Acceptance is an important trait in a person’s arsenal in my opinion.  It can go a long way in helping you live a better life.  In the incontinence and diaper world, acceptance is a familiar term because it is what many of us strive to achieve for ourselves whether it is our own acceptance or accepting other’s differences.

If you ever told someone about your need for wearing diapers or love of wearing diapers or something along those lines and they actually accepted that part of you – Remember That Feeling? Didn’t it make you feel good inside? That for once in your life it was like a weight lifted off your chest that someone accepted something that you know may be a little different about you than what most people consider the “norm”.

Everyone is different in this world in some way – some more than others.  But, that is OK.  It is what makes us all unique and what God instilled in us.  Reread those last few sentences because in the end that is the truth.  Who are any of us to judge another person for being different when each one of us has something that is different than another person.

Diapers are and always will be a major part of my life. It is what it is.  I don’t feel shameful for it nor do I resent them.  Were there times in the beginning that were hard to come to terms with? Sure.  But, those are learning processes that make you a better person in the end.  In return I am a lot more accepting person because I know I do not want to be judged in a negative light just because I may be different than what many people consider the ‘norm’.

This does not give you an excuse I feel to flaunt or take advantage of other person’s “should be feelings” by just thinking I am different so I can act like a complete idiot.  Be responsible.

I see different types of people all the time that have weird quirks about them that some people would judge them on.  My mind just does not work that way.  As long as they are not hurting someone else then honestly I am all for them being different and doing what makes them happy.  I have seen the ramifications of people having to suppress their feelings and desires too much and they end up in depression or worse, a psychiatry ward.  It is unfortunate that people truly do not see the ramifications of judging others for being different.

Next time you feel like judging someone else for being different or having a quirk that maybe you would not partake in.  Think to yourself how would you want to be judged if they looked at you the same way.  Diapers are my “different” and I am proud of it in my life – nobody can take that away from me no matter how judgmental they may be.  They have opened up doors and led me to amazing things – why would I ever regret that?.

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  1. Rachel March 25, 2013 at 5:38 pm - Reply

    There are some pretty cruel people out there, and the worst are the one who call those of us who enjoy diapers (or get sexual satisfaction from them) pedophiles. I wish I had the link, but there’s a “question” on Amazon’s “Askville” that sent my blood pressure soaring.

    The “question” was more a blanket statement of condemnation of ABs and DLs. “There is nothing inherently sexual about a diaper,” this person wrote, “so those who say they’re sexually excited by them are either lying or it’s a mask for pedophilia….”

    Not only is this an error in logic (false dichotomy) the person who wrote that didn’t realize one simple fact. Of course there’s nothing “inherently sexual” about a diaper. Those who have a fetish for them imbue that non-sexual object with sexual qualities. That’s what a fetish IS. As my brothers and I used to say, “Duh!”

    It’s pretty darned difficult to feel good about oneself in the face of such self-righteous ignorance, believe me.

  2. Amanda March 26, 2013 at 12:42 pm - Reply

    Acceptance/Friendship/love is never easy. Some people make it harder once they seen you with a defect. But if crippled or injured people are easy to accept, why not incontinent ones!

  3. Rhonda March 26, 2013 at 5:49 pm - Reply

    Adrian,, I love your perspective and how you are able to articulate so well. Thank you for accepting yourself which should make accepting others so much easier. If only we all could embrace that.
    Transgendered diaper lover,,,,’

    • Rachel March 26, 2013 at 9:39 pm - Reply

      Another transgendered diaper lover here. I like that you chose to post here, Rhonda, since you and I have a perspective different from the rest of the ABDL community. It seems as if we don’t quite fit in anywhere, doesn’t it? ABDLs dislike us for being transgendered, and the transgendered dislike us for being ABDL. That was evident in the horrible comments I’ve read online about Riley Kilo, the TG adult baby who was on “My Strange Addiction.” From *both* communities. It’s amazing that even groups who are ostracized for being different themselves will play the “you’re too weird for us–get out!” game when confronted with someone they can’t neatly categorize.

