The title of this post was quite hard to come up with in expressing what this post is about.  But, I wanted to talk about women in the adult baby and diaper lover community.

The reality of the internet is that there will always be guys posing as women on the internet no matter what community you are associated with.  But, it really is unfortunate for the ABDL community because the fact is that there are a lot of women into the adult baby and diaper lover topic but are either scared off from the community or completely blasted because they don’t reveal their whole life to a male or even another female right off the bat.  I understand the skepticism when it comes to making sure it is a woman on the other end but on some level there should be an understanding of trust and gradual progression.

The reality is that most people in this community will start talking to a girl in the ABDL community and almost immediately start asking them for photos, videos, etc.  Which, some girls don’t have problems with that and some do and the level of photo “showage” will vary between girls.  Some will show their face and some will show just their lower half or whatever.  But, the first thing wrong here is that guys start out with these questions first before even getting into any sort of meaningful conversation.  Its almost like some men are just after photos of women in diapers just to please themselves (not all guys mind you); When most girls are just looking for conversation and true friends online.

Some people have no problem being completely open in the adult baby and diaper lover community but some don’t and would prefer using only bits and pieces of their true life in order to remain somewhat anonymous.  This is where understanding comes into play.  Girls and even some guys would be more apt to share more if people would be more conversative and understanding rather than so forward and aggressive.

I will probably regret this later but I will share my experience…Me being a incontinent girl that wears diapers all day, everyday, really enjoys the ABDL community and loves engaging in conversations that are meaningful and would love to meet people that are actually semi-intelligent and have lives that don’t revolve around everything diaper related.  Of course, in the beginning, I was unsure of the ABDL community when I first got involved and I was not very forward with anything and I didn’t reveal much about myself besides being a girl.  I tried to protect myself by remaining anonymous in the terms of not using my real name.  But, as I got more comfortable I started sharing more and realizing the community can be an awesome place.  I started slowly feeling more comfortable revealing things about myself and giving more and more.  Eventually, starting I Heart Diapers, and I became even more comfortable revealing things within limits.  I give as much true factual information about myself to the point where I feel comfortable knowing I can remain semi-anonymous so that it would not affect my career/life outside of the adult baby and diaper lover world.  I am active in the community, I have dozens of photos all through out my blog showing basically everything except my facial features.  I mean, with all of that, even so much as showing my boobs area and such – people still to this day question that I am a girl, LOL.  Its almost laughable at this point and you learn to ignore it.  I mean I get crucified by some people in this community because I don’t show my face…I mean get over yourself…not all of us are in that position in our lives to risk everything by flaunting your face in front of everyone in association with the ABDL community.

Unfortunately, all the suspicion has caused girls to barely even be able to talk to other girls because of the doubt that exists and is present in the community because there is always this “doubt”.  Unless you are willing to shake your bum on webcam or take a photo with your face smiling with a big wet diaper and a handwritten sign saying “This is so and so…” then there is not much trust unfortunately and any sort of relationship outside of fantasy land is basically not possible because the relationship online can’t get past that barrier because no one wants to participate in the conversation unless what I said happens first.

People in the adult baby and diaper lover community just need to recognize that at least with me – I will always be somewhat shielded because I have a successful life outside of the ABDL community and I protect that.  I will divulge more and what not if I actually were to meet you or have a good friendship.

To make a long story short and to sum up – understand is that there are tons of women in the diaper community and they aren’t going to be as open as you want them to be at first with you.  Just like on a first date, things are awkward and unsure, and you just have to give the person the benefit of the doubt and not act accusatory to them otherwise there will be no hope in any sort of meaningful relationship..

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  1. PA_Baby February 4, 2010 at 2:24 pm - Reply

    Right on chica! 🙂 Women in the AB/DL community should be treated respectfully and not asked for photos to prove who they are. If more men would understand that just because a woman is an AB doesnt mean that she wants to be your mommy or change your diaper and more that they just want to have conversations with others and have friends that understand them better than most, the community would be a much better place with more people to chat to and more fun to be had.

  2. moostermiley February 4, 2010 at 3:53 pm - Reply

    Adrian, thank you for being so honest in your blog. You are more of what the ABDL community needs 🙂

  3. Michael (U.K) February 4, 2010 at 4:10 pm - Reply

    I have tried many times to talk to women in ABDL community but never hear anything back, I never fake who I am, never Fake my gender nor will i pester women on internet, I never start messages talking about ABDL topics just abit about myself and ask them if they would like to chat… But I guess those creepy people have ruined it for the true ABDL’s etc…

  4. Bryan February 4, 2010 at 4:38 pm - Reply

    An interesting read!

    And I think that males posing as females show themselves through their actions, so a level of trust should be expected. I know females who pose as males so that they are not harassed so much in the community.

