I am posing a question to the community in a “just wondering” type fashion.  Being incontinent I am more concerned about absorbancy per-se than thickness of the diaper.  But, that is not to say I want a paper-thin diaper.  I personally would rather a thicker diaper but not ridiculously thick.  But, what if there was a “Diaper A” that felt thicker but absorbed less than “Diaper B” which was a little bit thinner but absorbed more.  Now, I know answers will vary greatly on this topic but I just was curious what people thought.

My thoughts are that while I do like thickness a great deal, personally I would rather absorbancy because I am incontinent and not leaking is my primary goal.  While, I do have a AB/DL side and that is what drives that wanting thickness feeling – my personal preference is absorbancy.  Now, I am sure there are many “what ifs” to this question that can pose issues and there are infinite variables but I guess I am just trying to simplify it.

I love the feeling of a thick diaper between my legs and protecting my bottom but I don’t like it so thick that it makes me waddle.  I am sure many people feel the same way in regards to this.  I still like feeling like a sexy girl and not Donald Duck waddling everywhere.

But, I pose this question to some of you – would you sacrifice a bit of thickness for better absorbancy?.

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  1. Josh December 29, 2008 at 6:50 am - Reply

    I personally like absorbancy over thickness you can always make a diaper bulkier but you can’t change a singualar diaper more absorbant.

  2. Richard December 29, 2008 at 9:21 am - Reply

    It’s absorbancy that is important for me – the thinner the better as it is less obvious. Most important is not to have to keep changing them as I wear to avoid frequent bathroom visits.

  3. Mysika December 29, 2008 at 10:22 am - Reply

    I think absorbency is important to anyone who plans on using nappies instead of just wearing them. Thickness is more about feel and I guess the more obvious they are, the more humiliating it is. Plus if they’re so thick you can’t walk normally in them, it adds to the helplessness you feel.

  4. DP John December 29, 2008 at 2:59 pm - Reply

    I whole heartily agree that absorbency is the most important factor in choosing a diaper. All other factors are secondary.

  5. goofy December 29, 2008 at 5:05 pm - Reply

    Absorbancy (no leaking) is my primary objective. I’ll go out on a limb and offer ‘style & fit’ as the feelings desired IE: plastic pants over a diaper. I’m a huge fan of terry. I use those almost exclusive (day & night).

  6. Samantha December 29, 2008 at 5:41 pm - Reply

    Absorbency, for sure. The issue of “waddling” is a good topic all by itself, though. Maybe you could bring that up? Personally, I find it hard to not waddle when I have a very wet and.or poopy diaper on. But I try very hard and have gotten fairly good at it. I just walk a little slower. If its a big load, I walk very slow and “casual”. I tend not to wet so much as poop my diaper, as I’m not really unable to feel when I have to pee, but I don’t know when I need to poop until the last second. For me, the issue of leaking is secondary to having a decent “cargo area” to hold my typically large firm poops.

  7. Brandon December 30, 2008 at 12:39 am - Reply

    Absorbency of course. Especially since that is the main goal of the diaper. Makes me wonder, if you took away the thickness of the diaper, would there still be diaper lovers? Interesting thought. 🙂

  8. WillInTn December 30, 2008 at 12:48 am - Reply

    I prefer absorbency, but it also has to fit properly and be comfortable. Personally, I use molicare super plus. Yes, they are on the thicker side (compared to attends/depends/store brand), but the cut of the diaper “fits” me very well. A lot of the store brands don’t feel right – they are either cut too low in the front or back.

    Would I do to a thinner diaper if it were as absorbent? Maybe, but only if they had the same fit as what I currently use.

  9. Mike December 30, 2008 at 3:55 am - Reply

    I think Tranquility ATN is the best balance of the two. Not too thin, but absorbs a lot.

  10. johnroswald December 30, 2008 at 6:49 am - Reply

    as mentioned by WillinTN, the fit is the most important of all for me. most of the store brands don’t protect well with my small build even if they are pretty absorbent because of the leakage factor. that’s why i use molicares and attends. those seem to fit quite well 🙂

    occasionally, though, i love to lounge around in the thickest diaper possible, get that helpless feeling, and waddle around. i love the feeling of waddling. however i am in search of the thickest disposable ever. anyone have any suggestions? molicares and attends are pretty thick, but is there a thicker one?