      I like to *think* that I accept myself, but I’m still heavily closeted as a DL.. Everybody knows I wear diapers, but I hide behind a medical excuse, even though it’s a legitimate one. Does accepting myself mean I should be open about the fact I enjoy diapers as well as need them? It just seems wiser not to say *too* much.

  4. Rhonda March 27, 2013 at 1:34 am - Reply

    Rachel, I had never really thought about what you expresses, but as soon as I read it, it hit me like the proverbial 2×4. You are right about not being embraced (or at least accepted) by the other communities. While I profess that I am a DL (due to past history), my primary expression is that of being transgendered. I like to think that I an accepting of both/others as a result of my own differences.
    Whether or not you are ‘closeted’ as to your openness toward your enjoyment of diapers apart from the medical need is and should be your decision based upon many factors. That others know about your wearing of diapers is already being open and not in hiding. Your statement that it seems wiser not to say ‘too’ much reminds me of the old adage,,, ‘discretion is the better part of valor’.

  5. Mark March 30, 2013 at 4:26 am - Reply

    I do a GSA, and I love my tg brothers and sisters. And I love my diapers! There are those of us dls who love and support you…don’t forget us! It is weird that lbgts don’t accept you…have you tried ADISC?

  6. Maurepas March 31, 2013 at 6:12 am - Reply

    I know exactly what you mean, when my fiance first found out and was just like “okay, whatever, interesting” I was so relieved, and I love her so much. Really changed my life, 🙂

  7. Rachel March 31, 2013 at 9:54 pm - Reply

    Mark, just curious, what’s a GSA? As to your question about ADISC, I don’t know to whom you were directing the question, but if you meant it for me, I’ve considered joining. I’m hesitant, though, because I’d be too afraid to say too much about myself in a public forum for fear it’ll be picked up by a search engine. I’m taking a considerable risk even posting here, even though I’ve omitted my last name.

    • Autism Michelle September 19, 2015 at 5:56 pm - Reply

      Rachel is adisc free to sign up for

  8. RockinBaby April 6, 2013 at 6:32 pm - Reply

    ! am also a tg but I am living in my birth gender as a male. I have been in diapers all my life and enjoy the plewp_e and arousal that they bring either wet or messy or both. The problem is finding a partner and that would be female for me to accept me the way I am without the stereotypical nonsense that pervades the culture, typically. Just finding a chat place to talk and discover would be so nice.

  9. William April 11, 2013 at 2:12 pm - Reply

    Just trying to re-subscribe to your blog

    • RockinBaby April 12, 2013 at 12:19 am - Reply

      Hello William, it is sooo nice to settle in and realise you have the right to enjoy the life you have, in diapers or not. I love diapers and will always be in wet, stinky and full as possible messy diapers for as long as I can stand it. I just love it so much. But I also have another life too and have respect for others who may not want this extreme.

  10. ChrisM April 15, 2013 at 7:45 pm - Reply

    (I think my original comment fell into a black hole)
    Your blog takes away much of the sting and fear of wearing diapers for me, and I really appreciate that. 😀
    I wear diapers because I have a pinched nerve that is slowly healing, and not only do they give me a mewp_e of security, but they also provide padding and take some of the pressure off the nerve. Plus, I must admit they’re quite comfortable.
    I worked up the nerve to go to the grocery store wearing regular old jeans and a Molicare, and nobody had a clue as far as I could tell. If anybody was curious, they’d have noticed my limp and slow gait anyway and not bothered to ask.
    Thanks for your blog, keep up the good work!

  11. Rachel April 16, 2013 at 9:50 pm - Reply


    It’s pretty much the same for me. Fair or not, people tend to associate disability with incontinence, so they’re less likely to give a person with a visible disability funny looks if that person’s diapers are noticeable.

    • Rob April 21, 2013 at 12:27 am - Reply

      I’m ready for some iron on patches that say, I Heart Diapers! being a diaper lover since birth it is hard to get the word out, quietly.

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