    Be nice to all people, and be net smart 🙂 that’s the best policy.

  5. Adrian February 4, 2010 at 4:40 pm - Reply

    Moostermiley: Thank you…I am typically a very forward person.

    Michael: I know there are a lot of good guys out there in the ABDL community but unfortunately there are a lot of bad guys out there too; or if they are not bad guys in person, then they sure don’t show much respect on the internet because they can remain anonymous.

  6. Adrian February 4, 2010 at 4:41 pm - Reply

    ^^ I agree with you Bryan

  7. Closetdl February 4, 2010 at 5:32 pm - Reply

    Great post as usual. Over the years I have seen the redicule and almost stalking that some women get after revealing their gender do I am not suprised you, and others, don’t feel comfortable showing your true idenity. I myself just took the plunge and posted a picture of my face on Twitter and so far so good…

    JD

  8. Joe February 4, 2010 at 5:51 pm - Reply

    The internet is just a tough place in general. Theres a lot of crazy sh** going on. I dont blame anyone for being guarded, girls or guys. And while we all cruise ABDL sites because of the common interest, there is definately no way of telling who is good and who is bad, even through a couple of chats, so I can see why that would make it very hard to trust someone enough to starting building some sort of relationship. I personally feel that type of thing generally happens by chance in real life…for the most part. Of course there are exceptions to every rule, but it seems in this community they are few and far between.

  9. kkamll February 4, 2010 at 10:33 pm - Reply

    I wasn’t initially going to comment on this blog although I’ve been reading it for a little while, but after this post I felt as though I should. Since I was a little kid I’ve wanted to wear diapers. For years I thought I was alone in that. I didn’t have a problem with myself for wanting to wear them, but I didn’t realize there were others out there who did. I began looking this up online only about a month or two ago and was amazed at what I found out about the AB/DL community. I was very surprised when I found out that most AB/DL people are males, although this is probably only because I am a female and I hadn’t realized that such a community existed. Anyways, I just wanted to thank Adrian for this blog and this post because I know that there are females in this community, as I’m one of them. Granted, as I still live with my parents (I’m almost 18) I haven’t had the opportunity to buy any diapers for myself, however it is in my plans as soon as I am afforded the opportunity. Regardless, this blog has helped me to learn so much more about others out there like me and I’m very thankful for that.

  10. Jks16 February 5, 2010 at 12:02 am - Reply

    Adrian
    I understand what you are saying. I am a girl too, who just happened to absolutely fall in love with diapers after becoming a bed-wetter. But I feel rather intimidated to participate in the ABDL community. In fact, I only read your blog and a Japanese girl’s blog (however she quit writing because she got tired of people asking for pictures or unwanted sexual advances. It is a shame too, her story was wonderful). Along with constant picture requests, I just felt really intimidated by the pressure of trying to ‘prove’ I am who I say I am.

    My friends who know I wear diapers knew me for who I was before they knew about my diapers. They all told me that diapers are a perfect match for me and my typically sweet personality. I have a great supportive community outside the ABDL community. They support me for who I am, and that is what really matters… and that is why I am not involved in the ABDL community.

  11. curiositykilledthecat February 5, 2010 at 12:48 am - Reply

    I mtotally agree, as a man I have to say that there are way too many HNG’s out there that scare off many good women and ruin things for us. I always take things slowly with any woman I meet and don’t even mention diapers till the situation arises.(Sadly hasn’t as of yet)

  12. William February 5, 2010 at 1:38 am - Reply

    Amazing…

  13. Johanna February 5, 2010 at 5:01 am - Reply

    So true, since i’m real incontinent too I spend some time in support groups, one of the members asked me why I never chat, my response was that there are alot of rude males arround, he could not believe that so we went into chat, within a minute I was bluntly asked by a complete stranger if I wanted to fuck him, another wanted to marry me and so on, the member never asked again if I wanted to chat….

    thruout the years I have a yahoogroup only for females that need to wear diapers, one of the rules is ‘No men/boys allowed’ at this moment there are 127 males banned.

    alot of the girls in the abdl community choose non gender usernames, like cloud9 or something like that just so they will not get alot of horny males chasing them…

    On the other hand I can understand the doubt, I’ve seen alot of males posing as females, alot the transgender males who claim to be real females and so on.

  14. Danielle February 5, 2010 at 8:08 am - Reply

    Adrian,

    Thank you SO much for saying what I think we’re all feeling. I have personally been driven away from several AB/DL sites because of being harassed by the “bad guys”. I call them “males” because there is a very real difference between “males” and “men”. It’s so hard to find some sense of community when you’re being asked “Are you wearing your diaper right now? Is it wet?” all the bloody time. For the most part, I’m pretty much solitary and it feels very lonely. I’d like to have a sense of community, but what does one do when harassment drives you away?

