Do you long for meeting adult babies and diaper lovers and others with similar interest in the community? If you are like most people in the ABDL world then you strive for that connection to other similar and like minded people. You want to share your passion for diapers and interact with other adult babies and diaper lovers. This is only natural and completely normal. But, it is one of the hardest things for many people to do for various reasons. I personally have not met many adult babies or diaper lovers in real life because though I (and Peter) want to connect with other ABDL members we want the interaction to be more than just diapers. So, I wanted to craft a post about things I think limit and would help other ABDLs to meet one another in real life.

Websites for MeetingΒ Adult Babies and Diaper Lovers

So, obviously the first place most people want to try and find other ABDLs is to use a website. There are several websites out there that are great for meeting others. Unfortunately, I don’t think any of them are perfect but are decent options to get started. I have listed several below:

FetLife: Fetlife is a great all around social network for meeting other adult babies and diaper lovers. They cater to all sorts of lifestyles and fetishes. It is free to join or you can join the premium version which enables you to have access to videos and certain other features to more easily find members. Overall, it has a great site with a lot of features and by far is the most functional.

Facebook: Facebook is great of course but it is difficult to find others by location I find and privacy can sometimes be an issue. Befriending a lot of people here can pose problems sometimes because your Facebook feed can get junked up with a bunch of useless stuff and there are quite a number of fake accounts.

DailyDiapers: Not a member site per se but a forum that is very well-known and they have a specific “location” section that allows you to post and find others in that location.

I have not found a perfect solution and unfortunately I think the only way to create a clean and perfect site for ABDLs to come and meet each other that is secure and private is to to charge a small fee probably to become a member. It will detract the spam people and make only those serious about meeting others pay a very small fee. I am sure some would not agree with me but if the site was organized and functional and clean and truly allowed others to search for other members and have a good profile then I think it would be easily worth it, to me at least.

Too Many Diaper Crotch Shots

I want to address the fact that many people have trouble finding others because they post endless amounts of diaper crotch shots that is somehow suppose to separate or make you any “different” from everyone else. I think to the majority of people when they see a “diaper shot” they just keep on going. To me it tells me that you have no interest in personality or anything else than just diapers. For many that is not true but that is what it is communicating. I am not saying take a picture of your face but please don’t just take a close up diaper crotch shot or butt-shot. At least add some space from you and the camera.

ABDL Interaction

Adult babies and diaper lovers tend to be a unique bunch which is a good thing but I think it is important to address the zebra in the room. While diapers are great and obviously a big thing in the conversation, the conversation should focus on other things and interests not just diapers, adult babies and such.

If all you do is spend your time talking about diapers and the community then you never really know who you are meeting or anything about that person. Plus, in the end diapers can only be conversational so much. And, when you meet – what are you going to do…talk about diapers and adult babies all morning, afternoon and evening? No! You are going to do something that interests you and the other person and diapers will most likely be involved.

I think this is key. Find out about the person and don’t just ask for diaper pictures or videos and what not. Major turn off.

Don’t Focus Entirely on Diaper Photos and Videos

Diaper pictures and diaper videos are a main focus in the ABDL community and understandably so. But, I think this topic dominates many ABDL conversations and meetings. Everyone wants to “see your diaper pic” or “diaper video”. Personally, I think these things come with time if you let them but focusing on developing a relationship with a person, male or female, is what is going to develop trust and lasting and fun relationship in the end. So, don’t start the conversation off with “let me see your diaper picture”. It is rude, inappropriate and turn-off in my opinion!

Have Some Level of Trust for Other ABDLs

Obviously, you can’t see the person on the other end of the phone or internet screen but some level of trust is going to be needed. Obviously, safety is important but have a level of cautious trust in order to allow the relationship to develop. If you are sitting there skeptical and asking for proof the whole time than the relationship is going to start off rocky and be a major turn off to the other person. Don’t completely mistrust everyone. Usually the truth comes out in the end.

