else has noticed anything similar in this respect?.

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  1. Richard November 30, 2008 at 9:25 pm - Reply


    I guess it is more about timing more than anything. I am not bowel incontinence although I do have to pay frequent visits, but it does not normally effect me when I am out. Before I go out I often need to make urgent visits so I guess the slight anxiety of going out effectively empties me, Is this what happens with you?


  2. Samantha December 1, 2008 at 9:52 pm - Reply

    I couldn’t agree more! Amazing that you wrote this, Adrian, because I’ve often thought of the same thing. I usually do feel my poop when it hits my ass-cheeks, though, as my nerves are not damaged there. It does sometimes take me by surprise – and sometimes I may not even notice the temporary feeling as my diaper fills, as long as the poop is not actually touching my buns – like if I’m standing. Of course, I will typically feel the weight sagging down my diaper or panties, (I sometimes think I can get away without a diaper, because I don’t always like to wear baggy clothes when going out), before anything else. I may have a cramp, or I may feel “full”, and know I might be close to filling my diaper, and will therefore stay out of sutuations that I’m not, as you say,m “comfortable” in.

    I try not to ingest anything that may cause runny messes or anything like that, and try to exercise regularly so I can keep “regular”. It’s not easy to do, of course, and I’m not always able to be in a comfortable place when I need to mess, but it’s surprisingly rare that I’m in that awkward situation.

    Perhaps we have subconsciously been able to adjust our lives around our messes? Since mine tend to be, lets say “voluminous”, it can be very embarrassing to have a large obvious lump in the seat of my pants – even though I tend to wear baggier clothes, like overalls. But I find that even with my baggy outfits the stretch of the diaper is still clearly visible after I poop in my pants. (well, diaper actually)

    Thanks so much for sharing this!!

  3. Mike December 2, 2008 at 11:05 pm - Reply

    This isn’t comfort related, but for some reason any time I walk into a bookstore, I suddenly have to poop. I went to the bathroom in one once, and ever since then I can’t walk through one without needing to poop! Haha! crazy. I wonder if it is just conditioning???

  4. Eman December 3, 2008 at 2:05 pm - Reply

    This isn’t directly related to the topic, but you mentioned playing hide-and-go-seek as a kid and always wetting your self… Funny thing is (as a continent child) I recall as soon as I’d get settled into my hiding spot I’d have to pee so bad. It was always a challenge to put mind over matter and hold it so I wouldn’t give up my hiding spot.

    The neighbor girl (who I think is responsible for my “daddy” and diaper desires) was a cute little blonde, and just a little younger than myself, that I secretly had a little crush on, had the same pee issues when hiding.

    I remember the whole neighborhood playing teams hide-and-seek one day. She was my teammate. We hunkered down in my best hiding spot and before I knew it she was squirming and bouncing. I kept telling her to sit still. Then she looks up at me with big welted eyes. “I peed my pants” she says. Sure enough she did.

    I walked her home and handed her off to her mother and within a few minutes she was back out to play. This time, wearing a diaper. Probably a pampers or something. I know it sounds completely absurd but it’s true. I never asked so I don’t know how or why, but I did see it sticking out of her pants when we hid again. That’s when she told me she was peeing right then.

    I guess I kind of came away from that experience with the realization that diapers were not only practical, for hide and seek anyway, but feeling indescribable about seeing the cute girl I had a crush on wet herself and then later wear a diaper.

    All at the tender age of 9, and I think she was 7. None the less, there’s definitely something to that whole “comfort in confined spaces” thing. Just think of the way we design bathrooms in our homes. Even if it is a big bathroom, we still make a tiny enclosure around the toilet and box it in. I even know of people who just can’t go in a big, open bathroom, let alone a big, echoing, public bathroom. My wife for example. Total stage fright in public restrooms, can’t go, at all. She says they’re too open and hallow sounding. Put her in a little bathroom, she’s fine. When she wears diapers though she can relax more, but still prefers enclosed spaces. Couldn’t go at all at the movie theater one time, but as soon as we got in the truck she just about flooded out a Bambino in one wetting!

  5. wetnbulky December 4, 2008 at 1:25 am - Reply


    You mentioned your wife wears Bambinos, was she into diapers before you got married, or did you introduce her? If you introduced her, did she like them right away or did she “warm up” to them? I recently introduced my wife to diapers and, while she was willing to try, she said there was no real attraction or excitement for her. I’m just curious. Great comment!

  6. Eman December 4, 2008 at 1:26 pm - Reply

    Hey Bulky,

    To give you the extra short version, my wife was not into diapers herself. I introduced my “daddy desires” to her before I even proposed and she seemed interested but not overly. We got off to an awkward start with it and even now if she’s not into it, she’s just not going to want to wear. All this is fine with me, I consider myself the luckiest guy on earth when I think of the times she does enjoy it… I couldn’t be happier. So basically, yeah, she had to “warm up to them” and it took a while.

    Don’t expect your wife to have the innate attraction to them like you and I do. It’s just not her thing. Find something that is her thing. For my wife, she desires deep meaningful conversation. I give her that and show her that I’m really interested in her thoughts and feelings, I’ll usually get rewarded sooner or later. You just have to make it about her… and she’ll be more than willing to return the favor. Good luck my friend.

  7. Mike December 5, 2008 at 1:37 am - Reply

    Sorry to comment twice, but I thought I’d mention that this article is being talked about (in a good way) on adisc.org! You’re famous! LOL http://www.adisc.org/forum/incontinence/7522-blog-question-comfort-phenomenon.html

  8. BabyStevie26 December 5, 2008 at 7:28 am - Reply

    I’m the one that posted the blog’s question on ADISC. I was curious what responses would be had there. I hope it’s okay I did it without asking first.

  9. Steve December 12, 2008 at 5:20 am - Reply

    I totally agree with you Adrian. I am a DL and have been using my diapers 24-7 for the last 3+ years. I very much experience this Comfort Phenomenon with both wetting and pooping. I am getting better at the wetting part, but my body still won’t pee too easily unless I am in a comfortable situation. Its getting easier to pee at work or at school, but almost never when I’m out in public unless I drink too much (water/pop/alcohol). One example was when I was on vacation at Disney in Florida. I’m practically bursting with the need to pee yet no matter how much I drank or stood still in a quiet corner of a store…nothing convinced my body to pee while I was surrounded by so many strangers. Pooping is obviously much harder…I can’t even poop when I am at home, busily working, let alone in public.

  10. littlefoxboy December 13, 2008 at 6:09 pm - Reply

    Emotions can have powerful bodily effects.

  11. bmac December 16, 2008 at 1:08 am - Reply

    Absolutely. I think that your body is for one tied well into your brain and where you do or do not feel comfortable. Regardless of being continent or incontinent, the body will normally wait until home or the “safe zone” before signaling to do it’s thing.

    It’s all about being relaxed and comfortable.

  12. Rachel July 28, 2012 at 10:20 pm - Reply


    I know this is an old post, but I was searching through your archives, it caught my interest. I have bowel control at least *most* of the time, but find that I can have a dry diaper during a long doctor’s appointment, only to soak it to a fare-thee-well once I get home. Often, the moment I open my front door. Why on earth does it happen?

    Unrelated question, but since you’ve been in diapers literally all your life, did you experience a large amount of teasing/bullying/harassment because of it? I have the feeling that if I had had to wear diapers to school as a child (I didn’t actually become incontinent until my thirties), I probably would have had to be pulled out and home-schooled, the bullying would have been so relentless.

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