    There’s a local BDSM club that I’m a member of where I have met some very understanding people, so I’m getting a bit more brave. I posted pics on FetLife (*BLUSH*), too. Probably not the best idea, but what the heck. The club even has a “Littles” group (though that simply indicates Age Play fetishes… not necessarily AB/DL sorts of things). Though, it is a bit lonely because I’m the only one in a diaper (that I’ve met) and the youngest little (about 2). I really wish there were more girls in the Seattle area… I’d start a Munch, or something…

    Anyways, take care and thanks again for taking the words right out of my mouth. 😉

  15. HuggieBaby February 5, 2010 at 11:35 am - Reply

    Adrian,

    I definately agree with your post. I’ve gone in chat rooms before and even as a male I’ve had the feeling that I can’t have a decent conversation with people. I hate that I can’t just have an ongoing conversation with like minded people because of the lack of trust in our community.

    That said, I’m not sure if I’ve told you before but I think your blog is great, I wish I could be as open with myself as you are. I’m 21 and I go to state college in Brockport NY, thats about all I’ll give out lol. I know the whole thing like if I posted my name, the chances of someone seeing it are pretty slim, and even if they did then they’re probably ABDL too, I just haven’t brought myself to take that risk yet.

    HuggieBaby

  16. wildcat February 5, 2010 at 1:32 pm - Reply

    As I’ve commented in a different post here I almost don’t want to be associated with “DL” or Diaper Lover because it has taken on such a negative connotation with males in this community. I’ve read about women’s experiences with men asking f’ed up things like “is your diaper wet?” and it started to make me feel like a freak even though I treat women with respect.

    I thank all of the women who have come forward here and everywhere because at least I know this isn’t just a fetish that turns men into animals but there are lots of us out there who enjoy wearing diapers for their emotional support and comfort, among other things.

    Adrian: I think one of the things that makes it hard for men or even women for that matter to talk about non ab/dl related things on message boards on the internet is that a lot of us go there looking for acceptance or solutions to our problems related to being an ab or dl. I know that the more active people out there like yourself like to talk about other subjects and I think your blog shouldn’t only be dominated by abdl related topics but also of things that are interesting to you. After all, it is your blog.

  17. rebaka February 5, 2010 at 1:40 pm - Reply

    Im a member of Johannas group in yahoo and I too have been asked to marry strangers in chat rooms and on yahoo messanger. The guys will start saying hello and im looking for friends and im harmless, then within minutes they ask for pics or is your diaper wet or do you have a boyfriend and want to date me. I dont mind showing pics of me, but, my mom gets mad if she finds out. I dont like guys cause im more into girls if you know what I meen [ hee ]. Besides most pics guys want to show of themselves are them in diapers and showing there private parts which is gross.

    Love u Adrienne.
    Beka

  18. Adrian February 5, 2010 at 2:04 pm - Reply

    wildcat: Thank you for the comments – I do recognize a lot of guys aren’t bad but its just amazing the nerve some men have on the internet because they are behind the shield of the internet. I have talked to some very nice guys online but granted its very few compared to the amount of not very nice or respectful ones I have talked to. Also, I will be sure to try and talk more about non abdl things on my blog…granted this is my blog, but I don’t want to bore everyone either because my life is not always that interesting.

    rebaka: Thanks so much for the comments!

  19. Powderhair February 5, 2010 at 3:30 pm - Reply

    This is so true. This is why I have pretty much left my diaperspace by the wayside. I got tired of requests for videos and pictures and personal stuff that I am not willing to reveal. I am just online to look for friendships with people that are AB’s or DL’s. I’m not going to be somebody’s cheap thrill.

  20. HuggieBaby February 5, 2010 at 4:50 pm - Reply

    Another thought I had about pictures is just that when I talk to people I like to put a face to the name ya know, although I would never put my picture so I wouldn’t expect anyone else to. I also have tattoo’s on my stomach and chest so I get paranoid someone would recognize those lol.

    One of the things I do like to talk about pertaining to diapers is involving my gf, just because she’s “an outsider” and I like to help her become more understanding and whatnot, and your blog has helped with that too, so thanks!

    HuggieBaby

  21. Nicky February 6, 2010 at 1:53 am - Reply

    That’s the problem with ABDL community. It’s to dominated by men and Horny men cruising for women. On top of that you have transgender people who are in the ABDL community pretending to be the real female and pretending to be a real woman. What happens is that they are driving out real women from the ABDL and making the community less welcoming towards biological real women. That’s why men within the ABDL community complain about why women are not in the ABDL community and you have to wonder why their male behavior is driving women out.

