Let’s talk a little bit about misconceptions of the ABDL community. Unfortunately, many outside of our wonderful diapered world have too many misconceptions about what exactly our world involves. I wish I could just write to everyone and help them listen. To see what we aren’t as bad as some people seem to think.


What exactly are the misconceptions I’m talking about?

Those in the ABDL community are not interested in sexual contact with minors

This is probably one that I hate the most. Where did such a wonderful, happy community get this crazy idea from? We are simply interested in feeling cared for, loved, and like the feeling like that of children. We like the comfort that diapers bring and all things that go with it. It’s harmless, comforting, and enjoyable for all of us!


That those who wear diapers or are a part of the ABDL community do it for sexual reasons.

While there are some who get sexual gratification from diapers, for most of us it goes much deeper than that. The emotional response for me is what it truly is all about. The comfort and feeling of innocence that goes along with being diapered is truly what makes me love the ABDL community. The community in itself is so excepting and loving, how can you not want to be a part?


That those in the ABDL community are all “FREAKS.”

I can’t tell you how much I hate the world FREAKS. I’ve heard it all my life in some way or another and its beyond frustrating. Why is it that when someone is different or enjoys something different that get that awful label? The truth is those like me who are a part of the ABDL community just want to feel LOVE. They want to feel like they belong somewhere and they want to be taken care of. For someone like me it is a necessity, but I still long for that feeling of being cared for and the innocence.


That the ABDL community is dominated by males.

No hate to the wonder males of the ABDL community, but many times females are overlooked. Many believe that males dominate the community but I can’t tell you how many times women have reached out to me who are in all different walks of life. I do think many of the women in the community often aren’t as outspoken, but they are there and there are a good number of them! There are even many other professional women like me a part of the ABDL community and that makes me so happy!


Like with any community or anything that to others may seem “different” there are many misconceptions. I hope that just like with anything that people can step back and realize that we are all the same in many ways, we want love, to be cared for, and to feel happy. If we have something that gives us all those things then that’s something worth keeping!

By |2017-06-23T00:36:52+00:00June 23rd, 2017|ABDL|18 Comments


  1. Mr. Casey Lee Anderson June 23, 2017 at 11:10 am - Reply

    Yeah I always wondered why people thought that but my guess is b/c they think most of the “women” in the AB/DL Community might be genetically (x-y chromosome) men or sissy babies. Which people don’t count as a true woman, I’m trying to explain this how others view the community as. They view or how in there world its supposed to be, they prefer genetic boys to stay boys and genetic girls to stay girls. Because they view that all “girls” are actually transgender when they expect “cisgender” ones. However my name is Mr. Casey Lee Anderson and I’m a 26yr old heterosexual (straight), genetic(x-y chromosome) adult male in both my adult size and baby side. Yes I’m an AB/DL but also a daddy to other adult babies/diaper lovers, but only to heterosexual (straight), genetic (x-x chromosome), cisgender girls. That’s what I would prefer. True it might be offensive, but here are some of my pet peeves

    Some of my pet peeves involve religious stuff Christianity stuff, because I believe that what we see as adult babies, that is how God the father sees us all, because we are gods children, key word “children” and the age or ages the word “children” dictate is well, from the toddler age to preteen age, b/c do you hear the words ” God’s teenagers or God’s adults no you don’t . we always hear God’s children and the AB/DLs dress how God the father sees us as. Which means they are dressing how god expects them to dress as long as they are born boys and dress as a boys or born as girls and dress as girls meaning he(God the father) EXPECTS ALL OF HIS CHILDREN TO BE CIS-GENDER, AND HETEROSEXUAL MEANING GOD THE FATHER EXPECTS BOYS, GENETIC (X-Y CHROMOSOME) BOYS TO BECOME MEN. AND HE ALSO EXPECTS THE MEN TO BE HETEROSEXUAL ONLY NO MATTER WHAT AND HE EXPECTS GIRLD, GENETIC (X-X CHROMOSOME) GIRLS TO BECOME WOMEN AND HE EXPECTS WOMEN TO BE HETEROSEXUAL ONLY AS WELL. BECAUSE DEUTERONOMY 22:5 AND 1 CORINTHIANS 6:9-10 ARE TECHNICALLY UNFORGIVABLE SINS THOGUH THERE ARE CERTAIN WAYS FOR THE UNFORGIVABLES TO BE FORGIVEN.

    Deuteronomy 22:5 “A man must not wear a woman’s garments and neither should a woman wear a man’s garments for “all” “who” “do” “so” “are” “an” “abomination” “to” “your” “lord” “thy” “god.”

    An Abomination usually means unforgivable and shall not inherit usually means unforgivable as well, depending on what Category you belong in.

    Follow the Categories below and I hope you would be able to understand:

    Category 1: If you “haven’t fully accepted Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior and “haven’t been baptized=Breaking Deuteronomy 22:5 and 1 Corinthians 6:9-10(More explanation on that verse later)=Forgivable

    The Category 1 above depicts atheists and/or non-believers in Jesus Christ.

