I want to wish everyone a Happy Post-Thanksgiving…I am a little late on it since I was busy with Thanksgiving yesterday…had to cook for a lot of people.  Anyways, I just wanted to write a post about being thankful for what God has given you and who you are.  When you are feeling down about yourself then I encourage you to come back and read this post over and over again as I think it will give you some perspective.

First, life isn’t always fair…that is the fact of life.  People are dealt different cards in life but what makes your life great is how you play those cards.  You could be dealt a tough set of cards but if you approach those cards in the right mind and perspective then you can make your life happier and more worthwhile than someone dealt a lot better set of cards than you.  God has given each one of us separate identities, thoughts, actions, personalities, etc.  That is what you must come to realize – that you are not a mistake! You are what God made you and you should be thankful for that.

When I was born with a structural form of incontinence virtually making my incontinence incurable…I could have thought God made a mistake with me but that is not the case.  God made me for a purpose and I am thankful for that.  I have managed my incontinence fine with adult diapers and I have been able to have positive effects on a lot of people I have come in contact with in regards to my experience.  When you think that you have it bad or you are going through a tough time in your life – then, think of those people that most likely have it harder than you.  I know when I am having a hard time and think my life is tough I always think of those kids you see on TV from Africa they show roaming around with no home, no food, etc.  I just think that my life could be like that where each day I am just trying to survive rather than whatever meager problem I am having.  It is how I stay positive.

If someone wants to make fun of me for having to wear diapers…OK…how is that in anyway going to harm me?  I am thankful for who I am and you should be too!  Whether you are incontinent, enjoy wearing diapers, or whatever just know that God made you a certain way and has led you to this point…how you choose to play YOUR cards is up to you on whether you want to look at it from a positive light or a negative light is up to YOU.  But, trust me when you think you have it tough – there is always someone with something worse! Always!

So, please be thankful for what you have and what God has given you both physically, mentally, and spiritually.  I am thankful for who I am and what I have become and wouldn’t change a thing!  I am thankful for the life I have.  And you should be too! You are beautiful inside and out – just know that!  Happy Thanksgiving everyone..

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  1. Hinck November 26, 2010 at 5:00 pm - Reply

    Very well said, I couldn’t agree more!
    May I also add my best wishes for a happy holiday season.

  2. Joshua November 26, 2010 at 5:26 pm - Reply

    So posi, I love it!

  3. black-dragon November 26, 2010 at 5:37 pm - Reply

    Hello. This little post here brighten my day. I’m not the biggest person when it comes to god and what not. A few months ago, i was visiting my sister and her kids. For their sake there was hardly no foul langauge from me or my folks as I checked that at the door. Small word here or there slipped but nothing to bad. For example the phrase shut-up is not allowed or something simialar. I would say a lot of things in life really depend on how you are brought up and how and where you live. As many hardships and problems I have going, its very easy to get lost in ones line of thought for whatever a person has happing and going trought in life. Its not fun at all when all gets knocked out of balance and stays in the darkside of life and I’ve felt it for the last couple of years.

    Anyways, my life isn’t as bad as it was and I’m still fighting to get it back on track and hope it stays balanced and doesn’t get derailed again anytime soon. Take it easy and can’t wait for your next post as they are all clean and tasteful and enlighting read on your blog here.

  4. PJ November 26, 2010 at 9:47 pm - Reply

    Thank you for your continuing sensibility, optimistic acceptance of reality (which sometimes seems like an oxymoron), and willingness to share.

    Smile! (especially when you don’t really want to)

  5. Jake November 26, 2010 at 11:45 pm - Reply

    I must say, this is a wonderful post and it made my day. It made me realize there is no need to be embarrassed of myself and the cards I am dealt but rather to embrace what life and god has given me. Life is truly wonderful and I am thankful for every day I am alive and I am thankful to be the person that I am. Happy thanksgiving. 🙂

  6. Jag November 27, 2010 at 2:45 am - Reply

    Wow, this just made my day. thank you, thank you very much (^_^). And yes, i totally agree with you on more tough, “theres always a bigger fish” meaning theres always something bigger that your not seeing… i hope your thanksgiving was the brightest it could ever have been ^^, thanks for the smile

    also… there is something you should “change” about yourself

    -sorry… slightly buzzed you’ll have to forgive me

    anyway, HAPPY TURKY DAY!

  7. abray November 27, 2010 at 11:04 am - Reply

    Hi Adrian,

    It is always refreshing reading your post. I look forward to them. Wishing you, Peter and the rest of your family a very blessed holiday season!

  8. rebaka November 27, 2010 at 1:46 pm - Reply

    Love the post, I sometimes get sad cause I wish I was more normal than having to wear diapers 24/7 and have A.D.D. Im happy though I know my mom and dad still love me awhole lot even though there divorced. Im happy to have a great job and a boss who understands me and a bunch of teddybears that keep me warm at nite. But most of all is im happy with my friends who love me for who I am..