  22. SorryForAnonymous February 6, 2010 at 9:29 am - Reply

    Just looking at this problem from another angle you can see why even the decent guys have a hard time with this:
    They have been lied to (usually not in private, but in a community as a whole) so many times by girl-imposers that they don’t feel like investing any time in an online friendship with a ‘girl’-ABDL because it might just be a fake again. And if it really is a decent guy, he’d not care for the gender anyway, so it’s safer for him to invest in a friendship with a guy who will not just disappear when being found out, even though it would probably be interesting to share thoughts with somebody of the opposite sex.

    On another note, even one-sided ‘relationships’ like me reading some blog or posting of an ABDL girl (that doesn’t know me at all) makes me insecure, because I always risk finding out that it actually was a fake, wasting my time reading it and thinking about the false information I was given. If the blog is good enough, though, I shrug of those thoughts of ‘I only have 90% proof’ and trust in the good-spiritedness of some members in our little community 🙂

  23. Eli February 6, 2010 at 11:34 am - Reply

    I find this all disconcerting.

    This is the reason I don’t go to chat rooms, etc. I often feel like the groups are filled with over-sexed middleschoolers. And I’m embarassed for them. Like some of the posts above, I feel like I can’t have a descent conversation for fear or being considered one of those people who can’t keep it in their pants, or diaper, or whatever.

    Sure, diapers are awesome … but I … and hopefully everyone else is more than that. There is more to life than diapers, but by the way some of those people talk, you’d think diapers are the “end-all.” For me, the end-all is family and traveling. I love my family. And I’ve done more traveling than most people ever will. Family and traveling do not involve diapers. Not making any implications about other people or the lives they lead, I have a life outside of diapers. Diapers do not define me (but they sure make life better).

    I understand the nature of those chat rooms is the subject of diapers – but it’s disappointing people never really follow rules of etiquette… life and conversations should be more dynamic in my opinion. I stared reading this blog on occasion because it incorporates outside elements, mainly social interaction and acceptance and being comfortable in your own shoes.

  24. Joe February 6, 2010 at 12:41 pm - Reply

    well i hope some of the guys and girls who have posted on this maybe start chatting! seems like every here is on the same page at least 🙂

  25. Hugo February 6, 2010 at 3:35 pm - Reply

    As usual, spectacular!
    I understand it :D…. Goods for all of you

  26. Tommy-ABDL February 6, 2010 at 6:32 pm - Reply

    I always knew this was the case, I am aware that the moment a female appears online on any site, guys will try to hit on them and ask for photos, it happens everywhere I’m afraid and I totally respect why women want to be secure, so as to be in control and turn down these heartless requests.

    You are one of the most respectable people I know in the ABDL community for alot of reasons, I admit you are attractive but my respect for you comes from who you are and the advice you give in these blogs, it touches me in so many ways sometimes. What I hate is when women get treated this badly by people who only want one thing, its selfish and rude and they dont tend to realise what women like that truly want.

    Even if I never get to see your face, or even if you stopped uploading photos altogether, I still come back to hear your words because I want to hear them, I’d shake your hand if I ever had the chance =)

  27. kevin February 6, 2010 at 11:43 pm - Reply

    hi my name is kevin and would like to meet a girl in the NY area im 23 years old and im a DL

  28. Michael (U.K) February 7, 2010 at 12:17 am - Reply

    @ Kevin

    Am not sure this is the perfect way to meet a girl and especially on this article

  29. cwick February 7, 2010 at 1:39 am - Reply

    yeah this has been a growing frustration to me so much. I’ve had varied experiences from thinkin a woman was perfect to find out it was a guy and other times she really was a woman but i only saw her one time. It is tough and do not forget we are all creatures of nature and biologically men are going to be the aggressors trying to procreate. It is in our DNA to do this. The tactics have changed but the principal is still there. that being said it is trying as you women get bombarded a lot of times just for a name alone that sounds feminine. I did enjoy reading your blog? Is that what falls under bloggin i dunno but it was nicely thought out and intelligent it was very real and also emotional hitting as i find myself quite frustrated by the very same things you mentioned. Understanding is definitely key and i believe it is on both ends. Sometimes us men get blasted too for being ourselves even if that is the most honest thing you could ever ask for. that being said i do admire your page you’ve started and if you need someone to contribute i can and will share pictures of things like i know some folks asked about secure x plus diaperswhich i can happily take some shots of for ya. I’m a big fan of actions speak louder than words 😉 good luck!