Meet Other ABDLs in a Public Place First

This goes for any true new relationship I think but more so in this day and age. Make sure to meet your fellow adult baby or diaper lover in a public place at first to make both people feel a little more comfortable and secure. If you meet in a private or remote location this makes some people feel edgy and insecure.

Plan Something with Your ABDL Buddy

Have a plan to do something with your ABDL friend – if you don’t then you are going to meet and just be basically staring at each other and it will make the interaction awkward possibly. At least have a few ideas or plans in mind. Obviously, you can always end up “chilling” back at someone’s place but I think it makes it more fun to go out to eat, walk around a mall, go shopping, go to a movie, etc. During this time conversation can range from diapers, adult babies, and diaper lovers to anything else that has nothing to do with that topic. This allows both people to find out more about each other and develop a level of comfort before just “stripping clothes off and laying around in diapers”. Which I know is “freeing” for many people but let the relationship develop and just let things flow. Don’t just be like…I am here, lets undress and just sit around in diapers…for me and I am sure others this is awkward especially if it is the first time meeting.

Bring Different Adult Diapers

Depending on what you all are doing or discussing I think it is both fun and beneficial to bring different types of adult diapers to a meeting. Some people have never tried anything beyond store brand diapers and if you are nice enough to share a premium diaper like Bambino Diapers, Tykables, Dry 24/7, Aww So Cute Diapers, Abena Adult Diapers, or Rearz then you may just blow that persons world away with how exciting it is to wear something that thick and good. Plus, for some this adds to the excitement and some times can break the ice. This is just a thought or tip for some people.

In the end, meeting other adult babies and diaper lovers should be no different than any other “meet and greet”. BE YOURSELF and don’t act fake. Just let the conversation flow and don’t force things. That is the biggest mistake. Everyone is so focused on diapers that they completely neglect any intellectual talk or personal interaction outside of diapers. Obviously, the mutual interest in diapers and the ABDL world is there and should definitely be engaged on some level but please don’t make it the entire focus.

Myself and Peter would love to meet other adult babies and diaper lovers around our area but again it is hard to find others around our area that don’t just want to talk about diapers or sexual things. We are looking for a legitimate friendship that is based off mutual interests both in diapers and non-diaper and ABDL related things.

By | 2017-07-17T21:42:03+00:00 April 7th, 2016|ABDL|53 Comments

53 Comments

  1. Phil April 7, 2016 at 9:00 pm - Reply

    I’m looking for a free sight that I can talk to others like me (Abdl sissy) I’m married and wife knows. She tolerates but not much support. Can’t blame her. Anyways looking to chat!

  2. Drynitestenaboy April 7, 2016 at 9:28 pm - Reply

    I would love to chat up with your guys πŸ™‚ IG name is Drynitestenaboy, feel free to send me a DM. Very nice written post and i honestly love this blog so much πŸ™‚ Thanks Adrian

    • keeth85 April 23, 2016 at 3:07 pm - Reply

      Hi drynites how are you

    • 1Ariel July 5, 2017 at 1:19 am - Reply

      So where do we start? I’m having trouble getting my wife started. She is ok with me being Abdl sissy but is kind of like business as usual. She is not playing ball. Don’t get me wrong I am very happy she didn’t run but still feel like I’m on my owne. Any advise?

  3. Glenn April 7, 2016 at 10:24 pm - Reply

    You make very good points. You should start a site yourself. You certainly have the experience to do it right. I am a 24/7 diaperboy myself and have no regrets about this lifestyle

  4. Daniel April 7, 2016 at 10:29 pm - Reply

    Hi everyone I to have a thing about dippers to and I wha’s wondering if ther is anyone Or anywhere that I can tark to or is in the same thing as I am.πŸ˜„πŸ˜„πŸ˜„πŸ˜„πŸ˜„πŸ˜„

