The adult baby community in my opinion is comprised of some extremely intelligent people.  I have talked with people that are physicians, lawyers, and yes even government officials.  As a whole I think our community is extremely bright which is a positive and a negative thing in my eyes.  Because a lot of times with intelligence comes caution and with caution comes speculation and with speculation comes well…insanity and paranoia.  That is not to say that our community isn’t also filled with people that probably don’t know how to count to 10…no offense to those people…but it is the sad truth.  But, I think it speaks volumes to our community that some of those most intelligent people in the world engage in this activity.  This isn’t some rogue “fetish” in my opinion and as long as we are on my opinion – I would say that adult baby and diaper lovers are one of the BIGGEST communities in the world whether those people that share that interest want to admit it or not.  There are those that engage in the community which number in the hundreds of thousands around the world if not reaching into the millions with those that are not as open and communicative about it.  This community is larger than most people think.  I am amazed sometimes after scrolling through some of the big boards the intelligence that does radiate through in the adult diaper community – you can hear it in the way people type and articulate there statements.  Usually, which is followed up with a lot of times one of the most idiotic of statements to balance it out.  But, to those out there that are educated and recognize the civil and intelligent people within the community – you do not go unnoticed.  I surely appreciate much of the diaper community that tries to act civilized in their conversations.

I just cannot tell you how proud I am to be part of the adult diaper community.  Yes, there are those that really do bring down this community sometimes but overall I am proud to be part of this community.  In my opinion, we are unique and there is no other community out there like the adult babies and diaper lover community.  You ever get that feeling when you are home alone in maybe just a thick diaper and t-shirt and you walk by the mirror and notice that perfect little “pouch” in the butt of your diaper…you know what I am talking about.  It gives you that real babyish feeling and comforting feeling.  At least for me it does.  And, it just causes a rush of emotions.  It just got me thinking just of how proud I am to be part of this community and how great it is.  Cheesy…I know but its the truth.

There are so many times before I go out with friends that I just get excited about what I am going to wear that night and which diaper I am going to choose…this doesn’t happen all the time but it does happen when I get in those moods.  I cherish those moments.  I guess this is one of those “intelligent” moments I am having where I am trying to articulate somehow what I’m feeling and its not working to well…lol.  Hopefully, some of you catch on to what I am meaning and can make sense of it in your head.  I guess I have sort of strayed from the original title of this article.  But, I was reading over some of the boards lately – just browsing – and you read some idiotic statements and then you read some really calm, intelligent, and concise postings and you wonder who is on the other side of that post because its insightful and intelligent.  I am one who can appreciate those people that manage to maintain such civility in the conversations in the adult baby community because I feel it adds credibility – maybe not so much to outsiders – but to those who can appreciate others acting mature and truly trying to engage in a conversation and make friends and be nice.  There are so many people out there that I feel would be better off if they just tried to act more mature, control their hormones, and act semi-intelligent when they talk and they may just meet some truly nice people and actually make friends.  I am not trying to be mean at all…I just get emails all the time asking what someone can do to meet other people and I am not passing judgment on those in particular people that email me but I know for a fact that some of them have to be these same people posting on these adult baby forums in rude, unintelligible, and narcissistic ways and I just can’t help but think that if they just lightened up a little and acted a tiny bit more mature they may have a chance of making a real connection with someone if that is what they want (maybe that isn’t what they want?).

But, that isn’t to say the intelligent people don’t come without their flaws too.  With intelligence comes that paranoia because they actually CARE who is on the other side of that computer rather than the words on the screen.  So, they are always thinking about who they are truly talking to.  They start questioning every statement, analyzing it, and trying to make offhand judgments based on the words on a screen.  You may think to yourself…well aren’t I judging those adult baby members that talk unintelligible?  No, I don’t judge so much on the words but more than attitudes in those words.  There are some people that don’t exactly type or write very well but you can tell what they really mean and their attitude through what they type…you can see the benevolence in their writings.  But, anyways the intelligent people question everything…as did I along time ago…now I just don’t care.  If you don’t want to prove to me who you are – fine I don’t care.  If you want to lie about who you are to me – that is your free will and I can play along with that if I have time at the moment because it can be entertaining sometimes.  I am not going to get all worked up if someone wants to lie to me about themselves.  I have everything I want in life on the other side of this screen – a loving husband, a home, great parents, great friends, diapers, and more – I don’t feel  the need to judge others and waste my time tracking down who is being honest and who isn’t.  Its unfortunate that goes on in this community but I suppose its a necessity because there are so many people that aren’t truthful about who they are.