  30. cwick February 7, 2010 at 1:53 am - Reply

    I hope that my gesture of contribution wasn’t misconstrued i re-read my post and i partly shook my head thinkin wow maybe that was too much. It’s very difficult to show people you are genuine just from words as people can read them many different ways. I only meant it in the most honest expression of support possible. Thanks all,

    cwick
    p.s. stay healthy and happy everyone (physically and mentally 😉

  31. cwick February 7, 2010 at 2:28 am - Reply

    Wow just found your posting of the secure pictures. i’m way behind as i only more recently found your website. *deep breath* well it’s the thought that counts anyway 🙂

  32. black-dragon February 7, 2010 at 12:57 pm - Reply

    I’ll say this, the last few topics here I think have been off the chart for just about anything that has to do with AB/DL, Gender, TransGender, meeting people, medical vs non medical use of diapers. Back in August last year there are a few other topics that are right along the lines of recent postings and replies. Of any AB/DL related sites, This is the cleanest one and the most tasteful sites around not to mention helpful just to talk.

  33. Lena February 10, 2010 at 1:47 pm - Reply

    Thanks for the great post. The problem you’re adressing is sad in many ways, really. Sometimes I’ve thought “what if they’re right, what if I’m the only real female with a diaper fetish in the universe”…

  34. babygirl March 15, 2010 at 10:49 pm - Reply

    hi adrian,i enjoyed your article and feel you are right on the money.i am 23 and an aduly baby.i have a job an apartment and a boyfriend and he knows nothing of my baby life.i became a diaper lover and baby when i was 15.me and two other girls at our parish were baptized as babies and each of us wore the white gown,bonnet,lace socks and booties.we had to wear a cloth diaper and rubber pants and tee shirt under our gowns.we were referred to as babies and treated like babies for the day.we made our first communions 6 months later and wore our diaper and rubber pants under communion dresses.i loved the feeling of being a baby and started wearing my diaper and rubberpants for other occasions.i now am a baby when i am home alone and love it.

  35. Gui May 6, 2010 at 2:47 am - Reply

    Good post 🙂

    What put me off the ABDL community is meeting so many people that just want to talk about nappies or something sexualised. In all honesty, although I like to meet other people in the community, their ABDL commitments interest me the least. I already know they like nappies or have some relation to the community from their participation in a particular forum, and would rather treat the matter of ABDL lifestyle as delicatley as any other personal aspect.

    Hondas are much more interesting. VTEC just kicked in bro’ 🙂

  36. baby jim May 23, 2010 at 11:06 pm - Reply

    if I could get a adult mommy or daddy that would live in
    Ephrata

  37. babyevan July 9, 2010 at 11:18 am - Reply

    i thank you for your blog. You and everyone else has just been saying what i’ve been thinking for years. there really are just a few people out there that ruin all this for everyone else.

    you miss just got yourself another reader
    thank you
    –E

  38. michael July 15, 2010 at 7:57 am - Reply

    i dont know if i like or dislike wearing diapers at this moment,but i do know i have to wear them and they have saved me many times over from wet pants. spinal injury if you must know. i have a sense of security now. i have been reading blogs on diffrent ad/bl sites and there are lots of pervs just looking for sexual plewp_e. i come to sites like this to help me feel normal as good as anyone else due to my injury.and i have found a few people that helped me finding things i needed like plastic pants etc. keep dry my friends….michael

  39. LIDL July 16, 2010 at 11:08 am - Reply

    I agree with the other posts. Reading this blog is often a conservative breath of fresh air, if you know what I mean. There is absolutely much more to life than diapers — even if in my situation I find them frustratingly arousing at times. Family, friends, career, a good beach day and bike ride are what matter to me most. (That — and a cold drink to wash it all down!) Perhaps somehow we can begin to break down those mistrusting barriers right here, with this group. I just posted for the first time on another post last night. Such a great website!

  40. Tif August 13, 2010 at 11:50 pm - Reply

    I’m a girl & a DL. I have struggled with my overwhelming desire to wear diapers since I was 6 or 7 years old. I always thought something was wrong with me and have hid it for years. I never purchased diapers, but I would make them out of my little cousins baby diapers or use towels.

    I have now been married for almost 3 years and just told my husband about being a DL this week! I have never been able to find good, pure females who share this need to wear diapers, and I’ve felt so alone and guilty for nearly my entire life. My friends would describe me as very innocent and open. As a matter of fact being a DL was (until I told my husband) my only secret. I was so happy to see this post and discover that there are female DL’s out there!

    I’m happy to report that my husband is OKAY with me wearing diapers. However, he is not at all attracted to me in diapers nor does he want to participate in it at all. I’m just happy he didn’t freak out, and realizes that this doesn’t define me, but it’s a part of me.

