One of the biggest obstacles people have is telling others they either enjoy wearing diapers or have to wear diapers.  Both, in my opinion should be approached in the same way and in the same context.  Many people ask me “what do I say” and “how I should say it”.  The first thing I tell them is to be confident and don’t come across if you are doing something wrong because then that just is a bad start.  So, be confident and don’t come across to the person as if you had just robbed a store or something.

Second, never just tell the person flat out that you enjoy and love wearing diapers.  Don’t put it like that.  Whether you you need diapers or enjoy them – the conversation should start out in the context of being for a medical issue.  So, basically if you don’t need them then you will be telling a minor fib or slight exaggeration.  This may come across as morally wrong to a few people and I understand that but it is also morally wrong for others to judge you.  Anyways, just say something along the lines of “I have a minor medical issue that requires me to wear a diaper at certain points of the day for added protection and it provides a sense of security for me”…obviously this statement needs to be tailored and “flowered” up to the person you are talking to but that is a good base to use.  Don’t come across like some obsessive and crazy person that just loves diapers with no reason other than it feels good because 9 out of 10 times the person will associate it immediately in negative light.  You want to provide the justification and reasons up front so that they do not assume and make their own conclusions.  You start out slow with the person and ease them into the explanation.  Don’t say “I love diapers because they make me feel good” – that will probably not get you too far in many cases.  Come off as nervous but confident and make sure that you tell the person that you trust them and think a lot of them to share something like this with them.  It makes that person feel responsible and almost at first proud that someone can trust them…it puts the ball in their court rather than yours.

The main thing I tell people is to have your reasons and justifications laid out up front and to make sure those reasons are not just that you like them.  Start out with that it originated from a medical issue and then go from there.  Use words like “security”, “comfort”, “de-stress”, and “calms me down” because these words are neutral and non-aggressive words that will make what you are telling them easier and put it in a more positive light.  A lot of what you say and how you say it has to be tailored and catered to that person though based on what type of person they are.

Note: If you are truly interested in coming out or telling someone then I will and am open to help walk you through it.  I have a lot of experience with it.  But, don’t contact me for help if you are not going to do it and aren’t serious about it.  I am more than willing to take the time to help you but just make sure you are serious about it..

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  1. The Eagle June 2, 2009 at 4:12 am - Reply

    well I guess it really depends on who it is your telling, I told two of my best friends about all this a few years ago and of course they where curious and had questions and sometimes still do, but they are my best friends and I trust them and I know they wont judge, so when telling someone do make sure its someone you would trust and who you know would be understanding and open minded

    • Kwan Ming September 12, 2015 at 3:58 am - Reply

      After having made one of the hardest decisions in my life to return to wearing diapers after being diagnosed with OBS/weak bladder syndrome was who should I tell?.

      This decission weighed heavily on my mind so much because I didn’t want to make a embarrassment out of myself, until one day I decided I need to tell someone else about my reasons for wearing diapers virtually every day and this situation came to a head in 2010 when I decided finally to tell my pearents and friends that I wear diapers and so I arranged a meeting and layed it out there in the hope someone who knew me would understand my predicament and some accepted it and some did not.

      I now wear diapers fully 24/7, and have to say ever since making this decission it has proven to be the right call, when I am diapered up not unlike a toddler or infant I feel soo comfortable and secure and I have noticed some very real benefits from choosing to do so and feeling like a baby/toddler again is not a bad thing because I have the feeling of total freedom and am less stressed out and therefore more healthier than I was before I returned myself to wearing diapers so much so I am starting to question why was I potty trained at all?.

      I have been through a lot in life and it hasn’t always been kind to me but I know if I am to live a normal life the only way to do this is to accept the fact I will be wearing diapers permanently for the rest of my life and I have no qualms about this fact as it makes me a better person and by my body having hit reset ao to speak I have discovered a sence of dignity and peace of mind that I hadn’t experienced in years and that was missing from my life and I don’t want to go back to not wearing diapers ever again, I have made my choice and now it’s up to me how I choose to live my life as I never want to live in fear ever again.

      I am also much better now than before because I don’t worry so much about the little things in life I can’t control and I am a more individual or unique person because of what I have become and I don’t ever want to change that fact because I am now a different person than the one who previously existed and this has to be a good thing even though some might not see it that way.

      Yours sincerely

      Kwan Ming

  2. diapermike June 3, 2009 at 2:10 am - Reply

    I am also incontinent and enjoy diapers. All my friends and family know I wear diapers for medical reasons but they dont know I enjoy them at least I dont think so. But I would like to tell them. How ever I have told them about having them on for security and they under stand . What are your thoughts?

  3. Mark June 3, 2009 at 3:57 am - Reply

    Those are great tips and they work! That is how I approached it with my girlfriend and now wife. After the initial ‘shock’ you can tell them that wearing just gives a comfortable feeling. Ease them into it and see what develops.

