While I do enjoy sharing my photos and I do understand some of the risks with that – I was hoping that people would appreciate the reason why I copyright and do not want my photos distributed everywhere.  It seems as if someone has used some sort of software to copy my images from my blog and elsewhere.  If I continue to find people ripping off my photos and posting them elsewhere then I will be forced to stop taking photos and posting them and sharing them.

I understand I am sure there are some who save them somehow to their computer and I am willing to accept that…but NOT distribute them.  If I continually find my photos distributed on other sites then I will not take photos any longer and share them on here nor anywhere else.  I like to keep my photos here and only here as much as possible.

I am sure there are going to be the negative people and say “well if its on the internet then its fair game” – don’t bother commenting if you are going to say that.  I copyrighted them for a reason and have gone to a couple mewp_es to indicate I would not like them distributed everywhere.  Show a little bit of respect and courteousness for what other people provide, please.  This is the type of thing that makes me hesitant on sharing more photographs on the internet is because people go to great extremes and feel they can do what they want in this community and elsewhere.  If you are the one doing this – I would really appreciate it and warn you to stop..

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  1. Jas June 10, 2009 at 12:30 am - Reply

    Well, under the Berne convention, there’s really no need to copyright works you created, unless you actually underwent the process to register and copyright them, which has no benefit for creative works unless having the copyright violated would cause statutory damages.

  2. Adrian June 10, 2009 at 12:52 am - Reply

    The copyright is actually not needed on my photo at all – as I am the owner of the photograph and the copyright is actually there regardless of whether I put it on there or not. Unless I specifically note it as “free” then I can technically pursue legal action if I so choose. I just wish people would respect the copyrights and efforts and notifications that I ask in regards to my photos and distribution. If you save them then fine, but I ask that you do not distribute.

  3. Thomas June 10, 2009 at 1:27 am - Reply

    Trade your anger and bad mood for flattery. Be happy that we all think you are so worthy and sexy enough as to go through the trouble to take the pics to keep as our own. Its the internet Adrian it was bound to happen sooner or later, don’t act so shocked, our community has been teeming with slim balls for years and the number only keeps growing. Nothing to be upset over honestly i would be flattered.

  4. Adrian June 10, 2009 at 1:52 am - Reply

    Its not anger…its called respect. Something a good amount of people in this community lack. I am not flattered. This blog is MY way of expressing myself and it is only secondary to entertain. I am just making a request they not be distributed.

    I am not shocked…I knew I was going to end up addressing it and now I am. I am the one doing the work, making the blog posts, posting photos, etc. Don’t lecture me on “this it the internet” – I said that in my post if you are going to post something like that then please refrain from commenting.

  5. Thomas June 10, 2009 at 2:57 am - Reply

    I didnt mean anything negative by it. Calm down, Your right its your blog but what can you do ya know. no need to get upset. I think its alot to ask of people when you talk about respect from strangers on the net.

  6. Adrian June 10, 2009 at 3:06 am - Reply

    Respect should be universal. I’m as a calm as a lamb. No reason to disrespect, period. Someone is providing something that helps a lot of people and I guess the least I could ask is people respect to a degree some of my requests.

  7. D June 10, 2009 at 6:56 am - Reply

    Stealing from pay-sites is one thing – equally immoral of course, but people are greedy so there is at least a logical reason to their behaviour. Redistributing content from a site such as this one is just disrespectful.

    I appreciate your blog, keep the spirit up.

    Thank you.

  8. Dave June 10, 2009 at 10:23 am - Reply

    Just thought I’d let you know the only reason I stumbled across this blog is because I noticed some pics somewhere else and searched for more info.

    I understand why you’re annoyed but who knows, it might bring more people along to this great site?


  9. Thomas June 10, 2009 at 11:56 am - Reply

    Yes unfortunatly in todays world that is a little too much to ask. There is always someone that gonna screw it up for the rest.

  10. Sean June 10, 2009 at 9:36 pm - Reply

    Not that I condone what this person did, it’s really rotten that people have zero regard for personal respect, but (there’s always a ‘but’) it was only a matter of time. Unfortunately, it’s the nature of the internet beast. It’s kinda like leaving a $20 bill on a park bench and saying “Ok people, this is my money. I’m going to go do some things and I expect it to still be here when I get back!”

    I’m sorry that this happened, but don’t lose faith, there’s still some good AB/DLs out here 🙂

  11. william June 10, 2009 at 9:55 pm - Reply

    i totally agree ppl shouldn’t go an spread “personal” photos around. she has put things in her photos to curb ppl doing that obviously she does not want her photo popping up where she didnt put it. yes its posted on line she’s sharing it with ppl but really its coming with the stipulation that ppl would respect her an not put them where ever they want.

    i’ve enjoyed your photos hope the stealing stops


  12. wetnbulky June 10, 2009 at 10:58 pm - Reply

    Adrian, I understand your frustration. Windows vista now comes with a “snipping” tool that allows you to draw a box around anything on your screen and save it as a jpg. Even if your images are flash, it’s very easy for them to be copied.