    Anyway, Thanks for the post

  41. Ken E. August 31, 2010 at 10:49 am - Reply

    I am a man, and I totally agree with you. I have tried to get into the communities you have indulged in but with regret, not because of the same reasons but only because I am shy. I want to meet my love somewhere some how to be with in real life. Because of what you said they don’t talk or want to get to know you, I am not one of those men you have described. Because of this I feel I am alone. I have also been hit on by men too, and transgender babies. I am sick of only being with the men talking too. Another problem with it is to actually have a conversation with a true woman or to even get into any kind of conversation with in the group. I am one of many and no one knows me so they tend to ignore you, I understand it takes time, but I have spent months trying to chat and no one wants to get to know you. Some times I don’t know the inside rules. Ohh sure I know and read the rules but there are inside rules that no one speaks of, I’m sure you understand what I’m saying. I am not saying I’m flaunting sexual stuff but saying that you have to hold some kind of faults persona about being there. Like don’t speak unless some one speaks to you, or your not playing right, some times they just want to start arguments with you. It’s hard when you’re on those places and I am very depressed trying to find my soul mate.

  42. alex September 7, 2010 at 6:22 am - Reply

    hi there… great post. i am in the uk, and i have met a wonderfull woman about a year ago on diaper mates and she is moving in with me this week. she contacted me and like many have flagged up on this article there is more to life than diapers. i did not discuss diapers with her for ages when we first started chatting on msn. we both knew why we were on diapermates in the first place and that was enough to begin with. it was importiant to me to find some one who shared the same likes and interests as me,(other than diapers). when the time was right we started to discuss the fetish and what would you know, that was the pinicle… she liked what i liked. i have seen the way men act around women on the net and quite frankly i think its shamefull. you wouldnt go up to a woman in the street and just ask for sex or marrige would you, so why do it on the net. there could be alot of happy people in happy relationships if the men on the net would just take their diaper off, take a cold shower and put life into context…….. my girlfriend knows when im horny cos i do tend to go on about the fetish alot but we are solid and in a relationship and if we didnt have the fetish, it would be just normal sex i would go on about, but once again, we are in a relationship and that is acceptable…. i wouldnt dream of just asking a woman ive never spoke to or met before if she wanted sex or any of the above mentioned in this article as i am not in a relatinship with them and as the saying goes, familiarisation breeds contempt. men need to realise that if they dont change their ways and kick back and relax a little there wont be any women on here for them to hopefully do as i have done and started a meaning full relationship.. i am sorry for all the abuse you women have been subject to and i would like to appoligise on behalf of the male members of this world but dont dispair cos not all of us are led with our genitals…

  43. babyevan September 7, 2010 at 6:14 pm - Reply

    right on alex

  44. diggir November 18, 2010 at 11:27 am - Reply

    These are some of the best posts on the topic of women of the ab/dl sites. I have to abmit when I first found out there were sites dedicated to people who wear diapers for fun I was in heaven. I wasn’t the only one. However, I started out as a neanderthal and if I did find a female to talk to my first question was” what diaper are you wearing”. Wrong question! So here I am taking my share of the blame for scaring off female ab/dl’s. Watching the sites as closely as I have for years now I have changed. I don’t bring up the subject of diapers until whoever I’m talking to does. There are so many other things to talk about first such as in my case, age. I’m 58 and I want to make that clear if I’m talking to a 20 something or a 60 something. Anyway, so I don’t ramble on anymore I wish that anyone going to the ab/dl sites had to read these posts first. Then they may realize how they should act.

  45. Jacques November 27, 2010 at 12:18 pm - Reply

    I like to meet a woman who like to wear diapers and also date them.

  46. Jacques November 27, 2010 at 12:20 pm - Reply

    I like to change adrain’s diaper.

  47. diaper king November 27, 2010 at 3:47 pm - Reply

    any lady wanting two change a mans diaper is dame good.

  48. jacques November 27, 2010 at 3:50 pm - Reply

    Adrain
    I like to get to know you and find out a lot about you. why you wear diaper? But i do not wont to hurt your feelings.

  49. Jacques November 27, 2010 at 4:08 pm - Reply

    I like to learn about poeple who wear diapers and why. that is if you do not mind me asking Adrian.

  50. Jacques November 27, 2010 at 4:14 pm - Reply

    I like to wear one some times. Adrain

  51. Jacques November 27, 2010 at 4:24 pm - Reply

    Adrain Could you send me a email answer please that If you do not mind.

  52. John November 27, 2010 at 8:52 pm - Reply

    Adian I know what you are meaning I thank it is just nice to communicate with others that have the same issue or if they like to express to others what works best and could be recomended for use for others through statment and personal testomony,
    I thank you hit the nail on the head on your statment, As I have in the past have talked nothing more than about the product Itself that we believe in I perfer to have respectfull conversation than to talk dirty online and to represent to others what your web is about I hope all is well.
    You and Peter take care.
    P.S. I hope this gives you some since of respect.