    Category 2: If you “have” fully accepted Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior, but “haven’t” been baptized=Breaking Deuteronomy 22:5 and 1 Corinthians 6:9-10=Forgivable

    The Category 2 depicts believers, but unbaptized believers, because they believe that they might accidently sin, or might accidentally commit, an unforgivable sin. Which is the reason why some believers don’t get baptized until they are in their old age.

    Category 3: If you “have” fully accepted Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior and “have” been baptized=Breaking Deuteronomy 22:5 and 1 Corinthians 6:9-10=Unforgivable.

    The Category 3 depicts believers of Jesus Christ and more specifically, baptized believers that believe every word of the bible or almost every word, but the main ones that they have to believe are the verses that have “detestable,” “shall not inherit”, “abomination” and other synonyms of those same words and Well, I fall under the Category 3 section. And I don’t want to commit the sin that is in the Deuteronomy 22:5 verse.

    Now I’ve told you I would explain the 1 Corinthians 6:9-10 verse and I will, but first read the verse(note: the stuff I put in the parenthesis describes, what kinds of people wouldn’t be allowed to get into heaven based on the verse.)

    1 Corinthians 6:9-10:
    Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators(people who have sexual intercourse or any type of sexual act outside of marriage), nor idolaters(believers in other divine being besides God the father, remember God the father is a jealous God), nor adulterers(rapists, and any similar person in that area, no matter whether they act on their urges or not.), nor homosexuals(gays, lesbians and bisexuals), nor effeminate(cross-dressers,transvestites, transgenders and transsexuals and any part of the gender spectrum that is not completely masculine or completely feminine, in other words, A “boy” is supposed to become a man no matter what his brain tells him otherwises and A girl is supposed to be come a woman no matter who her brain tells her otherwise, the sex/gender in gods POV(Point of View) is based on the genitalia, not the brain.), nor abusers of themselves with mankind(people with all sorts of addictions), nor thieves(self-explanatory), nor covetous(jealous people who want what you have), nor revilers(those who hate the message of the gospel or any similar means), nor extortioners(hustlers is one example but I bet there are many more types of them) shall inherit the kingdom of God.”

    The word “nor” translate the last part of the verse “shall inherit the kingdom of God” to “Shall not inherit the kingdom of God.”

    And The 1 Corinthians 6:11 which says this: “And Such were some of you: but ye are washed, but ye are sanctified, but ye are justified in the name of the Lord Jesus, and by the Spirit of our God.”

    The 1 Corinthians 6:11 means you have to be in the Category 3: and stop committing sinful acts or at least stop committing the unforgivable sinful acts before you get baptized otherwise you will go to hell.
    So hopefully I have explained this rather well, because I don’t want to see anybody i know or know of by reputation in hell. but check out my life story of well How I Fell Victim to Two of the Worst Sins Imaginable and How I Overcame Them by Casey Lee Anderson and it’s on sale at lulu.com so you can understand where my explanations come and in the story there is another explanation about AB/DLs/Mommies to AB/DLs/Daddies to AB/DLs.
    Yes God expects us to dress like the adult babies, I guarantee you. but we still have our adult minds the only thing that changes is how we dress. and yes, God the Father suggests that as long as there are wars going on the world, we are all immature children fighting one another. when we should be getting along with one another. the countries/continents are like Cain and Abel on a global scale, which means we are all immature children and if we continue fighting, then god expects us to dress like the immature children we act as. And When or if we do come together and dress like the adult babies do. God expects, Genetic(x-y chromosome) boys(No matter if you, cisgender or not) to dress in the boys or mens section of the clothing company. NO MATTER WHAT. OR if you are a Genetic(X-X CHROMOSOME) GIRL(NO MATTER IF YOU ARE CISGENDER OR NOT, TO DRESS IN THE GIRLS/WOMENS/JUNIORS/MISSES SECTION NO MATTER WHAT. THIS IS WHAT GOD THE FATHER HIMSELF EXPECTS.

    I humbly apologize and ask for forgiveness if this comment offended you or anyone else for that matter. Thank you for listening.

  2. Darryl June 23, 2017 at 11:18 am - Reply

    Pretty sad in this world that being Gay is fine but wearing diapers as an adult is unspeakable, as I wear and enjoy the feeling of security in them. I’ve been wearing for many years and will keep on wearing, althought it would be nice to find a mate.

  3. A.J. June 23, 2017 at 2:02 pm - Reply

    Me and my fiancée don’t find anything sexual with our abdl sides even though with our incontinence we just enjoy our time together and being diapered together even though diaper changes are an intimate time we wear for security and comfort and enjoy it. I can’t count how many times me and my fiancée have been asked do you do anything sexual with your abdl sides and it annoys me everytime I’m asked.

  4. Shauna June 23, 2017 at 2:52 pm - Reply

    Well said as usual
    Seems like we defend ourselves a whole lot.
    If they took the time they would find some great folks in our community

  5. tom June 23, 2017 at 3:36 pm - Reply

    it seems these people that think they know what they are talking about really don’t and they should spend a week in diapers and or plastic panties and see what its all about most would probably have a change of tune after they realize what they have been missing

  6. Izzy June 23, 2017 at 5:15 pm - Reply

    This is something I needed to hear. I’ve been insecure with this part of myself since I realized how important diapers are for me.