  11. Eli December 30, 2008 at 5:50 pm - Reply

    I’m with Mike, I was thinking the same thing when reading your article. It’s the perfect balance while not making you waddle like the X-Plus (I always stock both, heh). Anyway, the ATN does not clump like an Attends does.

  12. Charlie22 December 30, 2008 at 5:57 pm - Reply

    I’m going with thickness. I wonder if thinner diapers would make a bowel movement more noticeable in public? I would think that thinner diapers would release more odor as well. I enjoy the feeling of having a thick diaper between my legs. Thick diapers also tend to have very good absorbency anyway. For those who are really incontinent, I completely understand the need for thinner, but more absorbent, protection. Especially since they will be out in public and must wear protection at all times.

  13. Carrie December 30, 2008 at 6:40 pm - Reply

    Well, being incontinent and in High School I want absorbency first and preferbly be as thin as possible. But I am a DL, so I like feeling the thickness between my legs. If I had the choice Absobency first, then thickness. Abosrbency for school and thickness for “playing”.

  14. Nicky December 31, 2008 at 12:42 am - Reply

    I would have to say thicker because you don’t to change diapers in the middle of the day and you want a diaper to last all day until u can get home and change again for the next day as well. As for holding poop all day, I think once you start to poop, you may as well have to change. As for absorbency, i think it’s good to keep a low profile, but it won’t hold for long where as thicker, yea it may show, but it last longer and can hold all day until you can get home.

  15. Mike January 4, 2009 at 4:55 am - Reply

    Just curious, what kind of diapers are pictured in the latest post?

  16. Adrian January 4, 2009 at 5:54 am - Reply

    They are just some sort of Baby Diapers…not adult diapers 🙂

  17. Sean January 6, 2009 at 12:09 am - Reply

    I personally would want a diaper that is more absorbant then one that is really thick. I want to be able to go to a concert and not have to worry about having to change but not a diapers that everyone can tell your wearing though. I really want to try Attends 10

  18. ChrisandMya January 6, 2009 at 4:41 pm - Reply

    Mya enjoys the thickness over the absorbency of her diapers. She will often times wear two or even three diapers to get that extra thickness.

  19. Tobias January 9, 2009 at 8:15 pm - Reply

    I like thicket diaper. Is like mi feel like a Baby 🙂

  20. Tobias January 9, 2009 at 8:17 pm - Reply

    I like thick diapers. When i wear i fell like a litel baby boy 🙂

  21. johnnyjay January 14, 2009 at 2:49 am - Reply

    Hello I have tried a lot of disoposible diapers and the only one that dont Leak is Bambino clasico I have tryed everything from cloth diapers to Tranqulity ATN and they leek and i wet the bed Bambaino diapers did not leek SO I THANK YOU FOR TELLING ME ABOUT THEM

  22. Marcus January 15, 2009 at 2:17 pm - Reply

    Well, it depends on your situation. If you don’t want the diaper to be too obvious, something like Tena Super or Molicare is quite thin but more absorbent than you’d expect. I ususally add a ladies incontinent pad (like Tena Super or Molicare Midi) for extra absorbency. No need to punch holes in it as the pee will overflow into the diaper. That way the padding is not too obvious from behind. When wanting too show the diaper off a bit and if you’re looking for a softer more puffy feel, some of the cheaper brands are nice. I on such occasions actually fold a flat cloth baby diaper (usuually in sort of long triangular shape) & wear it inside the disposable. A woman would be better off just folding it into a rectangular pad shape. So its really six of one half a dozen of the other.
    Marcus (Tena Girlyboy)

  23. Diaper Lightning January 21, 2009 at 4:59 am - Reply

    Depends on the amount of time in between changes. If it is going to be a long time, over 4 hours- go with a Maximum diaper like the Molicare or Abena X-plus. If you have the ability to change more often, then I would use the super version of Abena, and the next level down on the Molicare. Attends are soft IMO and if held close with strong underwear, then those would be my staple.