  53. Jag November 27, 2010 at 11:54 pm - Reply

    people that are semi-intelgint and that lives and dreams that dont revolve around diapers… sounds about right

    i actually had dreams of being a famous auther (with NOTHING diaper related in it) the diaper part was always really sorta private and i didn’t start wearing every now and then till i got into college (last year)

    As of right now, i haven’t done much with my stories but i hope to get back into writing after things die down a bit with this whole learning thing lol. im majoring in Radiology Technology (x-ray)

    actually… lol i just got a new idea for a creature/monster/chapter in the first book… i must leave, im off to go write (^_^)

  54. Jake November 28, 2010 at 3:28 pm - Reply

    It’s true that there are alot of horny guys just looking to get sexual gradification but some of us are just looking for friends to talk with and people who actually understand where we are coming from

  55. Jacques November 28, 2010 at 4:47 pm - Reply

    Adrain When did you start to be come incontent? I have a little bit my self.

  56. bigbabybilly February 25, 2011 at 4:33 pm - Reply

    i understand how you feel i am a guy a big baby , been looking for a mommy / slash wife. for many years now, i know women my age are very rare, and to think one would want a nice shy overweight big baby is like winning lottery.i have joined a few what i would call adult baby places, in hope of meeting a nice women, and over the years had throught i had met a few, not in person , but online, now here where i feel folish.they latter turned out to be guys, my face was red then, and you know i was hurt, and mad.so yes i agree with you that we should be who we are, people get hurt by lies, and in this baby world, i guess we are kind of desprete.so if ever some one wishes to chat let me know at [email protected] all i ask is be respectfull,and be who you are .thank you

  57. Jone March 31, 2011 at 8:51 am - Reply

    It’s time those boys – and they are boys – grew up and realilsed what the word girls means. And yes, I like Adult Baby and Diaper Lover. The word is nappy, by the way – oh, and I’m a girl and have trans girls – friends – who were gay and never had ‘issues’. More girls please and less doubt of women who are Adult Babies, nappy or not.

  58. Jac April 2, 2011 at 11:29 am - Reply

    I would love to have a baby girl to care for complety . Even a baby siter when dadys at work . i can make this happen lets chat

  59. Sim June 14, 2011 at 2:03 pm - Reply

    I think that its funny that some of the replies to this post missed the topic completly. I have shied away from these sites because people (guys) are really only looking to try to fullfill thier fantasies. Maybe a few will get lucky, I really cant say. I am just lookibg for a site to chat with people of like mind and I can be myself without judging.

  60. Remy June 15, 2011 at 11:47 pm - Reply

    It is awkward…I’m just crazy embarrassed. I would never let any of my friends or family know. I would love to show off myself through pics on the internet but never my face. Neck down maybe. Plus I can’t really afford diapers (being a college freshman is expensive! -_-). But I really didn’t know guys wanted to see that. I thought it was weird for a girl to like that, and that mostly guys were into wearing diapers.

  61. Honu June 16, 2011 at 9:53 pm - Reply

    Well put Adrian. My wife is and has always been female. No offense to the transexuals and Sissys, but I seem almost more of them online listed as women than women like her and you. She wears diapers all the time and enjoys the AB lifestyle when she can. She also has a responsible job with infants and has been investigated to hold that position. I also wear diapers all the time, have a professional job and interests that include music, distance running, SCUBA diving, home repair and upgrades as well as working on cars. I do what I can to welcome girls to the community and hope that others start doing the same. Until more women sign on, the statistics will show that this community is as male dominated as my wife’s quilting forum is female dominated.

  62. redslittlesissy July 28, 2011 at 8:41 am - Reply

    I agree the honesty factor in not only the ab/dl cummunity is lacking but in all fetish areas. Finding sites and people online to get ideas and share thoughts is hard. While I may be dressed at times as a woman or a sissy little girl I always admit to being a male for this truth is what makes me what i am. What pic’s i share do not include face and to be honest none of my sissy pics have hit the net yet as both myself and my domme girlfreand worry about affecting our regular lives. on a side note does anyone have realistic puplic outing ideas or experiences that are not complete over the top fantasy?

  63. Collin February 14, 2012 at 11:16 pm - Reply

    Hey, Adrian, i know what you mean to some extant, because I am a male, so i dont see what you see. But I understand having to be … i guess secretive about you’re life not qanting the rest of the world know your life, heck I’m looking for someone to be friends with, and someone to love and be with, but in the ad/dl community so that a girl would understand. I love my life out side of the ab/dl community to.

    Not forcing you or trying to creep anyone out but if you wanna chat just send it by [email protected]

  64. Lucent June 28, 2012 at 12:16 pm - Reply

    This sums up precisely why I don’t even bother joining AB/DL community sites anymore. It’s too hard to find genuine people with ambitions outside of diapers.

    I’ve pretty much given up hope of ever finding a female friend who likes wearing diapers, and I HAVE given up hope of ever finding an AB/DL partner…chances are I’ll just have to bury this part of me in a cold dark place and never look at it again.