    Happy Holidays,

  9. Kevin November 27, 2010 at 2:43 pm - Reply

    I have never met you but I thank you for your kind words. I have been having a tough time lately and those are the words I needed. Thank you for what you have done for this community. Happy Thanksgiving everyone.

  10. James November 27, 2010 at 3:12 pm - Reply

    Excelent post as usual! I always try to live my life by the way that yeah life sucks sometimes but only you can make it better. You make it better by being positive and not taking things too seriously. Keep up the great writing Adrian!

  11. Amanda November 27, 2010 at 5:14 pm - Reply

    Best post of yours!!!

  12. william November 27, 2010 at 7:27 pm - Reply

    Thank you for this post!! I enjoy getting your posts a lot! But I needed this post thanks for reminding me to take a step back an look at the bigger picture.

  13. Wes November 27, 2010 at 10:45 pm - Reply

    You have blogged a great many a subjects, given advice and shared true stories that lift and inspire. Every post has had a great impact on your readers, but this is by far the best. Even at times i have wondered if God makes mistakes, he doesnt. There are so many things God doesnt tell us, but its heartwarming that you rely on Him so much and help others to recognize and think about God even more. Thank you for this best blog yet.

  14. Jason November 27, 2010 at 11:19 pm - Reply

    I totally agree. We all have our little quirks and traits that some people think are weird, we can’t change how othters feel. What we can do is decide how we’re going to live our lives and what we do with our own bodies. Happy Thanksgiving, and Happy Holidays.

  15. jsk16 November 28, 2010 at 9:41 am - Reply

    For someone who has taken a long time coming to terms with herself, I must thank you for this post.

    We ALL have our little quirks that make us different. Once you learn to see these quirks as gods gifts instead of gods mistakes, life can be truly amazing.

  16. sara November 29, 2010 at 12:30 am - Reply

    Hi jsk16 what happened to your blog? i cant seem to get to it or find it anymore.

  17. Corxy November 29, 2010 at 10:30 am - Reply

    I’m actually an atheist but what a warm post. Not what I expected after so much flakiness, though.

  18. jacques November 29, 2010 at 11:56 am - Reply

    Hello adrain I like to know what is like to wear a diaper exspeacle when it is wet?

  19. babyevan November 29, 2010 at 1:27 pm - Reply

    Thank you Adrian
    I’ve lost someone I loved and you made me feel a little bit better.

  20. Michael December 2, 2010 at 5:44 pm - Reply

    Seems like you are christian Adrian. My family is very christian and I feel like I am doing something very sinfull when I wear diapers. You don’t look at it the same way?

  21. Brian December 3, 2010 at 4:53 pm - Reply

    Well if you think about it, wear did all this enjoyment of wearing diapers come from? I can honestly say that I don’t know why I was born with it. It doesn’t control my life but has always been there. God has the answer.

  22. Awesome December 3, 2010 at 5:30 pm - Reply

    so right you are its all a matter of perception
    indeed a very wise sediment

  23. jsk16 December 7, 2010 at 12:30 pm - Reply

    @sara ahhh sorry
    I fixed the link! you should be able to click on my name to access it now

    thank you 🙂 and thanks again for this amazing post!

  24. David Owen Ward December 7, 2010 at 1:08 pm - Reply

    Hi, I’m David, my friends call me Dave and I applaud you. Your words have completely touched a cord with me because I too know why I was put on this planet, why i’m disabled and in a wheelchair. I’m writing a book about discrimination toward the physically disabled or differently abled and even though I have Muscular Dystrophy there are people who are worse off then me and in my blog on my website I had touched on the subject of the Kids in Africa starving and dying. I’ve tried several times to contact and get a response from you, but I hope now ill hear back because we are doing pretty much the same thing in life and your words are so powerful and you should write a book too, I’d be first in line. i’ve been reading your blog for quite some time and absolutely love it because I wear diapers too and don’t mind it at all! I truly believe we could make great business partners in the future and I really want to meet a lot of diaper wearers like me because we are very misunderstandood. I think I want to come out and let people know i wear diapers, but I’m so afraid to, do you think you could give me some advice? Discrimination is a cancer to this planet. It destroys the sanctity of progressive thought! Thank you so much

  25. littlefoxboy December 7, 2010 at 5:44 pm - Reply

    I was feeling a bit down having just lost another relative this weekend, its been a rough year losing alot of people I loved, the kind of people that made the holidays worthwhile, thank you for this positive post, made me feel a bit better

  26. littlefoxboy December 7, 2010 at 5:48 pm - Reply


    Explain why it’s sinful for an incontinent woman to wear diapers? I must have missed that verse

    Is it sinful for someone with eye-problems to wear glasses? someone who is crippled to use a cane?

  27. black-dragon December 9, 2010 at 1:16 am - Reply

    @ littlefoxboy

    If I had to venture a guess, it would be if any woman or man were incontinent then they should do what they have to do in order to get on in life and not have to worry about making a mess all the time when not need at the wrong times. If that means needing to wear diapers, then they will do if they like it or not and how that indivaul choses to handle it.