Anyways, I know this post is long but its just me trying to articulate things that I think make up a big part of our community and that which makes us so unique.  I will say this – neither group is wrong in my opinion for how they act – they balance the community.  All that I can suggest to the adult baby and diaper lover community that may help us all is to the rude, unintelligible and mean people…maybe try to be a “tiny” bit more mature in your conversations and think about what you say before you blurt it out.  And to those intelligent people out there…maybe just try to tone down the paranoia a bit and enjoy the adult baby and diaper lover community more instead of looking at everyone with a detective eye like someone is out to get you.  Overall, everyone just get along 🙂

I am done rambling for the night and I am sure everyone is probably either like wow that was really well thought out or some of you may be like “wtf” or what in the world just happened…lol all views are understandable.  Just in one of those creative typing moods I guess…now that I think about it – it sort of is that time of the month for me – maybe its the hormones making me a bit extra creative?.

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  1. josh April 23, 2011 at 3:06 am - Reply

    i just wanted to say that i really enjoy your blog. ive been reading it for about 6-12 months (sorry cant really rember how long) and i actully just stumbled apon it. i really like coming on here and reading your post and opinions on things and i like thats its not all abdl based its good to break outa the box a little so to speak.
    any way i will stop rambling i just wanted to say that this is a great blog and i always look forward to reading your next post
    hope all is well

  2. James April 23, 2011 at 7:01 am - Reply

    Another great post Adrian, and spot on. Keep up the heat work!

  3. matty April 23, 2011 at 8:20 am - Reply

    hi adrian i been following your blog for along time u r right bout intelligents in the abdl world its hard to find ppl who are just all good and free and smart i mean yeah i am ab dl but it can be very plain to some u have been inspiring to me to find that its more about being free and happy than what we wear yep u are awesome for freedom of the word of an abdl person

  4. matty April 23, 2011 at 8:20 am - Reply

    hi adrian i been following your blog for along time u r right bout intelligents in the abdl world its hard to find ppl who are just all good and free and smart i mean yeah i am ab dl but it can be very plain to some u have been inspiring to me to find that its more about being free and happy than what we wear yep u are awesome for freedom of the word of an abdl person

  5. moostermiley April 23, 2011 at 3:23 pm - Reply

    Very well said, Adrian, keep up the great work 🙂

    • Kevin September 11, 2014 at 11:48 pm - Reply

      Hi how are u ? I’m ok I guess I just wondered if u can help me out if u don’t mind? I’m trying to talk to some other adults who enjoy to wear diapers like me !!! I’ve done this for a long time but not sure exactly why ! But I think I know & I just wanted to talk to someone that knows more !! I’ve enjoyed wearing diapers for a long time & I need some help from some one like me who does it so I can get some good ways to explain it to my wife cause she just don’t understand & she thinks I’m suppose to quit over night !!! Ain’t happening cause I’ve enjoyed doing this since childhood & she just don’t understand !! I did it at a young age because all my mother knew how to do was holler at me all the time!!! So I went to put my diaper on for the comfort & make me happy ! But my wife just don’t get it !! She just says it’s not normal ! But she didn’t have as ruff of a childhood like me & that’s why she just don’t understand !! If u don’t mind u can message me or give me a call I’ll really appreciate it thank u !!! 540-661-9114. Kevin

  6. Wes April 23, 2011 at 8:42 pm - Reply

    What a good and powerful subject you touched today. I am thankful that you wrote it because i have often noticed the same. So many have college degrees and are into ABDL, and many others dont and you wouldnt know it because they are just as intelligent. Then there are those who diapers are the only thing they can talk about, and then those that can only talk about sex as it relates to diapers. Your wording was right for people to calm down their hormones. It seems to be the not so intelligent people who can only think about one thing in life, it is sad in many ways, yet the movie Idiocracy explains everything.

    I am glad to have met a few other people in the ABDL community, have lunch with them and intelligent conversations about everything from history, politics to diesel engines. In so many times and places i wish that i wasnt incontinent. On the other hand, there is so much about life i would have never known, and that i am thankful for.

    I wish you and yours a very Happy Easter, and be sure to blog about which chocolate is your favorite when the holiday is over. Thanks for your thoughtful and creative blogs.