  7. Paul Freeman June 23, 2017 at 7:02 pm - Reply

    Thank you Adrian for your honesty and sharing your thoughts. We need to get this out to the community, somehow.

  8. Jonathan June 23, 2017 at 10:53 pm - Reply

    I like diapers

  9. William Beck June 24, 2017 at 1:56 am - Reply

    True I agree with It all I wear because It comforts me makes me feel innocence and Love No We aren’t freaks Yes I hate that Word. I don’t get Sexual Gratification from any of it in the Abdl Community and I think if there were a way to get everyone to Understand that We are different not weird or freaks and if we could get the world to accept us for who we are than I would be up for helping that to happen

  10. Bobindiapers June 24, 2017 at 2:16 am - Reply

    Really amazing that you bring this up now…as just the other day I had some younger folks go out of their way to publicly make a point to look hard at my padded behind and laugh loudly at me. Really pissed me off. Normally I could care less that people know I wear diapers, and I am generally proud of it. Even told the guy’s I work with and they see me go into change at least once a shift. My neighbors know too……but this group of kids really threw me for a few hours….Almost backed me up to being ashamed that I love diapers………Thankfully my love and need for diapers is stronger and I have recovered. I have loved diapers all of my life. Even as a child I would take Pampers from my baby brother and sisters room and wear them. My mom must have thought she was nuts going through diapers faster than she thought! LOL I now am incontinent and still……..kind of proud of it. I now have an excuse for my diapers as it is part of my medical record. But there are people out there who will certainly try your love. Even my neighbors who still talk to me etc. keep their kids away from me….and that hurts….I love kids…Always have…but now I am the neighborhood freak…I guess it don’t help that I shoot for the diaper web page…But still.Thanks for you comments Adrian.
    Bryan (Bobindiapers)

  11. Charlie Hounddog June 24, 2017 at 9:15 pm - Reply

    Abdl, I’m not sure that is the way that I would classify myself, but I wear diapers because of urinary incontinence and I’m not ashamed, nor do I begrudge someone who has other needs. I don’t do kinky, but if you do that’s your thing and I won’t make fun of you.
    I thought this was a forum about diapers, I wasn’t expecting a sermon, and while I love God this really isn’t the place to judge folks

  12. Charlie Hounddog June 25, 2017 at 12:08 am - Reply

    Don’t think that I’m an ABDL, because I wear diapers because I have to, but I don’t begrudge folks who want to.
    Don’t know if this is the right forum for a sermon.
    I think that whatever you are you should be and just accept others for what they are and just enjoy life whatever it is for you.

  13. justin June 25, 2017 at 7:34 am - Reply

    its because of some of these things…..i have found myself utterly alone and forever looked at by others as a freak or weirdo….my depression is severe because of my love for diapers…..honestly dont know what to do anymore i cant even date normal people nowadays because of the fear of them just pushing me away when they find out what i am…..

  14. Dexter June 26, 2017 at 2:40 pm - Reply

    Adrian, I also hate it when people use the word “freak”. Just because someone uses diapers or dresses differently or just does not somehow fit what some people feel is the social norm, is not a reason to ridicule them. We are all unique in our own way and should be respected for it. People need to realize that as long as we do no harm ab/dl’s should be treated with the same respect as others.

    • Diaper_73 July 1, 2017 at 3:30 am - Reply

      Hey Dexter. I *totally* agree. How is it *”freaky”* to want to wear diapers? Try as I might, I can’t hold on indefinitely, and I have to relieve myself sooner or later. The problem is that it’s not always possible to make it to the toilet in time to pee or even to poop. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve needed to do either, but no toilet was ever handy.

  15. Diaper_73 July 1, 2017 at 3:26 am - Reply

    I’ve never understood these misconceptions and where they come from. The ones I hate the most are that we’re interested in sex with minors. Where the hell did that misconception come from? That doesn’t make any sense. Another misconception I despise is that we’re called freaks. What’s so “freaky” about an adult wearing diapers? Since when is it wrong to wear diapers, particularly if you’re can’t be near a toilet when you desperately need to relieve yourself? There’s also the sexual aspect of wearing diapers and wanting to be treated like babies and little children. I’m more like a little boy, between 4 and 8 yrs old, than an infant or toddler. I see nothing sexual about it.

  16. Yelso Amsibe July 1, 2017 at 2:59 pm - Reply

    Adrian, i want to thank you for covering this subject and speaking the truth of it. I am ABDL because it started out with incontinence, and needing diapers 24/7. In my life it has cost friends but it has been worth it. Since i didn’t get to choose my incontinence, i am thankful for the ABDL community who continually makes more and better products, especially diapers.

  17. Adiba August 21, 2017 at 12:35 pm - Reply

    I’m a woman too. And it’s nothing sexual. It started out as a hobby. But now it’s a lot more than that

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