The following is a very interesting guest post by Geoffrey. I will say it is quite humorous in a way to me. Judge for yourself.

Everyone got your hip-boots and wrenches? ‘Cause today we’re going to take a look at some plumbing issues.

People with boy parts, rather famously, have easier access to a wider range of angles when they pee than people with girl parts.

All well and good when you want to write your name in the snow, but diapers are inherently constricting garments. They have to be — they’re designed to hold things in.

That leads to a bit of a dilemma for diaper-wearers with a penis. Not only is it an extra floppy bit that you have to find a comfortable space for inside the diaper, where you point it also affects the performance of the diaper. Some parts of the padding are more absorbent than others, and if you’re wetting the least absorbent parts first, you’re going to need more frequent changes.

Let’s take a look at some of the possible arrangements, and their strengths and weaknesses:


“Dick Up”

A pretty basic arrangement: the tip of the penis is pointed upward. If you’re being diapered while lying flat on your back, this is probably the arrangement you’ll settle into naturally.

That generally ends up with the penis resting flat against the belly and the tip nestled just under the waistband. There are a couple advantages to starting with the penis pointed upward:

  • Wetting flows out at the top of the diaper and follows gravity downward, meaning you’re using the entire front panel for absorbency.

  • The position of the penis is relatively flat, which lets you tape or pin the diaper tighter in the front. This can help prevent leakage from a loose fit.

  • If the wearer experiences an erection, the penis is already positioned naturally. This reduces both awkward adjusting and any “spearing” of the padding, which can cause tears and clumping in disposable diaper fillings.

All that makes this a good arrangement if you’re expecting a lot of sexual excitement, or plan to do some prolonged wear and heavy wetting. There are a couple drawbacks, however:

  • Unless the front of the diaper is situated very high, it’s possible for an erect penis to push up under the waistband, or even escape entirely. Wetting at that point will spurt up over the top of the diaper, or spread around the non-absorbent waistband and leak slowly.

  • Any padding in the back of the diaper is realistically never going to come into play. The wetness settles in the crotch, and will generally leak before it creeps up in the back. That can make heavy overnight diapers with large “wings” and thick padding in the back a waste of materials.

  • Wetting while lying down will send most of the wetness to the sides of the diaper, where there’s usually less padding. In many cases you end up wetting slick plastic side panels with no padding at all, which tends to lead rapidly to leakage.

All in all, “dick up” is a fairly low-maintenance way to wear your diaper. It’s not always the most comfortable (a non-erect penis tends to want to droop back down, and it may take a pretty tight diapering to keep it pointed upward), but it makes good use of lighter diapers and handles erections well.


“Dick Down”

The other basic method of diapering people with male genitals is to let the penis hang between the legs, with the tip pointed into the crotch of the diaper. It’s where things tend to rest naturally when you diaper yourself in a seated or standing position.

This arrangement also comes with a few inherent advantages:

  • It’s the most natural position for a non-erect penis, especially when standing. The diaper doesn’t have to be tight to keep it in place. The waistband can be worn a little looser, which can be more comfortable and also leave more room for expansion as the padding gets wet.

  • Wetting flows directly between the legs, which is where the thickest padding is located on most disposable diapers. The moisture can expand upward on both the front and the back, making full use of a diaper with good “wicking” properties.

  • The waistband can rest lower on the body, which can be more comfortable and more concealable than one arranged to hold an upright penis in place.

Most of the major drawbacks of the arrangement, as you might guess, occur when the wearer experiences an erection, though there are a few other problems to keep in mind as well:

  • An erection forcing its way upright “spears” the padding, which can break up the stuffing of a disposable diaper and lead to clumping, reducing its effectiveness and lifespan.

  • If the diaper is very tight an erection may not be able to pivot upward, which will be uncomfortable and possibly even painful.

  • Because the wetting is centered between the legs, the diaper needs stuffing with good “wicking” properties to help the moisture spread up the front and back. Cheaper diapers may simply grow soggy and overflow between the legs, while leaving the front and back panels dry.

It’s possible to mitigate some of the erection-related problems by wearing the top of the diaper a touch looser. That creates a little space in the front for an erect or semi-erect penis to shift upward, especially with a quick hands-on adjustment by the wearer. However, the lower tapes or pins need to be kept quite tight, and the wearer needs to be careful not to wet while erect unless the penis is securely below the waistband.



A third method that’s really more of a footnote, penises can be “tucked” between the thighs, with the tip pointing backward rather than downward.

This is generally done for aesthetic purposes, hiding the bulge of the penis entirely for crossdressers, sissies, etc.

The practical benefits are negligible — you’re still mostly wetting into the crotch of the diaper, so it performs basically like a “dick down” arrangement, only even more uncomfortable in the event of an erection.

Use the “tucked” arrangement when it’s very important that all traces of manhood are hidden (which a thick diaper usually does pretty well even without tucking), and make sure to diaper extremely tightly to help hold it in place. Otherwise, use one of the basic “dick up” and “dick down” methods.


So Which is Better?

If you paid attention, you already know the answer to that: it depends on how and why you’re wearing your diaper.

In general, I’d recommend “dick up” for sexy diaper play, and for cheaper diapers where you don’t get much benefit from back or wing panels anyway. “Dick down” is great for extended wear, especially non-sexy public wear, but needs a little higher quality of diaper if you don’t want to be changing every couple hours.

I hope this all helps — and ladies, don’t feel slighted; we’ll do a special post just for your plumbing issues another week!.

By |2017-07-17T21:42:20+00:00May 9th, 2013|Uncategorized|14 Comments


  1. Geoffrey May 9, 2013 at 4:34 pm - Reply

    Another fun one to write — hope it helps all the male DLs (and their caretakers and partners) out there!

