Adult babies and diaper lovers have always been faced with a stigma from the general public because of the relationship between diapers and babies.  People automatically associate that because a grown adult enjoys wearing diapers or just wears diapers in general that they are some how associated with a child.  This stigma has cursed the ABDL community since the inception of the community.  Websites and TV shows have portrayed the community mainly in a negative light without even trying to understand the truth behind the reality of the mindset of adult babies and diaper lovers.  There are the select few like there are in any group of people that are going to give a group a bad name but it does not represent the majority mindset among a community.  I understand that TV and websites only portray the exaggerated aspect of the ABDL community because that is entertainment and by degrading others it makes the viewers feel superior and more powerful which in turn leads to them watching the show or reading the web page because they can sit there and feel better about themselves while looking down upon others.

In reality, every single person has a kink or something strange about them that others will find different that could range from normal to some people to perverse to others.  It is all judgment.  In the case of adult babies and diapers lovers, the reality is that many people find comfort, plewp_e, security, fun, enjoyment, and some sexual gratification along with other emotions and feelings mixed in.  This is the reality of the ABDL community.  The fact is that there is a businessman working on Wall Street this very moment (probably a bunch of them) that enjoys cross-dressing or finds it gratifying both emotionally and sexually to dress up in leather and beaten with a whip and chains by a woman or man and yet they are the same people judging others because they enjoy wearing diapers or judging others because they enjoying acting young again.  This is hypocritical and sad honestly and speaks worlds about the mindsets of people.

Bondage, foot fetishes, and even gay sex has become mainstream where it might be looked at as different but certainly not ridiculed as much as adult babies and diaper lovers.  The reality is that nobody takes the time, whether in the media or websites, to try and understand what really goes on in a fetish/interest like adult babies and diaper lovers.  Instead, they pass it off as too strange.  When in reality, I can absolutely guarantee you that 80% of people who tried on an adult diaper would enjoy the feeling or not mind it.  Obviously, it would take an adjustment period but in the end I can almost guarantee you that 80% at least of people would enjoy it and feel a certain level of comfort and security in them among other things.

I am sure there will be not only adult babies and diaper lovers reading this article but also you “other” people who are not part of the community.  For those “other” people, think about in these ways: what if your best friend enjoyed wearing diapers…are they automatically “sick” and “nasty” and you don’t trust them anymore because of this even though you have known them for forever? Or, think about your own kink/fetish/unusual interest and think of if your boss or friends found out about it…would you want them to automatically jump to conclusions about you in every possible aspect of your life? And finally, realize that there are millions of people around the world that enjoy wearing diapers (yes, millions) and do you think they are all bad as well as what do you think the likelihood is of there being someone who enjoys wearing diapers around you (pretty significant chance)?  Like I said, the reality is the stigma of the adult babies and diaper lovers; if people can get past the stigma and realize the majority population of the ABDL’s mindset and reasons then the stigma dissipates and understanding can begin just as with so many other things in history that have become more mainstream and accepted with stigmas such as homosexuality..

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  1. ClosetDL August 13, 2009 at 11:18 am - Reply

    That has to be your best post yet! Bravo!!!

  2. Michael August 13, 2009 at 12:28 pm - Reply

    The thing I don’t like about some AB’s is when you see them wearing BABY DIAPERS and using them I think that’s one of the thing’s that gives us a bad name because people automatically think that person likes children so the PUBLIC aren’t the only people who gives us a bad name it’s also other ABDL’s

  3. Bryan August 13, 2009 at 12:57 pm - Reply

    Site your sources XD

    Sorry, I had to put that out there -cough- What I meant was, for future articles you might want to have links in your posts to further readings, links to the sites you researched before writing the article and other interesting links.

  4. ian August 13, 2009 at 12:58 pm - Reply

    I could,nt agree with ya more adrain.Since visiting your site and reading your posts you’ve made me feel at ease with what i do so much that i have recently fully explained it all to my fiance.(she only used to know i wore cloth diapers before and never used to really use them).She has since tried some bambino diapers herself and she absolutly loves them and our relationship has got amazing evr since. We can now both chill out in them without any concernes. I would suggest that anyone out there who hides what they truly enjoy to just bite the bullet and explain to there partner. It is so worth it.
    keep up the good work adrain.I look forward to your next post.