  4. Arvedin June 3, 2009 at 7:36 pm - Reply

    Yeah, it really depends on who you’re telling. I told a good friend of mine, who also happens to be my pastor. You’d think that would be nerve-wracking, but I just knew she’d be all right with it, so I just told her that it was a combination of a comfort thing, a subculture, and a fetish. She kind of makes fun of me now, but in a good-hearted way.

    She will occasionally use the word “depends” at the pulpit and glance over to see if I react.

  5. Jks16 June 6, 2009 at 3:06 am - Reply

    You know, I have found it is very similar to coming out as LGBT. But NOT telling tends to lead to more stress. Now I am SO glad I told my friends. They have been nothing but a bundle of support for me!! They all tend to tell me that A) Diapers are very important for me B) I must not wear adult diapers, but only baby diapers. I am SO much happier now that my friends support me. Every night when I diaper myself with my japanese gauze diapers (which I bought in the baby department) I play with my bunnies and smile so big, my face is often sore the next day!!

  6. Andy June 13, 2009 at 12:07 pm - Reply

    I am still a little nervous about telling anyone. I kind of feel I shouldn’t enjoy wearing diapers as I have no medical reason to wear them. I do enjoy the feel of a dipaer and the freedom it allows. Am I wrong to enjoy them with no reason to wear them?

  7. NappyBoyUK June 17, 2009 at 9:40 pm - Reply

    I don’t agree with this post – honesty has been a great policy for me. The past three girlfriends I’ve shared this with have been fine with it and happy to indulge me. One wasn’t keen on it herself, another wasn’t too bothered either way but enjoy indulging me. The third has actually started to show an interest and actively enjoys the diaper play.

    I don’t feel the need to share this fetish with my friends – why share your sex life with your friends? It’s a private thing between myself and my partners, not friends.

    I couldn’t recommend the route of pretending it’s a medical issue, it’s dishonest and misleading and I don’t see what good will come of it.

    Try not to worry too much – it’s really not a big deal and if you’re comfortable with it and yourself, then the people who care about you too will be also.

  8. Adrian June 18, 2009 at 12:43 am - Reply

    NappyBoyUK: One thing to keep in mind is that I don’t associate diapers with “sex life”. Your assuming I am referring or associating this with a sexual connotation, which I am not. All I am saying is people look at things differently…don’t just assume and make an incorrect judgment that I want people to flaunt their sexual fetish around.

  9. Andy June 24, 2009 at 3:10 am - Reply

    I have read a lot of the posts on this ite and a lot of mention of buying your adult diapers at the nearest pharmacy or store. I think this must be soething that only happens in America as I have looked around and the nearest you can get to a diaper is Tena Lady slip ons for weak bladders. I have always had to buy over the internet which costs that bit mor as you have to pay for the postage and packing. Does anyone know of over the counter sales in England or Scotland as I live in both countries at the moment.

  10. keith July 4, 2009 at 11:26 am - Reply

    I have found, over the years of diapering, that not telling someone of your wearing causes more self-induced stress than is necessary. I have always, since a young age (6 or so)had the compelling need to wear diapers. Could be I din’t like the wet bed or pants during ‘accidents’. But my mom, though tired of the cleaning up, instead of offering to use diapers for protection threatened to use them, putting a very negative, demeaning atmosphere about wearing diapers. I still did it, but couldn’t bring myself to let anyone know (mom did find a pair of plastic pants in my room once, but just shook her head and looked at me funny)and grew up being very secretive and nervous about using them. My ex-wife was pretty cooperative about it when I told her, right from the time we met, but a few years later completely rejected the whole subject and said she couldn’t respect me any longer if I kept wearing them. Again the rejection thing. So, now living on my own, I wear them as I please/need and go about my business. I suppose if she ever asks if I’m wearing again, I’ll tell her yes, and let it ride. I t was her decision to pack it in, so… The bottom line is, I believe, that if one decides to reveal their use of diapers to someone, the wearer simply needs to be prepared for other person not being open-minded enough to accept it. But, keeping it a secret can be self-destructive at the same time.

  11. Steve July 20, 2009 at 10:45 am - Reply

    I have worn Nappies for the past 40 year and still enjoy it as much now as when I first started I have been married three times the first two broke down because I would not stop wearing them but the third is great I wear them 24/7 and she fully understands.

  12. johnny August 10, 2009 at 3:45 pm - Reply

    I like to wear diapers I am 19 I wear them 24/7 my mom was out one day then when she came I did not hear her come in I was in my bedroom and she saw me. she now goes out and buys them for me she won’t let me wear underwear any more. then ond day In was out side and the lady next store to us saw me in just my diaper I ran in the house but it was to late she caught me and changed me. then she took my picture and said that if I don’t let her change me she will put it online so I let her change me she is 24 years old and I love it

  13. Pat August 14, 2009 at 12:00 am - Reply

    Adrian, could you help me out with telling my friend? She is an open minded person, my friend for 5 years. I trust her a lot and I just want to tell her. Could you help me???