  7. Baby Inky April 24, 2011 at 1:05 am - Reply

    Thanks for your contribution to the ab/dl community. The blog you just posted is well written and very supportive. I’m glad to be part of it, particularly when you, Adrian take the lead of giving us courage.

    Happy Easter Adrian.

  8. Mike April 24, 2011 at 10:55 am - Reply

    Wow, you said it all with this latest post and I really enjoyed reading it. I have been an ABDL since early childhood and developed my diaper fetish due to being kept in diapers as an older child. I used to think I was alone with my ABDL feelings and needs until I discovered the ABDL community on the internet years ago. I too have met a wealth of intelligent adult babies and diaper lovers over the years and find our group to have lots of deep thinkers. I keep my ABDL world and vanilla life separate due to family and professional circumstances, but after a long day or week of work, there is nothing better than escaping into my diapers for quality ABDL time. Your statement sums it up best:

    You ever get that feeling when you are home alone in maybe just a thick diaper and t-shirt and you walk by the mirror and notice that perfect little “pouch” in the butt of your diaper…you know what I am talking about. It gives you that real babyish feeling and comforting feeling. At least for me it does. And, it just causes a rush of emotions. It just got me thinking just of how proud I am to be part of this community and how great it is.

    This is exactly how I feel and I love wearing my diapers. I use to feel so ashamed for having these feelings, but no more. I remember feeling different than the other kids my age, because I was still wearing and using diapers and very self aware of it. I remember seeing myself in the mirror in my pampers and tshirt and liking that image.

  9. scott April 24, 2011 at 4:55 pm - Reply

    I personally used to feel ashamed and felt like I was fighting my demons. I would stop for a while and hate myself for starting back up. I would get urges to wear diapers which I just wanted to fight for so long. I grew up knowing this is how I felt about diapers though. Once I had them I loved them. My mother has found out and growing up it was like a taboo I had to go against. Over the years I have come to terms with it. I am in college now and I can hold back the urges why I am in college with logical reasoning but during the summer it definitly becomes a treat. My girlfriend of two years has accepted me for what I like and admits it was strange at first but now she was just glad I was open. I sometimes wear diapers when we are out on dates and she does not mind at all.

    I feel the greatest thing to help me overcome my personal fear of what I found myself liking is trust by those I trusted. My mother always hated the act after finding it so she in that sense was no help. Don’t get me wrong, she is a great mother. I just feel I have over time shared my secret with some of my closest friends and the girl I love. I feel like this has made me able to handel my urges better.

    I can say as a teenager in highschool finding out that I ‘was a part of this community’ that knowing I was not alone in age and gender was very esteem building. Seeing sites, that yes are not the best for the community (daily diapers, ab kingdom, and art sites). but still managed to help me realize I was not alone in this. Call it porn or an outlet of ignorance. It still served as a medium that helped me come to terms with my desires. Thats just my .02 cents.

  10. Jake April 24, 2011 at 10:26 pm - Reply

    I must say, great post. 🙂 I definitely understand where you are coming from. I have met a great deal of wonderful people in this community and I look forward to meeting many more. Every once in awhile I stumble across someone that casts a shadow upon the community, but I have come to accept that with anything good there is always a little bit of bad as well. It’s part of what makes this community so diverse. Through the diversity in this community, I have learned to not only accept myself but I have learned to accept the quirks and differences that everyone has. Weather it be differences in levels of maturity, being incontinent, AB/DL, black, white, disabled etc., I have learned everyone is human and everyone is special and unique in their own way. Once again, great post and I am very proud to be a part of this wonderful community. 🙂

  11. JohnnyLeeDL April 25, 2011 at 1:44 am - Reply

    I truly enjoyed your post, and understand how easy it is to go off on a tangent so much so that the original thought you were wanting to covey change as you write. Some of my writings are more controlled when I compose them in a word processor, because I tend to proof read them some. But I get excited at times and the words just seem to flow from my fingers, with the point I was trying to make becoming somewhat obscure Other times I am typing like I am on a speed talk which is even more of a rambling journey.