  5. Ryan August 13, 2009 at 4:19 pm - Reply

    Despite being in the community and all, i still find myself being sick of myself and look at the fetish/lifestyle as something creepy and weird, even having weirder and more twisted fetishes that i’ll just never understand. Though it doesn’t bother me, i can’t help but feel that way from time to time, i just feel like quitting it altogether… seeing pictures of hairy-legged chubby men with their legs spread wide open showing a damp panty-like undergarment that apparently turns them on. Even though i feel the same way, at times, i wonder how people find wearing a diaper filled with urine and other unmentionable discharges comfortable and nostalgic in a good sense

  6. Keith August 13, 2009 at 11:27 pm - Reply

    First of all, Adrian, you have hit the nail on the head in point out the hipocracy of people turning up their noses at AB/DL’s! Before anyone throws stones at someone, they need to be sure their house doesn’t have glass walls. Second, listening to Michael’s comments, I must ask- who cares if a diaper lover uses it for it’s intended purpose? As long as they don’t force someone else to change them. Who automatically thinks an AB/DL likes children? In what context? And, if that person wants to feel like a child, so what? You’re on the borderline of being one of the condemners- lighten up Mike! Third, Ryan- are you sure you are in the community? If you are, it sounds like you’re suffering some real guilt feelings. That’s OK but you have to either honestly get through them, or stop diapering. In other words, Love It or Leave It. I’m sure anyone around here would be willing to help you through it, but you have to want to play to stay in the game. Just my thoughts, folks

  7. andrew August 13, 2009 at 11:36 pm - Reply

    Michael, Bryan, Ian, and Ryan are all right in their posts. Michael in the point that it only takes a few rotten apples, Bryan on wanting to know of hard evidence about the prevalence of AB/DL’s (something many of us would love to know, mainly so we can meet some), Ian on his bravely to share with someone something so personal and different, and Ryan who is dealing with self doubts (although I do agree that I at first thought myself weird for coming to sites with hairy legged crotch shots, but since have disregarded those and found more tasteful one such as this one).
    Adrian is making an observation that many of us I am sure have thought many times: with all the kinky, weird and socially unaccepted fetishes out there, how are we the poster child for the weirdest and most dangerous? BSDM has been used in movies. Feet, hand, leg, hair, breasts, butt, etc are glorified as sexual objects and accepted in mainstream. The perception of diapers to children I am sure is the culprit of suspicion as to why people are nervous. Plus the idea of using a diaper for its purpose probably turns a lot of people off. However we are who we are and we like what we like. Fetishes I believe are caused by triggers. Why else would someone like diapers like we do. Its like I tell people who think being gay (which I am not) is a choice. Why would someone cognitively chose to live a lifestyle and be persecuted like gays are in this country? They see how politicians view homosexuality and how a good number of the populus view it as well. Why would someone chose that for themselves. I believe that diapers are the same. I think Diapers found us more than we found it and we really can’t explain why, but it did and it is apart of us, but it does not define who we are as people.
    I think that Adrian is right, people do have skeletons, and more so than not, people have thoughts that go though their head that they would be embarrassed to death if anyone found out what they were thinking. Just keep living your life as it were. Keep supporting great sites like this and others, and while we might not become mainstream, it provides an outlet which is much more important in the long run.
    What if AB/DL gets noticed and it receives a horrible reception? Careful what we wish for even if it at times doesn’t seem fair.

  8. John August 13, 2009 at 11:52 pm - Reply

    Great post.

  9. Jks16 August 14, 2009 at 1:56 am - Reply

    Michael: I am a bedwetter, and all my diapers are nursery printed and very very babyish. I am now very very much an AB. Choosing to be a baby to deal with my bedwetting has been one of the most wonderful decisions I have ever made in my life. I don’t think I would have been as happy as I am now if i chose to be an adult wearing diapers.

    But I don’t flaunt it… I keep it very personal between me, my good friends who support me, and my stuffed animals. Apart from this blog, I don’t follow any community.