  65. plasticpantslover August 5, 2012 at 8:56 am - Reply

    I agree with most of these remarks, except the ones that missed the point. Everyone has a fetish. some simple and some exotic. some are concidered normal some are not. VERY FEW discuss them with co-workers, friends and especially relatives. It is a private thing. I only discuss mine(I love plastic pants and diapers occasionally)with others of the same fetish. I play golf, love football and tailgaiting, I’m retired from a full time job I did for 32 years. I do find that women tend to talk about their fetishes less than men. I’ve gotten my wife to try plastic pants a few times and the experience was great. But it’s not her thing because to many people see it as “kinky” In closing I’d just like to know, of those people that judge diaper-lovers as kinky,,,what’s your fetish,, you’ve got one.. Oh don’t want to talk about it. And ladies,,real ones please, don’t be afraid to open up to those of us who are in the same boat

  66. robbie November 23, 2012 at 5:25 pm - Reply

    i want a woman to be a mommy. she will change my diapers;nurse me, & if she has no milk, she can let me nurse & then bottle feed me. want to cuddle & have her love me like a mommy. i don’t know how to find this woman.

  67. Frank December 21, 2012 at 5:38 pm - Reply

    I’m a male. Would love to talk, chat, whatever with real females that enjoys diapers and plastic pants but due to prejudices that will never happen. There are people that enjoy BDSM, men that where garters, women that dominate, etc, you get my drift on this. But they all hold normal jobs, have families, and handle their fetish privately. I’m not sure I’d be happy knowing what some or all of my neighbors do in private. Anyone that says they don’t have a fetish is a liar. Everyone likes some variation when it comes to sex. We’ve just been brought up to think “vanilla”. I’ve loved plastic pants my entire life and am getting into diapers now. My wife was brought up in a strict household as I was that taught sex is not to be talked about let alone enjoyed. Therefore she has tried, enjoyed, my plastic pants fetish but feels ashamed of it and won’t do it anymore. The plastic pants and diapers are not just for sex with me even though they are a big part of my sex life, they also give me a sense of calmness. I am retired, belong to clubs and play golf all outside the abdl world. I love life in general not just my abdl interest.I’ve vented enough. Have a great normal day

  68. Collin (~Coleen) November 24, 2013 at 11:15 pm - Reply

    I know exactly what you mean, most of the time no actually all of the time in any online game or website I got by a girl, why? Because sometimes I cross dress and want to be more in the mood of being a girl and practice my skills at acting like a girl. I’m not on of those people who do those things you mentioned to girls in this community or in any community, that’s why of some girl I meet online wants to Skype or talk about something personal I say no because that’s not me that Coleen, Anna, Kayla, Katie, Kerri, Katherine or what ever name I choose to use. Personally Adrian I would love to be you I would switch over without a moments hesitation for 2 reasons,
    1: you are padded 24/7 (My Dream)
    2: You are a girl ( also my dream)
    I don’t know if you hate me for acting like this or really couldn’t care less. I just wanted to just get this out there so maybe if anyone else was doing the same. If you ask me why I do this well on a summer day walking around in a flowing halter strap dress seems much better than just plain shorts and T shirt, also because it’s relaxing for reasons I cannot explain, I’ve never told anyone this before and I don’t know why I came out of the closet all of a sudden… Well as sort of a P.S. if you see a name EVER with ~ in front if it its me and just say hi. My most common name is Athena or Athena1088, well that’s all I got. Who ever actually reads this thanks and that you are probably thinking I’m some weird screwed up person, your probably right because that’s what I am.

  69. ~Coleen November 26, 2013 at 11:04 pm - Reply

    For example if i hadnt wrote that ⬆ then i would have wrote something like this… Yes Adrian, tottally have to agree with you there, being a girl and all being not able to know who im talking to like is DiaperLover18 really a girl or is he/she pretending? This is one of the only sites in which i know that you are a girl and personally wish i was you… Having someone to meet your needs and support you 100% and being padded 24/7 I would change to that life without a second thought, i think i can say that for most people on this site am i right?! Personally i just look at sites like this read stories and blogs and think wow… That would be soo cool if that happened to me but only if my friends and family were 100% supportive.

  70. John Taranowski February 24, 2015 at 2:58 am - Reply

    I am a 44 yrl guy that has been incontinent since 06. I first looked to the internet for support and I came across the abdl world. I become involved and started to talk to people. I will admit that I am no longer ashamed of having to wear diapers. They are a part of life. But it is like you said. There are guys out there posing as women. I was talking to one of them and didn’t know it and they ask for pics. Glad I didn’t go there. So all you guys, take it easy on the girls in our community. Don’t for get that just because a women wears diapers either for need or plewp_e, you still deserve respect!!!!!

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