    My first real interest in life other then diapers was reading and writing. I got a portable typewriter at fifteen for Christmas from my parents and a typing table from my grandparents. I was able to keep the table in my room but it the typewriter was kept under Moms’ bed like it was an icon or something so expensive it might be stolen. I never understood her rationale in that and I had to have permission to use it. In essence it was very discouraging toward devolving my typing skills but it didn’t stop me from continuing to write stories and ideas longhand. I always regret the events which separated me from my notebook full of partially finished stories into a world of semi-literate criminals. It helped sniffle my interest in becoming a more productive person for a long time, since survival became the name of the game. It may seem strange but in a lot of ways Juvenile prisons are more dangerous then adult ones essentially because young adults will kill or main others for very minor sights or reasons. That part of the system is still the same today even though violence inside is worse the ever in the US.

    Ugh, I have digressed again, anyway back to my point I agree with your acessment of the ABDL community and even though I am somewhat educated I am also at odds with myself and the world in how I relate to others. I believe I put some people off with what I say or how I say it and they do not know how to take me. Misconceptions of my actions or statements seem to follow me and I am never sure if I am offending others or they don’t respond because of other reasons. It doesn’t bother me as much as it used to, I have simply gotten too old to worry about it anymore. I write not only to try and entertain others as well as to say my piece.

    I try very hard to understand others point of view and walk a mile in their shoes(DYLAN), even though some things people are into may make me cringe. I am not alone in felling this way I think it is human nature to be that way. But like you said it is more important to not judge others as long as they are not causing unwanted harm to others. It has taken most of my life to learn better social skills because I had a loner attitude about life for a long time.

    Okay I am off the soapbox for now, thank you for listening.

  12. W.S April 25, 2011 at 4:35 am - Reply

    Very true. I enjoy reading your blog – it is a breath of fresh air in a community which sometimes makes me want to scream. Thanks – keep up the good work.

  13. black-dragon April 25, 2011 at 2:14 pm - Reply

    Hi Adrian. I’ll say you got very big well thought out topic and written post you got yourself here. I’ll say whoa, for the number of people that you talked to as the nature of there jobs of doctors, lawyers, goverment people. Sounds like wow, who knew right?! Got a question for you or two. Can you tell us anything that you can remember what those people said about this fetish and could you tell if it was an interest to them the way they replied to your questions about this kinda of fetish?!

    I got something I want to mention to everyone here as well. On May 2nd on the National Geographic Channel the new season of Taboo is starting. I only just learned of this recently surfing around here and there. I found some links over on diaperspace and followed a link to this site here.

    It has sneak peak video from the show Taboo that is going to feature a segment about AB/DL. There are two shows for the new season and the one that starts at 10pm I believe will have the segment in question. Its not to often that there is anything postive of AB/DL that is ever mention on tv these days unless its very negative or bad jokes maybe. Yeah, intelligence with the proper education about this fetih that we are all apart of in one way or another. Take is easy and keep up the good work here on this very nice and enjoyable blog you got here.

  14. Hinck April 27, 2011 at 10:19 am - Reply

    Great as always but I noticed something.
    You mentioned a loving husband. Did you and Peter get married? You did mention in a post a while back what kind of diaper you would wear when you got married.
    If so, congratulations are in order.

  15. babyevan May 3, 2011 at 10:05 am - Reply

    Glad to see another good post Adrian. I say thankya. I agree with you; people need to loosen up.

  16. ziggy May 17, 2011 at 8:16 pm - Reply

    What happened to peter’s blog?

  17. KAL May 18, 2011 at 11:53 pm - Reply

    I wish more people realized that the ABDL community is not a community of horrible people who are all like the man from the CSI episode, but that there are many completely normal people who engage in this lifestyle. I am not surprised at all to learn that there are lawyers and government officials and the like who participate in these activities. All my life I have been called mature and I have always been at the top of my class. In the fall I will be a freshman at Harvard and the expectations people already have for me are crazy. I always notice my ABDL side becoming its most active in times when I am feeling stressed out and it is a way to relax and calm down. It is a shame that ABDLs, when they do get press, get it from places who aim to criticize this lifestyle rather than show it in a positive, or at least unbiased light. Excellent post.

  18. lizard May 20, 2011 at 4:27 am - Reply

    I guess I don’t understand how intelligence and paranoia are connected. One is the ability to acquire knowledge the other is a thought process, often irrational.
    I think you would agree, questioning the identity or sincerity of individuals in the AB/DL community comes with the territory and is hardly irrational. The skepticism is often the result of personal experience as opposed to irrational fear.

    I don’t really disagree with the spirit of your post, just the word choices.