    I guess there are some AB who tend to forget about the A side of it…

    Also since diapers are always associated with babies, there will ALWAYS be bible-bumping zealot know-it-alls who will be screaming and yelling about how bad we are because we hurt children, just because we wear diapers. Even if there is no logic to the argument whatsoever. I mean, the gay community has been dealing with this VERY same issue for years and years… I have heard it over and over “gay people harm children,” which is so so so untrue. As a lesbian who has stood her back to the rev Fred Phelps… I can say I think what THAT makes children do is horrific and terrible. Most LGBT people, and most AB/DLs are just normal everyday people leading normal everyday lives.

    I think that one thing the AB/DL community needs to do in order to counter this is become active in child-abuse prevention programs, giving money to children’s charities, etc… I think our hearts, especially the AB’s like myself, see things from a child’s perspective, and we more than anybody don’t want to see children to be hurt. So doing a small part to give to help abused children would help show that we are not all that bad. But that is just my opinion.

  10. Andy August 14, 2009 at 3:05 am - Reply

    Adrian posted an article once about the rise in adult nappy sales in Japan. I read the article and it was due to people wanting to wear them on long journies. I saw another article about Japan having a clothes show type display froma company that had designed a slightly different version of the adult nappy. From the few articles I have seen regarding Japan and adult nappies, it seems that it is more socially accepted over there than most other places but for different reasons. I think to start with we need to try and push the practical interest of wearing adult nappies into society. They have a good problem solving aspect for people with weak bladders on long trips. I think if you try and push the enjoyment thing first then you may struggle a little.

    People like practical solutions and I think the adult nappy has a superb answer to a never retiring problem. I do enjoy wearing nappies when I am able to and using them, but I do use them for practical reasons. I work 500 miles away from my home so once a week I do the 1000 mile round trip to see my wife. With traffic on a Friday afternoon down the busy motorways this journey can easily take 10 hours. So stopping every now and again to go to the toilet can add an hour onto the journey so I wear nappies and it has cut this time off my journey. Depending on how much I have drunk or eaten I only need to stop maybe once to change my nappy.

  11. Donavan August 14, 2009 at 7:54 am - Reply

    Very Nice Post Adrian! I agree that is to many site or people out there that give our community a bad name, while others out there are trying to make it appear their groups are better then us. I think that people should sometimes just shut up and know we all things we are into and that what is kinky to one person is perfectly normal for others. Our community is a different one yes I know, only cause in some of the other fetishes or lifestyle there are not people who need to do their thing for medical, like in ours. I agree totally with you that there is nothing better then trying on a diaper and feeling the comfort for it. I will wear one when I am going to be on the computer for a long time working on a project and don’t want to get up and leave my work. Great Job Adrian!!!

  12. Ed August 14, 2009 at 10:08 am - Reply

    Adrian, great post. This topic is never taken seriously and people think it is wrong. I’ve loved diapers/nappies for more than 20 years, mostly in private until now. Thank you once again.

  13. Jks16 August 14, 2009 at 9:17 pm - Reply

    I live in Japan… one reason for the rise in sales is due to the fact that there are a lot of older people here. Weather or not they are considered socially acceptable is debatable. Japan still is a shame-based society. People tend to hide things like this out of shame here all the time. Being different is considered shameful. It is even considered shameful to adopt a child or be adopted here in Japan… mental problems are never talked about… a lot of problems are kept inside. This is also why Japan has the highest suicide rate in the world. So I can’t image people going around freely saying ‘I wear adult diapers’ and I have never heard any discussion about them, except when i am talking to my Japanese friends about me.

    The “long trip” thing I have heard about in china, where people ride a crammed train for hours without a bathroom.

    That isn’t to say it doesn’t happen in Japan. I did notice the last time I was in Narita airport they have a special little garbage can in the bathroom for ‘Adult diapers’ it is the first time in my life I have ever seen such a thing…

    So it probably does happen, but nobody talks about it here..

  14. Andy August 17, 2009 at 7:51 am - Reply


    Sorry I must have my countries mixed up and thought it was Japan when it was China. I think I can understand where you are coming from with regards to the shame thing. Whenever I have watched a film that contains Japanese traditions from older days there does seem to be a lot of emphasis on shame and how it is not accepted. I know it is not exactly historically accurate but the film ‘Samuri’ with Tom Cruise is a good example I think when the General to a Japanese army gets captured, it is less shamefull to kill yourself than it is to allow yourself to be captured in the first place. Sorry a little digression there. I have’nt heard of the bin for adult diapers before though. Learn something everyday. Thanks Jks16.