  14. Jason Carpp September 14, 2009 at 1:18 pm - Reply

    It’s always difficult knowing what to say to people about you wearing diapers. Even with those you know and trust, I always feel like I’ve got something in my mouth and I’m always trying to get it out “spit it out”, but it won’t come out, and we both end up frustrated as hell because I want to say something important, and the person I’m trying to tell wants to understand what I’m saying. I know, I’ve been there. I always end up feeling like an idiot. I’m more than open to suggestions you might have.

  15. steven January 19, 2010 at 7:47 am - Reply

    i wear nappies mi self personly i think there good there padded there comfy …………..

  16. Robby February 4, 2010 at 12:57 pm - Reply

    I told my wife and friends that, when I was little, I had a week bladder (true still) and sometimes was put into diapers for long trips and when we stayed at someone house over night. And, for some reason I liked it and though I don’t really need them, I never grew out of it and still like wearing them. It makes me feel relaxed to wear one after a stressed day. So I put on a diaper instead of having a beer.

    Everyone I have told that to, has been ok with it.

    Recently though, I have really gotten involved in my church. I am actually the media pastor and have been feeling guilty about the “fetish” part of it because it is linked to sexual gratification as well as for stress relief. I’m really am confused.

  17. Jimmy jones August 21, 2010 at 5:40 pm - Reply

    I just want to tell people but I’m too afraid to even buy diapers for my bed wetting. Can you help me. Should I talk to doc and see wut he says

  18. Sissy Krystal September 7, 2010 at 8:25 am - Reply

    You really need to be very sure and careful about who you tell, and sometimes even your best friend can become so burdened by your secret that they will tell other’s.
    I found this out the hard way about 10 years ago, now believe it or not almost every person in the Seattle area knows that I’m a sissy baby and it has even spread to other states. Everyone tells 2 friends etc. etc.

    so now every!! place I go people I’ve never met hold there nose when they see me. I never! poop in my diapers and I only pee in them. At first I was very bothered by the pointing and laughing, but as time has gone by I’m glad everyone knows I’m a sissy baby and I now go out in public all the time wearing the cutest sissy dresses you ever saw and I’m always wearing Pampers Cruisers 7t and nursery print plastic pants that you can very clearly see under my very short sissy dresses and petticoats.

    No one has ever tried to hurt me yet! but I do get pointed at and laught at everywhere I go ,even in boy mode with no diapers on. And surprisingly very few people call me names, most people just tell me how cute I look and how pretty my dresses are. OK so I personally love the attention now! and I wear Pampers only, but my advice would be don’t tell anyone unless your prepared for the consequences.


  19. Zolta September 20, 2010 at 12:25 pm - Reply

    Hi all
    I live in the UK i am 43 male and love to wear nappies/diapers.
    I have absolutely no feelings for children im not a paedophile but if i told anyone i would be accused of that.
    I would love to meet a beautiful lady who enjoys wearing them to.
    The feeling wether wet or dry is unique a warm sentential feeling and blooming sexy that you can’t get anywhere else.
    I would like to know where to buy adult nappies/Diapers in UK as all i can get is childrens and have to wear tight pants to keep them on.
    Well ive told you but i think ill keep my secret to myself because i don’t think many people would understand why
    any help suggestions or even a lady who loves them to can contact me at
    [email protected]

  20. ryan November 21, 2010 at 10:01 am - Reply

    I wear diapers and i love it they are so awsome

  21. Jerry Scott December 4, 2010 at 6:55 pm - Reply

    Hi I wear diaper all the time and a church woman is talking to me about my diaper because she saw the egle of them. She told me she had a bladder problem too. I wear diaper because I am a adult baby and she want me to see her bladder doctor which I really do not need to see. Because I like wearing diaper Should i just tell her about my Adult baby life or just go see her Bladder doctor Please help me. always in diaper Jerry Scott my email is [email protected] Thank you for your help.

  22. babyevan December 5, 2010 at 10:41 am - Reply

    I would just tell her that you need to wear diapers and there isn’t anything that can be done about it. You wouldn’t be lying and also you’re not giving out to much info. She may not accept you for what you are, and she may tell others as well. I don’t think your entire church knowing about your underwear preference is something you’d want. People are generally accepting of incontinence, but ABDL is not widely understood and one could make some really bad assumptions.
    Regardless, the statement is true. You need to wear diapers for comfort/security, others will assume it’s because of an untreatable medical condition.

  23. Jerry Scott December 9, 2010 at 10:12 pm - Reply

    Babyevan Thank you for your nice note you wrote for me You are right that all she need to know that I wear diaper because she saw them all really I think she all right knowing that I wear diaper because she wear diaper for medical problem herself. But she want me to see her doctor should I or not help on this one Thank you for your nice note again

  24. NemesisWolfX December 20, 2010 at 9:40 pm - Reply

    Well.. Personally I usually just tell people I have to wear them. Technically its half-true. I have severe hemorroids (external and bleeding) and though a doctor said the ones I had were harmless (Uncomfortable though) they have caused me to have some minor leakage (Usually from the bleeding one) so most people don’t make an issue of it. Most of my family know I wear them, though I doubt any suspect that part of the reason I wear them is because I just prefer wearing them.