  24. littlefoxboy January 23, 2009 at 9:45 pm - Reply

    I prefer an assorbent diaper, normally thickness goes with it, I’d prefer not having a major bulge cause I don’t where them for the benefit of others.

  25. running with diapers January 26, 2009 at 8:55 pm - Reply

    I prefer the more absorbent; however, I’m really curious to know where people buy their diabers? Online… CVS… Walgreens… Walmart???

  26. baby boy j February 11, 2009 at 11:05 pm - Reply

    i like both but i would pick the thickest diaper because if i leak i would like the atention i would get 🙂

  27. Tena March 2, 2009 at 3:12 pm - Reply

    I seem to see more people interested in the thicker diapers, but that doesn’t mean they are more absorbent, just because they are thicker. It’s the gel in the material that retains the liquids.

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  29. Michael R. May 21, 2009 at 5:02 am - Reply

    The question was thickness vs absorbency, but there are some other important factors. Specifically, the thinner high absorbency diapers often rely more on gel. This means that they become thick when wet, and if taped too tightly, this can lead to “mis-directing” the urine around the side where it can leak. If you move around a lot, some people find that the gel doesn’t stay in place, breaking up and collecting in the bottom. Gel also doesn’t wick the wetness to the back of the diaper, and if you are standing when you wet, then sit down, it can squeeze out and leak behind the legs. Tena Overnights (last I used them) were a good example of this. The thickness of a thicker diaper often comes from the use of more pulp in addition to gel. The pulp is better at wicking and therefore lets you take advantage of more of the diaper’s absorbent potential. It tends to hold the gel in place better and while it starts thick, it doesn’t tend to get significantly thicker than that. Molicare Super Plus is a good example of this.

  30. diapered24 August 5, 2009 at 8:30 pm - Reply

    I really have to go for absorbent. Isn’t that the reason we are in diapers, not to leak, and not to wet outside our diapers.

  31. Ladwig November 9, 2009 at 3:13 pm - Reply

    Thurstyer the better than thicker in my opinon

    I must say Bambinos rock compared to any of the diapers i’ve worn.

    I haven’t tryed many diapers ,Tena ,Depends ,store brand ,& of course Bambino.

  32. Plankton November 30, 2009 at 10:19 am - Reply

    As a producer of adult diaper I can give u a more technical answer… a certain thickness is needed for good absorbency. Its not so much the storage of fluid, its about the distribution of them within the product. For incontinent people these is not so much a issue as for DL’s. Since DL’s urinate bigger quantities over shorter amount of time, hence the spreading and holding fluid is much more important then the actual storage (capacity).

    So I good and save diaper should not only have a certain capacity, but also thickness.

  33. lilstevie December 6, 2009 at 12:51 am - Reply

    I go for absorbency . But , fit and comfort is important too and without a good fit even a good absorbant diaper might leak. So my vote is absorbency and fit.

  34. baby0grim February 2, 2010 at 12:57 am - Reply

    I would have to say a little bit of both to be honest. Well i have used depends diapers, they are fairly absorbant, but the naturally thinner diapers like them cannot retain as much as a ‘thicker’ diaper when fully wet. I wear for need, but i prefer a diaper with moderate thickness, it gives me the security that they will last multiple wettings as i cannot properly change myself when out and about. So in my opinion: Absorbancy is a good thing but a diaper has to have some amount of thickness.

  35. Neil March 26, 2012 at 10:45 am - Reply

    Absorbency for daytime ( nite use should be considered differently ) use of diapers is dependent upon the gram weight of the polymer put into the product. Also ths type of polymer is important and the placement of the polymer in the absorbent matting. Place it too high and you get a gel lock that prevents fluids from permeating the absorbent matting. Place it too deep and you get puddling until the polymer kicks in. A combination of quick acting and full absorbent polymers work best.
    Then there’s the cut in the elastic on the leg. Just like some brands of baby diapers fit some children better than others . It’s the same with adults .

  36. Andrew March 26, 2012 at 5:24 pm - Reply

    Honestly, it depends on the amount of SAP in the diaper, and how hard it’s packed down. Some diapers have woodchip or “fluff”, but they don’t do the real job. The harder the SAP is packed down, in theory, the diaper should be thin and absorbent.

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