    • keeth85 April 24, 2016 at 5:36 pm - Reply

      Hi Dan yes I do as well let’s chat

  5. diaperedboilerman April 7, 2016 at 11:10 pm - Reply

    I agree Adrian. I have met two people on Fetlife, One in person as we went to dinner to talk. And much to my surprise, last week I met a fellow DL here at work. I was totally shocked.So we have been hanging out at lunch and talking etc. But it is so hard to meet people.in your area. I met one girl who I now work with quite often that is a regular daipergirl on the web page I shoot for on the side.But none of these people are more than friends. You are very lucky to have your husband into this with you. Most of us dream of that very situation. πŸ™‚

    • Miffy May 22, 2016 at 10:09 pm - Reply

      How did you and your friend at work discover your shared interest?

  6. Chris April 8, 2016 at 1:03 am - Reply

    Hello and wow what a great post!!!! What you said really addressed a lot of Ab-DL issues especially trying to meet someone. My name is Chris and I knew I liked and wanted to be in diapers at 5 years of age .i will be 52 in July and have been wearing diapers since 16 when I could buy them and have had the diaper secret. Being a closet diaper lover in the 1970-1990 was hard because society said only babies and Elderly used diapers
    I made a lot of life changes and decisions especially trying to find a mate or woman who could accept who I am and that diapers are just a part of me
    Even today I still search without luck to find a soulmate
    I admire you and Peter, and you should feel proud and accomplished with your informational website, it makes me smile , thanks for all you do for all of us !!!!

  7. Mr. Casey L Anderson April 8, 2016 at 3:40 am - Reply

    Adrian on the beginning of the post of meet adult babies and diaper lovers and the part “too many crotch shots” the ones who do this want privacy because they live in a small town community in other words every one knows everyone in the community and they don’t want to show their face in the fear of being ridiculed in front of their friends and family. or the only way for them not to be ridiculed is for them to get an excuse from a doctor or lie about being incontinent. because they(the small town community folk) would think we adult babies and diaper lovers are pedophiles, which we know we are not. that’s why some of the adult babies and diaper lovers use crotch shot because they usually live in a small-town community(with computers) which means everyone knows everyone in town and the surronding cities and counties as well.

  8. keeth85 April 8, 2016 at 3:58 am - Reply

    Hi everyone great post I was wondering jst that it would be awesome to meet others that share the same interests was thinking of goin on a site to meet others but a little nervous at least this site seems to be calm and I enjoy the good reads

  9. Keeth April 8, 2016 at 4:07 am - Reply

    Yes good post Adrian let’s get a meetings place started would love to find someone to chat with

  10. Randy kelbough April 8, 2016 at 5:38 am - Reply

    Hi Adrian you made avery good post and i agree 100 percent

  11. John April 8, 2016 at 6:04 am - Reply

    Since I have both urinary and fecal incontinence my wife keeps me in cloth diapers at all times.

  12. Geoff Hines April 8, 2016 at 7:42 am - Reply

    I Agree with all the comments. I prefer photo’s with people going about their normal business, such as doing the washing up and not the full in your face bum shots. Hanging out the washing etc. An exclusive web site would be good but could get spoiled by interlopers. I do not like shots of dirty nappies that is rather unnecessary and should be kept to oneself and not public as apposed to wet ones which are ok if not excessively wet. Good luck with anything you do.

  13. Incontinent Tacoma April 8, 2016 at 2:47 pm - Reply

    What I’d like more than ever is to find a daddy who lives in the Tacoma, Washington area. I’m certainly open to suggestions as to how to go about it. I don’t smoke, I don’t drink. I rarely poop in my diapers unless I can’t be near a toilet and I *really* have to go.