  25. Baby Mike January 6, 2011 at 5:23 pm - Reply

    I’ve told most of my close female friends and my wife. What I tell them is due to a back injury in construction many years ago, I go in and out of needing to wear diapers. In truth, I just enjoy wearing them and wetting and messing in them. I’m now 50 and I first remember wanting to wear diapers at age 7 and have wanted to ever since, although I didn’t start to act out regularly until I was 18 living on my own. Up until my early 20’s I used to go through bouts of guilt about what was wrong with me and I would throw out all my diaper fetish gear. Then I would end up buying it all again. I finally discovered the ABDL community in my mid twenties and gradually over time have stopped feeling guilty about my love of diapers. I don’t know if I would really want to be in them 24/7, though I sometimes fantasize about that. I do know that over the years the frequency of wearing them has increased and I now often go several days diapered 24/7 and loving it. After a day or so of wearing continuously, I find I begin to lose conscious control of my bladder, and to a lesser degree my bowels. In particular, I often find I am wetting my diaper before I realized I was about to. Messing my diaper usually has more advance notice, but after a day or so of wearing, I find that my bladder and bowels tend to relax and the first sign of pressure and I fill my diaper quite naturally. I don’t know if I am gradually training myself to become incontinent and this would not be an entirely undesirable outcome either. I wear diapers most evening, but find I have to wake up to pee; I’ve never wet my diaper while asleep. That said, I have found it increasingly easy to relax my bladder when I wake up and let the urine flow out, then I drift back off to sleep. I’m not certain I want 24/7 incontinence, but I would love to have nighttime incontinence.

    I love sitting around with my lady friends, knowing that they know that I’ve got a well diapered bottom. I usually wear sweats or something that ensures the crinkle of the diaper will be obvious and that the bulk unmistakeable beneath my sweats, which tend to hug the diapers a bit.

    Once I was sitting around the table with my wife, and four lady friends, all of whom knew I was a diaper wearer. Someone’s child was going through potty training (with limited success–heheh–I can relate to that!) and the discussion was around that. One person said that she didn’t understand why the little boy seemed to prefer to poo-poo in his diapers. She remarked that she had a strong urge to get the poo-poo away from her body as quickly as possible and she didn’t understand why the little boy seemed to want to continue to wear his diapers after filling them. Everyone else around the table agreed with her but I alone remained silent. There was a slight pause in the conversation, and I realized that each of them was probably wondering why my thoughts were on this topic since I was also a member of the diapered set. I didn’t add my comments, but of course, my thinking was that I very much enjoy wearing a wet and messy diaper and I change myself only with reluctance and mainly to avoid diaper rash. But I usually hold off for a little while; perhaps 30 minutes or so, after messing, just to enjoy the very pleasant full diaper sensation.

    OK..I’ll sign off here..these were just some random thoughts.

    Baby Mike

  26. Pamela May 12, 2011 at 12:26 am - Reply

    I used to laugh when I hear about people who liked wearing diapers. Being curious I decided to give it a try. I remember the first time I had on a diaper it took me forever to get it wet. Now I wear them under my skirts and dresses everyday.
    I’ve told three of my closest friends about my hidden secret and now all four of us have a weekend where we are all in diapers. The bathroom door is padlocked with our adult clothes inside. we have only baby clothes and diapers, we eat baby food, drink from bottles.
    The more I wear a diaper I want to be treated as an infant.
    We now have ti so we split the weekends as babies with mommies. When I am a mommy I am still in diapers.
    I’m very much used to soiling them or wetting them. One of the girls and I have decided to share an apartment. she likes being a Mommy and I like being the baby.

  27. Babyb July 3, 2011 at 9:26 pm - Reply

    I told my gf the medical problem story and she is so good. I wear nappies to bed every night, she buys them for me and has no idea I am a nappy lover

  28. Wes July 6, 2011 at 8:33 am - Reply

    I have both dreamed and nightmared of the day i told someone in my family this. Its been hard enough to tell any of my friends. Where my family is concerned i would much rather keep it quiet, it would be better for me and for them. Family is the worst critic in my life. It wasnt always that way but on certain subjects they are. Especially since its a medical issue with me, im sure they would laugh even more. Some things are better left unsaid. Now if only i could move farther away from them.