    I, for one, appreciate your photos and would love to see more. I’m saddened that people are not respecting your wishes and that the photos may go away. While there’s nothing I can do to stop people from stealing, I would like to encourage you to not let their actions change how you blog. You have a good thing going here.

  13. twittertweet June 11, 2009 at 1:30 am - Reply

    there are several ways to look at this. ultimately, the best alternative is not to continue with positing your pictures and your other personal information.

    what you are doing is brave in many ways. the fetish you have is different, and most people find it revolting, unappetizing, and downright disgusting. in light of this general perception by the public, you are brave by sharing very personal pictures, thoughts, experiences and other information.

    your name, location, and age are available for anyone to collect and create a good idea who you are, what you do and where you live. easily, your neighbors, co-workers, friends’ friends and other who do not care for you can piece together a great deal of information about you. you have exposed yourself and your life to others who may not have any intention of being respectful for what you are and who you are. for them you are just another easily degradable person, someone whose weaknesses can be exploited.

    i urge you to be careful and reconsider your openness in light of the lack of trust that you experience in others. this is only a tip of an iceberg, and the sooner you shroud your person and personality into secrecy, the better.

    another, final, consideration. what happens 10 – 15 years in the future when your website will be read by your kids, their friends, and their friends’ parents.

  14. SabrinaC June 11, 2009 at 1:59 am - Reply

    Wow…I kinda want to kick Ryan in the balls. Your pictures are yours and yours alone and people should respect that.

  15. Josh June 11, 2009 at 5:14 am - Reply

    I deff. understand. I’ve had that happen with a few of my pictures…and a few people used my pictures as their profile pictures claiming them as their image. That got me pissed.

    However, you do run a website, so maybe it’s a good oppourtunity to post all pictures from now on with your website right on them. If they are getting distributed, use them to your advantage! Make sure people know where they are from the second they look at them. It might increase traffic.

    But hey, it’s completely understandable if you need to take down the photos. I’m always concerned about my privacy too, especially for such a “socially taboo” subject as diapers. It’s your right to do whatever the hell you want with your image.

  16. blue June 11, 2009 at 9:31 pm - Reply

    make it so when you enter the site you have to accet to the user agreements and if someone does something like this they violate the agreements and there ip addres is banned or something lol

  17. Josh June 11, 2009 at 10:53 pm - Reply

    This is completely off the topic. I was wondering if anyone has ever developed blisters around the hip and waist line area? Thanks for your time and the work that you do to keep the blog going.

  18. Box by Box June 11, 2009 at 11:24 pm - Reply

    (wall of text, I’m not editing it because it’s my true thoughts.)
    Welcome to the arguement that rages the internet over. It’s a place to exchange ideas, artistic insight, and occasionaly (unfortunatly) someone else’s work. I’m sure you are referenceing the Posts on ABKingdom, as when I saw them there I thought, ‘oh shit, Someone’s not going to be happy. The problem is, for everyone of your viewers that has respected your wish that your content not be spread, it was only a matter of time for the one bad apple. Truely I’m surprised that it took this long. Though I would like to point out, in a community where others take pictures and use them to claim to be someone else, this is the most minor of infractions that could happen.
    I can think of a dozen times since I found diapers on the internet, that someone has said ‘don’t take this stuff I’m putting here’ and someone has done just that. With love and respect, you said yourself you knew it was coming. Did You put it up just to get angry when someone did? Or did you do it to share something of yourself? There are enough well mannered, respectful people in this community to make up for the slime balls IMO, and I think you know that.
    It sucks that people can’t respect the author’s wishes, please don’t forget though how many people that meant respected your wishes, and continue to do so.
    I for one have found it nice to see another couple who have diapers as part of their life flourish, the pictures are fun and help with giving those of us cursed to be visual something to relate to. Hope your day gets Better. 🙂

  19. J June 14, 2009 at 6:49 am - Reply

    Pictures will always be a probelem, I have seen no good program that prevents people from making copies of a picture posted on the internet.

    I like your pictures very much altough I do not distrubute you pictures I can understand that there are people who just cant help themselve , it’s just something you can not prevent.

    I hope it does’nt stop you from making pictures.

  20. A July 21, 2009 at 5:30 pm - Reply

    Adrian I respect your wishes, and completely understand where you’re coming from. Unfortunately, there’s little you, or I, or anyone else can do to prevent a few screwballs from ruining things for the rest of us. I was hoping to see your “used diaper” photos a few posts above this one, and was wondering why they weren’t there; now I know why.