  14. Mike Moulton April 9, 2016 at 3:13 am - Reply

    Repairing looking for friends would love to have them Mommy live in Indy Indianapolis love drag racing my bike’s kiss and I do the miracle ride for Riley’s Hospital every year I’m one that helped raise over 4.4 million dollars for the kids

  15. Joe Sherrill April 10, 2016 at 8:04 pm - Reply

    Hi Adrian,
    You are right I would like to meet other people who ware diapers. I have no choice as I have nerve damage and although not totally dependent on diapers I never know when I may have an accident. there is security in knowing it is there. I don’t want to set and talk diapers with someone all the time. there is much more to life than that. it is nice to see a female in diapers as I identify with that but it is nice to see a pretty girl anyway with or without. Enjoy your site keep up the good work. I have looked for sites to meet others but don’t find any most are into much more than I am interested in so not ready to join those sites. js

  16. Earl B. April 13, 2016 at 9:30 pm - Reply

    Good post Adrian. I like to find a diaper friend. I’m in northern AZ. So far I haven’t meet anyone in real life.

    • Incontinent Tacoma April 13, 2016 at 10:03 pm - Reply

      Neither have I. I’d give anything to meet someone who lives in Tacoma Washington, or anywhere between there and Bremerton Washington.

      • Earl B. April 14, 2016 at 12:27 am - Reply

        How far are you from evertt Washington? That’s where I believe bambino diapers warehouse is located.

        • Casey L Anderson April 14, 2016 at 12:53 am - Reply

          Earl B. that’s the wrong warehouse for bambinodiapers why because that’s the company for abuniverse that’s why and two the company for bambinodiapers are in california. the warehouse where you can pick up the abuniverse.com diapers is located in everett washington, while the warehouse that makes them are out of country. while the company themselves are located here, the company for bambinodiapers.com is located in redwood city, california,(that is northern california, close to san francisco,california), and not sure where the warehouse that makes the diapers are, but i’m guessing it’s out of country as well.

        • Incontinent Tacoma April 14, 2016 at 2:14 am - Reply

          I live in Gig Harbor, just west of Tacoma. Everett is quite a drive, probably 75 miles from where I live. I’m looking for someone a lot closer to where I live.

    • wewhoarenotasothers July 15, 2016 at 6:11 am - Reply

      i’m in central Arizona but unfortunately i’m not looking for a guy date. friendship wouldn’t be a bad deal though.

  17. Tyler April 23, 2016 at 4:51 pm - Reply

    First off, great post Adrian. I think you covered the topics that contribute to abdl weirdness. I think the key to being successful at fulfilling the emotional need that we’re all seeking is being a well-rounded person and not letting diapers run our lives. Too many abdls lead their relationship seeking quest with “I’m an abdl, I want a mommy/daddy” or whatever. That kind of line might garner interest but unless you have substance in your personality and you’re not obsessed, it won’t go far enough to fill the emotional hole. Moderation and well-roundedness are key.

    • Mike Moulton May 21, 2016 at 7:20 am - Reply

      Looking for adult Mommy to be my mommy to be so I can be a baby I got I got Google need a mommy

    • Mike Moulton May 21, 2016 at 7:25 am - Reply

      Ask 4 number or you could talk contact me at Mike can kiss 69 at youtube.com all one word

  18. aj198711 May 8, 2016 at 9:40 pm - Reply

    Hey Adrian, great post! Im fecal incontinent so wear around the clock lol. Quick question, i resubscribed to your new look blog premium section but no new images come up when it states its been updated. Is it something wrong at my end?

  19. andrew23234 May 16, 2016 at 9:40 pm - Reply

    Hey Adrian! Love your blog, It gives me hope that there are others out there that aren’t completely diaper focused and only want to connect on that level. I would identify myself as an ABDL and am not incontinent. I have been searching for years for a girl that is into diapers but also has a life outside of ABDL that is active like myself. I also look for a modest girl that isn’t posting naked selfies all over the internet like yourself. Funny to say that diapers are a huge part of my life but also a very small part. I would love to email back and forth with you and peter, email me if interested! [email protected]

    • Incontinent Tacoma May 21, 2016 at 5:34 am - Reply

      I agree. I’d like to meet other ABs and DLs, but there are things I like to talk about that aren’t always AB or DL related.