  19. TeddyBear13 June 12, 2011 at 7:02 pm - Reply

    I would have to agree that there is intellegent people in this community. although some people act intellegent just to get what they want, I know I have a few employees like that. I have been reading this blog for a long time and I have posted a few times so, some of you know that i am a business owner. I outright own 14 business and I am a partner in 6 companies now. Just think I started with nothing but a dream and a loan from a bank. Now I’m debt free looking for the next “adventure”.

    I would like to say just because someone is “book smart” dose not mean they are intellegent. intelegence is not what you know, it’s how you think and how you use it. I have several college degrees and I still need spell check and a proff reader. Without those things people would think they are doing business with an idiot.

    Two months ago my dad said to me “son I never thought I would say this but, you are the most intellegent person I know. You have dont great things with your life that I have only dreamed of. You figured out what I could not.”. I asked him what he ment and he replied with “You own several businesses that are very sucessful and you are a very sucessful person just being able to manage it all”. I told him “I’m not sucessful just because of my intellegence. I’m sucessful because I got the right people in my life and businesses and i also have a 75 year old man that spent the last 30 years of his life being a dad to me and teaching everything he knew about work-ethic, manners, life skills, empathy, and free thinking when I’m not his biological son. You gave me the tools to learn how to do everything I can do today”. My Dad replied “Dont bull S— me boy! Now tell me what your really thinking!” I told him “I ment every word I just said. No bull s—“. After that my dad said “I’m very proud of you son”. That is the most valuable thing he has ever said to me ’cause I have always wanted to make my dad proud of me.

    Now in my opinion my dads intellegence is far greater than mine because he has learned how to be “humble” and I still struggle with “the world is not enough” ideals. However I’m never too “high-strung” to stop and ask my dad to help me with life issues such as being rejected because I’m incontinant and I wear diapers or for example my BMW broke down and I couldnt get a towing company to help me. My dad drove 2 hours with a car trailer to come get me. When I offered to pay for his gas he said “Things like this is what family is for. Keep your money. I dont need it. An opertunity to spend time with my son is worth more than all the gold and money in the world”. I’m now starting to understand what life is all about because of my dad’s intelegence.

    Ok, I have rantted totaly off subject. Thanks Adrian for the opertunity to speack my mind. My only wish is for you to post more often.

  20. Jason July 20, 2011 at 10:55 pm - Reply

    I love reading your posts. It’s nice to know there are mature adults in the AB/DL community who we can actually have a conversation with and still feel like you’re an adult who needs to wear diaper, or like wearing diapers. Most of the time, I’ve tried to tell people that I know that I need to wear diapers and they’re like “Eww!”, as if wearing diapers is somehow something for anyone older than 2 or 3 yrs old or older to avoid at all costs.

  21. Austin August 28, 2011 at 1:11 am - Reply

    Hi Adrian, just stumbled upon this website tonight, and I must say that you give the AB/DL community a very good name! I know what you mean about the wide spectrum of intelligence found in this community…and of course, the DLs who are downright insulting to us. I read an article about a firefighter who was also pedophilic and forced his niece to wear diapers and made her watch him wet his own…and, worst of all, it is the ONLY widely-broadcast news article pertaining to AB/DL. It’s so demotivating to know that there isn’t much we can do to change our image from that…even public rallies thrown by AB/DLs would just be pointless, mostly because the general public wouldn’t want to hear it.

    I find it hard to comply with your statement that there are millions of individuals who partake in this lifestyle; it’s simply too unrealistic. However, I will agree that this is rising in popularity with others…hopefully we can all convert 3.5 billion people to AB/DL! Such an event would make me feel so unique to have been here when it all started! I can only wish..but once again, thank you for being yet another AB/DL blogger who wants to let us be seen for who we truly are: not freaks in a diaper, but people who just want to be accepted.

  22. Nadine April 26, 2012 at 12:13 am - Reply

    Hey there!

    I am a mommy and at times pre-teen/ teen (when in that mode, I am a good girl… but can get a little spoiled). I have been a silent member of this community for years now.

    I have reached a point in my life where I have decided to feel me, all the intricate and hidden parts of me with no holds barded. This is included as part of my reason for my fun shop (refer to link above).

    Retaining that part of me, that fun imaginative pre-teen that appeals to the love and zest for life and what it may hold, and being able to balance it with loving and caring for others of the same mind… the best feeling in the world. For me, it’s NOT AT ALL about sex, and for the most part… I don’t like sex. It’s just gross.

    I love your blog. It hits on all the right tones that public media continually ignores about our community. Please keep up the good work.

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