  29. Eeafy July 10, 2011 at 1:16 am - Reply

    I am eighteen and I have always loved diapers, apparently never wanting to be potty trained and then when i was about seven i would try and take them from my cousins house because my younger cousin still wore them. my family has pretty much forgotten about all of this and so far i have kept it a secret. i have no medical issue which requires me to wear the diapers but i have always felt a strong affinity for them. Although as of lately I have grown tired of keeping it to myself. my girlfriend and i are very close, and i am sure she wouldn’t tell anyone, although i am not sure if this would put an odd strain on the relationship because of the fetish aspect of this. while i would not classify myself as an adult baby, i am definitely a diaper lover because i can’t even look at one without getting some twang of either guilt, or longing. i know if i hold out long enough i will be able to have them whenever, but this is simply taking too long for me.
    To be honest this site is the first which i found i felt comfortable enough to add anything to the discussion. but here is what i have done so far
    The other day i decided to test the water with one of my friends, who ironically came out of the closet to me on a much more accepted topic, his homosexuality. but once i brought the discussion of “weird fetishes” to diapers, he immediately talked about how he couldn’t possibly understand it, and how there was this one kid(at the college i will be attending) he knew who lots of people made fun of for it. This concerns me, because I’d really rather not get shot down by my girlfriend and i don’t want to be ridiculed by other people. I am pretty sure my girlfriend shares they same feelings towards the “preference” as my friend. meaning she very well may not understand.
    Should i try and broach the subject? she has told me some of her deepest secrets and i feel like i am lying when i tell her that we can tell each other anything, seeing as I’m keeping this from her.
    idk if this post made sense, it is also my first blog post ever(if this is considered a blog) so hopefully someone can give me some feed back.

  30. 1smallguy July 12, 2011 at 11:58 am - Reply

    I’ve never just come out and told anyone (except my wife, who I met in an AB/DL chat room! :o) ) But…i am an RN and, though have never ‘worn to work’, have on TWO seperate occasions had female co-workers just come out and ASK me if i was an AB. Both times it was in private and so sudden that i blushed so much that they said ‘I thought so!’. And then wanted to talk about it some or diaper me.

    Too awkward to let a co-worker diaper me and besides am happily married and think this is for home only, but was happy to discuss it a little w. them as they were both friends. I don’t know what it is about me or my behavior that ‘gives it away’, but both said that i like kid stuff a lot and really do have such a ‘kid like’ outlook on life..maybe that’s it??

  31. Bobbi July 14, 2011 at 9:00 am - Reply

    Find a special friend and it sounds like you have. Sit her down and explain that your feelings like hers are extremely important and you want her to know how you feel. Not everybody likes the smell of poopy diapers and ammonia, I love it… but not so everybody else. Just be honest and caring she will understand, spill some baby powder on your bath towel or on the bed after making love and wear some on your body she will get the hint, if she gets hostile your answer will be there. If she is curious and says babe how come you dust your body with baby scented powder you can tell her about your love for her and diapers and see if her eyes get big and she smiles alot. If she loves you more than her hangups you have a mate and a good one too. Don’t ever mess this up and you won’t have to do this again.

  32. tsta101 August 18, 2011 at 6:17 am - Reply

    Hello i was going to tell my friends a couple of days ago but i backed down i was way to nervous to tell him that i liked wearing diaper but the things is that i dont know how to tell him i dont want to lie and tell him it is a medical reason he will know it is a lie and if i say the wrong thing he might think what i am doing and kind of stop talking to me, i know that he wouldn’t tell anybody but i am still worried that i might lose a friend, my best friend in fact. i really need some help if the person who originally posted this can contact me either by email or through this please i really would like to tell him it is not to get him involved or anything weird it is just i don’t tell someone i will feel like i was a freak and if i don’t tell anyone that i will be an outcast. so please help i really need to be open with my friend.

  33. Ashton September 21, 2011 at 3:43 pm - Reply

    I am 24 and honestly can remember obsessing over diapers since a VERY young age. I ignored it until I was in my fourth year of college (did two degrees back to back so stayed for 6 years toatl) and realized that I could easily test the waters living on my own ect. I have since worn most nights and would love the courage to wear in the daytime. I have always had bed wetting problems since I was younger but it wasn’t always frequent enough to wear protection, but now that I have been wearing at night for about 3 years, I get REALLY nervous when I can’t or don’t wear and often have accidents. I have been single two years and would love to start dating again but I can’t imagine hoe embarassed I’d be to tell someone. I also just moved into a house, one roomate, we hardly see each other but I fear he will “find out” even though i’m really discrete. I want to tell them so I don’t have to stress out about it, but I’m scared of humiliation. I know he won’t flip out on me, as I’m not an AB and I can’t say I’m sexually into them, It’s just the only thing that relaxes me, like one guy said above, instead of a beer, that’s what I do. I would love to wear a lot more but these fears prohibit me. I guess I’m asking your advice, perhaps through email and not on here, what you would suggest?

  34. mike September 25, 2011 at 7:02 pm - Reply

    I’ve enjoyed being in diapers for over 26 years now. I just couldn’t see myself
    NOT wearing them, even tho I don’t really need them for a physical reason.
    I guess that if I’ve been in them for this long, then I need them for a mental reason.

  35. KJ October 11, 2011 at 9:27 pm - Reply

    I’ve needed diapers at night for slightly more than half of my life (I’m almost 25). I also need them when I’m getting “drowsy” as I tend to leak. So while I can go unprotected during most of my day life, there are some times during my waking and social hours where a diaper is probably going to be required, and I’d rather be safe than sorry. A lot of times that has saved me from some situations that otherwise would have been pretty embarrassing and unsanitary.