  20. Nick an Stevie Sorta July 5, 2016 at 4:20 pm - Reply

    So very appreciative of the factual no nonsense information you and Peter post to your blog. I am also extremely lucky to have a spouse who supports and encourages me to express my love for diapers. I have always had a bed-wetting problem, chronic until 16 years old, and still to this day occasionally, as well as urge incontinence becoming more of an issue with time. Couldn’t agree more about focusing on interests shared outside of both needing/enjoying diapers. For example, we are 33 and 40, enjoy camping, festivals, gardening , kayaking and I am a PC gamer and she loves reading books. The fact that diapers are part of our life is understood if we post to an AB/DL aware site. I would rather know your sociopolitical/spiritual views than see your diapers. (Not that I don’t want to see them ever, there should be a common bond beyond that first though.)

  21. wewhoarenotasothers July 15, 2016 at 6:07 am - Reply

    i totally agree with the small fee as it will deter non abdl’s from joining, fake accounts will minimal, and scammers will not exist as they are only out to scam money and not spend any. if such a website actually exists i would pay the fee. i have been on the internet for over 16 years now looking and no luck what so ever. i have however been scammed so be careful with that. most important as stated above, discussing diapers non stop will wear out the interest and most will think that’s all you want,it has been stated most accurately by Adrian, i would take the information to heart and use it wisely.

  22. Alex November 13, 2016 at 9:38 pm - Reply

    I wish to find a friend that likes to wear diapers like I do I’m shi about it

    • Incontinent Tacoma November 26, 2016 at 4:08 pm - Reply

      I’d be very much interested in meeting other ABs and DLs. I live in Gig Harbor, Washington, just west of Tacoma and south of Seattle. Is there anyone who lives between Tacoma and Bremerton, Washington?

  23. Paul December 22, 2016 at 8:51 pm - Reply

    I live in New Hampshire and would like to meet somebody to hangout with that is an adult baby diaper lover like myself I’ve been in diapers a very long time now

  24. Wetter January 26, 2017 at 9:12 pm - Reply

    How far up into NH are you,Paul?

    I’m in north central Mass. Email me at [email protected] if you want. DL here.

  25. Mary elizabeth andrews February 21, 2017 at 12:09 am - Reply

    I love being an adult baby and please to meet you.

    • Brian Keith Wallace July 4, 2017 at 6:21 am - Reply

      Nice to meet you lol

  26. Stevie March 4, 2017 at 5:06 am - Reply

    Hi Adrian
    Thanks for writing this piece. I am hoping someday to find someone that understand and feel the same I do. I have talked to a few girls online but it is hard to know who you are really talking to. But your post gives me hope that someday I will find that person πŸ™‚

  27. Steve June 25, 2017 at 12:45 am - Reply

    Would like to hear from likeminded folk possibly would like to meet up with ab dl based in Nottinghamshire

  28. Ashley Smith July 4, 2017 at 12:35 am - Reply

    Hi my name is Ashley and I am a adult baby. I am also a transgender m2f. I live as a baby all the time im not at work or shopping.ill I have been in search of a mommy and a daddy. Or just a mommy. I would love to be in a family that wants a baby for along time

  29. Brian Keith Wallace July 4, 2017 at 6:20 am - Reply

    Hello, Brian here thanks for the info Adrian. It’s hard to find abdls in my area. Tho I know there probably out there it’s still seems hard for a shy guy like me to connect. I’m lost in the abuniverse, I need my Wonder Woman lol.

    I wouldn’t mind just chatting with anyone into this

  30. Daniel July 14, 2017 at 3:45 am - Reply

    I know this post is more than a year old but I keep coming back for inspiration. Thanks Adrian! Well written and so reasonable in its suggestions. I’d love to meet people such as yourselves. For others reading, I’m in south Florida if you ever wanted to meet up.

  31. Maria August 7, 2017 at 5:05 am - Reply

    Hi I am looking for friends as adult baby I don’t have a lot of friends but I want a friend to be my daddy

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