  15. Bryan A August 18, 2009 at 1:52 pm - Reply

    Great post. I personally am a Teen DL, and I know if my family or friends found out about my fetish I would judged to no end. And, more then likely, if my parents found this site on my web history they’d say it was pornography… Lol. Anyways, I some times wish I wasn’t a DL, because it is so weird and different. But I know it’s a part of me, and will more then likely never leave. So, thanks for the great post

  16. LilJennie September 18, 2009 at 2:33 pm - Reply

    I have only just encountered your website, and I am very impressed — as a longtime member of the AB/DL community I am simply so happy to see someone so supportive and positive, especially considering all the negativity you seem to be getting lately, unfortunately.

    But all that aside, in my experience it is true that AB and even DL interests are all too easily misinterpreted as being some kind of interest in real children, and the fact that the occasional bad apple hides within the AB/DL community doesn’t help.

    And that’s a shame, because being an AB can be a very positive, emotionally rewarding experience. Whether you actually use those diapers or not, and even whether you wear them or not, is up to you. Just relaxing in some nice comfy PJs and a soft warm blankie, cuddling your favorite plushie and watching some fun kids’ movies, can be wonderful and rejuvenating, and if you feel comfortable with adding some diapers, a pacifier, a bottle of warm milk, etc., it can be even more amazing. It’s heartwarming and special, not a danger or harm to anybody.

  17. GeorgiaDL April 18, 2010 at 10:46 am - Reply

    I have been a DL for 35 years. It has not harmed me nor has it harmed any children. It is simply something I do and enjoy on my personal time. I met a girl 5 years ago who I introduced to my fetish and she is now a DL. She loves watching me strutt around in a diaper and will change me when I use them. It is a very intimate and private thing between us. There is no shame in liking what you like. We have a very exciting relationship and diapers are a part of it. Is it strange or wierd? As far as I am concerned, no. It is simply part of being one’s self and it is also a blessing that I found the right person to enjoy my fetish with. I’ll always be a diaper lover until the day I die. I’ll always look for the best and thickest and bulkiest I can find in a disposable diaper. BTW, I am a thin good looking guy, I just love wearing and using diapers. My girlfriend also enjoys watching me wear and use them. It is an awsome experience!

  18. TinLizzie April 19, 2010 at 2:18 am - Reply

    GeorgiaDL- You are indeed blessed!

  19. baby jim May 23, 2010 at 11:03 pm - Reply

    but I have been a abdl sens I was about 18
    and I would really like to have a adult mommy or daddy
    just like to be a ab baby but I would also like
    to have a adult mommy or daddy that is busexual to.

  20. babyjenny67 June 11, 2010 at 10:27 pm - Reply

    i am a bisexaul adult baby and been into wearing diapers since i was thirteen and i love being an adult abby and i wont change a thing

  21. KB127 July 5, 2010 at 8:43 pm - Reply

    I’m a teen DL and It’s a constaant battle to keep it hidden from my parents because they wouldd take me to a psychologist. I use them and wear them very often. I find security and fun in it and it really doesn’t get me judged too badly because I have true friends that one of is also a DL. It helps me that I have a boyfriend that likes diapers too and we take turns changing each other for fun at his house. I’ve been interested since 3rd grade and usually wear them to school because I used to have accidents. I’ve also had a bedwetting history and so my parents made me wear Goodnites, but they don’t know about the rest of the story. I feel no shame in being a DL because I take everything with a grain of salt and don’t let negative things get to me.

  22. Ross Berning August 8, 2010 at 7:55 pm - Reply

    It’s all fun until your ex tries to use it against you telling everybody in the community that she knows and even the church community where we used to attend together. She has used it against me to the point of our three kids we have together. She falsely accused me of molesting my daughter supposedly in a diaper rubbing myself and my daughter. She wrote in numerous police reports that I need to wear a diaper to get an erection and to get off which is far from the truth. I have come to realize that the general public doesnt really care and accepts it for what it is. Everybody that was encountered by this never thought of me as a child molester because of the diaper wearing. I guess what I am trying to say is be careful because it can be used against you in ways you never thought posssible. While we were married, she did in fact participate in the activity and seem to enjoy it. There are people out there that will try to use anything and everything against you just to make themselves look like the angel. The molestation has been dropped and I do get my kids as I should.