    I’ve told a few online friends about it, people who seem open-minded enough to accept it. One thing I have learned through sharing my problems with other people, is that adults generally just don’t care what your flavor of underwear is – whether it’s briefs, boxers, panties, or diapers. A few people can be pretty brutal about it, and I’ve encountered that, but by and large the vast majority of people are pretty supportive. Or just don’t think it is any big deal at all.

    It’s not a fetish for me, at all (although I have to say, diapers ARE pretty comfortable when I’m dry, but that’s as far as it goes), which probably makes it easier as people are more likely to not make any big deal out of it if it is a medical condition, rather than a fetish. Basically, the way I explain it…I need diapers let me live my life as close to normal as I can get it. They aren’t a “handicap” or a “prison” or anything like that. They’re just a necessary piece of medical equipment that allow me to function normally in society.

    I’ve found that a bit of self-depreciating humor goes a long way to help that out, too. I’ve mentioned to people before that my family doesn’t know, because I don’t think they’d handle it in a mature way – and then I’ll add that it’s quite ironic, considering I’m the only one of them still in diapers :). It does help put people more at ease, lets them know how to react to the news better. If you’re able to joke about it and be at ease, then they can be at ease to. It lets them know it’s not a horribly sensitive subject that they need to dance around, and it lets them absorb the information better. At least that’s what I think. Anyway I do that to help ease tension and make people less uncomfortable with it.

    As for why I use the term “diaper” (I’ve been asked about that before) I mean, yeah, I know, it’s not the politically correct term…but let’s be honest, it’s a diaper. Call it a “brief” or an “incontinence product” or whatever else they’ve come up with, but at the end of the day, it’s still a diaper. I use that word because I think it helps disillusion the idea that diapers are only for babies and old people. They’re for anyone who doesn’t have 100% bladder and/or bowel control. Next time someone thinks about they, they think…oh wait, yeah. I know this guy online, he’s only 24, and he needs diapers. Not just for babies and old people.

    As for why I’m on here, well…like I said, not a fetish for me, but it is interesting reading about people for whom it is. I still don’t enjoy them but I figure maybe just reading about people do, will make them less of a burden for me. And it’s interesting, just reading about people who are into such different things. It’s a good way to broaden your horizons.

  36. Matty October 13, 2011 at 9:27 am - Reply

    I agree with Kj

  37. Spencer October 16, 2011 at 3:33 am - Reply

    I have liked diapers for a long time. I decided since I like them I might as well accept it and not be so ashamed of liking diapers. I just recently told my girlfriend who I have a great relationship with, sure enough she decided it wasn’t a big deal and she thought it was actually kind of cute! Score, hah! But anyways it was a big deal for me and she supports and even likes to participate sometimes! The real point of this personal experience is that I suggest to those of you who are trying to tell someone who is important to you just try and make it no big deal. Its a little crazy yes but hey at least its not dangerous or self-harming, right? In my case it really helped the relationship and made the trust between us grow a TON! I am super happy right now after learning these past 2 or 3 months how fun it can be when someone knows and still loves you! It can be quite the experience! 😉 Good luck to all of you!

  38. Tori December 3, 2011 at 8:56 pm - Reply

    As said before, it depends who you’re telling. With the friends I’ve told, I pretty much just first acted like it was a shameful thing, then had them guess it. A couple of months ago, I went on a confession binge for some reason, and where I used to be completely secretive about it, now several of my closer friends know, and they really don’t care. I was expecting some sort of shock, or dramatic reaction, and lots of questions, and I really didn’t get that.

    Friend 1: He’s an internet friend, and a fur. I don’t really remember how I told him, but he was totally cool about it.
    Friend 2: Another internet friend. I think he was slightly drunk when I told him, because he was more curious about why I wanted to tell him than the fact that I like to wear diapers
    Friend 3: A long-distance friend and one of my best friends. He was the only one who was sort of curious about it, and asked me a few questions.
    Friend 4: My first local friend, who’s also a fur. I’d told him before that I like to watch videos of other people diapered as kind of a fib, and the sly dog went and assumed I liked to wear them myself. He teased me constantly about it, which is okay, because I tease him about liking femboys 🙂
    Friend 5: Another local friend. I’d alluded to it by telling him I’d bought footie pajamas, and I made him guess it. It was actually on his mind, but he didn’t want to say it for fear I’d have an adverse reaction to him guessing that.

    My other best friend, who’s been my best friend for four years, I’ve never told. I’m too afraid of getting an adverse reaction from him. He told me he’d accept me no matter what, and I’m not too afraid of him leaving me, but I’m afraid of him being like, “Um… okay. See, I still like you, lol, now moving on.” I’d feel extremely awkward for the rest of forever. There’s really no reason to share that with him. When deciding whether or not to tell someone, think of how much you care if they leave you versus how accepting you think they’ll be.