    If they have full control for contince then I think that would be a little bit different. I’ll pass on a big word that starts with M and say self relief. I’m sorry for that and I think all reading will get the idea without all the proper termnolgy that is of a private nature. I’m no expert when it comes to religion if it be christian or chatlic and family (for say I use this word prhase wisely) sexual eduction in contrast while the bible and god.

    I’ll stop there. I hope this was hopefully not to graphic, but I think it was realvent and as I said its just a wild guess and no expert. Just on persons thought on that matter of sinful or not sinful.

    @ Adrian
    As I said in this reply I hope it was not to graphic for proper termolgy and a bit of a personal nature I would say, but I did say it tactfully with respect. I’m sure you always read what your readers are always posting in reply to your topics and I’ve mention a couple of time that this is the cleanest AB/DL blog around and I have a good feeling it will stay that way as it is always fun and enjoyable to read and reply to what you post here on your blog. Hope all is good and look forward to your next topic.

  28. Jake December 9, 2010 at 11:21 pm - Reply

    @Dave my name is Jake. That’s awesome you are writing a book. Very inspiring might I add. Also, I have muscular dystrophy myself and am also a diaper wearer. I def don’t mind wearing them either. I would love to share any advice I have to offer and listen to your thoughts as well. I have told a few of my friends and family members that I trust. It didn’t go as bad as I thought.

  29. Michael December 14, 2010 at 10:13 am - Reply

    I’m very sorry I didn’t express me in the correct way. There’s no way it could be sinfull for incontinent people to wear diapers. What I meant was us diaper lovers who have a perfectly healthy bladder, who just enjoys to wear diapers. As a christian I think Adrian is right about that God has made us how he wanted us. But I still have some issues accepting that I have so much passion for diapers as I do. This is why I asked her, and you guys, about your opinion on whether it is sinfull.

    Again, I’m sorry for expressing me so poorly.

  30. littlefoxboy December 16, 2010 at 6:27 pm - Reply

    The way the new testament puts it, if your eye causes you to sin, to pluck it out, if your hand, cut it off, if it’s hurting your ability to have a relationship with God, then it’s a problem you must deal with, however if its not then there are probably plenty of other problems to deal with. If you feel its a problem for you then you probably have to deal with it, but the bible is big on judging others being a no-no.

  31. Hugo December 29, 2010 at 11:05 pm - Reply

    hmmm… That thing about god is the only thing i don’t care about. The rest is great, it my life perspective but i knew what you are sayin and a lot more when i turned 18. Now i am 20 and can manage my feelings as i want. A meditation progress since 2 years ago, i’ve been doing this with Osho’s books. PEOPLE JUST NEED TO BE CONSCIENT ABOUT THEM SELVES, NOT SEEING THE WORLD IN SOME KIND OF “1ST PERSON” BUT IN A “3RD PERSON”. You reach it when you start thinkin not only in the conversation you are having with your friend but in youre own reactions and own thoughts it is like if you are seeing yourself talkin tou youre friend. It can be done when you are crying, JUST PICK UP A PAPER AND QUICKLY RITE WHAT ARE YOU FEELING IN THAT MOMENT.

    I should stop writing now ROFTL

  32. George January 14, 2011 at 2:23 pm - Reply

    I totally agree with the fact that diapers are just a state of mind. You can be enjoying life, as I think God intended, or live in a cage of your own making and continue life with a self inflicted Pity Party. I am incontinent so diapers are part of who I am. I choose to enjoy life. I think God gave the idea to many folks that diapers aren’t just a baby thing and do have a positive role for all ages. Also diapers can be enjoyable, a fashion, and so practical in many ways. I love my diapered lifestyle and I explore the new items on the market that make being incontinent less miserable. I live in the “real” world with all the tasks of any other person who needs to pay the bills, and I find it not difficult to do even if my cloth diapers are covered with cute prints on my diaper covers. Fate dealt me the cards I hold and they are part of God’s plan. Within my spirit a guidance councilor speaks, if I allow the influence of Jesus to make a louder sound than the other, and I try to listen with all my spirit. (I am not a Bible thumping individual because Books are written by people and people have really screwed things up for God’s intentions.) Diapers are my life and I am more happy then many who do not need diapers.

  33. Leann January 22, 2011 at 11:17 am - Reply

    Hi Michael,

    I liked reading your comments and I’m glad you had mentioned this as I was wondering the EXACT same thing. I am a devouted Christian too. And like yourself, I don’t have incontinence either. Although I do find it sometimes rather inconvenient when I have to go to the bathroom, especially after I just went or when I’d rather be doing other things. God wants us to be happy, so hopefully I don’t think He would consider it a sin if one wore diapers for plewp_e. That is just my opinion, I could be right or I could be wrong.

  34. Harry March 14, 2011 at 4:50 pm - Reply

    Hi guys as part of my CP I’m Incontinent mostly urinary along with light Bowel I felt much more confident wearing a diaper it gives me a place to pee an poop when I can’t get to a toilet.

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