  2. Tony May 9, 2013 at 4:41 pm - Reply

    Good article! 🙂

  3. Amanda May 9, 2013 at 5:13 pm - Reply

    Very funny

  4. Rachel May 9, 2013 at 10:00 pm - Reply

    Any parent of a little boy learns very quickly that pointing their little “pee-pees” south is the way to go. =) Me, I learned from experience, and countless soaked articles of clothing.

    I’m a transgendered male-to-female who is unfortunately still pre-op, so I still have the boy parts to contend with. Let me tell you, the best thing about being on estrogen is not having to deal with erections and the discomfort that can ensue when one is wearing a too-snug diaper. I’ve been in diapers for twenty-two years, long enough to have every one of the above scenarios happen to me, and that includes having a diaper leak when I’m lying down.

    It got to the point where I had to start wearing cloth diapers at night, so when the urine runs down toward the sides, I at least have a modicum of protection against leaks. I use the “jelly roll fold” ( which creates a nice little pocket around the legs, making leaks less likely.

    I detest the Attends diapers my med supply company sends me, as despite my best efforts, urine can still run down the sides or between my legs (I’m in a wheelchair, so I’m constantly in a sitting position). Unfortunately, I’m stuck with them, as they’re the only ones Medicaid will pay for. Out of necessity, I might have to go to cloth exclusively.

  5. Geoffrey May 9, 2013 at 11:14 pm - Reply

    That’s interesting — I didn’t realize there were brand-specific limitations on what you can and can’t get through Medicaid. Too bad, since Attends aren’t really the best ones out there.

    I will say that parents of little boys don’t have to prepare for quite the wide variety of scenarios and, ah, states of arousal that some DLs do — I’ll stand by my recommendation of a tightly-taped “dick up” arrangement for people who are planning to do lots of sexy play in their diapers. But for general “walking around” sorts of wear, definitely the downward angle.

    As some clever wag once wrote on a bathroom wall, “The heat of the meat is inversely proportional to the angle of the dangle.”

  6. Rachel May 10, 2013 at 12:30 am - Reply

    They allow other brands, but those are as bad as–or worse.than–what I’m already using.

  7. ABDL86 May 10, 2013 at 12:44 am - Reply

    Nice post you made 🙂

  8. CD May 10, 2013 at 12:02 pm - Reply

    Hi Geoffrey,

    You addressed a not-so-often discussed aspect of being a man in a diaper – the dreaded night-time erection. I wear Bambino Bellissimos at night with a doubler and diaper cover. For me, my unaware night-time wetting is almost nightly but heavy (sometimes I do wake up when I need to go but just use the diaper) so I usually place everything down to get maximum usage. To complicate things, I have an Apadravya piercing through my glans, so when I get an erection it is very painful and it wakes me up – titanium doesn’t give a whole lot. The piercing usually gets snagged somehow (I can’t take it out or it will close quickly – they are fussy). However, if I place things up at that point, fall asleep, get hard again and then wet, I wind up wetting the diaper cover and then the sheets. The only time I can get away with going with it pointing up is when I am flaccid and then the front panel gets its usage, which can be useful in the morning after a heavy night.

    Also, a special issue for diaper wearers with genital piercings (and especially ones with spouses like me): keep the piercings VERY clean! Especially if you like an active sex life :). If you ever smell a piercing after a day of no cleaning and being diapered, it’s really bad. For an apadravya a solution is to wear two captive bead rings (the Bugs Bunny look…LOL) and use gentle soap on a clean washrag to clean and rotate around twice a day, or remove the barbell and clean with soap or alcohol and re-insert twice a day. If using alcohol don’t forget to dry it before re-inserting! (ouch). Also, never use antibacterial soap or Hibiclens on the piercings – you could give your wife a very nasty yeast infection, especially with Hibiclens since it sticks around.

    Very good post – I did get a smile from this one 🙂

  9. rs May 10, 2013 at 12:35 pm - Reply

    Great Post!

  10. Dubious May 12, 2013 at 7:42 am - Reply

    I always point it down and never have any problems, not even when I get an erection (rarely happens), cause since it cant “get up”, it wont go completely hard and then just soften up again

    “Tucked” sounds painful and very uncomfortable
    How do you walk with penis tucked between legs?

  11. Geoffrey May 12, 2013 at 2:58 pm - Reply

    Dubious — it’s not very comfortable! The only reason to bother is for feminizing purposes.

    And honestly, it doesn’t come up all that often — a drag queen in silky panties needs to tuck pretty thoroughly to hide her bulge (and usually uses tape to do it), but a thick diaper is concealing enough on its own for most purposes. “Tucking” in a diaper generally just involves pressing everything nice and tight against the underside of the crotch and then taping the crotch of the diaper very tightly in place over it.

  12. Rachel May 12, 2013 at 4:57 pm - Reply


    You’re right. I never bothered with tucking, myself–I doubt I could do it without risking serious skin breakdown. Because of the diaper, any bulge can be easily explained away. Though so far, no one has been rude enough to ask me about it.

  13. Lar May 18, 2013 at 11:24 am - Reply

    Love the post you forgot one well for a select group of us the obease, it is the body is so big it is around the plumbing that creates several unique in many ways

  14. Pamp August 15, 2013 at 2:04 am - Reply

    I think the best position is a compromise. Dick to the side. This however is not recommended for diapers that don’t have inner leak guards. This is because you point the tip of the penis right into the crease of the leak guard where it meets the inner liner. The diaper needs to be tight, but when you wet, it goes into the side of the front panel padding, and trickles into the crotch. Rarely does it flow up over the waistband. And when you get erect, there is less discomfort and it is fairly easy to adjust.

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