  39. PikaDiaper January 11, 2012 at 5:31 pm - Reply

    I’ve had an interest in diapers probably since I was 7… I feel like watching Rugrats had something to do with it lol. I pretty much swept it under the rug until last year (age 20) when I started doing some research to make sure I wasn’t alone in all this, and thus found the ABDL community! 🙂
    It was then I bought a couple packs of Pampers size 7 Cruisers, but had to stop when I transferred to a university at which I’m staying in a dorm. But since I’ve been home on winter break I bought more diapers (have them hidden in my room from my parents).
    A little more than a week ago I mustered up the courage to tell my boyfriend my secret. The timing seemed right since we were talking about sex, even though we’re not yet sexually active. He told me he likes certain types of clothing and roleplaying, and I told him that I like wearing diapers. But to give him a better understanding, I explained it doesn’t have much to do with sex, but rather comfort, and that I just like how diapers feel. He was actually cool with it and is willing to participate! 😀 We have been building our relationship on trust, and I feel like I made the right decision.
    Confession is really good for the soul. ^_^

  40. Eric hix February 12, 2012 at 9:32 pm - Reply

    Its so good to no im not the only 1 who likes 2 wear diapers. Iv been wearing for over a year. So scared to tell wife of 15yrs. I told her last year i was abuse by a fam memeber my whole childhood. It didnt go over well she was mad couse i never told her.I wish i could stop but it feels sooo good. Dont kno what to do

  41. Sam March 27, 2012 at 6:57 am - Reply

    When my boyfriend told me about his love for diapers we were talking about fetishes. He told me that he imagined me dressed up like a baby. It took me a minute to go through bonets bibs and footsies and realize that he was talking about diapers. When I finally did realize what he was getting at though, I giggles and told him it was okay, and to make him feel comfertable that I wouldn’t be against giving it a try. Needless to say he was overjoyed and speachless. Later all of my childhood stories came out when discussing it more; how I had stole diapers from the boy I used to babysit when i was in fifth grade and how I once made a babysitter put me in some pull ups when I was six because she found some old ones in my closet and offered for me to wear them. My boyfriend and I now use diapers both sexually and just in roleplay of being babies. Sometimes he is the daddy and sometimes I am the mommy. We give each other baths and pamper each other in other ways, and it really brings us closer. I LOVE our relationship and honestly without diapers I believe we would have broken up with each other a long time ago. Let this be inspiration to those of you who have a boy/girlfriend or a wife/husband who is in the dark about your secret. If they are not willing to accept a moderate use of diapers, maybe they are not ment for you.

    Eric Hix: Tell your wife how you feel and DON’T let what has happened in the past make this something you hide longer. What if she accepts you and you have wasted time that could have been spent with her ENJOYING your fetish.

  42. Clare May 5, 2012 at 3:30 am - Reply

    I love wearing adult nappys. And I wear them for a medicAl reason are their any mommys to help change me

  43. Star lighter June 17, 2012 at 10:34 pm - Reply

    I am a 22 year old female and I tried to work up the courage to tell my girlfriend (I’m a lesbian) that I enjoy wearing diapers. I did exactly as mentioned and she smacked me, called me a disgusting freak and broke up with me!!!! These suggestions ruined my life!

  44. pamperedchef July 1, 2012 at 1:06 am - Reply

    @star lighter” ….if thats what she really did .? then your ” life ” was ..
    Already .. “ruined “

  45. Yawgmoth July 5, 2012 at 10:37 pm - Reply


    I have always loved to wear diapers but never told anyone about it as I was to scared about their reaction. Now recently I have finally told my girlfriend that I have a “medical issue” and that when I drink in the evening I sometimes have an accident at night. We had been together already for almost 3 years but since I normally don’t drink after dinner I told her that I don’t drink after dinner to prevent this from happening but that I do sometimes wake up with a headache and if she minds if I would wear diapers as this will give me a better sleep. (the fact that in general my bladder is quite weak made it sort of believable for her I guess).

    She was oke with me ordering diapers but is not too happy about it as she can not get real excited with me wearing diapers, so I just wear them on and off (whenever I drink in the evening).

    I am not sure whether I should tell here about the fact that I actually like to wear diapers as she did not react real well when she heard something about DL on tv but I would really like her to wear a diaper sometime and I know that she is quite open with other things and doesn’t mind to sometimes do something that I really like but she might not be into.

  46. Thomas July 9, 2012 at 8:48 pm - Reply

    You tell a person you can trust. I can’t tell my dad that I wear diapers. He think I crasy or get mad. I not sure how people in my church. What about Christians? How people tell there Christian brother or sister have to wear diapers? Nothing to do whith adult baby.

  47. Christian August 26, 2012 at 11:06 pm - Reply

    I’am a diaper lover since I was 7 years, Im 30 y/o this is my hidden secret.. I have not tell to one not even to my ex-girlfriend,I used diapers as a fetish to be plewp_ed I don’t know why I use diaper for plewp_e not for any medical condition…y love specially cloth diapers and plastic pants using onesies and baby bottles…even wetting diapers make more plewp_e.

