The ABDL community is a unique community in a lot of ways. Both good and bad. Adult babies and diaper lovers can bask in the fact that no other fetish/lifestyle is similar to it in mindset or object. There is a large complexity to the ABDL mindset that goes beyond any sort of sexual manner that most other lifestyles entrench themselves in. Unfortunately, this complexity not only attracts “bad” people but also it breeds, in a sense, everything from insecurity to obsession in many people.
This leads me into my main point of this post. Life is too short to waste your time bathing in hate and negativity or wasting the time of your life conjuring up internet supporters for a flame campaign on someone or something. If a random person were to browse the forums of ABDL sites they would come across a lot of good and helpful information which is awesome; but they would also be able to easily pick out those that seem to be on a mission to be negative about just about everything. This is an unfortunate formation within the ABDL community. Small elitist niche groups form and find themselves above others and feel because they believe something or say “it is” then that is how it should be.
I have never once asked anyone nor forced anyone to believe what I believe. I have never forced anyone to believe that I am a girl. If you want to believe that I am a girl typing behind this computer than awesome. If you think I am a guy with some elaborate scheme to waste my life tricking the ABDL community somehow for some benefit – then fine, believe it. I can only write and share within my limits and what I am comfortable with. If you find it hard to believe certain things I say or find it “impossible” then I am OK with that. Life is just too short for me to please everyone. People are always going to be stuck in their ways and it is just a mindset you have to accept about people.
There are so many wonderful people within the ABDL community that are kind-hearted and supportive. But, then there are always the select few that recruit a following to support their beliefs. Which, if you want to waste your time convincing “internet strangers” to believe you or follow you then more power to you.
I am not going to name any names or call anyone out but I will say there are those, sadly they are girls and couples, that form a little friendship group to basically “rule” the ABDL community. And, because they expose their faces all over the ABDL community and have met “tons” of ABDLs then what they say should go and be taken as fact AND if not then because they have nothing better to do with their time, they will make it goal to bring that person down (nice isn’t it?). But, hey if your in their group its utopia…..if you are in their group and earn your spot!
I tried maturely contacting one of the people that “flamed” me or whatever you call it since they live legitimately close by. I tried to clear a few things up and of course she/he sounded up to meeting at some point when schedules allow. Which I am fine with…but THEN, she/he goes and posts on their small group forum how proud they are they called me out on what their views are and I am going to quote her:
“If we meet and she can prove she is who she claims to be… she will gain a loyal supporter. If she fails, I’ll bury her.”
I did not agree to this meeting to prove anything – I just wanted to make some friends for us. Ever since moving from Florida we have been busy and haven’t met too many people besides a few people from Peter’s graduate classes at night at NC State. So, of course it would be neat to meet someone that hopefully is sane and shares the same diaper interest. But, it looks like all this meeting would be is to “prove” ourselves…and here is the great part – if we don’t – then she/he will “bury me“. Doesn’t that make any of you want to jump in a car and meet this awesome person? Though I am still considering it, I was hoping for a little more mature mindset from someone of that age and situation.
My only point here is that there are A LOT of great people within the ABDL community – doctors, lawyers, military, service people, grass-cutters, construction workers, and thousands of great occupations – but, I don’t know why people concern themselves with the inconsequential when life is just so short. I could worry all day whether some girl across the United States from me is going to believe me or is going to talk trash about me or others OR…get this…I could go to work and talk with my awesome co-workers and earn money for raising a family one day and having fun AND enjoying a healthy social life outside of the internet with real people AND maybe going to see The Time Traveler’s Wife if I can stay awake that late to go see it…all while being positive 🙂 I think I will take the latter like I typically do!.