    I’d like to address the subject of Copyright for a moment, because it seems that many here don’t understand it. In the USA and most other western nations, as soon as something is “fixed in a tangible medium,” it is copyrighted. The moment Adrian takes her photo, it is copyrighted. If she chooses to waive the copyright, she may, if she chooses to enforce it as she does, she may. Simply adding “Copyright -year- -name-” or something similar only notifies others that the material is copyrighted. This can prevent people from claiming “innocent infringement” in court.

    Jas mentioned registration in the first comment. Registration and copyright are two totally different things, but they go hand in hand. If Adrian registers her photos with the US Government, she receives “full” copyright protection for 100 years + death, and the ability to seek punitive damages in a lawsuit. However, if Adrian does NOT register her photos, after only 20 years, they fall into the public domain–this is part of how the government encourages registration of Copyrighted material. It’s also worth noting that if Adrian were to register her photos solely to sue someone, she would be ineligible to receive punitive damages. (Statutory damages would still be rewarded.) It’s worth pointing out that the reason many people don’t resort to lawsuits is the fact that they’re costly and time-consuming.

    It’s also worth mentioning “Fair Use” here. Copyrighted material, may be distributed IN PART under the Fair Use Doctrine provided that it meets certain conditions. For example, the material cannot be sold. In most cases, it MUST be for educational purposes, and of course, people are allowed to retain a piece of Copyrighted material that they come across. Adrian has already stated that she doesn’t mind if you download her photos as long as you don’t share them. This actually falls under Fair Use; people can legally save an image (note that I said “an image” and not “images;” there are limits,) whether or not the Copyright holder likes it or not. As far as redistribution goes, if Adrian took a single photo from one event, it would likely not qualify for any form of Fair Use redistribution. However, if Adrian, or I, or anyone else, took a set of photos, and someone redistributed one photo from that set, that would likely qualify for Fair Use, and again, there’s no legal action that any of us could take.

    A final point regarding Fair Use that Adrian might want to consider is the use of thumbnails. The US Supreme Court has ruled that thumbnails are ineligible for copyright protection, and thus, fall under public domain, even if the full sized work is copyrighted. Perhaps Adrian could offer thumbnails for redistribution, in an effort to prevent people from continuing to steal her work.

    This is a direct quote from Adrian: “This blog is MY way of expressing myself and it is only secondary to entertain.” Adrian, while I admire your openness, you must realize that your blog is not just a public blog, but is considered “published” from a legal standpoint, and subject to the same rights as all other published material. People may take small amounts of text from here to quote you, write papers for classes (most likely Sociology and Psychology,) with quotes and paraphrases attributed to you, and that this is legally permissible. If you don’t want anyone quoting your blog entries, the best course of action would be to create a private blog that only you can access.

    Adrian, let me be honest: I sympathize–no, I empathize with you. I work professionally with video. I’ve seen people take my content and redistribute it without so much as giving me credit for my work, and I realize that there’s nothing that I can really do about it other than file a lawsuit that will likely cost me more in the end than simply letting the thief use my material in the hope that they don’t remove my watermark, which I try to keep as unobtrusive as possible.

    Personally, I don’t even really mind if people redistribute my content as long as they A) Give me credit for it/don’t pass it off as their own, B) Don’t profit from it, and C) Let me know if they do something really unique with it. If people want to distribute my photos or videos without a watermark on them, then all I ask is that they pay me and give me credit for the time and effort I put into my work. Again, I’m pretty lenient about who can redistribute works that I have created on my own with a few exceptions, and I usually make those known ahead of time.

    Again, I understand that you want to keep your photos in one centralized location, and I’ll respect your wishes, but you might want to consider something that would deter theft from the few bad apples that are taking your photos. You could offer up thumbnails and ask that people link to your website if they use them. You could go to the sites where your photos are being redistributed and ask their owners to take them down, and even offer the thumbnails in their place.

    As for the people who blatantly take content when they’re asked not too and their even worse ilk who subsequently pass it off as their own work: At least attempt to credit the person or persons you’re ripping off! You people should be ashamed of yourselves. Adrian doesn’t want her photos redistributed–it’s a pretty simple request that you should be able to follow. I don’t want my “bugged” photos or videos redistributed without attribution, and if you want access to my unbugged work, then monetary compensation would be nice. Those of us who are content creators put a lot of time and effort into our work, if we want you to share it, we’ll let you know. When we don’t want you to share it, we’ll let you know; the least that you could do is respect our wishes. While there me be little legal action we can take against you in many situations, this isn’t a matter of legality, it’s a matter of ethics, and as Adrian has already mentioned, respect. Respect our work, respect our rights, and respect our wishes. Adrian is under no obligation to allow anyone to redistribute her photos, and I’m under no obligation to allow anyone to redistribute my content either. When I do allow people to redistribute my content–for free–I make a few requests, and I simply ask that people RESPECT them.

    Adrian, I feel for you, I really do, and understand that I deal with similar content theft all the time. I’m sure I don’t even see most of it, and as far as my own AB/DL stuff goes, I try to post it in many places myself simply to avoid having others claim it as there own.

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