  23. Jerry Scott September 21, 2010 at 9:54 pm - Reply

    Hi There, I love you writing on adult baby and Diaper lover I try hard to get people Understand me and other one like me. your Story is very good because we love Diaper and being a baby. I think we should be who we are Adult Baby and knowing we got a community. It help me with the bad adult baby and diaper lover that out here which has no idea who a real adult Baby is! You hit it on the head Thank you From BabyJerry My email is [email protected] if you would like to talk with me Thank you again for the good story about us. Your Diaper Baby Friend Jerry Scott

  24. therapist September 27, 2010 at 11:56 pm - Reply

    I am a therapist and I have found this website as a result of my session with the girl who has admitted later on that she wears dippers and enjoys bad wetting. She felt ashamed when she has shared this secret about her in her email to me. I would like to tell everybody that you shouldn’t be ashamed.
    I believe that each one of us came here to find our own truth and happiness and enjoy life. I want to tell you that you need support yourself and be your best friend. Be your number one supporter. You deserve to love yourself just the way you are. We all do.

  25. jimbo March 4, 2011 at 2:01 am - Reply

    i love to be in diapers my girlfriend loves to treat me like a baby

  26. Mikel September 30, 2011 at 1:08 pm - Reply

    I have been wering diapers for 11yres .and ever1
    Thas know don’t talk to me

  27. babyjessica February 18, 2012 at 12:15 pm - Reply

    i am seeking a domme mommy or couple willing to enslave me for life see to it that I become totally female and with the assistance of a nanny (all lactating) work hand in hand with domme female hypnotherapist and psychologist to have me severely regressed for life enslaved removed from the adult world legal adult adoption complete take over of my life chained schackled straight jacketed punioshments discipline behaviuor modificational training soon in time no longer allowed to walk and talk
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  28. Lady March 26, 2012 at 9:32 pm - Reply

    I liked reading this just a few months ago I did not know much about this. But after looking for something boyfriend laptop I learned a lot about this and him. I think it is just a big taboo to many people. But after talking to him and keeping an open mind I find it a vary sweet thing. I now share with him. I do not want to wear diapers or be diapered. But I do enjoy diapering him and I also like the control I have. Well Thank you

  29. Daniel January 17, 2014 at 5:43 pm - Reply

    Ok first thing, I too am a long time bed wetter, but I never thought becoming an AB was the right choice for me. however I still love wearing a diaper, even during the daytime hours (For Fun). If you want to call me a baby so what, that’s your choice, as it my to wear a diaper.
    Second thing for those who wear diapers, but feel guilty about it, don’t it fine. I know sometimes it hard, but would help you out is to stop going to those messy website, where men have show their solid diapers, you’ll feel better if you stop. instead go to a more supportive site, one that is not full messy adult diapers.
    and last things, Who the F*%! care what the outside world thinks about us AB-DL, it’s our lives, let us live our lives, and they them live theirs’. Let bygone be bygones.

  30. Kim or sol shine April 6, 2014 at 3:26 pm - Reply

    Hi everyone, I just loved reading all your posts . I’m so sad at the people that say they love Christ and treat people like us this way I have a rad realtionship with Christ he loves babies the best that’s how we can go to him . The judging people Sad for them I was severely sexual abused and mentally and physically so many times before 4 that it was normal I never remember a time I didnt want to just be a baby. I am 41 and now letting it happen it’s always made me feel like a weirdo. I am married and have kids . Really I don’t even know why I saying anything to anyone but I guess I just need some that r like me and won’t judge me. My husband is the best and difinitly take care of baby. I so need friends that would understand. I have had three of my children die also one had spinal menigites the next boy was a twin died at a month. Then I had a baby have only half a heart. My stuff is tough but now it’s a survival way. But it’s now overtaking me. It sucks

  31. Jim Royster August 7, 2017 at 11:02 pm - Reply

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