  48. breanna September 6, 2012 at 9:51 pm - Reply

    i got started to liking cloth diapers and plastic pants when i was 14.i was born a premmie and was never baptized when i was an parents finially had me baptized at 14.since we are catholic they dressed me in the traditional white poofy short baptism dress with a bonnet,lace socks and slippers.the put a thick cloth diaper and plastic pants,[rubberpants as they called them]on me with a tee sirt that i wore under my dress for the whole day.i liked wearing them and felt like a baby.for my first communion at 15,i wore them again and liked it and started wearing them quite often after that.i was confirmed at 17 and had to wear the white dress and veil and put the diaper and plastic pants on and wore them under my boyfriend stuck his hand up under my dress to pinch me and felt my diaper and plastic pants and asked why i was wearing them and i told him they make me feel pure like a baby.i didnt have to teel him i wear diapers,he found out for himself!

    • clarice a. July 11, 2016 at 1:53 pm - Reply

      Omg Breanna-i had the same thing happen to me,only i was 16,but i wore the same outfit as you did for my baptism! My boyfriend saw my cloth diaper and the babyprint rubberpants i had over it and thought i looked so cute and adorable.He cuddled me and even told me i was his baby girl.

  49. JEFF September 7, 2012 at 1:29 pm - Reply

    i wear diapers and the hardest thing is to find a girlfriend that understands and maybe even help you change your diapers, i fineally found my girl in the philippines, see youtube “JEFF AND JERAMIE” HELP ME FIGHT FOR CUSTOMER SERVICE FOR THE TAXES WE ALREADY PAY, AND NOT THE BS AND RED TAPE WE GET NOW CALL SEN.TOM UDALL OF NEW MEXICO TELL HIM TO START HELPING THE LITTLE GUY NOT JUST THE RICH AND WELL CONNECTED!!

  50. HS December 18, 2012 at 1:09 am - Reply

    I am in diapers 7x24x365 and have been for 4 years. I wear cloth diapers with rubber pants because I like them and they are much more economical than dispisable diapers. I have had prostate problems and could not pee. My prostate restricted the flow so badly had to be catheterized. After a month with a catheter, I got a urinary tract infection that took 4 months to cure. I was put on medication to relax my uterer. It did the job but I peed unexpectedly. I chose diapers over an indwelling catheter. Now I’m incontinent and need to wear them all the time. I’ve become a diaper lover. Diapers and rubber pants give me a sense of security I don’t have when I am not wearing diapers. I occasionally use condom external catheters or a McGuire type external catheter when I get a diaper rash or just get tired of wearing diapers 7×24. I wet myself all the time night and day and have given up bladder control because of my prostate and that I’ve become a DL.

  51. Erik December 23, 2012 at 8:44 am - Reply

    If someone doesn’t accept you for who you truly are, they’re not a true friend. Diapers are a plain and simple ‘good friend filter’.

  52. Mrs. Treadwell November 24, 2013 at 2:06 am - Reply

    My reason for wearing diapers is strictly because of medical issues and I absolutely despise them… I am 19 years old and I am a college sophomore. Recently I started dating an old friend and we have become so close. He knows everything about me – except that I wear diapers and have to do catheters. We have planned to move to LA in the next few months to start a life. I love him so much and I know he loves me and he has told me that there is nothing that would change the way he thinks of me. But I’m TERRIFIED that this will. We want to get married amr eventually have a family…. what should I do???? Where shoulrbi start???? Somebody please help….

  53. bruh May 28, 2015 at 7:40 pm - Reply

    I can’t tell my family I wear diapers what should I do?!

  54. Josh August 10, 2015 at 2:06 am - Reply

    Hey Mrs. Surely,
    I have always love to wear diapers and I really don’t have any idea to begin the conversation. I want to talk to my mom about it but at the same time I feel ashamed to talk to her about wearing diapers. Can u please help?

  55. A.J. August 13, 2015 at 12:17 am - Reply

    One of my biggest fears whenever I started a new job was telling my boss about my incontinence though as the years went by I noticed all the bosses i had were very understanding about the subject of incontinence. However most of my co-workers I’ve had not so much.

  56. Donte Reese January 1, 2017 at 9:02 am - Reply

    I have an issue….
    My name is Donte and I am 13 years old. I absolutely love the sight of diapers and I love the feel of a wet and full diaper. I just don’t have a way to get them bc I’m worried that if I tell my mom that I’m in love with diapers and that I want to start using them, she might laugh at me and mock me for the rest of my life….
    Can u plz help me??

  57. Northshore gamer September 11, 2018 at 12:59 am - Reply

    Have your Dr tell your girlfriend cause it’s a doctor telling her an he or she will explain why, so your girlfriend will understand the reason behind it. It’s much different having a professional tell her cause they don’t fool around or tolerate any ” making fun of you from your girlfriend. Threw the eyes of your Dr it’s not a joking matter it’s to be dealt with from an adult perspective and not to be joked or made fun of. Did you know more men are incontent than women and for more information you can go to YouTube an watch the owner of Rearz inc give you the low down on incontence an who it effects. The Owner actually is a retired RN an is very nice.

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